Fairynuff Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Hmmm twelve kids @ 5m each....yep I'd say the family is rich. Run for your life! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rockhound Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 What's a sin sod? I'm married to a Thai and never heard of it. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silomdon232 Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 He's sinned, the Sod! Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Thailand 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seesip Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 He's sinned, the Sod! Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Thailand Well done. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tetleythedog Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 <script type='text/javascript'>window.mod_pagespeed_start = Number(new Date());</script> Highest I am aware of a farang paying is 30 million bht! Actually a guy in Roi-et paid 1 million! Any sinsod is too much in my opinion. The idea that if they want a Farang THEY adopt our rules . If they want sinsod then marry a Thai. There are plenty of good women here that understand this concept. We marry for love .......they sell their daughters! And folks..there are plenty that disappear after the ceremony ! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Som wat Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Is sinsod part of your culture? No. Then refuse outright. If they love you they will stay with you. If they don't, no loss. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eloelo Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 They say that should Sin Sot be a prerequisite for marrying then the amount, if any can and should be negotiated.However Sin Sot is not a custom that is adhered too should a farang be involved. it is an opportunity for a shakedown!what would happen if you said I am not paying Sin Sot as in my culture we don't do it..then see how long your wife will stick around. a while ago I was seeing a 42 year widowed lady with 2 children and she told me her father wanted a 100k.. I quietly told the father that although his daughter was a lovely lady I am not paying a sin sot but I am willing to discuss the amount you can pay me for taking her off your hands..the look on his face was priceless..needless to say I was found to be unsuitable...got out of that still alive me thinks.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chai67 Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 You may want to tell the older siblings to not meddle in your affair. Raising kids isn't cheap. You are man enough to take on the responsibility. If they insist on disallowing marriage without a sin sod then don't get married. Once she realizes how expensive it is to raise a child, then maybe she will tell them to pay for raising her kid or shut their traps. She had sex prior to marriage which is a no no in Thai tradition. If she broke that one, then so can the tradition of sin sod. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onni4me Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 You were with her and she got pregnant and now they want money. Just tell them that you can't marry just now since you don't have enough money. And in your country it is customary that the brides family pays dowry (like in mine). If their attitudes and especially your future wife's deteriorate, just do what every Thai man would do. RUN! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JO1973 Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Let me just add that there is no village, they live in bkk. there are no debts. They are pretty loaded. There are just way too many stories here in Thailand about foreigners being stuck with a high sin sot demand. My advice is to not pay anything, especially if they're loaded. And if it's a real issue than get married outside of Thailand or just get married here and don't tell them. If they stick you with such a high demand I really doubt it's to buy you a house as you could do that yourself. And the fact that they want that much says a lot about their obliviousness to the fact you are going to have a child (last time I checked they don't come cheap). And for those who give this "it's Thai culture" b.s., speak with all the Thais who don't give sin sot because of the cost of raising a family. Last time I checked, if you are marrying outside of your culture then your partner is too. If the idea of giving them money (because it sure won't come back to you) upsets you then don't do it. Your beliefs are just as important as theirs. Wash your hands of them and go start a family on your own. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeavyDrinker Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Oh God not again....My dad bought my FiL a steak dinner and a gallon of Best Bitter and the deal was done. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
art vandelay Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 you think? i think you should find out exactly what's going on. or just tell the siblings it will be much easier and more practical if you keep the money and buy the house yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Borzandy Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 sin sod is for virgin girl. She is now pregnant, if you leave her alone, she'll never find another man (Thai) and she'll work in a bar as usual..5mo ha ha ha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Som wat Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Just say 'No'. Then go back to whatever activity you were doing before they brought it up. You still have you're testicles right? I mean, they're not in a glass jar in some jungle hut, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post abrahamzvi Posted April 26, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted April 26, 2014 Let me just add that there is no village, they live in bkk. there are no debts. They are pretty loaded. You forgot,she never worked in a bar.They will have relo's that have sick buffalo. Offending and disgusting remark. One may agree with the sin sod, or disagree with it, but remarks of this nature are completely out of place!! 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elgordo38 Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Tell the parents that if you divorce you get all your sin sod back plus interest. Chances now are better than 50-50 that is could happen in the future. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bander Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 A Canadian guy paid 100 million bath sinsod to his Roi Et girlfriend last year (madness if you ask me) Rumors is that everybody in her village have new houses and drive Mercedes Benz If you not believe: http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/643974-canadian-man-weds-roi-et-woman-offers-dowry-worth-bt100-million/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bander Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 (edited) <script type='text/javascript'>window.mod_pagespeed_start = Number(new Date());</script> Highest I am aware of a farang paying is 30 million bht! Now that was cheap sin sod, this Canadien guy paid 100 million, and don't try to marry a lady from Roy Et and think her family will accept less than 1 million from any falang in the future :-) http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/643974-canadian-man-weds-roi-et-woman-offers-dowry-worth-bt100-million/ Edited April 26, 2014 by bander Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bander Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 <script type='text/javascript'>window.mod_pagespeed_start = Number(new Date());</script> Forrest, why are you asking this question? Good question :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just1Voice Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Run, Forrest, Runnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostmebike Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Time for trolling??? She's 30 and a princess right? lol No way would I pay that. I know (if the stories true) the OP loves her but c'mon, you can BUY many ladies at a far cheaper price. What did the partner's of the older siblings pay?? Sounds like the Thais we love and hate on TV shows! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krisb Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Marry her outside of Thailand. That confuses the whole sin sod bs. 5 million is about 5 million more than I paid. If you aren't trolling us, her family is trolling you. Gooooood Luck mate!....you will need it by the sounds. She is used goods,pay nothing,what are they gunna do. Yep 2nd hand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JesseFrank Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Let me just add that there is no village, they live in bkk. there are no debts. They are pretty loaded. I notice they are loaded, looks like they own a bridge with an Internet connection as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostinsurin Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 For 5 million Baht you could get yourself a post/pre op lady boy. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morakot Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 (edited) I think you're asking for too much. Getting your girl pregnant is one thing, but then asking the family to give you for an astronomical amount of money is another thing. Reconsider your demands. Edited April 26, 2014 by Morakot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bander Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 <script type='text/javascript'>window.mod_pagespeed_start = Number(new Date());</script> Let me just add that there is no village, they live in bkk. there are no debts. They are pretty loaded. Sounds like they used to live in a village, but after her older sisters got married they moved to Bangkok and got loadet (how many sisters does she have?), Now the mother want the final retirement payment from you. Good luck to you and bye bye to your 5 million and 20 bath gold (approx. 430.000.-) Just another story of a guy falling in love and start building an air castle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tchooptip Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 A Canadian guy paid 100 million bath sinsod to his Roi Et girlfriend last year (madness if you ask me) Rumors is that everybody in her village have new houses and drive Mercedes Benz If you not believe: http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/643974-canadian-man-weds-roi-et-woman-offers-dowry-worth-bt100-million/ , A sinsod of 100,000,000 Bhat yes, in value, but only 1,700,000 in cash so for "every body in her village have new houses and drive Mercedes Benz" I would like to understand 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bander Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 <script type='text/javascript'>window.mod_pagespeed_start = Number(new Date());</script> You say "Whilst we are madly in love, this is in part to keep her older conservative siblings happy."Already doomed from the start if you are partly marrying her to keep ger family happy. Shouldnt it be a 100% bond between you and her, nothing to do with her family. That's where you are wrong misterphil, it has everything to do with her family, she have a 100% bond to her family and 0% bond to her BF Welcome to Thailand! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SanukJoeII Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 I said it before and I say it again: sin sod is illegal for most farang. In my (Western) country it is not allowed to buy a woman, and that is exactly what modern sin sod has become: a dowry, to buy the daughter. Explain that they should also respect your culture (like you respect their culture) and that your culture forbids you to buy a woman, end of story. If you really want to pay, pay what Thai men pay: 99,999 baht. With that money they "own" the woman, talk to Thai men and you will find out, as this is exactly what it is. A woman cannot divorce without permission of the man, as the man paid money for her.... The suppression of Thai (and other) women is partly caused by the low legal postion of women, they are considered "owned" by the men. No need for paying more than a Thai, she will have a better life, probably financially speaking too, so that should be the interest of the family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rotary Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 I would tell them where they could stick the Sin Sod. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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