Quickly 'lost' my wife to yaba

[UDONJIM]

Been married to a gorgeous, sexy young Thai lady for 5 years. Alcoholism runs in her family and over the years I had some issues with her drinking but it was controllable. About 2-3 months ago, my wife started a new job. Unknown to me, her boss, a Thai man about her age was a drug dealer and user. My wife began staying out nights and after some heavy altercations, I left her. Since leaving I have discovered my wife is now addicted to ya ice and this man with whom she is now living (he left his wife and child) has complete control over her. Gives her little money, has taken her phone from her etc. I tried reconciliation about 2 weeks ago but the day she was supposed to come back she was in contact with her boyfriend and they ran off together (got this from her cousin). My wife wants to give her daughter (11 y.o.) to her sister to look after. Her friends and family have turned their backs on her. All this has transpired in a few short months. I feel my wife is 'lost' and there is no hope for her. So sad. I am now back in London reviewing my options.

I didn't post this to gain sympathy guys. I suppose it's just to warn anybody (because I didn't see it coming) that even a short time of usage of such a drug as ya ice is so addictive that it can make you forsake everything as my wife has done. I certainly hope it doesn't happen to anyone else here on TV. It's broken my heart.

[ubonjoe]

Moved to the marriage an divorce forum.

[manarak]

actually, crystal meth should not carry most of the blame!

it just amplifies weaknesses in one's character.

sad, but move on.

[Kitsune]

She comes from a dysfunctional family of drunkens, what did you expect? Mother Theresa?

[lust]

actually, crystal meth should not carry most of the blame!

it just amplifies weaknesses in one's character.

sad, but move on.

Actually no. meth is the devil

[krisb]

She comes from a dysfunctional family of drunkens, what did you expect? Mother Theresa?

That's a retarded comment.

[CiaranO]

Some real quality expats on here judging from the comments. Get s life morons.

As for the OP I'm sorry to hear this. It's very sad and very obvious you tried and still want to help her. Good on ya. The world needs more people like you.

[BigBadGeordie]

I suggest you transfer all you assets to her as soon as you can, she needs money, help her.

Just look at the OP Profile, please.

Troll.

[Don Mega]

Thread title says Yaba.

Thread content says Ya Ice.

Which is it ?

[johnnynmonic]

I suggest you transfer all you assets to her as soon as you can, she needs money, help her.

Just look at the OP Profile, please.

Troll.

What suggests troll? Newer user? I'm not saying you're wrong, just curious what you look for.

[Linky]

I dont think it matters whether it is yabba or ya ice. The end result is that she has lost the plot. Sad situation, you offered help but seems she is not able to be helped at this stage. Sad situation for you.

Dont forget to report the scum dealer to police.

[Deserted]

There are many similar stories and there will be many more to come. By the sounds of it, you are better off without her.

[kaorop]

I suggest you transfer all you assets to her as soon as you can, she needs money, help her.

Just look at the OP Profile, please.

Troll.

okay just more relationship bs clickbait, thanks for the heads up

[UDONJIM]

I suggest you transfer all you assets to her as soon as you can, she needs money, help her.

Just look at the OP Profile, please.

Troll.

okay just more relationship bs clickbait, thanks for the heads up

Sorry if I got my drug names confused, I'm not too familiar with them. Yaba pills taken orally, I thought was yaba ice, apologies if I'm wrong. Also thanks for the guys on here showing some sympathy. I am definitely not trolling. Believe me it's hard to come to terms with after 5 'good' years of living with someone pretty well 24/7.

[swampdonkey]

Thread title says Yaba.

Thread content says Ya Ice.

Which is it ?

What's the difference ?

[brabo2180]

Sorry to say but, in my opinion, since your wife has obviously been unfaithful, this should be the end of the marriage.

However; if you decide to give her a 2nd chance, be careful with her drugs habit.

Before you know it, you could be involved with the police and end up in jail.

[ScarpoFongness4U]

It's all about the high and tbr sex,

She will be or is already, his prostitute so stay far far away

[spiritrace]

People choose the path they take in life. Tragic how those choices can destroy families.

[abhaya]

I got strung out on speed over 45 years ago, and the stuff they have now is much more powerful. Having tried every kind of psychotropic that was ever available in my wilder younger days, I can say Meth is the most mentally and physically destructive there is (alcohol would be next). Unless she wants she wants to stop herself there is not much you can do. The fact she has tried to give her daughter away to relatives signifies she feels that she has totally lost control of the situation and has a possible death wish. You can still love her by helping take care of her daughter as that might the best part of here.

[MobileContent]

To the OP I think it would be better to part away from her. She cheated on you.

Out of interest I would like to know the age difference between you too.

[Hans vliege]

She is totale lost as a human, her pimp has all the controle over here. My advise don't look back, be careful and look for a new lady, with a good attitude and good family. Wish you all the luck you can get!

[jacko45k]

She comes from a dysfunctional family of drunkens, what did you expect? Mother Theresa?

That's a retarded comment.

It was put very badly but there is an underlying point.

Her family have exhibited addictive behaviour and there is a chance her upbringing suffered because of it.

Sometimes offspring exhibit rejection of the ways of their parents, ie become teetotal, but this girl already exhibited drinking issues.

A lot of warning signs.

I don't think you can help her OP....... until she reaches rock bottom unlikely to change.

[dotpoom]

Really sad and sorry to hear your story. You sound like a caring and genuine man to still want her back even after all the problems she has had. If I may, there are a couple of points I would like to make....Firstly, no human being (or wife) suddenly wakes up some morning and decides they want to lose everything in life including a loving husband, family and friends, be somebody's slave and possibly end up in the street begging for crumbs. It sounds like she has an addiction, an illness, which is out of her control and needs treatment. At this time in her life more than ever before she needs the love and support of people around her.

Secondly, please please never think "She is a hopeless case"...not possible, when there are people like yourself in the world and in her life, people who don't want to spit on her now that she's down. Maybe all you can do for now is nothing, except be available when and if she were to call on you.

PS. I believe in Miracles...Why?....because I am one myself.

Edited April 2, 2015 by dotpoom

[bud7]

So sorry to read this, sorry for your marriage. If she gets to the point of wanting help, Tanyarak Hospital has pretty good rehab for Thais. This is a nasty drug and it is hard to get people back from it, but it does happen. Sending some moral support your way.

[ScarpoFongness4U]

Because he is not you

This is a Thai female with a Thai male

He needs to get far away because, girls like this ALWAYS come back when things calm down and the guy takes off w the next clean ho, so she can be fed And clothed by someone else until he feels like having her again,

Or, she starts bringing more to the party,

Like all your possessions.

You can't win

But, you can and may die.

You are outmatched and drugs Are more important to her, than you are

[shirtless]

Sorry for your loss you need to move on as she really did have a choice but choose the high life without knowing what goes up must come down,

[mattsilver]

To the OP. I rarely post on here, though I read through some of the topics quite frequently, having had ties and time in LOS. Anyways, if you require any real-life, factual info on the drug, possible approaches to assist without allowing yourself to be pulled into her new private gutter (and the crummy bfriend's, too), I'd be happy to help you out. My history, briefly: Doctorate, internal medicine, US medical school; med researcher for 20+ years; former Univ professor in Med Physiology; but, perhaps most importantly, have 1st hand experience with the drug under discussion (myself and others, from years gone by). It can be a disaster, but that is not guaranteed.

Not sure how you'd pm me on this site because I didn't even realize that I was still logged in and could post...so....you can email me at md silver dot phd over at gmail; obviously no spaces in the name; I think you can figure out how the address ends.

Nonetheless, I wish you the best. Not knowing more details, tis impossible to provide sound advice.

[maidee]

good you don't have children... lesson learned

[Altalake]

A sad sad tale. Sympathy is needed frankly (tho' not asked for), not smart-ass and "serves you right" type comments.

[ScarpoFongness4U]

This is just the first entrance onto a long and desperate highway for her

There is nothing the OP can do that will change anything as she is already walking away from her own flesh and blood.

The OP isnt even a human to them, he is just the felange.

Get over it, and she is over you.

Thanks for the story as we all need to hear it to be forewarnedz

So now put yourself in our shoes, and be detached

This dark night life she has joined now has her...dont die being a hero