fivevenoms Posted April 29, 2003 Share Posted April 29, 2003 This question is fairly similar to some others I have read, but the circumstances are (of course) different. I am heading in July to meet my fiance's surviving parent-her mother, and to go forth (a little timidly) with the surrounding ceremony of marrying a Thai in Thailand, parties and family awaiting me, no doubt-Interestingly though, my fiance informed me that it is normal for me to offer her mother a "present" when marrying her daughter, but her mother has said she doesn't want anything from me. Which is nice, and a stark contradiction to some of the posts I have read, but I still think something to offer her Mom would be a good gesture. They are a middle-class family in Bangkok, with family and in-laws all knit together as usual, and we are a fairly young couple in our late 20s of modest means-in fact, my fiance makes more money than I do. We don't intend to live in Thailand, and will be returning to the US afterwards. But since I have decided to meet her family and formalize things as best I was able, I was wondering if anyone had some idea regarding the dowry I am evidently not required to give? What would be nice in lieu of it? Should I bring one anyways? Hoping some of you more knowledgeable residents can give me some insight.....thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pnustedt Posted April 29, 2003 Share Posted April 29, 2003 I would suggest a nice piece of jewellery for mum-in-law - a good gold bracelet perhaps. She will be proud of her daughter and will want something to demonstrate to her contemporaries and a talking point of how well she has done! Another thing which will make her proud is a donation to her local buddhist temple - perhaps pay for an extension or something that is required - I'm sure your fiance could find out. This would lead to a procession to the temple and a great celebration which will make mum-in-law very happy. Good luck and enjoy the celebrations! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LordHawHaw Posted April 29, 2003 Share Posted April 29, 2003 A strong second to all of Pnustedt's suggestions, if I may. The more you know about mom, the easier will be your choice of gift, so tell daughter you want to do something that mom will like. That should lead to a win-win solution. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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