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My ex knows my daughter is going back home with me to Texas. She doesn't fully understand that she needs to be in school before she is 10 there to keep up with the curriculum so she isn't left behind. This is being explained over time. She is almost 8 now so it's going to happen within 2 years. My English school owner, who is US taught and well respected all over Thailand, said," If she loves that child, she will let her go with you, and soon". He studied in America, runs a school here and knows fully how much better schools are there than here. I've heard from quite a few here that judges will honor a man bringing his child to another country, s they know this country's school system pales by comparison to most western countries.

You haven't proven anything but that you base your replies on what someone has said, an opinion, when a person has just told you he remembered what happened when he was 2. For this example, I will tell you. I was 2. My brother was watching TV in the living room, cartoons. My mom was lying down in her bedroom. I climbed up on the toilet seat and got out a bottle of St. Joseph's Aspirin,something I'm not sure is till made. They had an orange taste, and I knew this from being given them before. I ate the whole bottle. My mom saw me a few minutes later and asked me what I ate. I said aspirin, but what it sounded like was oranges. They rushed me to the hospital to get my stomach pumped. I remember gagging as they inserted tubes in my mouth and nose. After the stomach was pumped, we rode home in the ambulance and I asked the driver if I could hear the siren, which he put on. I also remember my mom lying on the bed next to me in the room, with her head facing the other way and crying. This memory I told my mom when I was older and she was smiling that I remembered every detail. I also remember, at the same age, walking down the sidewalk of that house, wearing my dad's army style jacket, and standing next to a rock, which was above my height. When I later visited that house after we moved, I saw the rock. It was about 3 feet tall. I remember him going ot for what he said were donuts, and he came back with a large two propeller helicopter toy, with electric lights and moving propellers. These memories all happened from age 2-4, as we moved to another town by the time I turned 5. At 5, I remember a kid throwing darts at a target next to me on his front steps. He threw one dart and it stuck in my leg. Children who are raised with love and care remember a lot of their childhood days. Children who are abused or neglected block out things, and substitute good thoughts for those that actually happened.

If you are really into a subject, reading is always the best way to learn about it, followed by a professional teaching you, as that professional also learned from books. You stop learning when you stop reading. Of course you have to be able to comprehend what you read, as just reading a book doesn't help someone who hasn't the ability to take in what they have read and keep it in memory.

Not when it comes to arguing a point I'm very familiar with. Yes, most people lie, but not about a topic that is easily researched, as this is. Why bother posting things that are lies? I'm not here to impress anyone but to help the OP make a good choice.

I've talked to 5 lawyers here about just this. They all said if the mom is a drug dealer and it can be proven, the father will get custody. They said if the women is promiscuous it matters little to the judge. Yes, this is crapola, but this is Thailand. Gambling isn't good, but it has to be proven she is wasting a lot of money and time gambling away resources, which isn't easy to prove. A woman cheating on her husband, if proven, helps but the scales are so set against men getting custody here, it's very hard to turn their judgement around. Even in the US it's hard for a man to get custody, although it happens (I got it for 4 of mine), but you have to fight. men get it more and more if they can prove their home is a more stable one. Here it's so prejudiced against men because most men here won't bother fighting, many leave when kids are born, and aren't active in parenting, and the courts know this. Child support is supposed to be enforced here, but the only ones who pay are farangs like myself.

I never lie or post any opinions. You can look up anything I say and you'll see facts, and lots of them. Just because I'm a male doesn't mean I favor males. I know what's best for a child, and it's both parents together, but an absent father will ruin a girl's chances for a secure, productive future with issues that will follow her for a very long time, if not forever. Not having a mother around also hurts a girl of course, but I did say if both parents are stable, a father's abode is the best choice, IF he is available and not working all the time and doesn't have time to spend with that girl. Meaning if all things are equal as far as living arrangements for both parents.

I don't go by one persons pinion on a subject but what the majority o proven professionals say. Like I said, I remember things back to age 2, and friends I've talked to said the same things. I've read 65 books and thousands of articles on children, relationships, how men and women relate, depression, mental illnesses and the like. I believe something when a majority tells the same story, and also what I see from personal experience, and they usually coincide.

I'm sorry but you need to do some research and not base your replies on prejudice, as they seem to be. facts are facts, and the truth is there if you read up on it, and understand the importance a father has. I never said mom isn't important, as the child does need both.I'm saying if there has to be a choice, the choice is clear, IF both parents are stable

I didn't suggest he stay. I suggested he stick around until the mom lets the child go, which many here will do anyway. A deal can be made, and money usually talks to Thais. This man cares about his daughter, so he shpould stay in her life, as he will most likely be the provider and teach that girl more than the mother could, as far as how to thrive in this world.

No, a child watches their parents like a hawk, all the time, and sees how the most important people in her(his) life relate to each other. What they see is usually what they will do, unless an intervention, as soon as possible, comes along while they are still very young, in the case of them seeing abuse or neglect. Narcissists are created from age 1-5 by either abuse and or neglect, or being spoiled. The years after these years are important of course, but not as important as those first 5.

This is the go to bible on how to really screw up a child's future and I'm hoping the OP doesn't take (waste) time reading this. So many "fathers" around that do nothing at all and we see the results daily on TV, with boys beating the crap out of another 5 against 1, boys raping their girlfriends, killing them, killing their parents, treating animals as things to get their anger out on and many others. Absent fathers are the reasons for most of the worlds problems today. The breakdown of the family is the breakdown of society.

Research for the last 40 years about child development, how to raise kids, treat a mate, depression, narcissism and other things related to psychology

A child's most important years are definitely age 1-5. I remember when I was 2, 3, 4, 5 6 and onward. Things I did or I saw, how others acted. Children remember a lot more than you think. The best ages to learn a foreign language are 4-7. They soak up everything.They learn everything about love, trust, how to treat others, respect for others property, how to treat animals (very important), and other things................https://www.all4kids.org/news/blog/why-the-first-5-years-of-child-development-are-so-important/

It's actually about 75% or more that a father is more important. Reading up why is a very important thing because most were taught differently.

It isn't what a man is known for doing, as in changing tires,cutting down trees or hauling wood. It's how a girl sees her dad treat her mom, and her, while she's growing up. A father is extremely necessary in teaching the girl how to relate to males in her life. Anyone can teach a girl most anything about what to wear, periods and such. A man can't teach her how to be a woman, as a mom can't teach a boy how to be a man. They can only try their best and hope there's another gender role model around, because learning things from friends or in the streets can be a disaster. This is a good read, there are others................https://billmuehlenberg.com/2014/08/27/daughters-and-their-dads-the-vital-relationship/.

It all depends on how you take care of yourself throughout your life, with those genetics as exceptions. Some people do everything wrong and live to 104. Some do everything right and die at 38. Sad, unfair and pretty much bull**it, but that's how it is.

Though fairly true, they do need both for the ages from birth to 5, which are the most important years in your life, and where you learn most of what life is about. A girl needs a father more in her life than her mother, but not having a mom hurts them also. How a female relates to other males is taught by her father. This will be the most important thing in her life as she looks for a mate, which is why most of us are here. Also a father is usually the main provider, protector and role model for a girl. God (for those who believe) made two parents for a reason, and when one is absent, the child suffers, unless they have a good substitute for the missing parent available much of the time.

That was a booboo. The average age for men is usually around 75 or so, but if you're not a smoker, heavy drinker and are healthy, you can get into your 80's fairly easily. Of course genetics does happen, but not always .

I only had my daughter on weekends until her mom left last year for 9 months, so she only heard Thai most of the time. When she stayed with me those 9 months, her English soared. Now again my ex is going to Germany to stay 3 months with her new boyfriend so I'll have her all the time, except when she's in school, when she again hears only Thai besides one English class where they learn little.

I've taken very good care of myself all of my life, but yet you never know when you will pass. When my daughter is 18 I will be 78, which is still almost 8 years before the average life span anyway. I'm actually hoping I live to see her have children, which might be when she is around 23 or so, but again, you never know. What drove me to have a child at 60 was sex with her mom. Things happen.

Your posts say otherwise.

Food for thought...............https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662.

Trying illegally to mop floors in Thailand?

True. If everyone else does it, it's okay. At least in the minds of someone who won't look at women, and girls, as people and not things to use.

I, along with probably many here, wonder where you get your information from. It looks like you are saying many, if not most girls in Thailand, are victims of incest and have been into sex by the time they are 15. There aren't any stats on this that I could see, but I'm willing to bet most of the girls 15 and under never have had sex. Of course, in many poor countries, and especially farming, boring countries, there isn't much else to do but farm, drink and have sex, but this does happen in a lot of places, including the US, as crack came flying out of the Midwest because it's also a boring life there. Yes, incest does happen here, as it does in every country, but it's still a rare occurrence and not the "norm". You stating that most at 15 are well versed in doing it cowboy comes from what? Your experience? You could have 100 15 year olds but that's only a fraction of 1% of all the 15 year olds alive, and if you had any 15 year old it's wrong anyway, even if you were 15 also. Any older and you're a pedophile, except here, with it's ridiculous 15 year old consent age, which was probably made up by a group of pedophiles themselves, because a 15 year old girl is a child, and a child has no business having sex anyway. Your statement should have been, "In my personal experience, one 15 year old was well versed in doing it cowboy, and any more would just be a guess on my part".