fredwiggy

Low self esteem questions coming from childhood, just like my gf now. They will always think they aren't any good, especially seeing women here are looked at as second class already because of Buddhism. I've been with my gf almost 4 years now, and treated her as well as anyone can, and she still second guesses. People around her telling her what they think of farangs and how much money we all have, does he chest, hit you, not care about your kids etc etc. That all weighs heavy on girls that are secondary already. Consistency is the only way to show them, and that takes time. Sometimes years.

Honesty is always the best policy in any relationship. Telling her you lost your job leaves her thinking where does he get his money. Unless you already told her you have a substantial savings. If you're staying here as an expat, as you haven't mentioned your age, you need money coming in or deposited in the bank. Women here know all about expats and how we get our money. Gossip is a countrywide sport here. None of anyone's business besides you and her. If you want to stay with her, she will ask questions.

Cold usually means she grew up in an environment without affection, especially from her father. Being close is a normal human pleasure, enjoyed by most everyone. Touch is the best way to spread your love with someone you care about. Without it the relationship falters. People can go on in relationships for years without being close for financial reasons or fear of being treated badly by the next one, but if this isn't what you need from a woman, and you aren't willing to put the time in for a change, let her go and find another one that will give you what you need. She surely might like him, and feel comfortable with him, but can't bring herself to do what he needs because of the stunted childhood life. She can be taught the power of touch, but it will take patience and time. Just like an animal that has been abused, it can learn to trust and accept love. My own girlfriend here now was never hugged by her father, told he loves her, or that he's proud of her, along with her mom, and her husband wasn't affectionate unless he wanted sex, and it took her awhile to reciprocate hugs. To this day it's still not "natural" to her, but the longer I hold her the more she warms to it. It can happen, but you'll have to have patience. The more you try and be close, the more she might like it instead of just doing it because she knows you like it.

Guess you skimmed through it as usual All said they didn't see that it could reduce the chances of transmission, but you go and continue to buy women, and get diseases, then spread them around.............https://www.verywellhealth.com/does-mouthwash-reduce-risk-of-oral-stds-4124069

Just the frumpy part. Most young Thais are slim. Older women in all nations get fat, including an ever growing amount here.

I've been a gym rat over 50 years, and a hunter and fisherman, so observation is high with me. I see what's here, as many older Thais are getting bigger by the year, but that's everywhere worldwide. Just took a little longer here. The rest of the things are shared by most Asians.

I'm thinking you might need an eye prescription change. Frumpy? This label goes to many older women worldwide, but I'm thinking the OP is talking about the younger, slimmer set.

Again you're assuming what or how much a person knows by a few replies on a couple of topics. Do you not realize you don't know much about anyone you've ever met, unless you live with them 24/7? You have been quoted saying you drive drunk, a lot, and seem to care little about this. You have also been quoted saying Listerine used by a girl before oral sex would guarantee no transmission of a disease. This, along with other things, actually shows everyone on this forum how you think. How you think goes a long way with how people see you.

You seem to think you know how smart I am, yet have not gone into my replies on many posts to see what I indeed know. You have absolutely no idea how much I do know, and never will. This because I can see by your replies and posts, it's you that lacks common knowledge on various subjects, and are one that assumes things. This shows lack of intelligence and restraint. I'm sure this will also escape you, as will most everything else. You have to prove someone wrong before you can make judgements, and even if you did, this doesn't mean they aren't smart, but that they just might have been wrong about that particular topic. There's a saying that goes, 'Everyone knows a little about something". In your case, seeing your many replies on many topics, you don't know a hell of a lot about anything. What you don't realize, nor care, is that you probably won't know you have many STD's, unless you get checked, and you might now be a carrier, which means you will indeed pass this on to unsuspecting girls, or boys, whatever the case might be, and that one of these STD's might never go away. I'm thinking you would know this, as most any teenager, does, that a lot of people carry these STD's and pass them on, which is why so many people worldwide have them. The girls you "date" are hookers, who are the biggest spreaders of disease we have, besides the men who purchase them.

"But I would never tell a girl I am trying to bang as it wouldn’t improve my chances" Your words.

So you're intentionally spreading your diseases around?

I didn't deflect. I go by facts , no matter where they originate. Not many people will tell you they've had an STD. It's a little embarrassing actually. And I wouldn't ask such a question anyway. I've had friends and family members who have caught one, and they came out and told me without my asking. Medical journals get stats from hospitals and clinics, and these are believable. I don't talk much with anyone here, especially about them having an STD. Most of the conversations I've had involve gym talk, fishing or food.

Found this today, referring what you said about proof there are antibiotic resistant STD's................https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/super-gonorrheais-rare-but-the-sti-is-smart--and-doctors-are-concerned-213856598.html..

If they're smart, they recognize smart. Unfortunately this leaves you out.

People cut trees down for one a couple of reasons. Development of something is one. The Amazon, along with other necessary rain forests, have been butchered for many decades now in the pursuit of money. They are there for a reason, and those who cut the trees down aren't concerned with what happens to the environment, but how much cash they can get quick. The same as where we are. Thais cut down trees to make more rice or cassava. Sometimes they cut them down to make room for power lines, because it hasn't gotten across to them yet to bury the lines as they do in the west. Lastly, some cut down trees for no obvious reason. I don't understand it, but after they are cut, nothing is done. Trees are here for many reasons, and removing them for no reason is plain stupid.

Again, as usual, you're wrong. Smart people listen and talk, because discussions are a way people spread knowledge, at least in others besides your case. It would be good for you to skip over my "long winded" (a paragraph or two, just like many here) writings, because obviously you either don't understand what I'm saying, or are arguing, like a troll, for the sake of arguing and not looking to have a discussion. I state facts, and not opinions, because opinions mean nothing. What your replies are, are usually ill informed nonsense, bragging about women you purchase and likely spread diseases with (admitting you've had at least two, diseases that is), or driving much of the time drunk, risking innocent lives, which shows a lack of concern for others. This alone makes your replies suspect. And also, how do you know how many people skip over anyone's replies or posts here? You do understand what assume means right? There are people here who understand what I say, because if they have been here awhile they can see I'm usually here to help with knowledge on subjects, or to enter a discussion for the sake of spreading knowledge, as others also do. There are also people here, like yourself, that aren't well versed in subjects and only enter to troll, and argue about things they don't know much about, just to try to boost their ego. These types are easy to spot, because they aren't here helping but just arguing. Not spreading knowledge but talking trash.

Maybe, but I'm also right.

And can back up everything I say with facts. Why troll at age 67? I worked out from age 17 until now, ate healthy all those years. A body fat of 5% isn't unhealthy. Mine went even lower at times, just like Rambo, although he did drugs to get there. Clarence Bass had a 2% fat percentage, Look up his book. All it takes is dedication and will power. My fat % is higher now because I haven't worked out this past year like I did earlier, and eating more rice. I can get it down again easily because that's my lifestyle. Ask susanlea about my cd's. I sent pictures.

No such thing as outdated as far as weight control is concerned. I had less than 5% body fat from age 18 to 62, relying on keeping carbs low with enough protein to repair and maintain and fat for health and carrying fat soluble vitamins. I never did any cardio besides a few years of Tae Kwando. It's mostly about diet, keeping your (natural) sugar intake low so you can burn any stored body fat. This especially is important if you are heavy. I trained thousands of people giving them my diet advice and all of them lost body fat and gained muscle. Using your muscles regularly is of course a way to keep fit and lower your body fat. the more muscle you carry, the more you burn.

Read it again.

Weight has nothing to do with health, unless they are underweight or overweight. There are people that are carrying extra fat, and are healthy. There are people with very little body fat that aren't healthy. I've been with many women who have weighed 125-135 lbs, and they were healthy , pretty and had nice shapes.

Where did I say breasts matter for medicine dosage? Read again, not skim.

It's not just his opinion but factual. The only other thing he could add is to lose weight faster you need to keep your carbs lower, as your body has to burn off stored sugar before it burns stored body fat. It doesn't matter who agrees on whatever. Things work for a reason. Losing stored fat is keeping your total calories down, not eating too late at night, eating frequent smaller meals and keeping your carbs low.

As long as you eat food with all the essential amino acids to repair and build cells, it doesn't matter where they come from. If you understand how to combine foods, it's possible to get all the essentials without eating animals products, but it takes education. Many vegans just eat vegetables and fruits and lose weight and are weak, because they don't understand how to combine foods. Eggs are about the best source or protein, but if you have a cholesterol problem, it's best to limit the amount of yolks and get protein from other sources such as fish and dairy (lactose free if intolerant).

If you're going to say that about my writing, say it about everyone's. Daily a lot here post topics and replies of a number of paragraphs. Again, if you don't want to read it, don't. Expect comebacks, especially if you post nonsense. If you don't read all of what a person writes, you can't make a legitimate comeback, because skimming has you miss things of importance.