jay6999 Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 i supported my tg thru her pregnancy. the first five months of the child's life i supported the child. i now find-out, i'm not the father!! she is Thai. i am American. anything i can do? do i have any recourse to get my money back?? can i return the favor?? thanks.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cdnvic Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 There was ample time to test paternity previously so you probably have no recourse. If you care nothing for either of them your only recourse is to cut your losses and go. Have you done a DNA test or are you going on her word alone? If there haven't been any tests done, get them done to avoid a situation where you abandon a child that really is yours, just because a woman who wanted to get rid of you told you it wasn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IanTheGeek Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I am sure you could take here to court in Thailand, but unless you gave her a fortune it would cost you more and the time it would take is years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheWalkingMan Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 That money is gone and you should walk away. I cannot seen any upside in trying to get the cash back. You could ask, but I doubt even if she would pass you 50 baht. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ludditeman Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 What money! Having a baby costs almost nothing here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beano2274 Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 Did she mean you are not the father cause she was with someone else? or Under Thai law you are not the father cause you haven't married her, thus pushing you into marriage? either way the money has gone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2unique Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 What money!Having a baby costs almost nothing here. Hahahahaha I'm laughing otherwise I'd be crying as I look back on the emotional, mental and financial drain on resources! Sure if you leave the kid naked in a drawer drinking water but a vaccinated child with safe modes of conveyance and a child safe environment is not cheap. Anyway DNA test and if pride dictates moving on, move on. Hard to advise as no idea if you live here or how long you have been with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ludditeman Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 (edited) What money!Having a baby costs almost nothing here. Hahahahaha I'm laughing otherwise I'd be crying as I look back on the emotional, mental and financial drain on resources! Sure if you leave the kid naked in a drawer drinking water but a vaccinated child with safe modes of conveyance and a child safe environment is not cheap. A Thai lady having a baby in Thai hospital is totally free (apart from optional vitamin tablets, about 250bht for 6 months supply) Follow ons and vaccinations for the baby are also free. Milk is provided by the mother, terry nappies are very cheap. Baby seat for car 1,500bht Stroller for baby 1,500bht Baby bed, 1,500bht What expenses are you thinking of? Edited February 3, 2012 by ludditeman Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2unique Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 What money!Having a baby costs almost nothing here. Hahahahaha I'm laughing otherwise I'd be crying as I look back on the emotional, mental and financial drain on resources! Sure if you leave the kid naked in a drawer drinking water but a vaccinated child with safe modes of conveyance and a child safe environment is not cheap. A Thai lady having a baby in Thai hospital is totally free (apart from optional vitamin tablets, about 250bht for 6 months supply) Follow ons and vaccinations for the baby are also free. Milk is provided by the mother, terry nappies are very cheap. Baby seat for car 1,500bht Stroller for baby 1,500bht Baby bed, 1,500bht What expenses are you thinking of? My kid just turned four, it certainly hasnt been that inexpensive! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cdnvic Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 One post removed. Try reposting without the profanities. (Misspelling doesn't hide them) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bangkokburning Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Assuming you are not a troll, you should have been here now long enough to know that there is nothing you can do. So just move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MeMock Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 What money! Having a baby costs almost nothing here. Hahahahaha I'm laughing otherwise I'd be crying as I look back on the emotional, mental and financial drain on resources! Sure if you leave the kid naked in a drawer drinking water but a vaccinated child with safe modes of conveyance and a child safe environment is not cheap. A Thai lady having a baby in Thai hospital is totally free (apart from optional vitamin tablets, about 250bht for 6 months supply) Follow ons and vaccinations for the baby are also free. Milk is provided by the mother, terry nappies are very cheap. Baby seat for car 1,500bht Stroller for baby 1,500bht Baby bed, 1,500bht What expenses are you thinking of? 1,500 baht for a car seat? I would have you up for man slaughter charges if you ended up having a fatal car accident after purchasing something that cheap and nasty to protect your kid. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cdnvic Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Let's not start arguments here. Please stay on topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deesquared Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 You accidentally cared for two living souls. If you don't care to do that any longer, then just move on. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fezzy Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 move on and count yourself lucky some guys get played for years and lose alot more than money Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caliguy Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I think you need to call Maury Povich. You'll never get any money back. Don't waste your time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudolus Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 What money!Having a baby costs almost nothing here. Hahahahaha I'm laughing otherwise I'd be crying as I look back on the emotional, mental and financial drain on resources! Sure if you leave the kid naked in a drawer drinking water but a vaccinated child with safe modes of conveyance and a child safe environment is not cheap. A Thai lady having a baby in Thai hospital is totally free (apart from optional vitamin tablets, about 250bht for 6 months supply) Follow ons and vaccinations for the baby are also free. Milk is provided by the mother, terry nappies are very cheap. Baby seat for car 1,500bht Stroller for baby 1,500bht Baby bed, 1,500bht What expenses are you thinking of? He says "supported her" not paying the expenses of the baby. I would guess the OP has been chucking her money each month so she could sit at home (his home?) on her arse all day sms'ing her TBF, the baby-dadda. So even taking a low number of 10g a month; 9 months + 5 months baby and mumma (up to 20k?) he's dumped 190k + the bits and bobs moneys she would have bled from him. So all in I reckon 250k would be a better bet. No way to get that money back of course and laughable to think he would. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
impulse Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 "She is Thai. i am American. anything i can do? Take her to court to get the money back. Then pray the judge doesn't make you pay out until the child is all grown up. There's a case to be made that you have already claimed the child as your own regardless of paternity tests, simply by providing for the child so far. Or cut your losses and run, don't walk away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sirchai Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 . i am American. anything i can do? Yes. If it's really not your child think about the good times you've had. It isn't the child's fault. Can't you just look for a new girl friend and try it again? A DNA test right after birth would show you enough... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GentlemanJim Posted March 10, 2012 Share Posted March 10, 2012 There are potentially a number of reasons why your g/f could have said the child is not yours, apart from the obvious. Get a paternity test done. As Sirchai rightly says, none of this is the fault of the child. You could sue the mother but it will be the child that suffers. You have mentioned the financial aspect, but how do you feel? I would be devastated. If what she says turns out to be true, then either you walk away, or if you love your g/f you stay and raise the child as your own. Tough call! Best of luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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