fredwiggy

No, this story has just been posted today. Many people share the same kind of stories with a few variations. Most likely seeing other guys is assuming again. When you read someones post, you take what they say and can comment on that, without inventing new scenarios for some reason. Some here hate women, and have to make them all sound like money grubbing whores. They aren't. I've been hurt by a few that were disturbed individuals, both here and in the US. I still look at women the same way I've always have. Individuals you can't judge unless you know them or where they came from. Walk a few miles in their shoes before you judge them. If you treat a good woman well, she will never leave, period. If you treat a bad woman well, they will look to find ways to hurt you, because they themselves are already hurting, and have to take out their pent up anger from their childhood or bad relationships and put it on you, because they can't hurt the ones that hurt them before. It's wrong, and no one wins. Some here buy women, and can't believe there are good women out there. Maybe they didn't know how to treat their woman, or maybe she was bad and she hurt him. This doesn't mean all women are bad. Just that they picked the wrong one, just as I have a few times.

Why would you refer to his girlfriend as genital herpes girl? Do you not realize you're insulting someone he cares about? It really amazes me the kind of childish teenaged banter I see here daily. This from men who are supposed to be in their 50's to 80's. Give it a rest.

Which again, is assuming you know what others are doing in their spare time, besides the ones you actually live with.

But men don't take selfies every day admiring themselves. Except the narcissists, so there is a difference.

Or maybe you don't understand what he's asking. Girls here, as well as all over the world, spend a lot of time on their phones. It's addictive, especially if this is all you see your friends doing. That's a lot of the time spent. Talking on their phones instead of in person. You nor anyone else here lives with them so assuming how they both feel isn't going to work, yet it's how a lot here make their judgements. She is still young, and her brain is still not fully developed. This and coming from a background without loving parents makes a lot of people look elsewhere for things they are missing. Many look at lakorns, and actually think this is normal life. They hear from friends how men are, and much of it can be lies or exaggerations, which clouds their judgement. You're also assuming this girl knew she had an STD and gave it to him without caring. She can always go back to school when it gets to her she needs to. Assuming is something a lot do here and it's childish and shouldn't happen with men our age level.

Relationships are all about trust. If it's not there, the relationships falters and dies. You have to trust totally to let yourself go totally. That means forever. A woman who grew up not trusting men because the primary male role model failed her, can trust. It just takes a lot of time and patience, doing the things that earn trust. Of course they look for reasons to not trust, because people failed them before and they sit back just waiting. "Men are all the same, they all cheat, lie and use". Most everyone knows this is BS, but actually believing it enough to let yourself go is a hard nut to crack. It of course is possible, as many women come from hurtful childhoods and many of them are content in their marriages now. You don't change anyone. She has to let herself change herself. Men and women aren't that compatible right from the start anyway ,besides attraction, which isn't a choice. Everyone comes from their own set of circumstances. Different parents, cities, states, countries, nationalities and cultures. Making two fit isn't easy no matter what you do. Trust has to be earned, especially if one comes from a non trusting background. That doesn't mean they can't learn to trust. It's just harder. A good woman that's trustworthy but has some quirks can be a gold mine. Same for a man.

It all depends on how a man looks at women. All we need is one good one that we are both attracted to and that we can trust. A woman that's not that affectionate can change when she fully trusts a man. Coming from a childhood with little affection, which is commonplace here, and a relationship where someone tried to force her to do something she knows is wrong jades a woman, at least for awhile. Earning that trust takes a lot of time and patience, but the endgame is a woman that will count on you above all others, and will give you her all.

You like being around her and the intimacy is good. She's needing someone she can trust,as the last one tried to force her into an immoral act. You being different is what she needs, and consistently. Like I mentioned, people can change if they aren't too old and set in their character. This you'll discover in time. The more you do things she likes, even if she isn't telling you, the more she'll trust you. Women watch us and take notes, and don't forget when a man is bad or good. She grew up with little love, and everyone craves love, even if it's foreign to them for awhile.

She's under 30 and can still definitely change. Childhood damage takes a long time to get past, and what it takes is consistent love from someone she can trust. Some of the best wives men have found have been damaged goods they took time to earn their trust. Women that have been with a lot of men compare all the time, and always are looking for better, as no one will be special enough for them. A woman only needs a couple of bad experiences to shun most men, and hopefully open her heart to the right one. Men are to blame for hurting a woman's trust in them, and it starts with their father.

People can fix themselves, if that's what they want because they look at themselves and see failure. taking pictures of herself like you mentioned is done all over the world. Some are narcissistic and bad, and most just have self esteem and a tad narcissism, which most have. Damaged good, broken, absent father, mom runs, raised by grandma happens here thousands of times, and the girls go into adulthood already hurting. They need love, lots of it, and consistent. They hear horror stories about the local men, and some about farangs, especially the tourists, so they're both naive and guarded. You can't fix them.You can only love and care for them every day. It's up to them if they trust enough to open their hearts. If you find a damaged girl and take a long time to earn her trust, they can be the best wives around, because you made them believe.

Low self esteem questions coming from childhood, just like my gf now. They will always think they aren't any good, especially seeing women here are looked at as second class already because of Buddhism. I've been with my gf almost 4 years now, and treated her as well as anyone can, and she still second guesses. People around her telling her what they think of farangs and how much money we all have, does he chest, hit you, not care about your kids etc etc. That all weighs heavy on girls that are secondary already. Consistency is the only way to show them, and that takes time. Sometimes years.

Honesty is always the best policy in any relationship. Telling her you lost your job leaves her thinking where does he get his money. Unless you already told her you have a substantial savings. If you're staying here as an expat, as you haven't mentioned your age, you need money coming in or deposited in the bank. Women here know all about expats and how we get our money. Gossip is a countrywide sport here. None of anyone's business besides you and her. If you want to stay with her, she will ask questions.

Cold usually means she grew up in an environment without affection, especially from her father. Being close is a normal human pleasure, enjoyed by most everyone. Touch is the best way to spread your love with someone you care about. Without it the relationship falters. People can go on in relationships for years without being close for financial reasons or fear of being treated badly by the next one, but if this isn't what you need from a woman, and you aren't willing to put the time in for a change, let her go and find another one that will give you what you need. She surely might like him, and feel comfortable with him, but can't bring herself to do what he needs because of the stunted childhood life. She can be taught the power of touch, but it will take patience and time. Just like an animal that has been abused, it can learn to trust and accept love. My own girlfriend here now was never hugged by her father, told he loves her, or that he's proud of her, along with her mom, and her husband wasn't affectionate unless he wanted sex, and it took her awhile to reciprocate hugs. To this day it's still not "natural" to her, but the longer I hold her the more she warms to it. It can happen, but you'll have to have patience. The more you try and be close, the more she might like it instead of just doing it because she knows you like it.

Guess you skimmed through it as usual All said they didn't see that it could reduce the chances of transmission, but you go and continue to buy women, and get diseases, then spread them around.............https://www.verywellhealth.com/does-mouthwash-reduce-risk-of-oral-stds-4124069

Just the frumpy part. Most young Thais are slim. Older women in all nations get fat, including an ever growing amount here.

I've been a gym rat over 50 years, and a hunter and fisherman, so observation is high with me. I see what's here, as many older Thais are getting bigger by the year, but that's everywhere worldwide. Just took a little longer here. The rest of the things are shared by most Asians.

I'm thinking you might need an eye prescription change. Frumpy? This label goes to many older women worldwide, but I'm thinking the OP is talking about the younger, slimmer set.

Again you're assuming what or how much a person knows by a few replies on a couple of topics. Do you not realize you don't know much about anyone you've ever met, unless you live with them 24/7? You have been quoted saying you drive drunk, a lot, and seem to care little about this. You have also been quoted saying Listerine used by a girl before oral sex would guarantee no transmission of a disease. This, along with other things, actually shows everyone on this forum how you think. How you think goes a long way with how people see you.

You seem to think you know how smart I am, yet have not gone into my replies on many posts to see what I indeed know. You have absolutely no idea how much I do know, and never will. This because I can see by your replies and posts, it's you that lacks common knowledge on various subjects, and are one that assumes things. This shows lack of intelligence and restraint. I'm sure this will also escape you, as will most everything else. You have to prove someone wrong before you can make judgements, and even if you did, this doesn't mean they aren't smart, but that they just might have been wrong about that particular topic. There's a saying that goes, 'Everyone knows a little about something". In your case, seeing your many replies on many topics, you don't know a hell of a lot about anything. What you don't realize, nor care, is that you probably won't know you have many STD's, unless you get checked, and you might now be a carrier, which means you will indeed pass this on to unsuspecting girls, or boys, whatever the case might be, and that one of these STD's might never go away. I'm thinking you would know this, as most any teenager, does, that a lot of people carry these STD's and pass them on, which is why so many people worldwide have them. The girls you "date" are hookers, who are the biggest spreaders of disease we have, besides the men who purchase them.

"But I would never tell a girl I am trying to bang as it wouldn’t improve my chances" Your words.

So you're intentionally spreading your diseases around?

I didn't deflect. I go by facts , no matter where they originate. Not many people will tell you they've had an STD. It's a little embarrassing actually. And I wouldn't ask such a question anyway. I've had friends and family members who have caught one, and they came out and told me without my asking. Medical journals get stats from hospitals and clinics, and these are believable. I don't talk much with anyone here, especially about them having an STD. Most of the conversations I've had involve gym talk, fishing or food.

Found this today, referring what you said about proof there are antibiotic resistant STD's................https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/super-gonorrheais-rare-but-the-sti-is-smart--and-doctors-are-concerned-213856598.html..

No one is any higher than anyone else. This means any president,king, actress, sports figure, millionaire or billionaire have the same worth as any homeless person. All they have is more things. As far as schools, western schools are all over any in this country, especially high and grade schools.

Over 500 million followers I'm thinking this is a religion.