fredwiggy

Only a couple people from here actually know me, and they are my friends. I show what I am by what I say, at least a little amount. I'm not pompous by any stretch. In fact, I've been humbled long ago by time, it hurting my joints because I was a heavy lifting bodybuilder for so long, and now I'm paying for all of that. I know quite a bit about some subjects and very little about others, so a know it all doesn't describe me. A narcissist is easy to spot, but many are reluctant to admit they are. Some, like Trump, are malignant, and feel the need to brag to cover their low self esteem. Some, like my ex wife, are covert narcissists, and suck you in with love bombing until they have you trapped, and then the claws come out, using silent treatment as a weapon to hurt you, very often just because they are feeling bad about themselves. They will cheat on you and blame you, hit you and say you made me, all because they were mad at themselves or others. Many will disagree with anything you say, just to cause an argument, and call you names because they are still like the 5 year olds that were neglected, abused or spoiled when they were with their parents.

You just can't stay away can you? Shows a lot to any of us who are informed about your kind. I reiterate, look up empath, look up narcissist, and maybe, just maybe, you'll discover something about you that others see and you can't, or won't.

One rule of life is, you do not have any children if you are going to raise them and take care of them until they are able to take care of themselves. There are way too many deadbeat parents, especially here, that don't give a rat's ass about the children they make. He does, and you tell him to leave and not send back any support for the child he's created? This is why so many kids end up hurting others. They have no fathers to guide them, and some don't have mothers either. When you make a child, you do come first, but that doesn't mean the child is left out but the better you take care of yourself, the better you can care for others, and that child's needs, meaning the basic, do come first. You sacrifice things so the child has what they need. This is definitely from birth until they leave the house, and you still can help them afterwards. The only reason I'm still in this country is because I'm not ready to leave with my daughter. I would never leave her with a mother that thinks like my ex does, nor should he, knowing how she is now. Parents are the first teachers, and it's the father's job to ensure that child has a stable future. Leaving her here ensures she probably wont. He should try and make a deal with his wife, if money is involved so be it, to take his daughter from here, as he still has stability back home in a house. If she won't yet part with that child, he can wait, as a lot of moms here give their kids up for freedom or another man eventually. It's a bargaining chip for many. Just any brother, boyfriend or man is not a father figure, and in fact, the man most likely to molest a child is usually the step father or a family member or close friend. It isn't destroying his life doing what he can for his daughter. It's being a man.

Yes, that's why I corrected you. I'm an empath. One who cares about others. Quite the opposite of a narcissist or one being pompous. Because some people are knowledgeable about certain subjects and put their replies in, you think they are pompous? Time to look inward. GG calls himself a genius. Do you concur? Others here act like teenagers, especially about women. Do you correct them? I have high self esteem, which means I love myself, which means I have the capacity to love others. I don't reply, like you do, when someone states a fact you disagree with, in a negative manner, calling them names. Rather childish don't you think? I might disagree with them, trying to prove a point, but not the way you do. I don't pretend I know everything. Myself, like many others who know a lot about particular subjects , comment on those subjects to help or disprove one who happens to be wrong, to clarify. Are we all pompous to you? There are quite a few things I know little about, and I usually won't comment on those because they are not things I'm into or research about. Just like most others. Again, you are proven wrong, but again, I expect a comeback because you are ill informed and need to troll.

Your daughter will surely do better back home, but she's still pretty young so you have time. I'm going to bring my own daughter back to the states before she is 10, so she will fit in with the current curriculum in the school there. She's pretty good speaking English now, and I've been teaching her words, along with what she gets in school, which isn't much. For now, you can get a dependent visa, and stay until you can convince your wife to let your daughter go home with you. You are in the same kind of situation many here find themselves in. trusting you know your wife until things go wrong, and you feel stuck here. Once trust is lost, the relationship is gone, especially in a country where counseling isn't so prevalent, and women are less likely to go along with it to help the marriage. You're lucky you still have a house back home. I'll have to get a rent to own for a couple years, and then a mortgage again, all when I'm around 70. Not impossible by any means, but it will be a pain. Like you mentioned, her own family has told you how her parents were, and cheating is often learned at home, watching parents be disloyal. Kids know. You were never in any way responsible for any of her family debts, and can cut that off immediately. They will pressure you, and threaten, but since you're on the way out now, that doesn't matter anymore. If you divorce, you will get visitation, as fathers never get custody here unless it's given by the mom, or she's a drug dealer. They haven't a clue that dads are sometimes the better parent where a child is concerned. They see how most locals here are, and think foreigners are the same. This way, you can see your daughter (find a rental close by), see her every week (ask for more than they want to give, at least you can get weekends), and if your wife gets bored with raising your daughter, as happens quite a lot here, you can make a deal then.

It's actually how most people think, but some aren't willing to let on. Wanting things around that hurt others is sicko.

No, just one who has a good memory and observation skills. People tend to bury themselves over a period of time, showing their true selves. Can't hide what you really are forever. Someone mentioned that he actually knew transam, visited him and his wife at their home, and you need to doubt this why? Personal agenda against him because you don't like what he said in earlier posts? I know a few here who disagree with things I've said, but I will still like and comment on their posts if they are right about something. It's called not holding a grudge.

No, she doesn't know what she's doing, as her brain is nowhere near developed and with that comes irrational decisions, especially regarding letting someone into your body, and with that can come a pregnancy where a baby will usually be left without a father, and a mother who is involved in a business not to be proud of but despised. Much of the time that baby will be left with grandma, who is usually not in a position to raise a child, especially if she's illiterate, too old or too busy. Many of these younger girls, and boys, are forced into this business being hooked on drugs by these scumbag traffickers. People who's only agenda is making money on others. Traffickers , convicted, should be given a life sentence, no parole, and the "men" who these girls are sold to, at least a 10 year sentence, also no parole. Only when punishment is severe will others think twice before using another person for monetary gain.

As all Irishman, like me, should.

I stuck up for him also. Does this mean I expect a favor also? Maybe I'm tired of people assuming also, when no one really knows anyone here unless they meet them, and then they only know a little about them. I analyze everything because psychology is something I'm into. In your "perception", I'll want something from him. Nah.

This is what I mean by assuming.

What i don't understand is how many people lie and exaggerate here. Why not believe what someone says? Why would they lie about their lifestyle, at ages from 50-85, with most around 67 or more? Some brag about penis size, like silly teenage boys, and how many girls that look like teen students they "bang" a week. A lot just assume they know anyone here, what they know, how smart they are, how strong etc, without ever leaving their homes or bar stools. I never lie and why would I? Who would I be trying to impress here? People I'll never meet, so what's the point? Transam sends pics of his house, and why would he send pictures of another's house? Bragging he has a garden, or just showing others for plain interest and like hobbies? I think the latter. I know a lot here are angry. I myself don't like living here, mostly because I can't do what I liked to do back home, and the fact this is not a good place for girls or women, and I want my daughter to be back home in a more secure, safe place where she will have a better chance of a better future in schooling, jobs and a future husband. I try and help others because I'm into certain subjects and spend a lot of time researching them, so why not pass along the wisdom? Arguing to prove a point to help someone with correct facts is worth it. Arguing for the sake of arguing , or trolling, is immature, and doesn't help anyone. If you don't like someone here, don't respond to their posts, because a pissing contest doesn't work online, and only if you can meet up with someone should you brag about yourself, because otherwise it's just a waste of time.

As far as I've known transam, he speaks the truth, doesn't exaggerate, and only sticks up for himself, like myself, when he's attacked by someone that disagrees with what he's said. Some don't agree with things I say, besides the fact I don't go by opinions and use research and personal experience in a subject before I reply or post. The reason I commented here, is in rebuttal of what you said........"No one, especially myself believe anything that comes out of your keyboard" Gets old when people here assume they know someone or don't understand what they're saying, so have to argue, much like trolling.

Kinda true for many. I help in an English school and most of the teachers he hires are English speakers from other countries, where English is a language they learned in school also. There are quite a few English teachers still working all over Thailand as they are the ones who will actually see some learning from some students. The Thai teachers that teach English? Many of them don't speak English very well and only hand out assignments for the children to copy, including the school where my 7 year old daughter goes. She speaks English better than anyone at the school. When I help, most of the kids, especially the older ones, are busy on their phones and I have to get their attention to get them to do something. Some are serous about learning and these you can tell right off with their excitement. Most of the others couldn't care less. My boss, the school owner, doesn't allow Thai spoken on the grounds and was taught in America himself, and sees how sad most Thai schools are as far as students learning much. They don't leave kids behind here, even if they're failing or rarely show up. Funny anecdote, he told me of a 19 year old half Thai (half American) boy who lived with his dad until dad passed away, that couldn't speak English!! I'm thinking how is this possible living with an English speaking dad? Talking with the teachers he hires, most of them say the same thing. They like the occasional camps that are put on, as much of the day is spent playing games and singing songs in English. They participate, then go back home and rarely speak English because no one around them knows how. The jobs are much, like you say, babysitting.

Of course. Some things on earth are in quantities that only cause humans pain and suffering , much more than they are worth. Ticks, gnats, mosquitoes, black flies, fleas, some snakes, child molesters, land developers, centipedes that pinch, corrupt officials, flies, narcissists, certain ants, box jellyfish, viruses and more. They don't need to be totally eradicated, but lowered to a level that doesn't cause people undue harm.

Remaining vigilant won't really help, as there are many cowards in this country who are carrying knives , machetes, sticks or whatever and you'll never know when they'll strike without having a warning beforehand. Punishing severely anyone who uses a weapon in an offense might make others thinking of doing the same thing think first, but that's wishful thinking, as life itself doesn't mean much here anyway.

I usually try and help others am I'm hardly pompous, so I don't know where you get off saying that. I guess you didn't know that phrases are part of grammar? No one else seems to mind the sentence I wrote. If it irks you, deal with it , or don't read what I post.

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It is if you're trying to point out others grammar mistakes, don't you think? And if you would take a glance at all of the posts in this subject, you might notice a lot more mistakes in grammar that you didn't bother to point out, so that means you're just targeting me, which is a little prejudiced for what reason I cannot fathom. My username, if you need to know, is from my teen years and never needed a capital. It was just fredwiggy, for reasons only my close friends would understand.

It did back in the states before they started realizing the benefits of Cannabis and that it was a lot less dangerous than they thought and nowhere near as dangerous as alcohol.

Most likely in less than 2 years, maybe sooner.

A lot of people move here because of the girls they can be with that are younger, notwithstanding all that comes along with that. Most foreigners I've talked to here hate the heat. I came from Texas, so I'm used to it, but I had a lot more things to do there that I can't do here. It sure is cheaper here, and that's why some stay, because back home it's a lot more expensive to live, although I'll take that because I can do more there, and my daughter will have a much better life back there. Staying in a bar or your house all day long because of the heat gets old.

Maybe refrain from both while driving, so you and others can make it safely back home?

Why do you bother when you know I'm very literate? And if you don't think so, maybe it's you that's not fully aware of the English language. You have commented on a number of my posts, so you should know, if you have comprehension skills and a memory, that when I write, my grammar is usually right on. Everyone makes some minor grammar mistakes, especially when they are typing and not looking back to proofread, as you have proven to all of us by responding to topics you know little to nothing about. I'll rewrite it so you can go back to your little world..........Driving on anything that changes your effectiveness while driving isn't a smart idea. And by the way, when you start a sentence, you should use a capital letter to begin. And names should be capitalized also. And great little sentence you have there yourself Einstein.

Driving on anything that makes you change your habits isn't good. Even driving after using some cough syrups can be dangerous for some people. Some drugs make you sleepy and of course this is to be avoided.