Internet Dating Or Goings To Bars.....?

[xavierr]

On some occasions, girls are out to "get a falang", just to try. Can be the case in Bangkok with university girls going in herds to discos. Happened to me one time, memorable night. Just after the highest moment of the night, the girl laughed loud and exclaimed "Po farang!!!"

LOL.

That being said, p4p in Thailand is not the same as back home. Some of the working girls make very sweet and good companions, Just remember to keep your wits.

'Po farang' ??!! What's the meaning of 'po' here ?

Jem

'Po' means 'enough'. Thai girls hear things about farangs and some may decide that having a farang is not for them. It may easily happen to you. Often you will not know why you get on their nerves. They are polite in their own way and will not tell you.

I asked my wife how come some Thai women ditch their farang. She told me that mostly it is because he will not eat their food and will refuse to eat at the times they eat. and this gets on the Thai wonan's nerves in the long run, dooming the relationship.

According to her, the farang that a Thai woman likes most is a farang who will be casual about eating with them and who will make no difficulties at mealtimes in front of their friends and their family. This means he will eat Thai food as Thais eat it, not the "Thai food" especially prepared for farangs.

[blazes]

On some occasions, girls are out to "get a falang", just to try. Can be the case in Bangkok with university girls going in herds to discos. Happened to me one time, memorable night. Just after the highest moment of the night, the girl laughed loud and exclaimed "Po farang!!!"

LOL.

That being said, p4p in Thailand is not the same as back home. Some of the working girls make very sweet and good companions, Just remember to keep your wits.

'Po farang' ??!! What's the meaning of 'po' here ?

Jem

'Po' means 'enough'. Thai girls hear things about farangs and some may decide that having a farang is not for them. It may easily happen to you. Often you will not know why you get on their nerves. They are polite in their own way and will not tell you.

I asked my wife how come some Thai women ditch their farang. She told me that mostly it is because he will not eat their food and will refuse to eat at the times they eat. and this gets on the Thai wonan's nerves in the long run, dooming the relationship.

According to her, the farang that a Thai woman likes most is a farang who will be casual about eating with them and who will make no difficulties at mealtimes in front of their friends and their family. This means he will eat Thai food as Thais eat it, not the "Thai food" especially prepared for farangs.

Some good points made here. However, eating Thai food as Thais eat it might, for some farangs, constitute one of the "costs" of living here!

[anterian]

On some occasions, girls are out to "get a falang", just to try. Can be the case in Bangkok with university girls going in herds to discos. Happened to me one time, memorable night. Just after the highest moment of the night, the girl laughed loud and exclaimed "Po farang!!!"

LOL.

That being said, p4p in Thailand is not the same as back home. Some of the working girls make very sweet and good companions, Just remember to keep your wits.

'Po farang' ??!! What's the meaning of 'po' here ?

Jem

'Po' means 'enough'. Thai girls hear things about farangs and some may decide that having a farang is not for them. It may easily happen to you. Often you will not know why you get on their nerves. They are polite in their own way and will not tell you.

I asked my wife how come some Thai women ditch their farang. She told me that mostly it is because he will not eat their food and will refuse to eat at the times they eat. and this gets on the Thai wonan's nerves in the long run, dooming the relationship.

According to her, the farang that a Thai woman likes most is a farang who will be casual about eating with them and who will make no difficulties at mealtimes in front of their friends and their family. This means he will eat Thai food as Thais eat it, not the "Thai food" especially prepared for farangs.

I disagree, I cannot eat Thai food, it is far too high in sugar content, I also have an aversion to garlic and chili. This has never been a problem, quite the converse she loves farang foods, even danish blue cheese and marmite.

Incidentally, when I first met her she was very tight fisted with my money (still is after 8 years), she argues with taxis, objects to tips in restaurants, makes her own clothes (and mine).

[Soutpeel]

I asked my wife how come some Thai women ditch their farang. She told me that mostly it is because he will not eat their food and will refuse to eat at the times they eat. and this gets on the Thai wonan's nerves in the long run, dooming the relationship.

According to her, the farang that a Thai woman likes most is a farang who will be casual about eating with them and who will make no difficulties at mealtimes in front of their friends and their family. This means he will eat Thai food as Thais eat it, not the "Thai food" especially prepared for farangs.

If not eating specific food is cause for a "relationship" to break-down, It could not have been a realtionship to start with....

[nickmanchester2]

the OP only posted this to get an affiliate link in for thai love links - $25 per signup

dont really think he is after any advice, but I am sure he is enjoying the 4 pages of comments.

[Semper]

dont really think he is after any advice, but I am sure he is enjoying the 4 pages of comments.

This is what trolling is all about.

[nocturn]

So many old studs on TV, truly amazing!

so many people convinced their thai experience is definitive.

[Payboy]

Bar girls are going to cost you more.

But great value for money.

[forumuser10]

Frankly if you cannot speak Thai you would do better in the Philippines.

If you read the OP you will discover he is looking to find an attractive single female who is not a prostitute.

He has not been able to do so in the UK because, “In the UK, the bar scene is totally finished for finding women and has been for some time.”

He doesn't speak Thai.

You gotta ask yourself, Is he a nut case? I don't think so. He must know that decent women in Thailand who speak English, and are available to tourists are like finding a needle in a haystack.

So your point about Philippines is accurate. But don't expect him to take your advice. He is a Brit.

Can't see what the OP's language skills has anything to do with this? He just want to meet a woman and get laid. I vote for the bar scene as it will just take him a half hour (or less) to fulfill his quest.

Forget your glasses? He says he does not want P4P!

He cant speak thai, and he is looking to get laid with a normal thai girl?

It is not gonna happen.

It would be just as easy for him to go to Afghanistan, communicate in japanese and find regular (non prostitute) girls to fuc_k.

It is not gonna happen.

[forumuser10]

Most Thai women are seeking money AKA stability, as women do in the West. I found the difference to be that many Thai women are often unappreciated by the Thai men who have been raised to believe that by virtue of being male they are superior.

Oh no, another victim brainwashed by western feminist media

[kerryk]

I don't agree with Thongkran much but it does make a lot of sense to play in your own backyard until you are at least 50 years of age.

Thailand is really stacked against you until you qualify for a retirement visa. I won't go into all the reasons but they are substantial. Thailand is like Pandora's box. Once opened you are finished. There are threads on here daily for young guys that are trying to make a silk purse out of a sows ear as far as jobs, lifestyle choices and countless other things. It just does not work.

If you come here, one of two things will invariable happen. 1. You'll fall in love or 2. You will fall in love with the easy cash for love facsimile that is available everywhere from bar to grocery store bagger. The West is never going to work for you again. You are ruined for Western women and/or Western life from then on.

Utter drivel, start to finish.

You're utter drivel is also utter drivel beginning to end.

Hey I'm sorry but I really didn't think it necessary to explain why it's wrong on SO many levels to tell the OP that, as far as women are concerned, Thailand is stacked against a man until he qualifies for his bloody retirement visa

I mean, lemme get this straight - In your mind, it's better for the OP to exhaust all possibilities for happiness with a woman in his homeland before he rocks up here at 50+ to be regarded as little more than a past-his-prime wallet on legs looking to score some mid-20s local tail as part of some kind of mid-life crisis inoculation treatment, right ?

For you to suggest that a jaded old man with, perhaps, a failed marriage or two behind him has significant advantages over a young, healthy, emotionally open-minded guy with even a modest income when it comes to Thai women is laughable.

The reason teachers are hated by students is they tell the kids that their paper is utter drivel. It is the same reason supervisors in the post office or other businesses get blown up by their employees. Criticism with no explanation. Not only is it impolite but It has a tendency to make people explode.

You wrote, “it's better for the OP to exhaust all possibilities for happiness with a woman in his homeland before he rocks up here at 50+ to be regarded as little more than a past-his-prime wallet on legs looking to score some mid-20s local tail as part of some kind of mid-life crisis inoculation treatment, right ?”

The answer is indubitably yes. But you spun it in a different direction than I would have.

Living in Thailand who is going to take care of your folks when they get old? You want to leave them in a nursing home? You want to try and take a Thai woman out of Thailand? Ya right.

You want to educate children you love in Thailand?

You want to maximize your earning potential for your self, family and children? In Thailand??

Do you live in Bulgaria?

Stay home young man. There are new no new gold fields in Thailand.

What you refer to as failed marriages my ex wives refer to as wealth building for the kids and future generations. I have made a lot of people rich.

To suggest that an emotionally healthy young person would leave the West and come to Thailand is udder nonsense.

Thai women don't care if you are 21 or 81. But you won't know until you reach 81.

[Phuket electrician]

On some occasions, girls are out to "get a falang", just to try. Can be the case in Bangkok with university girls going in herds to discos. Happened to me one time, memorable night. Just after the highest moment of the night, the girl laughed loud and exclaimed "Po farang!!!"

LOL.

That being said, p4p in Thailand is not the same as back home. Some of the working girls make very sweet and good companions, Just remember to keep your wits.

'Po farang' ??!! What's the meaning of 'po' here ?

Jem

'Po' means 'enough'. Thai girls hear things about farangs and some may decide that having a farang is not for them. It may easily happen to you. Often you will not know why you get on their nerves. They are polite in their own way and will not tell you.

I asked my wife how come some Thai women ditch their farang. She told me that mostly it is because he will not eat their food and will refuse to eat at the times they eat. and this gets on the Thai wonan's nerves in the long run, dooming the relationship.

According to her, the farang that a Thai woman likes most is a farang who will be casual about eating with them and who will make no difficulties at mealtimes in front of their friends and their family. This means he will eat Thai food as Thais eat it, not the "Thai food" especially prepared for farangs.

I disagree, I cannot eat Thai food, it is far too high in sugar content, I also have an aversion to garlic and chili. This has never been a problem, quite the converse she loves farang foods, even danish blue cheese and marmite.

Incidentally, when I first met her she was very tight fisted with my money (still is after 8 years), she argues with taxis, objects to tips in restaurants, makes her own clothes (and mine).

You are far from alone - I am always interested to hear a westerner say they they don't eat Thai food - I am sick of rice, I hate chilli, chicken skin and sugar in food. And when it comes to their beloved she is not your average Thai girl, her family are wealthy, and she has only been working here for a week blah blah. Men are idiots, we have one purpose only to find and 'wrestle' with as many women as possible. The secret to hooking them is know your limitations, show them minimal interest, look like a big bumbling cock and behave like a complete prat. I am still trying to perfect it – consistence is a problem. It worked wonders for Peter String-fellow, Hugh Heffner, Silvio Berlusconi et al, these guys had money, but it is all relative- big hoo hah here right now about 300 baht a-day min(max) wage 1$ an hour. Flash 100$ you’ll be fighting them off. Good friend of mine has played the game here for fifteen years and says there is one universal magic word you wispier in any woman’s ear the world over - doesn't work in Essex, and she is putty in your hands - flannel. Relax, take care of you health with regular exercise and enjoy the good life. Have a healthy wrestle with as many as you can - to coin a phrase - practice makes perfect. J

Edited April 8, 2012 by Phuket electrician

[metisdead]

Inflammatory off topic posts and replies have been removed.

Another post bringing the Royal family into the discussion has been removed as well. Read rule #2.

[Semper]

@ Phuket electrician. " Men are idiots"

[kerryk]

@ Phuket electrician; Peter String fellow, He has a great bar in Pattaya

[manarak]

On some occasions, girls are out to "get a falang", just to try. Can be the case in Bangkok with university girls going in herds to discos. Happened to me one time, memorable night. Just after the highest moment of the night, the girl laughed loud and exclaimed "Po farang!!!"

LOL.

That being said, p4p in Thailand is not the same as back home. Some of the working girls make very sweet and good companions, Just remember to keep your wits.

'Po farang' ??!! What's the meaning of 'po' here ?

Jem

'Po' means 'enough'.

no... It means something along the lines of "sex with farang". Might not be proper Thai language, but that's what I understood.

"nang po" means porn movie.

I asked friends what it meant but they said it was not proper Thai, but got the meaning

[kerryk]

Pua Falang would be a low so way of saying husband Falang but not polite

Falang Po might mean naked Falang.

Edited April 8, 2012 by kerryk

[New2LOS]

Most Thai women are seeking money AKA stability, as women do in the West. I found the difference to be that many Thai women are often unappreciated by the Thai men who have been raised to believe that by virtue of being male they are superior.

Oh no, another victim brainwashed by western feminist media

No, not brainwashed at all. I abhor feminists, which is another reason why Thai women are so appealing to me.

Maybe you haven't noticed the extreme arrogance of many Thai men. I haven't heard many complaints from Thai women, but I've sure experienced the male Thai dominance first hand. There are no ruder people in existence. And have you ever heard of a Thai man entering into a relationship with a single Thai mother other than exclusively for sex? The Thai male wouldn't be caught dead raising another man's children as his own. They actually believe that they are 'above' that, which is one reason why it is so easy for Western men to attract Thai women. For us it's about the woman, not about whether she has children from another man.

[lovelaos]

Most Thai women are seeking money AKA stability, as women do in the West. I found the difference to be that many Thai women are often unappreciated by the Thai men who have been raised to believe that by virtue of being male they are superior.

Oh no, another victim brainwashed by western feminist media

No, not brainwashed at all. I abhor feminists, which is another reason why Thai women are so appealing to me.

Maybe you haven't noticed the extreme arrogance of many Thai men. I haven't heard many complaints from Thai women, but I've sure experienced the male Thai dominance first hand. There are no ruder people in existence. And have you ever heard of a Thai man entering into a relationship with a single Thai mother other than exclusively for sex? The Thai male wouldn't be caught dead raising another man's children as his own. They actually believe that they are 'above' that, which is one reason why it is so easy for Western men to attract Thai women. For us it's about the woman, not about whether she has children from another man.

Speak for yourself, I wouldn't be comfortable raising someone elses child. Sorry.

[HardenedSoul]

Utter drivel, start to finish.

You're utter drivel is also utter drivel beginning to end.

Hey I'm sorry but I really didn't think it necessary to explain why it's wrong on SO many levels to tell the OP that, as far as women are concerned, Thailand is stacked against a man until he qualifies for his bloody retirement visa

I mean, lemme get this straight - In your mind, it's better for the OP to exhaust all possibilities for happiness with a woman in his homeland before he rocks up here at 50+ to be regarded as little more than a past-his-prime wallet on legs looking to score some mid-20s local tail as part of some kind of mid-life crisis inoculation treatment, right ?

For you to suggest that a jaded old man with, perhaps, a failed marriage or two behind him has significant advantages over a young, healthy, emotionally open-minded guy with even a modest income when it comes to Thai women is laughable.

The reason teachers are hated by students is they tell the kids that their paper is utter drivel. It is the same reason supervisors in the post office or other businesses get blown up by their employees. Criticism with no explanation. Not only is it impolite but It has a tendency to make people explode.

You wrote, “it's better for the OP to exhaust all possibilities for happiness with a woman in his homeland before he rocks up here at 50+ to be regarded as little more than a past-his-prime wallet on legs looking to score some mid-20s local tail as part of some kind of mid-life crisis inoculation treatment, right ?”

The answer is indubitably yes. But you spun it in a different direction than I would have.

Living in Thailand who is going to take care of your folks when they get old? You want to leave them in a nursing home? You want to try and take a Thai woman out of Thailand? Ya right.

You want to educate children you love in Thailand?

You want to maximize your earning potential for your self, family and children? In Thailand??

Do you live in Bulgaria?

Stay home young man. There are new no new gold fields in Thailand.

What you refer to as failed marriages my ex wives refer to as wealth building for the kids and future generations. I have made a lot of people rich.

To suggest that an emotionally healthy young person would leave the West and come to Thailand is udder nonsense.

Thai women don't care if you are 21 or 81. But you won't know until you reach 81.

When a student prefaces his paper with "Thailand is really stacked against you until you qualify for a retirement visa. I won't go into all the reasons but they are substantial.", he shouldn't be surprised if the teacher blows his submission out of the water but that aside, you make one or two interesting points in your explanation but I don't recall reading that the OP has kids in school, folks with one foot in the grave or any desire to export a Thai woman back to the UK.

Your advice could be useful for Mr. Average Plod-Along from Anytown, Farangland . . . . who's actually GOT kids or sick folks or a dead end job with no savings but for a younger guy in his 30s with a few inches of folding and a means of earning a living, it could be a wonderful time to experience the delights of Thailand instead of waiting until he's 50 to spend his time tapping the asses of second-rate gusset trying to make bank.

Shit, I was 41 when I got here - no failed marriages, no spawn, parents retired in comfort back home in the Caribbean and an open-mind. 4 years on and I've not been knocked - financially or emotionally and I've met some good, conventionally-employed dark-skinned Thai women - mercifully very little of that bullshit Chinese/Thai tail that way too many wannabes on here have decided are the pinnacle of Thai desirability - and they genuinely believe that the old foreign codgers lashing it up in the Soi Cowboys and Pattayas of the world are beyond disgusting.

Better to come over, get his action then decide if he wants to make a go of it or not

[Tanaka]

There's been an interesting array of replies to the OP's topic. And, with a few exceptions, there is a degree of truth to all the replies depending on the situation. There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to relationships. There is every conceivable situation possible. The only people who are flat out wrong are the ones who say that there is ONLY one way.

Thailand is a great place to meet women, and the chances go upwards increasingly when you learn the language. But, learning Thai when your native language is English, is a slow, difficult process. That wouldn't fit into the OP's holiday plans. Thai women are no different than women everywhere... they would prefer an attractive man similar to their own age, and one who has a bit of money to spend on them. However, the smart Thai women have learned that young attractive foreigners do not stay around long enough to be a potential long term partner... so the women often go for second best.. some older guy who has a little jingle and wants to settle down.

I am really a bit surprised over your statements here. I thought you had more insights and experience. "Thai women are no different that women everywhere"! That I would expect from someone who had never been here and never met and experienced Thai women. I am not saying they are different from everywhere else. I have not been everywhere, only Europe, Asia and North America and I can truly say that the ladies here are very different from those in those areas, basically. Anyone from UK and who may noit have been much abroad and comes here, will realize from day 1 that the girls here are different. But it is so much depending on yourself, how you behave, dress and talk. This goes in bars as well as anywhere in Thailand.

The OP needs to come here and see for himself. It has been suggested to skip Koh Samui for other venues and I agree. If you go to Pattaya, remember it is not Thailand! And it is most certainly not like anything in the UK. Keep an open mind and eye and smile and you will have a good time. Do not believe anything someone tells you here and take no notice of the advice given here to not fall in love. It is futile. You WILL fall in love here. Just remember, think with your big head and think twice before doing anything. And most things in Thailand are not what they seem to be.

[forumuser10]

Most Thai women are seeking money AKA stability, as women do in the West. I found the difference to be that many Thai women are often unappreciated by the Thai men who have been raised to believe that by virtue of being male they are superior.

Oh no, another victim brainwashed by western feminist media

No, not brainwashed at all. I abhor feminists, which is another reason why Thai women are so appealing to me.

Maybe you haven't noticed the extreme arrogance of many Thai men. I haven't heard many complaints from Thai women, but I've sure experienced the male Thai dominance first hand. There are no ruder people in existence. And have you ever heard of a Thai man entering into a relationship with a single Thai mother other than exclusively for sex? The Thai male wouldn't be caught dead raising another man's children as his own. They actually believe that they are 'above' that, which is one reason why it is so easy for Western men to attract Thai women. For us it's about the woman, not about whether she has children from another man.

Jesus christ, and I am not even religious.

Right now, you sound like a parrot, repeating what has been said here on thaivisa over and over again.

Don´t believe everything you hear from foreigners.

Take a break from thaivisa for a while, and take the chance to go out there, and talk to thais, get to know them.

No thai men arent more evil and than the thai females, that is utter bs...

[MarkCyr]

Both in Thailand and the Phils, I prefer starting with the Internet to set up dates, then go from there once I hit the ground. Just don't get too wrapped up in chat and so on before you get there -- it's usually a waste of time. Just keep in contact with girls you have forged a fledgling friendship with online and then get ready for speed dating. You'll always meet one or two who you like as more than friends. And if you're just out to get shagged, you'll get a lot more in Asia from everyday girls than you will back in the UK, that much is a promise.

When it comes to meeting in bars, as a few posters have pointed out, the bars and nightclubs frequented by foreigners tend to heave with freelance hookers (not a problem, as long as you're aware of it.). And the regular girls come in groups and tend to be on the hunt for the hottest young guys in the club, so they aren't very open to chat ups from guys -- particularly guys who are new to Thailand or short term tourists. Stick to the Internet where girls have more time to get to know who you are. And good luck!!

[DP25]

Maybe you haven't noticed the extreme arrogance of many Thai men. I haven't heard many complaints from Thai women, but I've sure experienced the male Thai dominance first hand. There are no ruder people in existence. And have you ever heard of a Thai man entering into a relationship with a single Thai mother other than exclusively for sex? The Thai male wouldn't be caught dead raising another man's children as his own. They actually believe that they are 'above' that, which is one reason why it is so easy for Western men to attract Thai women. For us it's about the woman, not about whether she has children from another man.

Few young farang men are willing to raise another man's child either, that is an instant disqualification for anything more than sex to most. Lots of older ones don't want as well, especially if they've already raised their own. Single mothers aren't exactly in high demand among most guys.

[bermondburi]

Why not stop in You own County and Pull the Birds "as you say" , Or do they not like what they see in you ,; What makes you think Thai Girls/lady's want pulling by Foreign people, Do you think they are stupid, they know most Western man are in Thailand because they have failed in there own country in pulling birds "as you say". Why do men come to Thailand and pick a girl up from a bar and then Judge all Thai Women the same . would you go to Soho in London and pick a girl up then think that all English women the same or Amsterdam, or Prague. Maybe if men have problems with women they should look inwards and look at there selves and there morals, and not blame failed relationships on the other party.

get off your high horse , the geezer is just looking for a bird in Thailand. I think every foreigner here has been guilty at one time or another................unless you're the other way inclined of course.

[arthurwait]

You are flat out wrong. Thai females who actively looking to approach foreigners, do it with one intention in mind, get connected with a man who has money.

Some of them do it more explicitly, the ones you call prostitutes, others do it less explicitly, but still, for the same reason.

And of course there are shades of gray in between, but love and money is a VERY strong reason for the thai female to look for a foreign male.

Everyone who believes otherwise, are disillusioned.

Bars and clubs in tourist areas are no doubt full of hookers, but local places are not, in the main.

You don't really think every girl that goes to clubs in Thailand is a hooker ? You think all the kids at university who go clubbing every week are hookers/ gold diggers ?

No, but you fail to see the most important thing here. We are not thais.

Almost all regular thai would NEVER, I repeat, NEVER go to the clubs where we foreigners hang out.

The girls who actively seek these places out, are there to meet a foreigner. And the number one reason why they do that IS MONEY.

The local clubs/ bars/ restaurant- bars everywhere away from tourist areas are full of financially independant girls after men of their own age and only men their own age.

Yes, but these financially independent thai girls will never, or extremely seldom, go with a foreigner.

The guys I read about who says they never go to Nana, and only pick up "normal" girls, through dating sites, or in the shopping mall, they also fail to understand that regular thai girls DO NOT go out with a foreigner, and even less, they do NOT sleep with the total stranger on the third date.

It just shows how totally clueless some people are.

All thai females that dates foreign men are doing it with MONEY in mind, does it mean that they cant feel love as well, of course not, but MONEY is important to them.

Everyone else, stop fooling yourselves.

In reply to the first part of your reply:

Certainly not clubs around Nana, Cowboy or Spicey and other sex tourist places ,but well off non gold digging Thai girls certainly go to places like Bed and supper club etc and more expensive bars in Bangkok that farangs frequent. Plenty of farnags go to places up ratchada where the girls going there are young and can afford the cost of drinks there. Amongst many other clubs and areas I'm too old for now and of course 99% of the bars in the country that some farangs venture to. Hardened Soul hit the nail on the head.

In reply to the second part:

I'm trying to write this without sounding like a wanke_r, but my wife went to a school where the girls are rather wealthy, 10 of her friends married farangs, plus her of course. Her Thai university is a place often attended by people with more bucks than brains one of her friends from there won't go out with Thai men, farang only. Another is married to an Australian and another hasn't gone out with a Thai man for years. None of them need a farang for money, but they all have one thing in common; they are only interested in men their own age who aren't weird, racist or boring. Except the wife who puts up with me.

Oh and I still go to Nana and Cowboy on occassion the wife has come to cowboy with me a couple of times for a gogle, but can't stand the falseness of it. That suits me.

Edited April 8, 2012 by arthurwait

[arthurwait]

On some occasions, girls are out to "get a falang", just to try. Can be the case in Bangkok with university girls going in herds to discos. Happened to me one time, memorable night. Just after the highest moment of the night, the girl laughed loud and exclaimed "Po farang!!!"

LOL.

That being said, p4p in Thailand is not the same as back home. Some of the working girls make very sweet and good companions, Just remember to keep your wits.

'Po farang' ??!! What's the meaning of 'po' here ?

Jem

'Po' means 'enough'.

no... It means something along the lines of "sex with farang". Might not be proper Thai language, but that's what I understood.

"nang po" means porn movie.

I asked friends what it meant but they said it was not proper Thai, but got the meaning

Isn't porn/naked Bpor ?

Por depending on the tone (?) or spelling (?) can mean enough or father. Maybe if she wasn't saying enough she was hinting he was old enough to be her father, obviously though we don't know his age.

[manarak]

Isn't porn/naked Bpor ?

Por depending on the tone (?) or spelling (?) can mean enough or father. Maybe if she wasn't saying enough she was hinting he was old enough to be her father, obviously though we don't know his age.

Being out of breath, it was not a situation where she would have been hinting at anything!

Plus I'm just 38, so I don't think the father theory to be true.

[IanForbes]

There's been an interesting array of replies to the OP's topic. And, with a few exceptions, there is a degree of truth to all the replies depending on the situation. There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to relationships. There is every conceivable situation possible. The only people who are flat out wrong are the ones who say that there is ONLY one way.

Thailand is a great place to meet women, and the chances go upwards increasingly when you learn the language. But, learning Thai when your native language is English, is a slow, difficult process. That wouldn't fit into the OP's holiday plans. Thai women are no different than women everywhere... they would prefer an attractive man similar to their own age, and one who has a bit of money to spend on them. However, the smart Thai women have learned that young attractive foreigners do not stay around long enough to be a potential long term partner... so the women often go for second best.. some older guy who has a little jingle and wants to settle down.

I am really a bit surprised over your statements here. I thought you had more insights and experience. "Thai women are no different that women everywhere"! That I would expect from someone who had never been here and never met and experienced Thai women. I am not saying they are different from everywhere else. I have not been everywhere, only Europe, Asia and North America and I can truly say that the ladies here are very different from those in those areas, basically. Anyone from UK and who may noit have been much abroad and comes here, will realize from day 1 that the girls here are different. But it is so much depending on yourself, how you behave, dress and talk. This goes in bars as well as anywhere in Thailand.

The OP needs to come here and see for himself. It has been suggested to skip Koh Samui for other venues and I agree. If you go to Pattaya, remember it is not Thailand! And it is most certainly not like anything in the UK. Keep an open mind and eye and smile and you will have a good time. Do not believe anything someone tells you here and take no notice of the advice given here to not fall in love. It is futile. You WILL fall in love here. Just remember, think with your big head and think twice before doing anything. And most things in Thailand are not what they seem to be.

And I am surprised that you didn't understand what I wrote quite clearly. I'm talking about the basics of what all women want: security, love, and possibly a family. Sexual intercourse comes a distant fourth.

I'm NOT talking about the differences in culture. Yes, there are wide variations in culture that affect everyone. A simple experiment would be to compare Thailand to the Philippines. Both are Asian, but that is where the similarities stop. Thailand is basically a feudal Kingdom under a Buddhist philosophy. The Philippines is a screwed up country made that way by following the normal Catholic hypocritical philosophy.

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Ultimately any women who is looking to settle down with a guy is going to look for some sort of stable future where hopefully she and her prospective partner are financially secure and that goes for western women too. It's only natural one wants to feel secure before embarking of a lifetime engagement. I think the fact that a lot of girls in Thailand come from poorer backgrounds maybe means those same desires manifest in a more direct way which could come across as selfish.

No doubt there are some that are on the con and I despise those types but generally I think all women are the same. Cultural factors including how the person has been raised/educated means it comes across differently to us when we engage them.