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At total rest mine is 54, and usually 60. Working out over 50 years, even without cardio, does this, along with a healthy diet. I had an ECG just last week when I was going for an endoscopy and colonoscopy. It said abnormal, which it's done in the past before a second test. They were worried about doing the procedures. I told him this is how it's been all my life as I work out. Google can be off. The best source for accurate advice is WebMd.

That's mostly why I come here, to help others with subjects I'm into and have researched. I don't really see why some get involved in discussions they know little about, and have to insult people, like calling their girlfriends whores, users, all the same, bitches, and the posters gullible, stupid, losers etc, or prejudiced attacks, without knowing a thing about them besides a few written words here. I know there are narcissists that you'll never get through to, because they think they're somehow superior and entitled, and I'm sure a few here are mentally challenged and possibly dangerous, but for the most part, most here just want to relate to other foreigners because we're the minority here.

I think some do get confused here, blending what one said with another.

No, I said 67

Should we call you Trapper John, Hawkeye, Marcus or the Good Doctor?

I love my girlfriend, and hope she will come visit me, and possibly stay, when I move back home. I'm almost 68, and companionship means more than sex to me. I wouldn't trade her in just to get my rocks off with someone younger. That would make me a user and I wouldn't be looking at her as a person but just an object for the time being. Most women these days live on their phones. It's an addiction that isn't good, but as long as they spend time with you and are loyal, you're still way ahead of what you could find elsewhere.

I don't service my girlfriend, I please her, as she does me. Mutual, not for cash. I've taken very good care of myself and still hungry. If I need to take the blue pill I will, because her pleasure means more to me than mine. Hearing stories are just that. BS down the line because gossiping here is a national sport. Some trashy women cheat on their foreign husbands and they're getting sex from locals who look at her as the trash she is, and are getting off for them. You cheat, they'll cheat on you. My girlfriend is about the most honest women I've ever met. and she can fully trust me. It would never happen but if she strayed and the man knew about me, he wouldn't be able to "service" anyone again.

Wanting to have more affection from a woman you like isn't whining. It's something every normal man wants. Again, why does wanting to marry a younger women make someone a loser? I would think that makes him a winner, as many women in our age group are out of shape, weight too much, are done with sex, or so set in their ways they're demands are more than they're worth. I care about everything from a woman. Appearance, honesty, loyalty,giving, a good cook and cleaner, and still likes sex. My girlfriend is 44, 24 years younger than I so am I a loser? My definition of a loser is one who doesn't take responsibility of their family, wastes money gambling or on drugs and doesn't take care of themselves. You do know laughing to yourself makes you look like a person who assumes they're superior to others.

What makes me a dreamer? I've worked out for 50 years, treat women very well, and take care of my daughter here until we can both leave to give us a better life. If you have a lawyer friend who would marry you, why are you bothering with paying for women who have sex with many men? You've said you don't want a relationship. Why? Is it because you know yourself you aren't a good partner? No man has a queue of smart girls waiting outside, no matter what they look like. Only the gold diggers following the cash.

What makes a man a loser to you? Expats wanting younger girls to marry? Many of us here have pretty women. Bragging about them means nothing, as none of us know the real girlfriend you're posting about. Why is she your ex? Arrogance she didn't like perhaps?

Someone like you? Do you actually know him? Or is this jealousy rearing it's head because some can't get a girl without cash or credit? By the way, all women here aren't immature or desperate. Some are tired of how locals treat them and their friends, they look to the west for a possible better chance.

Actually I'm as far from naive as you are from knowing just how much I do know. And this "elderly" man can outlift most 40 year old and younger, so assuming doesn't work, again.

What makes one better? More cash? Yes, some are greedy and always want more, but some aren't and are appreciative of a better life than what they're used to here. And sooner or later you also will pay for what you do, and it might not leave your body.

So you believe a few posters here and one from you? There's quite a few girls going to universities here. And you have sex with a uni girl? How old are you and how old was she?

Tell us where you get your statistics from. Most girls are molested by the time they turn 17 here, but that's not the same thing.

Maybe she can't get something better and understands that, so she's showing he can trust her. Her friends, especially here, with all the crapola about what farangs are and what we have, can sway a young girl, but if she can think for herself, she will ignore most of the gossip, because much of it revolves around jealousy. Many "friends" aren't happy in their relationships and misery loves company so..........

That's happened to many of us, but mutual is always better. Sadly, most never get that real closeness because of jealousy, greed, arguments over nonsense and unrealistic expectations.

True, and what I've noticed also. It's considered wrong for men and women to show affection in public. Old school which is changing. No reason people can't hug, hold hands and a short kiss in public but that's Thailand, at least for now. The men can hug men and women hug women, but it's still not done much. Even, like you said,in get togethers, they don't hug anyone except a quick one to the toddlers. After kids reach a certain age, about 5, they're neglected. My ex grew up into a narcissist because her mom had 11 children. Her mom had one kid after another, and that's hard for a very loving, caring mom, let alone one that's not affectionate and abusive. Her dad was also abusive and strict (this is from her words), so the kids, when they reached 2 or 3, were pushed aside, making room for the next, then the next, and so on. This is neglect and kids grow up to be narcissists that don't trust anyone and only use, like she turned out. Kids are put in school at 2 a lot here, and raised by teachers and grandmas. Dad is working on the farm so he's only seen at night. Schools here used corporal punishment a lot, and still do now, although it's supposed to be illegal. Hitting kids is normal behavior, with sticks and such, and it teaches violence is the answer. You see this daily on TV and in person, people chasing others 5 against 1, armed with sticks and kicking them while down. This is behavior they learn on the streets because dad isn't home, or does the same thing himself. Physical contact is very important, especially while young, and if not there, they see it as foreign. They can learn to accept it, but it takes time.

I only seem gullible to those who don't understand what I say. Being uneducated on certain topics and doing things you think are okay when they aren't makes you look small minded and dangerous. Every time you post you try to prove me wrong yet can't. How do you know, again, what anyone here is doing during the day? Maybe in your little world you haven't experienced the things some say happen here, but that doesn't mean they aren't happening. I don't have a list of grievances against anyone here besides my ex. I see things as they are, then make a decision. Thailand itself isn't the problem. It's certain people here that do things that aren't right, are prejudicial, born of jealousy and lack common sense, just like everywhere else. It takes planning to re-establish back home. You can't just up and leave, especially when you have a child that needs to be placed in a school, a house needs to be rented, a job found, a car bought, a house full of things to be shipped back and other things. Think before you post. You look more dense with every assuming reply.

How can you assume he's lonely? He's married to a Thai. And how do you not make it here, and still stay? You either like it here or you don't. If you can't stay, you leave. What Bob says is true, although many are brown nosers, don't go outside their village much, not look at the news, and not have had bad experiences here and think they don't happen. They surely do, many thousands of times, to us and to the locals. Some walk outside at night and never encounter trouble. Some come here as tourists and end up robbed, hurt or dead because they were in the wrong place, wrong time. Many encounter indifference or animosity from some here and want to talk about it here. This country is a nice country, but, like all other countries, it has people in it that ruin things for others, and give it a bad name. We are taken for granted here, as well as hated, feared, jealous of, and respected. Many different people makes many different problems. Bob's a realist from what I see. I don't think he makes up stories like others do, because I, and others, can relate. Some will disagree, but that happens with anything anyone says here.

I didn't say or mean you had to do anything you didn't want to do. You either go into a relationship looking at a woman as a possible long term or permanent thing, or look at her as someone to pass the time with until you find someone you think is better. Some people only look at women as objects to use. Others look at them as human beings to relate to. Maybe, since the attraction is already there, to go further to find out all you can about them to see if you can make future plans. Ever think why these friends only want to have "company"when they want it? Trust me, I'm not near a prude and have been with many women. I always looked at women and girls (earlier) as someone to have a relationship with, because the attraction was already there. Most people don't end up with the first partner they choose, because future plans don't match. Players are there for one reason. To get off in a woman then on to the next one. That attitude leaves many children without fathers, and makes women hate men over time. If you don't want a relationship, don't waste a good woman's time, period. Get a hooker to get your rocks off then hope you don't get something you can't get rid of. Why hurt a woman who's looking for a good man to take care of her and love only her? I know many men don't have a conscience are don't care about the women they're having sex with. You can date as many women as you want, not going further if you can't relate on the future, but sex always gets in the way and causes many problems. Again, not a prude and I did have many intimate relationships when I was younger. Again, these were girls and women I always wanted to look towards the future with but never got further because of those different future plans Then I thought about it more and knew I was hurting some of them because they wanted to stay, even though we both knew it wouldn't last. We all make mistakes , and hurt some, but doing it intentionally is a completely different matter entirely. You're right about your paragraph to the OP. Not rushing into things is what many, including myself, have done, and paid the price.

Been around, seen a lot, understand more, listen a lot, maybe wiser?

How do you sound older??

Yes, I was thinking the same thing. I wasn't sure I even had it before, so I went to that doctor. I should have had a followup. It usually doesn't come back once it's eradicated.

I'm sure many know about this infection. Not sure how many have it and it's symptoms without knowing. More than half the world's population has it, most without ever knowing. I just found out yesterday it's what's been causing my stomach problems from gastritis for months now. I thought I had it 5 years ago while staying a few days in Hua Hin. I went to the doctor and told him of my symptoms and he prescribed antibiotics and an antacid. This without taking a test for it. He, like I assumed that's what it was. It went away fast and i thought nothing of it until recently. I had what I thought was IBS by the symptoms. Varying bowel movements from normal to loose, stomach pains, bloating from extra gas. This can be so many things it's hard to know without testing. Cancer, IBS, IBD, gastritis, Crohn's, an ulcer, Gluten Intolerence, Celiac, and more. I've never had a colonoscopy, and I'm 67 (yes, I know) because I've always eaten very healthy and exercised. No excuse as genetics also play a role. No family member I know about has ever had colon or stomach cancer so I dilly dallied until now. My daughter at 37 had hers as she was also having some stomach issues. They removed quite a few polyps but she was clean. She changed her diet, added collagen, vitamins etc and already had stopped smoking. I don't smoke, drink very little and only drank wine for many years before I moved here so I also thought I was safe. Saturday I stopped eating at 5PM. The only thing on Sunday was tea, water and chicken broth. Then came the prep. Two small bottles of sodium phosphate with water started the flow. It wasn't as bad as I heard. I had an endoscopy and colonoscopy. Both clear, no polyps or cancer besides the test for H Pylori coming up positive. I was actually hoping this was where the gastritis was from. They gave me two antibiotics and an antacid. Today, since I came home, things are better. The regimen usually eradicates H Pylori so I'm glad. H Pylori is nothing to ignore. It can lead to stomach cancer if left untreated, so it's a good idea if you're having gastro issues to look to that first.