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There are countless western women who do the same things, so it's not limited to those here. And when you're in a relationship it's mandatory you look at it with plans for the future, if that's your plan also. Some like just to date various women, playing the field, but that gets old after awhile and you want someone you can really get close to. Looking for a way out will lead you there, as you'll be looking for her to make a mistake, which everyone does, but as long as she's faithful and honest, and you're attracted to each other, you have more than many will ever have. A tad of jealousy happens because of a little insecurity and fear of losing someone. As long as it's not 20 questions and checking up on everything you do, it's okay.

I'm not sure what you're referring to as I think you confused me with someone else. Who doesn't like my company? I'm not asking anything here but trying to help the OP. And insecure I'm not. I know women very well. I just made a few bad choices because of attraction. Just like most other men.

It hasn't gone wrong in 4 years. Just took patience from me because of her childhood and husband damage. I didn't say she was perfect. We're good together. That's all that matters. I've been with many very pretty women who I ended up leaving because they had major issues. I would stay with this one if I had that choice. Time will tell.

A genuine relationship is where both benefit from it, with both contributing whatever is needed to keep stress low, equal input on finances, equal input on house duties and child rearing, and as much touch as possible. I've had this a few times, but things ended because future plans weren't the same. I've also had relationships where they were takers, and these ended. People look their whole lives and if they are lucky, they will find their other half. Most women will never know the love of a good man. They might stay married and not be abused or cheated on, but if they're neglected, they won't have happiness. Being comfortable with each other is what everyone needs. At least what good people need. The bad ones deserve to be with other bad ones. Mismatches happen all the time.

Look back at all your posts on this topic. Let me know if you see one that's a positive, helping reply. The OP asked for advice. Not insults, childish banter or prejudice. Kidding around is fine, but insulting another man's woman isn't. Most people learn this in childhood. Many here in Thailand don't have a loving childhood, so they're starving for affection and sometimes can't accept good, because they don't believe they deserve it. Absent fathers are numerous here, and that's where a girl first learns her worth, or not.

You can look up Dr. Zhivago, herpes researcher and shoe salesman online.

She knows a good thing when she sees one. A year tells a lot about a person. Having a pretty and honest woman is worth spending money on. Many spend and get little to nothing but grief.

Yes, sorry but that's all we have until someone comes up with a cure.

The only cure is removal of genitals.

No, I'm her boyfriend and I do enjoy it. She already has a dad. She's not a teenager like some here go after, but in her 40's.

Women in the west also look for older men. Maybe not as much as here but it happens all the time. And some expats have six packs. His girlfriend is 25 years younger, mine is 24. Back home I had an ex girlfriend that was 14 years younger.

One never puts trust into someone who assumes things. Like I mentioned before and a few other times. No one knows what's going on in any other person's life unless you're with them 24/7. There are good women in this world that like older men because an older man usually knows how to better treat a woman than a younger one. It's not always about money, even here.

I'm quite awake. Everyone pays. Some to take care of their girlfriends to help them in life. Some to take care of their wives and children, and some to get 5 minutes of sex with a girl that wouldn't even ask your name nor remember you an hour later. Every man helps their girlfriends in life if they care about them as a person and not a piece of prime rib.

From most of your replies to various topics, you seem to be the kind of man who purchases women for their own pleasure. You do understand that this doesn't give you the knowledge to reply when someone posts about their girlfriends or wives right? If someone wanted to know how to buy a woman here, this might be right up your alley because you have personal experience in these matters.

The Latest Truth Repeated?

No, this story has just been posted today. Many people share the same kind of stories with a few variations. Most likely seeing other guys is assuming again. When you read someones post, you take what they say and can comment on that, without inventing new scenarios for some reason. Some here hate women, and have to make them all sound like money grubbing whores. They aren't. I've been hurt by a few that were disturbed individuals, both here and in the US. I still look at women the same way I've always have. Individuals you can't judge unless you know them or where they came from. Walk a few miles in their shoes before you judge them. If you treat a good woman well, she will never leave, period. If you treat a bad woman well, they will look to find ways to hurt you, because they themselves are already hurting, and have to take out their pent up anger from their childhood or bad relationships and put it on you, because they can't hurt the ones that hurt them before. It's wrong, and no one wins. Some here buy women, and can't believe there are good women out there. Maybe they didn't know how to treat their woman, or maybe she was bad and she hurt him. This doesn't mean all women are bad. Just that they picked the wrong one, just as I have a few times.

Why would you refer to his girlfriend as genital herpes girl? Do you not realize you're insulting someone he cares about? It really amazes me the kind of childish teenaged banter I see here daily. This from men who are supposed to be in their 50's to 80's. Give it a rest.

Which again, is assuming you know what others are doing in their spare time, besides the ones you actually live with.

But men don't take selfies every day admiring themselves. Except the narcissists, so there is a difference.

Or maybe you don't understand what he's asking. Girls here, as well as all over the world, spend a lot of time on their phones. It's addictive, especially if this is all you see your friends doing. That's a lot of the time spent. Talking on their phones instead of in person. You nor anyone else here lives with them so assuming how they both feel isn't going to work, yet it's how a lot here make their judgements. She is still young, and her brain is still not fully developed. This and coming from a background without loving parents makes a lot of people look elsewhere for things they are missing. Many look at lakorns, and actually think this is normal life. They hear from friends how men are, and much of it can be lies or exaggerations, which clouds their judgement. You're also assuming this girl knew she had an STD and gave it to him without caring. She can always go back to school when it gets to her she needs to. Assuming is something a lot do here and it's childish and shouldn't happen with men our age level.

Relationships are all about trust. If it's not there, the relationships falters and dies. You have to trust totally to let yourself go totally. That means forever. A woman who grew up not trusting men because the primary male role model failed her, can trust. It just takes a lot of time and patience, doing the things that earn trust. Of course they look for reasons to not trust, because people failed them before and they sit back just waiting. "Men are all the same, they all cheat, lie and use". Most everyone knows this is BS, but actually believing it enough to let yourself go is a hard nut to crack. It of course is possible, as many women come from hurtful childhoods and many of them are content in their marriages now. You don't change anyone. She has to let herself change herself. Men and women aren't that compatible right from the start anyway ,besides attraction, which isn't a choice. Everyone comes from their own set of circumstances. Different parents, cities, states, countries, nationalities and cultures. Making two fit isn't easy no matter what you do. Trust has to be earned, especially if one comes from a non trusting background. That doesn't mean they can't learn to trust. It's just harder. A good woman that's trustworthy but has some quirks can be a gold mine. Same for a man.

It all depends on how a man looks at women. All we need is one good one that we are both attracted to and that we can trust. A woman that's not that affectionate can change when she fully trusts a man. Coming from a childhood with little affection, which is commonplace here, and a relationship where someone tried to force her to do something she knows is wrong jades a woman, at least for awhile. Earning that trust takes a lot of time and patience, but the endgame is a woman that will count on you above all others, and will give you her all.

You like being around her and the intimacy is good. She's needing someone she can trust,as the last one tried to force her into an immoral act. You being different is what she needs, and consistently. Like I mentioned, people can change if they aren't too old and set in their character. This you'll discover in time. The more you do things she likes, even if she isn't telling you, the more she'll trust you. Women watch us and take notes, and don't forget when a man is bad or good. She grew up with little love, and everyone craves love, even if it's foreign to them for awhile.

She's under 30 and can still definitely change. Childhood damage takes a long time to get past, and what it takes is consistent love from someone she can trust. Some of the best wives men have found have been damaged goods they took time to earn their trust. Women that have been with a lot of men compare all the time, and always are looking for better, as no one will be special enough for them. A woman only needs a couple of bad experiences to shun most men, and hopefully open her heart to the right one. Men are to blame for hurting a woman's trust in them, and it starts with their father.

People can fix themselves, if that's what they want because they look at themselves and see failure. taking pictures of herself like you mentioned is done all over the world. Some are narcissistic and bad, and most just have self esteem and a tad narcissism, which most have. Damaged good, broken, absent father, mom runs, raised by grandma happens here thousands of times, and the girls go into adulthood already hurting. They need love, lots of it, and consistent. They hear horror stories about the local men, and some about farangs, especially the tourists, so they're both naive and guarded. You can't fix them.You can only love and care for them every day. It's up to them if they trust enough to open their hearts. If you find a damaged girl and take a long time to earn her trust, they can be the best wives around, because you made them believe.