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Maybe start by writing in paragraphs, which most adults can comprehend, instead of one line at a time, so we don't have to scroll such a long post.

Be on the phone with a friend when you are picked up, and take pictures of the license plate and drivers picture inside the cab, sending those pictures to the friend, letting the driver see this. Try to keep talking to a friend, taking pics along the way, and sending them along, letting the driver see this. During the trip, ask them to call you back periodically, letting them know where you are at the moment, until you reach your destination safely. Don't trust anyone here, although most taxi drivers are probably okay.

Depression not treated

You forgot the most important thing. Stay away from everyone else and don't let your kids go to school because that's something they cannot do, and no sicknesses will be brought home.🤤

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I don't expect anyone to speak English here. If I can't tell them something in the limited Thai words I know when I; 'm by myself, I'll use my phone to translate. It's worked fine. I have no desire to learn Thai as I'll be leaving Thailand in about two years. My girlfriend speaks good English, and my daughter is getting along fine with what I'm teaching her. And a lot more Thais speak English then 4%. A Thai learning English is better for them, as they have a better chance of a better job. A farang will have a better relationship if his girlfriend can speak his native language right from the start. No communication means a boring relationship. This just one comment......... Why is English important in Thailand? From history, it can be seen that English has always played an important role in Thai education from the time when it was first introduced, testifying to its importance for the country's economic and technological development. It has been part of the curricula from the primary school to the university level.............Problem is, Thailand ranks very low in English proficiency. 101 out of 113 countries.

Exactly. They will improve with treatment most of the time, but sometimes they stop doing what they're doing that helps, medicine, talk therapy etc, because they start feeling better, and then backslide. This disease does not go away, with what we have now to treat it, and will last their lifetime, but knowing this is the first step towards helping yourself to get better.

Exactly. Most will leave seeing all the mood swings. Love is really tested.

Well, I did give advice, so hopefully one more sincere might read it, because depression is no joke, and is a reason so many relationships fail or are in trouble.

Sorry to hear this, and I can relate. I don't know how well you treat your wife, so I'll have to assume at least with respect and loyalty. You said you went all out for this one, so that means you did more than the average man to keep it together. Your wife sleeping until 12 is depression by most standards. Unless she's going to sleep at 3 AM. Supporting your wife while she's working is what you do. She does F all, meaning not cook, eat, housework, sex with you etc? This is also depression related IF you are again, treating her with love, care and respect. 9 out of 10 relationships where someone has depression fail, because either the non depressed one ups and leaves, as you did, at least for a day, or the other partner completely gives up, not seeking help and might go all the way in not wanting to be here anymore. There is something called Anhedonia, which comes from clinical depression, which seems like what your wife has, unless you are treating her so bad that environmental depression is a maybe. I will assume clinical. Anhedonia has a person not feeling anything for things they felt good about before. Sex, social times with friends, traveling, enjoying a favorite meal, laughing at jokes, watching TV or listening to movies, all mean little to nothing. They can function, go to work, cook for you, eat and other things, but these are a burden. All stresses hurt more, meaning fighting with her about small things, taking care of children who misbehave, cooking dinner for family every day, work related stress, arguing with family, driving etc. The answer to all of this is of course seeking help. Talking with a qualified doctor and possibly prescribing medicine,, which will need a followup to make sure it's the right one, as the wrong one can either not work or make things worse. This is happening right now in my life with someone I really care about and love, and it's hard to see them get worse, because depression does not get better unless the symptoms are helped, and it lasts their whole life. At least for now this is all we have to help them. You have to make the decision now if you love this woman enough to stick by her no matter what, and that means no matter what, because they will do things that seem strange to you. The person you thought you knew becomes a mood changing silent partner, going from silence to anger to apathy all in the same day. If you love her, you will stay, and try and get her to seek help. No matter what you could know about depression, you cannot feel what they feel unless you also have it. Everyone gets depressed but with them it's constant, and lasts longer than just the blues or depression from a tragedy or loss. Running out angry will not help one bit. Giving her space is okay, but letting her know you love her and only want some time to think is better. This is a support situation, as support is the number one thing a depressed person needs, and all you have to do sometimes is tell her you are there if she needs you. Advice given is usually wrong, and they will say you don't understand how they feel, which might be true. I would go home and talk with her. She might tell you she's okay, but just tell her you're here if she needs you. Wanting to be around you 24/7 is a good thing, as many want to isolate, and that sometimes leads to the next step, which is suicide. My best friend, back in the late 80's, had depression. He took his own life, even knowing he had a great wife, hobbies, a job, house, car ,family and many friends. He was always a class clown, much like Robin Williams, and he was always sleeping late, up to lunch time like you said your wife does. back then , there wasn't much around as far as seeking help or medicines like there is now. Ask yourself what she means to you, then you'll know what to do.

Sorry for your loss. I'm sure she is still in your heart

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That might be true but many come here for advice, and what the OP might ignore other members might benefit from.

Your username explains it all

Curious, I looked this up..........https://www.learning-mind.com/dreaming-about-people-from-your-past-meaning/

I have dreams a lot of things in my distant past. People I used to go fishing with, old girlfriends, many places. It's crazy how much the brain holds and how memories come up seemingly out of nowhere. There are triggers that happen during the day which we might miss but are stored and come about in our dreams.

You've been talking about being with a man lately, and you're already with a woman, so maybe you want the best of both, and your neighbor with the two dongs represents a wish, which some dreams actually are.

That's only in the winter months, as it is in all northern climes. Canada, in Alberta where I went hunting, was -39F one day, and in June another time when fishing there it was just after ice out. Russia gets many days in the 60's and up to the 80's. It was miserable to me in the winter in New Jersey when it was only around freezing for a couple months, but people are used to it living there. Many people do move south, as I did to Texas, because I liked the outdoors and in the winter in New Jersey, there wasn't much to do besides ski and ice fish. I did enjoy the 4 seasons, which Thailand doesn't have, and is yet another reason I'll move back home.

This is from your other recent post..............."Besides the fact that some are physically very attractive, if I do choose to have a long term relationship, or to eventually marry a Thai woman, then what are considered to be some of the greatest positive and negative aspects of getting so deeply involved with a Thai woman?"....................I and others gave you some advice about being with a Thai woman for possible marriage then I noticed you posted this earlier. The negative aspect of getting involved with a Thai woman, especially for marriage, is that she might take offense if you also liked climbing the pole.

You're going to get many replies from people here who have experienced both sides. Like any relationship, taking your time to get to know them is always the best recourse, something I failed at a few times and paid for later. Thailand has a lot of great looking women and this can make a man lose his thinking. First thing, if you want a wife eventually, stay away from tourist areas because most of them there have a history. Marrying a bar girl isn't always trouble, as some have shown, but odds are stacked against you just because of the thinking that goes into making a bar girl a bar girl. Look to the country areas, Isaan and northern Thailand, and you'll find large cities where you'll have a better chance to find one that speaks English, which is a major deal breaker because if there's no communication, it will rarely last, at least fulfilling for both. You need to talk to each other. There are plenty of coffee shops, malls, and shops where you can start a conversation. When you start talking, you'll know if she can communicate. This is a major factor some might not realize. Sex is great with these beauties, and afterwards there's nothing left besides Pad Krapow and sitting next to each other, both on their own phones. As with all women, some are moral and some are not. This all goes along with honesty, integrity, sincerity, fidelity and reliability. Women everywhere can be either way. They aren't any different here than back home. Looking to the parents is another major factor. You want to meet them as soon as possible, although she might be reluctant to do that at first. That can be a good thing, as they might only want you to meet her parents if she really sees you as a possible future. When you meet the parents, see how she relates to her dad. This is the most important thing in a girls life, and if there's hostility it might not be a good idea to continue. A girl that loves, and respects her dad, and vice versa, is a girl that can relate to other males. This also goes for the mom, although not quite as important. Intellectually? Some are smart, some aren't. Schooling doesn't teach much here, a lot less than western countries, and many stay back on the farm where they never grow past that. Some go to universities and these are more likely to be more independent, seeing they can get a better job and have their own money. Basically, if a person is a reader, they're a learner, because after school you don't have much of a learning experience but through others tales or TV (media). They are extremely phone focused, and this is annoying, but that's most everywhere also. Look how they live, if she lives there, and see if it's objectionable to you. See how she, and they, treat any animals they have, as that's another way of seeing how they treat humans. Remember a Thai seeing you as a potential mate has had some tough times with local men, otherwise they usually prefer their own kind. Getting her to do most of the talking is always a good bet, as a person will give you a lot of information if they like to talk. One that's too quiet might be hiding things or just shy, and time will tell. She might be looking at you as a walking ATM, or just a better provider. Does she have gold, and talk about it a lot? Superficial if she does. To sum this all up, don't do what i did because I went too fast. Time always tells more. I had an ex I had a child with who I treated very well, building a house here for her and our daughter, and when I finally moved her permanently, the real her came out. Depression, narcissism, lying, maybe cheating . She kidnapped our daughter 4 times until I had to file a divorce to get my daughter back home. Now I live in the house I had built with my daughter on weekends (until just recently, she's visiting another farang in Germany three months), and I will be moving back to the states as soon as I can re-establish there with my daughter. She wants to come back to me, but trust goes, I go. Thai women are beautiful, great cooks (some), good lovers and nice to have around, IF they're a good one Take your time.

Many men don't like having any other man around, especially if you've been with the woman before. Even a friend can make some jealous, unless he's gay. Maybe she just wanted to be with him a lot of the time, and didn't have any spare time anymore. Either way, it doesn't matter because you helped her and she knows this. Just let it go and remember you did a good thing.

Yep, she should at least know you have needs, even if she isn't in the mood. many women lose interest after awhile for many reasons. They might not like how they look anymore, need to be aroused more, too busy with the kids etc. If you can take them away from all the <deleted> for awhile, they usually remember themselves, especially if you romance them beforehand. Some just never were into sex,and this can come from earlier relationships or childhood.

If it works, that's all you need.

Maybe she didn't want to upset her new husband, who might not like her spending time with another man. Jealousy can come easily the more insecure you are also. If you knew her that long, I'm sure she appreciated all you did, but abstinence might have been her best recourse.