EirikJohannesen

A dilemma in a small Village.

If you stop her and her family stealing so much money you could be putting yourself in Jeopardy, they will probably see it as an injustice to their rights to steal and take out Thai justice on you.

She has no good intentions because if he was a good man and loved her he'd take on the Children too. And she'd probably get a hell of a lot more than 500K in cash.

This shows she is just after the quick buck and it's probably not the first time she's done it. An altogether calculating piece of work.

But the German guy should do his own research any internet search on Foreigners marrying Thai girls throws up all sorts of stories, then you have the many books like Money number 1.

If he doesn't do this legwork himself then you could say he is stupid to throw this money away on a whore he doesn't know.

Either way someone will get hurt just hope it's not the OP.

I have lived here so long that I have a good status here. I'm not worried about myself, but thanks for the concern.

This girl lives a little outside the village and has not been home for many years and her parents keep to themselves so it is not likely that they are able to set the village up aginst me. I speak fluent Thai and Lao for 20 years so I know what's going on here in the village.I'm more worried about the German

The Op might have already open a big can of stinky whoopee-doo for many readers

Is the small village you talk about drive some 45 minutes away from Surin??

Yes shaking up the readers LOL Long way from Surin.

Not quite correct, S. J. People in 3 Southern provinces of Isarn are not Lao . They are Khmer. Buriram , Surin and Si Sa Ket are predominantly of Khmer origin. And were from at least the time of Siam Reap , to Phanom Rung. When this part of Isarn was ruled By Khmer,Was at that time Hindu, . From about 1,000 years ago. Even today , many families have relatives in Cambodia. These people do not speak Lao, But Isarn . We can argue as to whether it is a dialect of Lao or not. My children speak it. They understand Lao ,but cannot speak it.

You make the mistake of taking a minority as standard.

In the provinces you mention there is a substantial MINORITY of Khmer speakers, about 1 million total, Same goes for Suay speakers, about 300,000 people.

So although it is right that they don't speak Lao, it is a minority out of 22 million Isan people and therefor cannot be used as standard for Isan. We talked about Isan people speak Isan, reason for me to mention that Isan is a dialect and nothing else than Lao language. There are many local languages spoken, but all by minorities.

Another example is Sakon Nakhon: Aheu, Easteren Bru, Phu Thai, So, Yoi are spoken there but by minorities (225,000 people).

Or Nong khai: Nyaw, So, Tai dam (125,000 people total).

So concluding it is clear that 22 million people in/from Isan speak a dialect called Isan by some, Lao by most, and is a dialect of Lao language.

Joe

Agree

A answer to your other question, who nobody answered, becarefull of driving yourself or better DON'T. If you cause a accident, a Thai is, can be in trouble, A farang is always in trouble, a farang without a licence is in deep shit. So please try to find someone who can drive you down.

My girlfriend doesn't want me to drive at all, and i have a international drivinglicence and be a trucker, just because of the enormous fines and pay offs of familys.

Her son hit a child a couple of months back, driving without a licence and insurance, 225.000 bath.

so becare full son.

Chock dee.

Why no one responded to it, because if you have a valid driver's license so you MUST know this.

The Tourist Police along with the Immigration Police are known as the most revenue making divisions in Thailand i.e. Corrupt Police in the Tourist Police make more money on the side than those in neighboring divisions....

They are there to protect themselves...

The guy telling you he is there to Protect Thai's from Foreigners sounds like he has a rather decent sense of humor and enjoyed watching you squirm a little at his answer.....

He was dead serious. He said the division was started because of Thai who complained about foreigners. If you divorce from your wife, then they are there for helping her not you.

Tourist Police are window dressing, absolutely no power to do anything for anyone, Thai or ferang.

There are Tourist Police - A division of the Royal Thai Police Force: Thai's

There are the Tourist Police Volunteers - A volunteer division set up to assist the Tourist Police in tourist areas: Foreigners.

Which was the OP referring to ?

The Royal Thai Police force divison Tourist Police, And the Policeman was not joking, he was serious... They misson was to help Thai in trouble whit Farang.

Certainly true. Personally I am crazy and love nothing more than attacking any Thai I can get my hands on. If it weren't for the tourist police I would do it more often than I do. dam_n them spoil sports

Go out and drink some more and kick some Thai asses

And the other thing, depending which way it goes, when this new Farang settles into Thailand, and makes friends with Eirik Johannesen, and asks "what is that internet fourm I saw you using the other day?" ...... then stumbles across this thread...............!

LOL That will be the beste thing, mybe I will show him this thread Or he read it all ready and dont show up LOL

I was on the market yesterday. I met a nice guy from the tourist police. I told him that it is good that you are here to protect us foreigners. He told me that the tourist police job was to protect Thai from foreigners. Does anyone know if this is correct:o:crazy:

Somtimes I go to the Pizza Company in Nong Khai (My Wife like it. hi so lol) The pizza taste like bread whit Heinz Ketchup, and the pasta taste like canedfood uhhh its like anywhere you go you can have better food

My neighbor works in imigrasjonen, I'll ask her, wait .......... Ok back.

Imigration do not send by mail. She says that many traffic stations accept a certificate of residence from the Amphur.

My in-law in Norway have a regular job, regular house and two cars. My sister is home with two children. I wonder if he's a loser who sit to wonder how much money he'll give my sisters every months. And Norway is 10 times more expensiv than Thailand.

but he is fulfilling his "cultural duties" in Norway

Norway has been a multicultural country LOL

imo if you manage to see him well prior to the wedding, when he would actually have time to adjust his plans, when he doesn't feel like he's completely committed, then I'd recommend talking to him.If he is in love with her blah blah blah then you don't want to spoil his happiness, but he needs to go into things with his eyes open.

Since if the girl does have ill intentions, which from the sounds maybe she does, then she's essentially asked you to be party to the theft of ~2 million bhat (once you include the house aswell). He's probably already been sold on the Sin Sod concept, and if he's got a lot of money he probably won't mind paying it even when he finds out she's Mia Maiy. Afterall it's still significantly cheaper than a wedding in farangland.If the two of them actually love each other, then they'll talk it out and everything will be fine. If the love is one sided and she has ill intentions, at least he's going in with his eyes open.

If you stand by and do nothing, you'll have compromised your morals, particularly if in a few years time you see how distraught he is etc at having been cheated (And since there probably won't be many farang in the village, it's likely that you two will be mates by then, which would suck to see your mate in such a pinch, knowing that you could have prevented it if you stood up and said something years earlier).

If you only meet him at the wedding though, then maii pen raii, too late to change things then, as he's already paid the sin sod and committed to living in the village etc with her, not much you can do after that, probably best to just not rock the boat in that situation (unless he directly asks you of course, in which case you should tell him imo) and hope that he can take away some degree of happiness from it all. He'll probably be able to tell that she's had kids easily enough within a few weeks, or as others have said, at the marriage register, otherwise no doubt she'll tell him in time.

But if the opportunity arises to open his eyes before he puts his money on the line, then I'd say you should inform him.

It is difficult to see for sure what this girl is looking for. But my impression is that she is covetous, she goes for the money. There is little I get done before the man comes to the village. And as you say it is a small village with few foreigners, so it is possible that we end up as friends. He comes in a few days so there is enough time before the wedding.

My in-law in Norway have a regular job, regular house and two cars. My sister is home with two children. I wonder if he's a loser who sit to wonder how much money he'll give my sisters every months. And Norway is 10 times more expensiv than Thailand.

remembering the years in Thailand in the early 90th.,

there was no fanta deng and fanta keau on the market,

but nam deng and nam keau was available in bigger bottles on the market,

thai used small coke bottles for the same thing.

I never saw a glass with nam deng,

so I think, a small minimized portion is suiting the ritual.

I'm quite sure that red and green Fanta has been available in Thailand for many decades before 1990.

For sure. My ex W, love green and red fanta, she orded cases whit small botle in 1988. IN Isaan, small village in Yasothon.

Personally, after 22 years here ¨ then most farang I know happily come out of the divorce without the heavy losses. There are only a few I know who have lost everything.

All of them are divorced and remarried LOL

I have stopped going to the wedding last year when I thought it's been too much drinking and fighting in those days, things that did not happen in the old days

Can you not try to drink a bit less.....

LOL :cheesy:

I'd go to the wedding.......I know a couple of guys that have built houses, I watched them bursting with pride as they enjoyed the whole experience. They both walked away when the time came to part......still have money in pockets and still enjoy Thailand.

Remember not all the stories end up with skint bitter farangs.........and it can be one hell of a ride........ .

Personally, after 22 years here ¨ then most farang I know happily come out of the divorce without the heavy losses. There are only a few I know who have lost everything.

All of them are divorced and remarried LOL

I have stopped going to the wedding last year when I thought it's been too much drinking and fighting in those days, things that did not happen in the old days

1) The guy is apparently happy with his future wife, he is prepared to part with HIS money, which he is entitled to spend as HE sees fit......

He do this On a Lie

2) The children from the first marriage may well be better off in Sweden

Yes

3) Those that understand Thai people know it is their nature to ignore things which are not deemed relevant to their current situation

So a farang should think that way aswell?

4) This may highlight the mistrust the Thai have in the farang way of thinking.........to be truthful where it could possibly jepordise the happiness of two people, who in reality are old enough to make their own decisions, in short the op is clearly seen as a risk to the plans and not to be trusted to keep his gob shut

Happy falsely! Yes I am a risk for her!

5) If the guy comes to the op for last minute confirmation and asks direct questions then the op is entitled to tell the truth.......

Yes

otherwise the business of nobody but the two people involved

Where they decide to involve others, I have not chosen to involve me, they have.

Ok here is a scenario, the guy is loaded, 50 million baht is nothing to him, he has decided to marry and take pleasure in building a home for his Thai princess, this will allow him to reside in Thailand, have a quiet beer or two every day and sit back enjoying what he has created.........................................

Yep it could go wrong, but why try to make it a non starter by divulging information that may.....or may not make a difference.......he may well be aware of the risks, he may well have chosen to continue and see where life takes him and glean every bit of enjoyment he can..........you think it is in his best interests for you to make comment which may have adverse effect on his relationship?

A minor point, they have not chosen to involve you, they have chosen to ask you not to become involved......

I agree whit you I will not get involved whit them

This I said in another post:

Do not worry, I have balls enough to tell him, but the point is whether it is worth it or not. Why make an issue that is not mine to my problem.

"I completely agree with what you say. What scares me is that it seems like they are going to build houses and live here. I have decided not to go to the wedding and avoid them.

If he comes to me and ask about her past then I will give him tips on how he can figure it out, and give him a very good reason to do so.

"

1) The guy is apparently happy with his future wife, he is prepared to part with HIS money, which he is entitled to spend as HE sees fit......

He do this On a Lie

2) The children from the first marriage may well be better off in Sweden

Yes

3) Those that understand Thai people know it is their nature to ignore things which are not deemed relevant to their current situation

So a farang should think that way aswell?

4) This may highlight the mistrust the Thai have in the farang way of thinking.........to be truthful where it could possibly jepordise the happiness of two people, who in reality are old enough to make their own decisions, in short the op is clearly seen as a risk to the plans and not to be trusted to keep his gob shut

Happy falsely! Yes I am a risk for her!

5) If the guy comes to the op for last minute confirmation and asks direct questions then the op is entitled to tell the truth.......

Yes

otherwise the business of nobody but the two people involved

Where they decide to involve others, I have not chosen to involve me, they have.

My guess is that she'll have him into the village, married and out of it in no time before anyone mentions her kids or living in Sweden.

Some hookers are ok, just doing it because they are too lazy to get a real job. Those like this girl have no human feelings (ditching her kids) and are just money grabbing trash.

If I could expose her I would but if the family lose gold, a house and 500k plus, you could be digging a large hole for yourself. Better he "find out for himself" via some method which does not directly connect the OP.

I completely agree with what you say. What scares me is that it seems like they are going to build houses and live here. I have decided not to go to the wedding and avoid them.

If he comes to me and ask about her past then I will give him tips on how he can figure it out, and give him a very good reason to do so.

"Some hookers are ok" needle in the hay stack

10 Years ago my ex GF mother did the same thing. I moved out................................

You don't have to lie, but you don't need to tell the truth either, if the farang in question asks you a direct question, just answer that you don't know.

That in itself is a lie. Get real, the guy should be told the truth. Just a question of whether the OP has got the balls ?

Do not worry, I have balls enough to tell him, but the point is whether it is worth it or not. Why make an issue that is not mine to my problem.

Here's the thing... If you were the girl and your man was shaggin' another or something... All of her friends/acquaintances/people she has not seen in years/the postman/the soi dogs/the gekkos/the motorcycle taxi drivers/the 7-11 worker/the chicken seller/the noodle seller and so on would be on the phone telling her all.

On the other hand... If you are the guy... Everyone just smiles.

TheWalkingMan

What you do not know, is not hurting you. Morally it is appropriate to tell him the truth. Then Guess who gets the big ugly Troll here then.

You don't have to lie, but you don't need to tell the truth either, if the farang in question asks you a direct question, just answer that you don't know.

That in itself is a lie. Get real, the guy should be told the truth. Just a question of whether the OP has got the balls ?

Do not worry, I have balls enough to tell him, but the point is whether it is worth it or not. Why make an issue that is not mine to my problem.

In the morning I like to eat Bread form Lotos whit salami, chees and TGM product. We make a lot of pasta here as well all in the famly likes that:)

I dont eat mashpoteto but plain boiled poteto or bakedpoteto, Porkchop and chickenbreast whit red bisto gravy and veg. and mushrom I love

I have met a lot of Farangs that love isaan food, all Isaan food even raw bloodbeef "lap luet" and ratten fish, "padeek". I preffere western food but I like the sticyrice and BBQ Chicken and pork. Most of the time I eat western food my wife make for me. So what about my fellow Falang Lao friends