Obviously there are mixed responses to this.
First and foremost - use of devices needs to be well managed by responsible parenting.
Phones & iPads are excellent devices for kids when not over used - as an educational tool they are outstanding.... from Maths Apps, Art Apps, educational YouTube videos and of course the games kids love to play.
There is no reason for an iPad or an iPhone to be the enemy of child development, quite the opposite in fact - but, poor parenting can make these devices the enemy.
My son has loads of devices:
- iPad - half of which he paid for himself (with gift money) - he keeps in contact with his friends, plays Roblox and minecraft online with friends.
He also uses the iPad for School work (the need their own device for that).
- iPhone - This is more for us so we can contact him at school if we are late to pick-him up (its happened once), he also takes this to restaurants, after we've eaten and he's the only child there and we're chatting and drinking etc, its unfair for him to sit there bored, he can use his phone.
- Nintendo Switch - We play football on this and other games, good fun together, also on the planes.
- VR headset (Meta Quest) - my son uses this at weekends, has great fun playing online games.
All of this, the timing is managed by our Son - He's 'warned' he manages his own time, make intelligent choices - if he uses the devices too much, there are consequences and he'll be prevented from using them.
He shows academic excellence, he loves school, has many friends, does 2 hours ECA after school every day (sports, crafts, even cooking).
He deserves his leisure time.
The best part about his devices, particularly an iPad is the amount that he learns - I'm surprised at his knowledge base - he's also understanding about fake-information now, which I consider important as the world is changing to one with a lot of misinformation peddled as fact.
As far as social media - he keeps in contact with his class group via the school Teams group.
He also keeps in contact with previous class mates who have moved away via discord.
Is he addicted to his smart-phone, of course he is, we all are - but not to the extent it has any controlling influence over him or us as a family unit.