fredwiggy

No one is used unless they allow this themselves. You've never been married, so how can you comment on what a relationship more than a few weeks means?

You sound a lot ignorant, or you've never actually been to America, much less lived there for 62 years like i did. It isn't all millionaires. That's what Thais think. Wrong. Most people are just getting bay there also. It has great food, more variety of food, great beaches, mountains, lakes, resorts and a lot more to do than sitting inside hiding from the heat and sun. It's cheaper here, and that's about it. Isaan is about the most boring place on earth, and that takes in lot of Thailand. Yes, there are good things here, but a multitude more in the US.

How many Thai women are actually happily married? In case you don't know a simple fact, most women will never know a true, real love in their lives, and almost no one will get it twice. Thai women do prefer their own kind, as shows in marriage statistics,but they aren't happy like you think they are. The Thai divorce rate has been climbing yearly, almost to 45% now. This means a lot stay unhappy also, just like everywhere else. A good man can understand any women if he wants to, even with the language barrier. Marrying someone that speaks none of your language isn't a smart idea, but anyone can learn if they want, although it is a barrier to a relationship, seeing communication is one of the most important things. It's true that most Thai men don't single women in bars. It's also true most Thai men don't want anyone who's had kids before them. Farangs are okay with this, as we think differently about children than they do here.

Thai men left them because they could. The justice system doesn't make them pay for the children they make. Buddhists religion looks at women as inferior, something the men take to heart, especially if they've learned this false thinking all their lives. I never liked barmaids, preferring to find women (2) here in Isaan that were normal workers. They both worked, one in a hotel and the other in a tesaban. You, like you said, like to move on after you're had your fill, not wanting to get to know them better as humans but only using them for their bodies. I prefer a relationship that grows, and hopefully lasts.

What's better? Anything they have here all other countries have, without the death rate on the roads, the inferiority thinking of women, climates where it doesn't rain for 5 months straight then dry for 5. What's to enjoy in Isaan besides drinking? The beaches are nice if you live near them, but that's also most everywhere that has beaches.

I myself watch daily news, from here and all over the world, and my girlfriend does translate to me the daily Thai news . She also tells me how the men are here, what her girlfriends say, what her three girlfriends tell her about the US and Sweden, where they moved. She tells me how her friends here are treated, both by the locals and some by farangs. Look at the lakorns and you'll see a lot of what goes on here towards women, without the heroes installed in the shows.

Yes, some do, and to live a better lifestyle.

I'm for helping out decent women, and if you prefer to call it rescuing, so be it, because that's pretty much what we are doing if we're taking better care of them than they previously knew. And I'm thinking you don't know a thing about the US besides the bad news you hear, from not even going there. Facts are, almost all of the Thais that move there, and it's quite a lot, never come back here. There are reasons for that, and it's not all about money.

And you and your clueless "friends" are making a mountain out of a molehill, because it isn't happening that much by farangs but daily by locals. I miss no points and see lies and made up stories for what they are. Brown nosing or farang bashing, especially towards nationalities other than your own. How do "we" all know about the high rates of farang alkies hitting their Thai hookers? Where is this news coming from? Again, 4 farangs hit women here, and of course it's newsworthy, but a few hundred locals doing the same to their hookers, girlfriends or wives and you'll see one on the news that might have killed her. I\ll never stick up for anyone hitting, abusing or taking advantage of a woman, and they need to be punished, but that also includes the majority of the male population that gets away with it daily.

What you don't see, by your posts, is that at least some of us are taking care of Thai women here, while you go from one to another to another, using them and only seeing them as meat.A woman that's been with a Thai man that's left is the norm, and not a whore because she wants a chance at a better life with a farang, who usually has more money, is a better provider, the chance to leave a third world country for one that's better in almost all ways, a father figure for her children instead of a local who only stayed for the sex and didn't provide for the child he made, the chance for better schooling, and seeing their mom treated better has a more positive effect on their future than a dad that was never there. As far as your ridiculous post, as others have attested, daily abuse, rape, neglect and beatings happen to Thai women nationwide. Farangs get news because we are a tiny percentage of the population. You see it daily on the news, a tiny fraction of what goes on all over. For every story about a farang hitting his woman, there are a hundred about locals. You'll never see this on local news because there are only a few networks here and most of the news is about snakes, gold thefts, traffic accidents and people ganging up 5 against 1 hitting him with sticks . And not all farangs are old and fat. Some take up with women 35 years their junior and that's all about money, and it happens all over the world. Many are less than a 20 year difference and a lot of farangs take care of themselves and aren't all drunks. By now everyone on here knows what you think of women, and looking like you are somehow sticking up for them isn't what you're all about. Using women one after another is also abuse, and it lasts longer.

Isaan lawyers have an English speaking attorney, along with translators. Based out of Korat but will travel, extra costs of course. There are many lawyers around. Siam is another. You and her will need to go to the amphur to sign. I'm thinking there are process servers here. If she doesn't agree on split 50/50 of marital assets, you'll need to see a judge, and having a lawyer helps. The house will go to her unless you fight for it and want to live in it meaning if you paid 100%, otherwise you could sell and split the profit. No kids no problem. I'm guessing your son is from a previous and since he lives alone that doesn't matter anyway. If you divorce and want to stay in Thailand, you'll need a retirement visa or work visa. Do you have any of her family that could give her your thoughts?

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Manufacturers know full well how addictive sugar and salt is, so they put as much as they can get away with without the food tasting cloying or too salty. People get addicted and then it's hard for them to stay away from the sugar. Sugars in the body need to be burned before stored body fat can be burned. That's why the keto works so well, at least as far as losing weight fast is. It's not a healthy diet long term as some think it is. Here, it's the extreme amount of rice they eat, along with the slowing down of metabolism as they age, the less work they do on the farm, the more sugar laden drinks they consume, along with the snacks. Kids here are given snacks like they are meals. The same happens in the US, where obesity has exploded this last century. here it will continue to rise, as it has been, and Thailand will be closing the gap on western countries where obesity and overweight people abound. I have to tell my ex wife and her family to stop giving my daughter so much crap, because she doesn't get but a smidgen here, and they know nothing of nutrition. Snacks are to appease the children if they complain about what you feed them, and it becomes a habit they win at. Parents give in too much. People can have a propensity to be overweight by genetics, but it's environment in those homes that ruins their chances of being a lean adult. They eat what their parents who are fat give them, setting them up for a lifetime of bad choices in food. My parents parents were from Poland and Ireland, and my parents cooked that food, which is rather heavy on calories. But we also ate healthy lean food. My dad gained weight over the years but mom didn't, preferring fish over meat a lot of the time. I started weight training at 17, just as I was starting to gain fat. Then studying nutrition along with the weights taught me what to eat, and I stayed very lean for the next 45 years, until I moved here and didn't have a gym handy until recently. Eating more rice here hasn't helped, so I've had to cut down to stay lean. I know many that I've met in gyms that are lean who have fat parents. Just takes will power and a desire to sty lean. Diet is most of what you look like. I can turn to a keto (kinda) diet and get ripped in a matter of weeks because I keep my body fat manageable. I love pasta, potatoes, rice, sweet potatoes and bread but don't eat too much because the waist starts to thicken. Salads help to fill you up so you eat less starches for dinner.

When a woman feels loved, she will do whatever she can to make her man happy. If she's not a person who was fatter earlier in life, and only gained recently, she does not like how she is so that's when that positive feedback will work. Women know their bodies, as well as men, but they usually think they aren't as good as they really are. Many men think they are better than they actually are. Negative never works, and can make matters a whole lot worse.

He's actually right about positive feedback. You tell a woman she's beautiful, looks great, sexy etc, and she'll do her best to stay that way. You tell her she's getting fat and she'll hate your words, never forget them, withdraw from you and maybe self sabotage herself by eating more.

What do women deserve?

How you live your life, putting in diet, exercise, amount of time in the sun, and stress can mean a lot more than genetics. I've seen many women and men who grew up looking a little like their parents, but in much better shape at the age I saw their parents at earlier.

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No need to have a go. You aren't in the gym business, training and working out, like I was from age 17 to now, so you don't understand what chubby means.

Again you must not understand what BMI means. A woman can be fat, meaning carrying more fat than she needs to, at 40 kilos, and lean at 60. Everything factors in like I noted. Some like bony girls with teenager bodies, meaning young teens. I prefer a woman having a woman's shape. 125-135 lbs isn't near chubby, unless they are under 5'. 5'1" and 85 lbs is teenage girl size, and small boobs. This is but one height-weight scale. There are many, with of course body fat percentage being important also...........https://www.rush.edu/how-much-should-i-weigh

All in the eyes of the beholder. Weight isn't the only factor, as has been noted. Height, weight, body fat percentage, boob size, more muscle, all factor in. Of course the face matters, but to each their own. Some like a white skinned Thai with a tiny, almost teenage structure. Some like a tall, full figured woman. Some like a big butt, others an athletic shape. None of this matters except to the one that look at her and is attracted, both to what she looks (looked) like, and to how she treated him over the years. There is no perfection. I see a lot of women on TV here that all look much the same, on the Gossip channel. Same goes for the men. All skinny, haven't worked out a day in their lives, short black hair and mostly white. But they're superstars because clueless, mostly teenage girls have put them on a pedestal. Happens worldwide, and is why so many that are untalented become rich. The Kardashians come to mind in the US. Hero worship makes people undeserving millionaires, and they care nothing to little about their fans. I have been with women from 4'11' and 90 lbs (40kg), to 5'9" and 155lbs(70kg), and they all looked good. I prefer 5'5" and around 125-135 lbs (56-61kg), but again, the woman's heart and how she treats me is more important. Of course attraction comes first, as that's not a choice, and then you go from there. A woman that's 5'5" and 40 kilos is skinny, and might be anorexic and unhealthy, but some like tiny girls .My gf now is 5'6" and 62 kilos and she's still the same in my eyes, because of the way she's treated me these 3+ years. When I met hr she was 53 kilos, and slimmer, but not a problem for me, as she knows herself and says her clothes are a little tight now, so she knows what to do.

Surely happens both ways, as a woman without a good male role model in her life, the best being her father, loses her respect for what a man is and does what a lot of her friends do, and uses them for money, takes what she can get from them because that's all she's learned how to do, and usually ends up alone, or with a man she's taken for granted, doesn't respect what he does for her because her father didn't respect her mother, or her father was totally absent and she doesn't know what to expect from a man. A woman can't use a man for sex, so she does what she can do. Look at him as an ATM that is an endless supply of cash, and love doesn't enter her mind because she's never known what love means.

Exactly. When a man isn't taught, by actions and or words from his father, the main male role model in his life, what a woman means, and her worth, he goes by what he sees his friends and a lot of the world doing with women, meaning victimization. When he grows up seeing them get along, fighting fair, no abuse and or neglect, he thinks this is the way she should be treated, and will follow this in his behavior as an adult. Anyone who disagrees is one of those that have seen violence towards his mother growing up, and thinks this is how I should act. Actually posting such negativity towards women is despicable, and shows narcissism in it's worse way. And they laugh about it, not understanding or caring how bad they look to all decent men.

Will she leave you when you get fatter?

Hauptmannuk hit it on the nose to my thinking. Many women stay slim hoping to find a man, then go back to their normal eating ways after he's hooked. It isn't intentional and could be depression. Many people either eat a lot or eat very little if they have depression. People who would just divorce a woman they're supposed to love in sickness and health, till death aren't looking at that woman as their wife but as a sex object and or cook, basically a live in slave. Many men think they look great when in actuality they're fat or out of shape. Women usually have a harder look at their own bodies, thinking they are fat when they're just fine. Asking yourself if you wife is still getting the attention she needs from you is the first thing. Not to say this is in fact the reason she doesn't eat with you and eats more fattening food now, but it's always a possibility. If you're still loving her the way you did at the start, then I would think underlying issues like depression or worries over something. talking about it in a non judgemental way, asking her how she feels about her weight gain and telling her she's still beautiful can go a long way. I'm sure if she was lean for a long time and is now heavier it's really bothering her, but eating is a way of coping that always backfires. Try doing something healthy together, such as daily evening walks. Sharing , meaning real communication, lets her open up and know she's being heard and not judged. Anyone can lose and gain weight. It happens easier as you age, and no one's immune unless you starve yourself. Eating is fun, although eating junk isn't good long term. My own girlfriend gained a few kilos and she talks to me abut everything so that's one of the topics. My clothes are too tight. All I suggest, as she knows I know diet and exercise, is maybe cutting back on the rice, and explained why, meaning sugars burn first in the body before stored body fat. I always tell her she still looks great to me, so leave it in her hands. They know their bodies. Many people don't know about dieting healthy, and if you look at what stores sell, they're pushing sugar like cocaine, knowing people get addicted and buy more. It's a life change always eating healthy, or at least an occasional splurge when you get to your best weight. Asking her how she's feeling is the best start.