Karlo Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 My Thai wife works as a medical lecturer for a university and has had to go away on a 3 day course with 40 other colleagues. When she and the others arrived by coach at the hotel venue they found that they were booked into shared twin bed rooms. My question is what rights does she have to refuse this sleeping arrangement as I know in the west very few employees would accept this. She has only worked at the university for less than a year so she is reluctant to stir up any problems. Additionally her contract hours are 8.30 pm to 4.00 pm but on this course she is expected to work up to 8.30 pm, this she doesn't have a problem. Her issue is loss of privacy having to share a twin room with another female colleague. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocketboybkk Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 Let her deal with it You're obviously afraid she's sharing within a man Nothing to do with you She's old enough to speak for herself You're obviously insecure Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mogandave Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 It is reasonably common for same-sex staff to room together in Thailand when traveling, although I think she would have been made aware of it prior the trip. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocketboybkk Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 It is reasonably common for same-sex staff to room together in Thailand when traveling, although I think she would have been made aware of it prior the trip. Agreed It's your issue not hers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lemonjelly Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 It's normal here, and she knows it. I've had to share a double bed with 2 Thai colleagues before, doesn't worry me now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnatong Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 OP It is non of your business. If your wife is uncomfortable with the arrangement as an Adult it is her responsibility to resolve any problem. Unless the hotel is full she can solve the problem by buying her own private room. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocketboybkk Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 OP It is non of your business. If your wife is uncomfortable with the arrangement as an Adult it is her responsibility to resolve any problem. Unless the hotel is full she can solve the problem by buying her own private room. Agreed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
macksview Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 It's normal here, and she knows it. I've had to share a double bed with 2 Thai colleagues before, doesn't worry me now. colleagues? never heard nongs omm and par called that before. only joking Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
macksview Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 It is reasonably common for same-sex staff to room together in Thailand when traveling, although I think she would have been made aware of it prior the trip. too true, wife's sister is a teacher, since her uni days and forward, who she sharing rooms with on trips, was always topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bubba1 Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 Welcome to the third world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koosdedooes Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 Welcome to the third world. Funny that Bubba, when i worked in the US, the lower level staff where made to share hotel rooms as well, when working away from home or on training courses To get your own room one had to be supervisory/management level ...so shall we talk about 3rd world again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bubba1 Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 Welcome to the third world.Funny that Bubba, when i worked in the US, the lower level staff where made to share hotel rooms as well, when working away from home or on training coursesTo get your own room one had to be supervisory/management level ...so shall we talk about 3rd world again Ok third world or an American peon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ardokano Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 OP It is non of your business. If your wife is uncomfortable with the arrangement as an Adult it is her responsibility to resolve any problem. Unless the hotel is full she can solve the problem by buying her own private room. why? It is not the normal care about wife? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bubba1 Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 Complaining about shared hotels and working hours what do you think this is France? She should know better and as others said no reason for a farang to stick his big nose in it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ardokano Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 Welcome to the third world. Funny that Bubba, when i worked in the US, the lower level staff where made to share hotel rooms as well, when working away from home or on training courses To get your own room one had to be supervisory/management level ...so shall we talk about 3rd world again "medical lecturer for a university " it for you lower level staff? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koosdedooes Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 Welcome to the third world.Funny that Bubba, when i worked in the US, the lower level staff where made to share hotel rooms as well, when working away from home or on training coursesTo get your own room one had to be supervisory/management level ...so shall we talk about 3rd world again "medical lecturer for a university " it for you lower level staff? It would depend whose company said medical lecturer was in, so the answer could be yes or no, i will bet there will be people of the higher ranks on the same course who have their own rooms Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Big Mango Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 The world really does have some serious issues we must all contend with from time to time. I hope she recovers and in time im sure she ( and you ) will be ok. If at times you feel like no one is listening by the grace of God the Samaratins are availiable here in Thailand in both the Thai and English languages. My prayers are with you at this most difficult time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andrew55 Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 (edited) Let her deal with it You're obviously afraid she's sharing within a man Nothing to do with you She's old enough to speak for herself You're obviously insecure Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Even upon re-reading the OP I can't see how you find it obvious that Karlo is afraid his wife is sharing with a man and that he is insecure. My wife and I often discuss our respective work matters. We are interested and offer opinions to each-other if appropriate (sometimes when inappropriate in hindsight). I think this is an important part of our relationship. Our concerns are each-others concerns. It works well for us and I am blessed with a wonderful marriage. To the OP - Yes, this room sharing is normal even in the circumstances and environment that you describe. It is far more common with females, even when they hold quite senior positions. Do consider that traditionally Thais have preferred to sleep together rather than separately (safety in numbers?). Many is the time that I've had Thai visitors stay overnight, made the beds in the the 2 guest rooms only to have woken in the morning to see that I alone had used a bedroom... but try walking through the sleeping bodies strewn across the living room floor! I wonder what would happen if your wife quietly approached a senior colleague and let them know she'd like a room alone. You guys would be prepared to pay a few extra satang towards room cost if necessary I'd imagine. Might not be an issue. Ask. Edited May 12, 2016 by andrew55 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koosdedooes Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 (edited) Let her deal with it You're obviously afraid she's sharing within a man Nothing to do with you She's old enough to speak for herself You're obviously insecure Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Even upon re-reading the OP I can't see how you find it obvious that Karlo is afraid his wife is sharing with a man and that he is insecure. My wife and I often discuss our respective work matters. We are interested and offer opinions to each-other if appropriate (sometimes when inappropriate in hindsight). I think this is an important part of our relationship. Our concerns are each-others concerns. It works well for us and I am blessed with a wonderful marriage. To the OP - Yes, this room sharing is normal even in the circumstances and environment that you describe. It is far more common with females, even when they hold quite senior positions. Do consider than traditionally Thais have preferred to sleep together rather than separately (safety in numbers?). Many is the time that I've had Thai visitors stay overnight, made the beds in the the 2 guest rooms only to have woken in the morning to see that I alone had used a bedroom... but try walking through the sleeping bodies strewn across the living room floor! I wonder what would happen if your wife quietly approached a senior colleague and let them know she'd like a room alone. You guys would be prepared to pay a few extra satang towards room cost if necessary I'd imagine. Might not be an issue. Ask. You need to re-read again, the OP clearly states she has issues sharing with another female..The solution is simple, if the OPs wife wants an single bed..she or he needs to pay for it themselves, shouldnt be a problem as she is a medical lecturer and has the cash... Edited May 12, 2016 by Koosdedooes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andrew55 Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 Let her deal with it You're obviously afraid she's sharing within a man Nothing to do with you She's old enough to speak for herself You're obviously insecure Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Even upon re-reading the OP I can't see how you find it obvious that Karlo is afraid his wife is sharing with a man and that he is insecure. My wife and I often discuss our respective work matters. We are interested and offer opinions to each-other if appropriate (sometimes when inappropriate in hindsight). I think this is an important part of our relationship. Our concerns are each-others concerns. It works well for us and I am blessed with a wonderful marriage. To the OP - Yes, this room sharing is normal even in the circumstances and environment that you describe. It is far more common with females, even when they hold quite senior positions. Do consider than traditionally Thais have preferred to sleep together rather than separately (safety in numbers?). Many is the time that I've had Thai visitors stay overnight, made the beds in the the 2 guest rooms only to have woken in the morning to see that I alone had used a bedroom... but try walking through the sleeping bodies strewn across the living room floor! I wonder what would happen if your wife quietly approached a senior colleague and let them know she'd like a room alone. You guys would be prepared to pay a few extra satang towards room cost if necessary I'd imagine. Might not be an issue. Ask. You need to re-read again, the OP clearly states she has issues sharing with another female.. I understood that. Sorry if I didn't make that clear. That is what I was questioning in the post I quoted ie. why he felt that Karlos was worried that she'd be sharing with a man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chowny77 Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 I had to go on a school trip once and had to share the room with the schools mini van driver. Luckily enough he is alright and it was not a problem for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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