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We were together for 2 years before getting married. Best thing I've ever done. She makes me laugh and keeps me young at heart.

On 1/15/2018 at 8:35 AM, LionofMedaCM said:

Kopitiam

Thailand, neither other 3rd world countries asked or can influence European laws, but Europe is not a zone of racism and xenophoby neither a zone that needs others t scam them! European laws are democratic, Humanitarian, fair, yes each country have its own immigration policy and this policy can show how is democratic and honest is the country

Asking a bunch of paper and money from foreigner husbands staying in Thailand is not a power as you think otherwise you won't be sunk in the world bank debts!

is just taking advantage or a social phobia turned into politics 

That liberal immigration policy is allowing terrorists and undesirables into their countries and ruining them. There is nothing racist or xenophobic about not wanting your country ruined. It's called sovereignty and it's how countries keep their culture and security. A country can't take care of the whole world. It's duties are to it's citizens.

13 hours ago, kenk24 said:

Effective...

 

but keep at it - being able to speak Thai is quite handy and fun if you live here. It will greatly enhance your Thai experience and enjoyment. 

I'm working on it. We have 6 more years here in the US before I get a pension, then off to Thailand at least in the winters (We live in Michigan, beautiful summers here). Hopefully I can manage enough functional Thai by then to get by without my wife talking for me all the time.

On 11/12/2017 at 7:17 AM, kenk24 said:

Most Thai that I know would feel it rude to criticize especially a guest or stranger. This does not mean that they would not be judgmental of someone acting poorly, though they might not voice it. 

 

The closer the relationship, it seems, the more likely they are to be critical. Eg. My wife would never be critical of you speaking Thai incorrectly, whereas if I pronounce something incorrectly, she might let it go, or she might critically correct me... possibly depending upon her mood. 

My wife outright laughs at me when I try to speak Thai. How's that for criticism. lol

I always see these questions. Is she just out for your money? The women could ask a similar question. Is he just out for sex with a younger woman? If both people are getting their needs met, then no one is being taken advantage of.

Manipulate the tourist visa process or you're screwed. It's not set up for young people to stay in Thailand long term. Sorry.

My girl never had kids and I asked her why and she said "Because I too lazy to care for kids". I appreciate that kind of honesty. ?

My girl will lay in bed watching movies on her phone a lot but only becuase she has no chairs in her room and no TV. I don't blame her.

I went to Thailand 5 times last year for 2 weeks at a time on just my passport. No problem whatsoever.

When I first started dating my fiancé in 2015 I was looking into a tourist visa for her to come visit me in the U.S., but instead of diving right into applying for one, I did some research and found out that because Thailand is considered a highly fraudulent immigration country, that a tourist visa is almost impossible to get for a typical Thai girl that doesn't have an important job or serous ties to Thailand like a house there or kids to return to. Because many Thais in the past just simply never returned on a tourist visa, they assume you won't either and it's up to you to convince them otherwise. In fact, it's not just America. They can't get a tourist visa for most 1st world nations. So I didn't even try for one. They especially won't give you one if you tell them you're going to visit a boyfriend. You can't sponsor someone on a tourist visa, not in America anyway. They'll think you'll get married there and circumvent the normal marriage or fiancé visa process and it's associated fees. She had a girlfriend that got refused who wanted to go to Australia to visit her boyfriend. And she has a friend that actually got one to come to the U.S. but she is a nurse and has a lot of money in the bank. Anyway, I just waited and applied for a K1 fiancé visa and we just got approved and she should have her interview within a month. Good luck to you in your case.

My Thai fiancé and I always split up. I might have to try tagging along behind her next time.

It  depends on where you live and the cost of living there. A small rice village in Isaan will be different than Bangkok. My girl lives in Bangkok and is a waitress at an italian restaurant and makes about 17000 baht a month. It allows her to have a small room with no kitchen and no hot water. She does have A/C and an elevator. She eats mostly street food and doesn't have money to go out and socialize so she basically works 6 days a week and sleeps the rest of the time. She just exists, not really lives. She chooses to live in Bangkok so she doesn't complain. She also sends her mom in Udon Thani a little money every month. When she was looking for work the restaurants were all paying between 12000 and 20000 baht for wait service, with the average being about 15000.

1 hour ago, eppic said:

As someone who has been married to a Filipina for several years, let me congratulate you on your good taste (far superior to Thais, at least for me - 15 years in Asia and never met a Thai I wanted to date). If you do decide to marry, just make sure you do it outside the Phils...we got married in Bali before she got her UK citizenship, but would have been easier to wait. Just a word of caution since you are relatively new to the Phils.. my wife told me of a common saying, abbreviated as the ("Four M's"), about why very young girls go for or even prefer much older men - I won't translate but you might want to look it up. I am sure you have mutual true love, so no doubt you will prove to be an exception.

Getting her to Thailand on a visa waiver shouldn't be a huge problem as long as she has a return ticket - we have had a number of my wife's relatives and friends visit - but you can expect she will get quite a grilling upon her exit from the Phils (entry to Thailand is the easy part). Best of luck.

As for the four "m's", he says he is 40 years older, she is 19. That makes him 59. Hardly ready to die any time soon. A guy in his 70s might be a different story though.

My fiancé makes 15000 a month as a waitress at an Italian restaurant full time in Bangkok and I send her 10000 a month so she can eat better and have some money to socialize with friends. That's not much and she doesn't ask for it. I just send it. She rents a room by herself for 7000 plus utilities. Seems like your girl is trying to gouge you for money.

On 6/8/2017 at 7:12 AM, peterpaz said:

I can certainly meet the 'sponsor' requirements when it comes to financial requirements.
I can't get my head around a 'settlement' visa though.... only allowed 6 months in the UK. That doesn't really say 'settlement' to me.

I know what people on here will say... "If you say you both love each other, just get married".... 
I'm very nervous about getting married just to get a visa. I do love her but I'd like to try living together in the UK before I ask her to marry me for all the right reasons. I am fully aware of all issues that can arise once a Thai lady moves to England and problems could 'crop-up' that you would never have predicted. My intentions are honest - I'm just trying to be sensible about this and cautious at the same time. Marriage for me would be a lifelong commitment and I'd need to be 100% happy that everything would work out.

You can never be 100% sure everything will work out. Relationships are a gamble every time. You have no idea how the other person might change over time and you have no control over it. Whether you know her 1 year or 10 years. That's been my experience anyway. Good luck to you in whatever you decide.

You say you're not banging her and I believe you, but there is a connection. Why her? There are a million girls in her situation. There is something there you aren't telling us. It doesn't add up. Sorry.

3 hours ago, bazza73 said:

Given the paranoia exhibited by US Immigration and the current American president, it baffles me why any non-American would want to go there in the first place.

Because this president is going to improve America. The country has bee disrespected and going downhill for the last 8 years.

I joined the U.S. Marine Corps in '79 and only stayed 4 years. If I had stayed I would have retired with 30 years of service already and had a nice pension. I've done okay for myself with only 6 years left to retire from Ford Motor Company with a pension but I would say the military is a good way to go for young men and women. Glad I did it even for a short while. It influenced me greatly and made me who I am today.

On 5/19/2017 at 8:56 AM, bkk6060 said:

HAHA thanks so much.  No way.  I lent her money that is it.  I am a little stupid, but not totally stupid. 

But, if you are interested PM me and I will give you her number if we break up.  She is hot and works in a bank!

Well you WILL break up with her (or her you) if that's how you think about her. The grass isn't always greener. Don't have any regrets, Thats all I'm saying. Hard to find a good girl to love in life that loves you as well.

Stupid thread. In my opinion, if you are the type of guy that wants to trade your 40 year old in for two 20s, you're a POS. End of story. You get what you deserve.

I had a friend that had a Thai girlfriend. He built a house in her name, bought a Thai restaurant in her name, sent her money all the time from Afghanistan where he worked 5 months out of the year. He was going to marry the girl and give her a baby before he found out she was banging another farang. Now he's devastated and she's going to marry the other guy. He told me he had just gave her $24,000 US to take care of her gambling debts. The worst part is he had 2 filipinas that did the same thing to him before.

Wives cheat no matter where they're from. Thai women are no different than the western whores. Hoes are hoes. Good women are good women. Try to marry the latter.

My girl went back to her hometown in Isaan to get her birth certificate. She found out the record place had burned down years before and all the records in it and anyone born after 1972 no longer had a birth certificate. She was going to have to get her mom, her brother, and her high school records to show that she had lived there and that she was who she said she was. She brought them all there and the officer said it was going to take a long time and she would have to finish on the following Monday since it was a Friday. My girl had to be back to work at a restaurant in Bangkok on Monday. She slipped the officer 1000 baht and lo and behold the officer stayed longer and got it done that day. I think the whole country is run like this. Might try greasing a palm or two.

The buffet at Terminal 21 Hotel is very good. It's about 600 baht.

8 hours ago, al007 said:

Im just curious how most local Thai's are able to survive on an average wage of 30k,    Well as you say survive, they have very different needs

 

Remember there are many choices other than Thailand, originally on my list was Cuba, Colombia, Mexico, Dominican Republic, Costa Rica, Nicaragua, Honduras, and many Caribbean islands

My girl survives on 20,000 baht per month from her restaurant job. She has her own room she rents for 7,000 baht and eats mostly street food. I will be taking her away from that meager existence very soon.