Good post.
Some people have invested so heavily in Thailand, both financially and emotionally, that they have to say Thailand is great and their life is great, otherwise, they would appear to be one of the "my girl is different" crowd. They would NEVER admit to making even one bad decision here, because they all think they are smarter than the next farang.
I p*ss myself laughing when I see a foreigner try to be more "Thai" than other foreigners, as you say, more "local and integrated." You know the ones, they have Buddha tattoo, but have zero idea of the significance.
It's all very interesting, when you consider that whatever long stay visa they are on gives them no more "rights" than someone on a 30 day visa exemption stamp.