Stevey

I should have ditched her when I saw her first slip. But her younger son and I, then 4, were very close. He has seen the love and everything that little Dang has had and I suppose he must be jealous. I’d said and his mom had relayed if he was normal he’d have a new motorcycle and AC in his room but he has chosen this path.

@BangkokReady @ChaiyaTH Yes you are correct in your thoughts about try the kind approach. I’m not really made like that I’m more of a hang’em high type of guy. I’ll help anyone out like that Filipino girl at Savannkhet. But he has repeatedly stolen from his moms bag and we’ve had multiple instances of cash going missing. He just takes stuff that’s left on the side that he thinks he can sell for 20 baht that cost 300. Yes his mom is an evil bargirl who had him then left him with her normal sister while she carried on with Bar life looking for Mr. Right. In her forties she settled for me. I asked her a couple of months ago has he ever had any love from you in his life like his little brother who is five has had from us, she answered no. I keep telling myself it’s a phase and I also had a messy bedroom when I was a boy, but the total disrespect to have a room in our house that is basically like a landfill site and has ants crawling up the wall from outside it’s just not on. And the lies, they just don’t stop. I heard his mum a few nights ago questioning him about where her power bank was. One thing about her is she’s got the most incredible memory I’ve ever come across in my life. She can remember a phone number that she only saw once 3 months ago, and then looks to me like I’m stupid when I say, how did you remember that. She knew that power bank was in her bike and she knows he took it. And she knows he stole my expensive charge block and iPhone charger lead that I left in a power outlet while I slept. what can you do, refurb his room buy him an iPhone 12 and a new wave and give him 500 baht a week pocket money. Nothing will change. He’s heartless. Stepped over our dying Dog of two years with distemper like it was chicken he’s never seen before not a dog we’d got as a puppy that had run up to him every day when he go home from school. what concerns me is how he funds that amount of stuff in the wrappers.

Well, the truth of it is, I was tricked. She made me believe she was a keeper. For a few years in to us getting serious and staying with each other long-term things were ok. Before that it was visiting on holidays, Then a year ago or so the mask started to slip. Complaining about his behaviour et cetera fell on deaf ears. But there’s his younger 5year old brother that keeps me around, who’s great fun and dare I say worth it.

It feels so good to enlighten the uneducated though. Seeing their little face light up like the moon ???? does every month. And that was the over fifties in the class, I mean shop.

Can anyone beat this boy’s bedroom that I am being forced to live with girlfriend won’t address it. The boy has done what he wants since forever. last time I went in there there was a mountain of cigarette butts in receptacles of one form or another. Truly vomit inducing stuff. Mom won’t address it. Any suggestions on way forward greatly appreciated.

We might be related all of her massive family of women are hell Harridan Shrew 8itches from hell

Thanks for interest. No I was thick. Then I wasn’t and now I’m getting thicker. Although the reading writing and rithmetic will have not been self taught. Having a half arsed class on crop rotation or an art lesson has had zero plus effect to who I am. Unless you count bitterness. School was just a holding pen.

I hadn’t thought of that

Some interesting points you’ve made there, and yes you’re agreeing with me that he’s time and do seem to be subservient to the bossy shrews. yes I do come across as condescending I agree. But at least the locals now know the only words they’ve learned of English ‘ stupid ‘.

Well to be fair to me. None of the knowledge that I have acquired there is in my brain can be attributed to the UK education system. And I can truly say that if I had never gone to school from the age of 5 to 16 1/2 I would not be any different than I am now everything that I consider to be of worth that’s in my brain is self taught or researched.

Great post. I have no idea why she won’t sanction a small pool. Yes either do it while she’s at work or pay her to let me have it dug, what a Simp move

Lovely to make you acquaintance. Are you the same guy who said you “speak ‘Good’ Thai “ in a previous thread I saw today ? I like to say that I can speak Thai, I receive calls in Thai from drivers et cetera and I go to the vets and the Hospital where no one can speak English and I speak Thai. I can stop anywhere I’ll speak with Thai people. I even listen to my 5year old boy who cannot speak English tell me last nights dream but I’ve never had the outright audacity to say I speak “good“ Thai. You’re obviously one of life’s winners, and I commend everything you say to the house.

Some of the most stupid people imaginable. Two days ago I explained to about seven adults in a village shop where the light they could see on the full moon was coming from

Although I agree with you that I chose wrong. I’m stuck with the 5hit house now. And I agree that alot of the Falangs here bring it on themselves, like Colin. My point is that I she a lot of strong minded shouty women up here and that goes for the young ones who try to emulate the older mothers. If guys mixing with these women in what ever settings they are procuring said women knew what they heading to they would think twice and maybe head to Scunthorpe to procure a life partner

When I first came to this village in NongKhai , I met Colin a Falang and LLS in diving. He trusted his wife and he recently had his bank account of raided of his 6.5Million baht savings plus she lent money on all land they had bought plus small apartments in BKK and his tractor and both SUVs house just repossessed as she had lent cash on that too. How do people lose so much gambling? They have an 11 year old, although he cannot speak Isaan so cannot communicate. He’s too cleaver to learn apparently.

How much has that cost you ? I selected an option in my price range. I stay in a village where nobody can speak English and women appear to rule the roost as they sit around eating SomTam and shout orders at children. I’m sorry but these lot do not have the intelligence to be in charge, they just are and the men are too frightened to stand up to them. I can only take your word that your missus who I’m sure is lovely , is lovely.

I never had that much fun paying for all those small beers as the ‘ permission to stay ‘ Tax

I’ll call her that the next time we have words ????

Everywhere I go in the area I hear shouty harridans. It’s learned behaviour. The men are quiet and henpecked and the women are always shouting at kids.

Oh … what the love of a good man someone to fix a leaking pipe ?

All women or Thai Women ?

I’ve chosen to place this here coz my concern is Isaan women. Is it just me or…. Has anybody experienced that when you and your Isaan women got together she was lovely but a few years later she is horrible and shouty. Also jobs and modifications and upgrades to her house I did previously were welcome but now now it’s hers and even suggesting planting a new tree causes an argument let alone that I wanted to pay for a digger to make a small borenam to hold some fish on land I paid for. If anyone had told me that these Isaan women were like this I’d have avoided them like the plague.

I will be fitting an upstanding Samurai sword to the front of my Kawasaki Versys to bolster the defensive Riot shield I currently have in place.

Ok let’s write this entire post again. For those who cannot tolerate detail’s skip to the end where I bullet point all the salient points. So I arrive back through Mukdahan on Monday after the weekend, after picking up my passport. My dog was sick before I left and asked my girlfriend to make sure she was looked after. She showed me her condition on my first night in Savannakhet and she looked bad so that was the Lao holiday cancelled and my mission was to get back to NongKhai to look after her Asap. Whilst waiting for the Monday 14:00 embassy passport pick up I decided rather than hang around the town again I would take a trip on the Sunday down to Pakse in the south of Lao. I’d hired a Honda Wave from my lodging Souvantha guest house for 300Baht a day. It was the owners personal bike so I told her that I may not be back that night but don’t worry about bike. I was just gonna explore around but I may stay out if I found a nice town. She told me don’t go too far so I omitted to ask the best route to Pakse. I set off with Google maps reporting a 3hrs 49m journey for a motorbike. It was about 1030 and although it was gonna be mid afternoon when I got there it had to be better than staying in Savannakhet all day. I rode about 55-60kph all the way with the odd stop. After filling up with fuel a couple of hours in and re-mapping the Journey I now saw it was saying 3 1/2hrs further !! Jesus Christ Mary mother of God ???? I had to make a decision whether to turn back. After a coffee at Café Amazon where every outside table had a full ashtrays I asked a Lao guy if this was normal for Lao and he said yes. 5 tables with 5 full ashtrays ????. I decided to carry on with the journey because turning back would be soul destroying. Eventually I got there at 16:30 ready for sunset. Not the first time google maps has been totally off for me in Asia. Stayed at the Langkam Hotel about 400 baht for an Air room which was not needed as it was coat and hat weather, all fan rooms taken by filthy back packers. Langkam Hotel has a balcony looking out onto the main thoroughfare of the town if you can see anything thru the hundreds of wires going down the street from pole to pole. Surrounded by mountains Paksey is quiet and well worth a visit and looked like Oxford town centre. Next day had a nice coffee from the hotels very small breakfast restaurants. After yesterday’s 55kph drive I decided to up the pace and sped back to Savannakhet leaving at 08:30 at an insane 80kph Joey Dunlop style swerving across the road to avoid potholes and the popular goat livestock which has zero Road sense unlike dogs and will just walk out into the road, extremely dangerous. Reaching the outskirts of Pakse I pulled up for a minute at a roadside French bread pâté stall out front of a house. The woman immediately shouted out to the back for an English speaker. An old guy about 75 years old appeared and started speaking English. Works out he had recently retired to Lao from Los Angeles when he’s made a family after leaving Lao in his late 20’s he came back to Lao with his second wife who he had shipped to the US to replace the original who died early on in the marriage, she was the one who was making my sandwich and couldn’t speak a word of English after being in the US for decades. After an exciting death ride back broken up with lots of fuel fill ups as the fuel tank tried to keep up with the carburettor I arrived back to the Sounantha hotel Savannakhet at 12:10 midday.A little concerned I might have to pay another day for being 10 mins late for check out I was amazed and heartened to see they had emptied my room of belongings and they were in reception, even the stuff I’d hidden so they couldn’t steal ????. I Checked out and I had a couple of hours to kill before the 1400 rendezvous with my passport so killed time until I made my way to the embassy. I was wondering if I’d meet the Filipino teacher at the embassy. She was a strange character we had exchanged Line IDs, her idea, and had a chat going and evidently I was a great guy as I’d given her that 4000baht to bolster her bank balance a few days back to help enable her to get her visa. I did meet her by chance on the Friday evening the day I first met her near my hotel as I walked back, it was now Monday, I asked the half brain to take her mask off for a second so I could see her face to which she obliged. Not bad, from the hour I’d spent with her in the passport copy shop from her eyes I had her pegged as 50 years old but now she revealed her face she looked more like late 30’s and if any wine lovers are listening I had a Semion. I told her I’ll message you later, and went and purchased a can of anti-perspirant and a selection of Lao beers. To cut a long story short even though I made it clear I would finance everything with my huge wealth she gave me excuse after excuse all weekend when I tried to meet up with her saying she had flu and she didn’t want to spread it, pretty much the opposite of me who had a stinking face cold and made no provisions for ‘ stopping the Spread’ other than not sneezing directly into someone’s face. I’m 47 not 67 I just cannot fathom women at all. Anyway I missed her at the embassy and apart from a couple of unsolicited messages on line that relationship is basically dead in the water. I made my way to the bus station with Passport and visa , nearly there ! Now 1440 The guys running the bus told me the big white and blue bus left at 1630, long time to wait and not gonna happen. A Tuk Tuk driver offered me the ride for a 1000baht I told him to do one and produced google maps that said it was a 17 minute dotted line walk to the Mukdahan side. He dropped the price to Loy Baht. I waltzed off out the bus station but while leaving I saw another bus that was obscuring the 16:30 bus I doubled back and enquired at the Bus Station office. This bus leaves at 1530 , oh so it’s every something 30Hrs then. With a 45mins wait i decided to walk as someone did say here it’s walkable. well again Google Maps done me over and I ended up at the border point in 45mins, not 16mins. Picked up a pack of Lao Bear Dark from the border shop at equivalent 30 baht a can. More expensive than shops at 12000kip about 24baht a can but I forgot to buy some. Girl in the tells me 1 pack is the limit. By now it’s 1530 and I approached the Lao passport control and got ushered to a kiosk window with a male and female Lao IO inside. They start flicking through my passport like they can’t find my visa. He then asks me “Thai Embassy give you Visa ?“ I replied yeah ! “ Ok….Loy Baht ! “ I haven’t got any Thai money more than the money I need to pay the storage of my bike at the Mukdahan side. I throw all the Kip I have down and that seems to be enough and I’m released. That was a relief as at this point I’m still not entirely convinced that this TR visa is gonna get me into Thailand over a land border for the 3rd time this year. Alight the bus to Mukdahan side and entered the Thai passport control building filled out arrival departure card. The got two women as Thai IO they spoke Isaan Thai to me , always puzzles me how they know which Falang can speak Thai. They asked me about me having a Thai girlfriend as there was paperwork pertaining to her in the passport. ???? oh this could get spicy ???? surely they’ll ask next why I’m staying in a guesthouse near her address? I had a story ready about us having an argument and I’m gonna let her cool down, they never asked I they let me go. No checking for Covid nonsense tests or vaccines certificates and more interesting no checking for how many cans of Beer Lao I had in my bag. Also and importantly on this occasion at this time of day I was not asked to produce an onwards flight booking. This would have been a problem and this thing I was most worried about. My emirates return flight was cancelled a while back and as yet I have not confirmed the return date so I would not have been able to produce it and it would have been possible but less than convenient to produce one, so that was Fantastic. Made my way to the long stay carpark with fingers and toes crossed. Bike still there next to the office. Paid the woman though the window for the extra nights stays more than the first night I left it there, who informed me to my surprise that even though it was end of play I wasn’t paying for this day, it’s payment for nights past midnight it appears, gave her a 100baht tip and reconnected my battery I’d undone for added security. Looks like secure parking indeed. And headed for a night Nakhon Sakhon. Unfortunately my lovely dog died in an operation to remove inflammation of the Uterine caused by Pyometra which is caused by administering the contraceptive injections for 50baht rather than do a spade operation. My fault. “cystic endometrial hyperplasia and resulting pyometra, especially if the dose is excessive” So that’s that. Summary. • Lao Evisa worked great $50 and feels smug telling people filling out forms that you’ve got one • Not asked by Lao IO for the Covid test I’d made even though I had a full face cold. This coincides with China dropping zero Covid and letting it rip it’s slave worker population. •It’s 45 minutes walk to the Embassy from the Lao side of the bridge if you don’t want to encourage the touts. I’ve just spent a little time researching and the average wage is not more than 3000baht a month 100baht a day. So think of that when they want 200baht to the Embassy. To me it’s 50baht if that. Walk it with your thumb out. • Get there early. Apparently there were half of China waiting there the day before I came have enough time to fix a problem and resubmit. • Have a bank statement with a ending balance of 20k baht minimum, 2 pics6x4 cm a hotel booking printout. News to me but can be downloaded from you banking app. The copy shop opposite is helpful, although can only speak Lao or Thai. He has the application form and every thing is 20baht a go. Lovely guy, like me. •Tourist visa 2months plus extendable for 1 month is a bargain 1000baht •100baht was requested by Lao IO on exit of Lao, for what ? Who knows ? •Onward flight was not asked for on entering Thailand, maybe lucky. • Hotels. The Aura is more plush looking at 600Baht but the floor tiles were sticky and the shower was not powerful in this cold weather and needed to be of a trickle, go 200 baht and spend 400 baht on 20baht cans of Lao beer and French bread sandwiches (Kao jee Pâté) and barbecue Pork and chicken. But be careful to buy the sandwiches from busy shops they refrigerate the ingredients which for small 1 baguette every 2 hours shops sit in plastic boxes growing bacteria. • Be careful about how long google maps says it take to get anywhere. •10000kip is 20baht, 1/2Mill Kip is 1000baht but big notes get better exchange rate at money changers. •Eat at Pilgrims restaurant and coffee and pay in Kip they exchange baht at unreasonable rates. Nice place by the Mekong that has views of the bridge from the outside seating. Has accommodation and push bike hire. •There’s an ATM and small shop at the Mukdahan border long stay Car park •Remember to take more than one pair of underpants preferably with a serviceable gusset that is still intact unlike my pair which had a failed gusset.

Standby for the last word about Savannakhet. I did a full final report then I went off my Wi-Fi, even though I’ve got a Sim card in, and when I open my phone later it was all gone, my fault, I must remember to write reports out somewhere else and then copy and paste them into, Thai Visa later. I’ve opened my phone before and it says this was a post you were writing earlier and it’s all there for you, nightmare !!!