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So you want to put kids who think using guns and swords in crimes is okay into the army where they have access to guns? There's a mentality involved when a person uses guns against people, especially students who are involved in a feud. These are children who weren't taught at home the respect for life and have to use weapons to go after other children. There is something wrong with their brains to do this. Putting them into the army might teach them something, but pent up anger usually comes out in time, just like that former soldier who shot all those people here in the mall. Also the former police officer who killed all the kids and adults in the school. Mental illness has to be treated, and putting them in a place where forced regimentation happens, and sometimes beatings, is only going to make them more angry. Remember Full Metal Jacket? You push a mentally unstable person too hard someone is going to pay.

Yes, maybe what he brought to the room was a recording device. People get drunk for any reason all day long, and being angry is one. He might have passed out and succumbed to the heat. He may have been told by his daughter (whatever age) that this boyfriend was doing something, so wanted proof. Thailand doesn't enforce this near what western countries do, many get paid off, so he might know this and want good evidence.

There's many links, I already left one,this is but one more..........https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/populationandmigration/populationestimates/articles/milestonesjourneyingintoadulthood/2019-02-18

I don't expect anyone to speak English here. If I can't tell them something in the limited Thai words I know when I; 'm by myself, I'll use my phone to translate. It's worked fine. I have no desire to learn Thai as I'll be leaving Thailand in about two years. My girlfriend speaks good English, and my daughter is getting along fine with what I'm teaching her. And a lot more Thais speak English then 4%. A Thai learning English is better for them, as they have a better chance of a better job. A farang will have a better relationship if his girlfriend can speak his native language right from the start. No communication means a boring relationship. This just one comment......... Why is English important in Thailand? From history, it can be seen that English has always played an important role in Thai education from the time when it was first introduced, testifying to its importance for the country's economic and technological development. It has been part of the curricula from the primary school to the university level.............Problem is, Thailand ranks very low in English proficiency. 101 out of 113 countries.

Exactly. They will improve with treatment most of the time, but sometimes they stop doing what they're doing that helps, medicine, talk therapy etc, because they start feeling better, and then backslide. This disease does not go away, with what we have now to treat it, and will last their lifetime, but knowing this is the first step towards helping yourself to get better.

Exactly. Most will leave seeing all the mood swings. Love is really tested.

Well, I did give advice, so hopefully one more sincere might read it, because depression is no joke, and is a reason so many relationships fail or are in trouble.

Sorry to hear this, and I can relate. I don't know how well you treat your wife, so I'll have to assume at least with respect and loyalty. You said you went all out for this one, so that means you did more than the average man to keep it together. Your wife sleeping until 12 is depression by most standards. Unless she's going to sleep at 3 AM. Supporting your wife while she's working is what you do. She does F all, meaning not cook, eat, housework, sex with you etc? This is also depression related IF you are again, treating her with love, care and respect. 9 out of 10 relationships where someone has depression fail, because either the non depressed one ups and leaves, as you did, at least for a day, or the other partner completely gives up, not seeking help and might go all the way in not wanting to be here anymore. There is something called Anhedonia, which comes from clinical depression, which seems like what your wife has, unless you are treating her so bad that environmental depression is a maybe. I will assume clinical. Anhedonia has a person not feeling anything for things they felt good about before. Sex, social times with friends, traveling, enjoying a favorite meal, laughing at jokes, watching TV or listening to movies, all mean little to nothing. They can function, go to work, cook for you, eat and other things, but these are a burden. All stresses hurt more, meaning fighting with her about small things, taking care of children who misbehave, cooking dinner for family every day, work related stress, arguing with family, driving etc. The answer to all of this is of course seeking help. Talking with a qualified doctor and possibly prescribing medicine,, which will need a followup to make sure it's the right one, as the wrong one can either not work or make things worse. This is happening right now in my life with someone I really care about and love, and it's hard to see them get worse, because depression does not get better unless the symptoms are helped, and it lasts their whole life. At least for now this is all we have to help them. You have to make the decision now if you love this woman enough to stick by her no matter what, and that means no matter what, because they will do things that seem strange to you. The person you thought you knew becomes a mood changing silent partner, going from silence to anger to apathy all in the same day. If you love her, you will stay, and try and get her to seek help. No matter what you could know about depression, you cannot feel what they feel unless you also have it. Everyone gets depressed but with them it's constant, and lasts longer than just the blues or depression from a tragedy or loss. Running out angry will not help one bit. Giving her space is okay, but letting her know you love her and only want some time to think is better. This is a support situation, as support is the number one thing a depressed person needs, and all you have to do sometimes is tell her you are there if she needs you. Advice given is usually wrong, and they will say you don't understand how they feel, which might be true. I would go home and talk with her. She might tell you she's okay, but just tell her you're here if she needs you. Wanting to be around you 24/7 is a good thing, as many want to isolate, and that sometimes leads to the next step, which is suicide. My best friend, back in the late 80's, had depression. He took his own life, even knowing he had a great wife, hobbies, a job, house, car ,family and many friends. He was always a class clown, much like Robin Williams, and he was always sleeping late, up to lunch time like you said your wife does. back then , there wasn't much around as far as seeking help or medicines like there is now. Ask yourself what she means to you, then you'll know what to do.

Daily occurrence back in Texas, and all other states. Here I'm surprised to hear about it, although it was owned by someone and not from a provincial park.

"The ominous post read, “Kriangkrai, don’t you dare come to my daughter’s room again. I will kill you!” ..............................That I would be worried about. Maybe his daughter told him something and he was there to check on her safety? Maybe the unknown item was a camera for her room.

Sorry for your loss. I'm sure she is still in your heart

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That might be true but many come here for advice, and what the OP might ignore other members might benefit from.

Your username explains it all

Crime is increasing most everywhere in one form or another. The population rises, more people are poor, more crime happens. The only thing that can be done is stricter enforcement and punishment for crimes, especially the violent ones. Most crime usually happens in large cities, especially ,like this one, tourist areas, because they know tourists carry cash. In the country, it's usually locals against locals, domestic violence at the top, with thefts happening all the time. This is a poor country, and theft will increase the harder times become. I live near Cambodia, out in the country almost 30 kilos from the nearest cities, and the only thing that happens here is men beating their wives, girlfriends or kids, or people stealing things from other's farms and houses. Protecting yourself any way you can helps. Carrying something that's legal, that can be used as a deterrent can help, unless of course you're confronted by someone with a gun.Then it's just best to give them anything they ask for, meaning money, phones etc, as your life is more precious than things which can be replaced. A good idea is not to bring your primary phone with you while walking around in seedy areas at night, instead buying a basic phone you can use for emergencies. No gold anything, nor any more cash than you'll need for that evening. Not making yourself out to be a victim helps. Not flashing cash, knowing there are eyes on you all the time, and staying in groups. Predators are cowards, preferring to travel in groups or carrying the usual knives, machetes or guns. There are those here that have stated they've lived here for 30 years and never have had any trouble, and walking around late at night. They are very lucky, especially if they live in and around big cities, and the next time could be their last. Absent fathers abound here, and with that comes lack of respect for others and their property, as those things are taught first at home. Boys get around others of like mind and think they can do whatever they want, especially seeing the lack of enforcement and punishment has been so low. I fear nothing or no one, but would not walk around any city at night by myself unless I was armed, neither here, in NYC or London. Times are getting tougher, and crime will increase, just because of that fact.

What I see daily, people riding in the backs of pickups, sometimes as many as 15, has me thinking this will eventually be a disaster, especially with the lack of skills drivers have here. Also, the small buses where as many as 20 kids are riding on the top!! This does not happen back home in the states. You're seen with children under 18 like this, you get pulled over and ticketed.

Curious, I looked this up..........https://www.learning-mind.com/dreaming-about-people-from-your-past-meaning/

I have dreams a lot of things in my distant past. People I used to go fishing with, old girlfriends, many places. It's crazy how much the brain holds and how memories come up seemingly out of nowhere. There are triggers that happen during the day which we might miss but are stored and come about in our dreams.

You've been talking about being with a man lately, and you're already with a woman, so maybe you want the best of both, and your neighbor with the two dongs represents a wish, which some dreams actually are.

That's only in the winter months, as it is in all northern climes. Canada, in Alberta where I went hunting, was -39F one day, and in June another time when fishing there it was just after ice out. Russia gets many days in the 60's and up to the 80's. It was miserable to me in the winter in New Jersey when it was only around freezing for a couple months, but people are used to it living there. Many people do move south, as I did to Texas, because I liked the outdoors and in the winter in New Jersey, there wasn't much to do besides ski and ice fish. I did enjoy the 4 seasons, which Thailand doesn't have, and is yet another reason I'll move back home.

18 is when a child becomes an adult. It doesn't matter what some backward countries think, as those that put the age of consent at 15 might be uneducated or disturbed individuals without training in child psychology. A child doesn't have the ability to make rational decisions at 15, especially regarding having sex, something which can bring diseases, pregnancies, and the responsibility of a baby, which isn't going to be raised by a 15 year old the proper way. An adult that goes after a 15 year old girl is a predator, taking advantage of extreme naivete. Driving a car is much easier than raising a baby, although many die here daily because they are underage and not competent enough to operate a motor vehicle. This is but one link that might enlighten you on the subject, as there are many more.............https://shsnorsenews.org/4321/opinion-editorial/what-age-are-we-considered-adults/

You're going to get many replies from people here who have experienced both sides. Like any relationship, taking your time to get to know them is always the best recourse, something I failed at a few times and paid for later. Thailand has a lot of great looking women and this can make a man lose his thinking. First thing, if you want a wife eventually, stay away from tourist areas because most of them there have a history. Marrying a bar girl isn't always trouble, as some have shown, but odds are stacked against you just because of the thinking that goes into making a bar girl a bar girl. Look to the country areas, Isaan and northern Thailand, and you'll find large cities where you'll have a better chance to find one that speaks English, which is a major deal breaker because if there's no communication, it will rarely last, at least fulfilling for both. You need to talk to each other. There are plenty of coffee shops, malls, and shops where you can start a conversation. When you start talking, you'll know if she can communicate. This is a major factor some might not realize. Sex is great with these beauties, and afterwards there's nothing left besides Pad Krapow and sitting next to each other, both on their own phones. As with all women, some are moral and some are not. This all goes along with honesty, integrity, sincerity, fidelity and reliability. Women everywhere can be either way. They aren't any different here than back home. Looking to the parents is another major factor. You want to meet them as soon as possible, although she might be reluctant to do that at first. That can be a good thing, as they might only want you to meet her parents if she really sees you as a possible future. When you meet the parents, see how she relates to her dad. This is the most important thing in a girls life, and if there's hostility it might not be a good idea to continue. A girl that loves, and respects her dad, and vice versa, is a girl that can relate to other males. This also goes for the mom, although not quite as important. Intellectually? Some are smart, some aren't. Schooling doesn't teach much here, a lot less than western countries, and many stay back on the farm where they never grow past that. Some go to universities and these are more likely to be more independent, seeing they can get a better job and have their own money. Basically, if a person is a reader, they're a learner, because after school you don't have much of a learning experience but through others tales or TV (media). They are extremely phone focused, and this is annoying, but that's most everywhere also. Look how they live, if she lives there, and see if it's objectionable to you. See how she, and they, treat any animals they have, as that's another way of seeing how they treat humans. Remember a Thai seeing you as a potential mate has had some tough times with local men, otherwise they usually prefer their own kind. Getting her to do most of the talking is always a good bet, as a person will give you a lot of information if they like to talk. One that's too quiet might be hiding things or just shy, and time will tell. She might be looking at you as a walking ATM, or just a better provider. Does she have gold, and talk about it a lot? Superficial if she does. To sum this all up, don't do what i did because I went too fast. Time always tells more. I had an ex I had a child with who I treated very well, building a house here for her and our daughter, and when I finally moved her permanently, the real her came out. Depression, narcissism, lying, maybe cheating . She kidnapped our daughter 4 times until I had to file a divorce to get my daughter back home. Now I live in the house I had built with my daughter on weekends (until just recently, she's visiting another farang in Germany three months), and I will be moving back to the states as soon as I can re-establish there with my daughter. She wants to come back to me, but trust goes, I go. Thai women are beautiful, great cooks (some), good lovers and nice to have around, IF they're a good one Take your time.

If you are living together, you already have joint custody, so nothing's needed to be done. You've done the DNA thing, so you'll have that if necessary in the future, meaning if you two part ways. If that happens, you go through what I and others explained earlier. Staying together of course is the best for all.

Thai courts will almost always grant custody to the mother. Prejudiced against men of course, and behind western thinking that men are sometimes the best parent for the child. The only ways you might get custody are proving she is into drugs, has a bad gambling problem or is doing indecent things with the child. You will get visitation, and that can be negotiated, but should be at least weekends and school holidays. You will be told to pay child support. The only other alternative is the mom granting you custody, and that happens if you offer money or she is smart enough to know that the child would be better off with you in a western country, which they are. If you are staying here, moot point, and you will need to get a dependent visa. Lawyers aren't really necessary if there isn't any argument over joint custody. A translator might be needed, especially if the judge can't speak English, which many can. Most lawyers seem to charge the same, unless you can find one in your area, which would cost less because they won't have to travel. You can always talk to a lawyer, for a fee, and they'll let you know what you need to do. You haven't said anything about property, so I'm guessing you rent. If you're married, that will be another thing you'll have to change, unless it's just a Buddhist ceremony. If there's more children, the same thing will happen, unless she will let you have the other one.