James2020 Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 My wife is 25 years younger than me and we have had a very successful 10 year marriage, living in Thailand and the US. We have a very nice lifestyle, but we don't talk with others about my financial success. I'm in great health, and my wife looks younger than her age. Three times in recent years, Thai friends or acquaintances have commented to my wife, in all seriousness, to the effect,, "Maybe he will die soon and you can find a new, younger husband..." Sometimes it has been said in the context of discussions about the fact that I don't want to have children. It hurts my wife that some people think that way, and it has resulted in broken friendships for her. I suppose that some people in the US think that also, but would never say it. I'm curious whether others have heard similar comments about their relationships. Maybe in Thailand it is more acceptable to talk about such things... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post transam Posted February 21, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 21, 2014 We know three ladies married to older farangs that openly talk to Mrs.Trans that they are on the lookout for a replacement money source cos they think their hubby might/will shortly pop off. One lady even had a bloke living in LOS meet up with her on the quiet and he is already married to a Thai.. My point is, they openly talk about it.......... ............True........ 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BaldPlumber Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 Well there are a rather large number of the very nearly dead staggering around, quite slowly, with much, much, much younger other halfs in tow. So, not really too surprising really. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post thailiketoo Posted February 21, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 21, 2014 My Thai wife is 40. Everyone was happy she finally found a husband. Any husband! 13 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wym Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 I've got an elderly limey friend looking for a caretaker/wife to see him off from his dotage, doesn't have the necessary dosh to pay as he goes, more like he's a skinflint doesn't like the going rate. So he openly lays out his assets, pension plans insurance annuities etc to show how when he dies his prospective wife will be taken care of her whole life. If he wasn't such an unpleasant grumpy old git he'd probably have had a taker by now, but AFAIC he'd need to be Bill Gates to make it worth anyone's while. Just to illustrate that it's certainly a factor in the game, and not just the girls thinking these thoughts. Part of the divorce settlement deal with the mother of my children - I have sole custody - is that the kids go back to her if I die. So now she says - in front of the kids - she hopes I'll die soon everyone will be better off. Nice thing to hear. . . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Popular Post HeavyDrinker Posted February 21, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 21, 2014 I once "followed through" while on a night out with the missus and she wanted me dead after that....especially in the morning when she had to tackle scrubbing the gusset of me kecks.... If I were you James, I'd get out while you can or find your lass some new pals.... 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
inzman Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 This is the way golddigger Thai women think. Imagine what they feel about their own husbands, they are the ones that should worry. Honey, have you paid up the life insurance lately? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post krisb Posted February 21, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 21, 2014 You need to find a way to take it all with you. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wym Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 If you're truly worried, make sure you're worth more dead than alive. Take care of her with insurance, your will etc but don't have to share the details, just let her know it's all taken care of, leave her the contact information for your lawyer/executor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aveabeeror2 Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 no Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wym Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 Yes I did mean "make sure you're worth more alive than dead" Thanks Ava. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kitsune Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 Nothing personal, it's just the way the cookie crumbles over here. Marriage is social affair, love does not come in the equation. Young Thai ladies marry older men as a ticket to poverty, they lay low for a while,hoping they die early so they can enjoy a second more age suited marriage, nothing unusual. Your wife has adopted your values but not everyone has ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trainman34014 Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 Hey; i had two wives (one at a time) in the UK who often wished i was dead and told everyone so ! Maybe they were joking but i doubt it. Now i have a wife of 8 years here and nobody has ever said to her that maybe i will die soon and she has never expressed that wish to anyone either. Indeed; she says if your wife has friends who talk like that she needs new friends who show some respect, not just for you, but for her also. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somchaismith Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 This is not specific to Thais against foreigners. I'm aware of a Thai wishing it on her own her husband. Fairly nasty thoughts from these people, all for the sake of the dollar. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suradit69 Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 (edited) Nothing personal, it's just the way the cookie crumbles over here. Marriage is social affair, love does not come in the equation. Young Thai ladies marry older men as a ticket to poverty, they lay low for a while,hoping they die early so they can enjoy a second more age suited marriage, nothing unusual. Your wife has adopted your values but not everyone has ! Nothing personal, it's just the way the cookie crumbles over here. Over here? It doesn't stop with a wish. For many its implementation is a career. The term "Black Widow Killers" has nothing to do with Thailand. In the US and Europe it's practically an industry... Black Widow Killers Women Serial Killers in the U.S. http://crime.about.com/od/female_offenders/tp/Black-Widow-Killers.htm ... and popular entertainment. Edited February 23, 2014 by Suradit69 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smileydude Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 I'm assuming they talked to your wife in thai and assumed she would not tell you otherwise it is very rude, crude and a terrible thing to imply. Some people think they're giving smart advice and that it makes them look caring or street smart when it fact it makes them look truly evil. The fact that your wife told you about these unwelcome advice and has actually cut off those friendships says a lot about your wife which is lucky for you as many wives who have other plans obviously would not let you in on their schemes. Just tell your wife that you have no plans to drop dead any time soon and that she should tell her friends to go drop dead. You are obviously both worth more to each other alive. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
herb59 Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Hugh Hefner looked always happy with his babes. did he care about that?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merijn Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 My Thai wife is 6 years older then me !! And she is dead more worth as alive as the houses and businesses would be free of mortgage and in my name. So we have the same problem but only the other way around Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sirchai Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 (edited) Dear James, Here're my five cents. You shouldn't think about all these greedy bastards too much. Enjoy life to the fullest, as we'll never know when we have to go. I know so many Thais here in the northeast married to foreigners who don't love them. They gamble, have their Thai guy, one of them is Lesbian but plays a good caring wife.Others talk bad about the "old fart", not knowing that some foreigners understand their language. What I'm trying to say is: Just don't give flying donuts about what other people think of you, your wife and the decisions you make. After all, it's your life. This world is so full of hate, racism, greediness and dishonestly that you should just listen to your heart. Let people talk. An ex- girl friend of mine always said: "As long as they talk about you, you're still alive". Don't let unnecessary things let you down. Life's a gift. Just enjoy it and see the positive sides. Wish you best of luck.- Edited February 23, 2014 by sirchai 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sirchai Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 My Thai wife is 6 years older then me !! And she is dead more worth as alive as the houses and businesses would be free of mortgage and in my name. So we have the same problem but only the other way around I find your post disgusting, to be honest.You might have to go before her. - Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loles Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Don't take to your heart! Thais are so jelaous. Anyway if you are over 70 they are right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ultimate weapon Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 It's ok guys you will still marry thai women. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ultimate weapon Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Dear James, Here're my five cents. You shouldn't think about all these greedy bastards too much. Enjoy life to the fullest, as we'll never know when we have to go. I know so many Thais here in the northeast married to foreigners who don't love them. They gamble, have their Thai guy, one of them is Lesbian but plays a good caring wife.Others talk bad about the "old fart", not knowing that some foreigners understand their language. What I'm trying to say is: Just don't give flying donuts about what other people think of you, your wife and the decisions you make. After all, it's your life. This world is so full of hate, racism, greediness and dishonestly that you should just listen to your heart. Let people talk. An ex- girl friend of mine always said: "As long as they talk about you, you're still alive". Don't let unnecessary things let you down. Life's a gift. Just enjoy it and see the positive sides. Wish you best of luck.- Yet these foreigners still marry them and live at their village. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loles Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Ahhhh and forgot something. I have been the subject the death wishes many times, cause in my country if you don't give money for beggar gypsies they give you these nice wishes immediately and loudly as they can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elliottm Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 25 years? Do think your wife would have married you if you had been of the same financial status? I hope her next husband is a peer chosen for more noble reasons than his "financial success". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Showbags Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 My wife says it all the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merijn Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 (edited) My Thai wife is 6 years older then me !! And she is dead more worth as alive as the houses and businesses would be free of mortgage and in my name. So we have the same problem but only the other way around I find your post disgusting, to be honest.You might have to go before her. - Even my post is theoretically correct there was off-course also some sarcasm in it. We are already happily over 24 years together ( married for over 13 years ) and still counting. And being dead more worth as alive works both ways off-course. Edited February 23, 2014 by merijn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beetlejuice Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 (edited) My wife and I are around the similar age. I have made provisions for her with my pensions and savings if I go before her, my kids get the property and everything else in equal shares once we both go. Done my duty, don`t really care what anyone says, and I can go with peace of mind. I can understand if a man chooses a wife young enough to be his daughter that finance, status and security will be her main concerns and quite frankly being in that situation would not suit me. Old guys who decide to marry much younger women should expect these sorts of attitudes. There is always the option of short time, no strings attached, pay as you go, no demands and no commitments. This is the good part about living in Thailand, as even us older guys can be hansum man if and when it`s convenient for us and as for my present wife, I can be a husband and not a walking bank account. Edited February 23, 2014 by Beetlejuice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JO1973 Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 "I suppose that some people in the US think that also, but would never say it." I seriously doubt that anyone in the US -- or any Western/developed country for that matter -- would think that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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