fredwiggy

Remember you are one of those parasites

Narcissists, especially world leaders who are. Alpha males, who actually think they are better than others, when in actuality, they suffer from inferiority complexes due to childhood trauma not treated. Eliminate them and most if not all of the world's problems will disappear. This will let the rest of the world's population have better lives, with no fear of wars being started. Relationships will improve, having good hearted beta males with women who are the same. Children will grow up with respect for life, animals and the world around them. Those in power will use that power for good and not evil or profit. Forums will improve, because people will come to them for help and not ridicule, bad advice and prejudice from ignorance and power hungry controllers.

Irresponsible is having children you aren't raising in a loving environment, and teaching them to avoid toxic people like yourself, because that will be a detriment to their welfare. Responsible is doing just that, and it can be a single parent household. People who make statements like you do are certainly unnecessary, as you aren't contributing to society but taking from it and ridiculing those who are trying to do their parenting jobs the best they can. I'm hoping you don't have any children, because narcissists come from narcissistic parents, and also are terrible partners. It's obvious you haven't had many relationships with he opposite sex, unless of course you are one of the extremely lucky ones who picked a partner that was normal in every way. If you've had relationships, meaning more than one, you would understand that attraction is the first part of picking a partner, and that gets a lot of people, millions of us, in trouble. Many get involved quickly, without getting to know their partners well enough read the red flags, because that's being human, although it's not a good idea to rush. Some people just go through life using others, with no regard for their feelings. I'm an empath and that's the opposite of a narcissist, and narcissists are the destruction of our world.

I've raised 5 children into adulthood, 4 are doing very well. The one who moved near,with, my ex, isn't. My child now I have joint custody of, will move with me back to the states for a better life. I'm not rich, but I've worked all of my life until retirement, and provided for all of my children. I picked women to have kids with that are ill, so I do my best to offset that by being available. I was a bodybuilder, actually still am, but only for the health aspect of lifting weights. I was usually the strongest or at the top 3 in every gym I was training at, naturally, so that's an accomplishment in itself. I've kept my bodyfat low all of those 50 years of training, because I understand what to eat and what not to. I'm a very good hunter and fisherman, and very knowledgeable about music. I've trained thousands of people who made health and strength gains, and continue to help others with diet and weight training advice. I've always treated women with love, respect, caring and equality. I have many friends who respect me as I treat them well also. If you think this makes me a loser, then you haven't a clue about what that word means, and being a narcissist, you don't care anyway.

I don't think it's anywhere near that amount. Just the fact that Thailand leads the world in children raised by grandparents, over 35%, with no other nations coming anywhere near that, shows why many children go wrong here. Granted, as a few have said, two children can be raised, lovingly, in a two parent home without abuse or neglect, and one can grow to be a teacher, professional or honest laborer, and the other can be a criminal who has gone wild because of the company they kept outside the home. Most people want to do the best for their children, although parenting is the hardest job anyone can have. Many problems do come from absent or abusive, neglective parenting. Some are born with sociopathic or psychopathic tendencies, but it's a small percentage. most of the bad behavior comes from environment, either at home or with peers. My own daughter got herself in a lot of trouble, even though all along I told her to stay away from older boys who I could see were not "right". She eventually found a great boyfriend, later husband, who I'm proud to have as a son in law, and she told me she should have listened to me all along, as I was right about the previous boyfriends. My son never got into any trouble, went to college, and has his pilot's license now, and is settled with a great partner. The others are doing okay also, with the exception of one daughter that lives with my ex, who has been having trouble ever since she went to live with her at 19. You can do a good job parenting, and they can go haywire, all because they didn't listen to your advice on picking friends.

Are you saying you have never had a girlfriend that was mentally ill, violent or a cheater? Lucky you, because many of us made choices based on attraction that got us into trouble. And try not answering for others, because that's a control issue you have. Other people like to hear stories on how their ex's hurt them some way, as they can relate, because few go through life with one perfect mate, and it helps others who are struggling in their own interpersonal relationships. And don't tell me to keep it to myself, as I don't listen to cowards behind keyboards, who are narcissists in hiding. You obviously didn't read all of my posts, or didn't understand what I was saying. I don't need sympathy. I know how to relate to normal people. It's the mentally ill I can't relate to. People like yourself who assume things without either understanding or caring. I wouldn't make any decisions on your part, as I already have had 6 children to raise and train.

Another old adage is that idiots assume they know other people without knowing a thing about them. Goes to show that some here have absolutely no comprehensive skills, and go by what other morons have taught them. Maybe if you try reading what people write, and again, try comprehending what they are saying, then you can understand why I myself did things, and why my children were brought up mostly by myself, with my 2 ex's not having custody. Never underestimate another person's challenges until you have gone through them yourself.

My girlfriend sometimes says she is like a glass of water, always full. Over thinking and worrying all the time. This is why.................https://www.osmosis.org/answers/anhedonia

Individuals are in control of their own destinies. Some choose greed. Irrational behavior. Money makes some do things a normal person wouldn't. Raping the earth's resources isn't anything but insanity for profit. It helps some and hurts the rest. People have over populated the earth because they both, like sex, and some aren't responsible for the children they create. There are people in charge that are very disturbed sociopaths.

Actually I didn't vote for Biden, and not think much about him either. I have rarely seen a president that was worth their words besides one that was killed by our own government , and a few before him that did some good. They are just one man, and it should be a group of people that make decisions, based on what's good for every man.

Walls never work because you can always circumvent them. Biden has actually agreed to renew construction of the wall, but again, it will NOT stop them from coming. Every president tries to fix the problems before his coming into office, and you can't blame them for not being able to fix them all. He is again, only one man, a puppet, with more power than any one man should ever have.

If you are constantly on guard about a woman's motives for dating, you'll never find one that's on your wave length about a future. Dating is how you get to know someone, and it takes a lot of time. It's never a waste of money if you want to find someone to stay with. Anyone can buy a girl for their pleasure, but that's not a relationship, and not what I've been looking for. Rushing into things because of attraction was my mistakes, and I and my children paid for them. Never too old to slow down, and learn.

My family doesn't feel sad for me because they know I understand what Trump is all about, and they are beginning to see it for themselves. Denial sometimes takes time to overcome. I don't believe we should have a president anyway. No man should be left in charge to try and adjust and fix our problems. Any man can make suggestions, which Congress has to approve anyway, so he's not needed. A group of like minded people who are trying to help everyone would work better. That means no more infighting, but egos and money work against many things.

I don't hate Trump. I have no feelings for him and only see him for what he really is. His wall wouldn't have worked, no matter how tall or wide, because people can tunnel, fly over, and walk around it.

Marriage is only a mistake if both don't really want it, or where one lives in a fantasy world where instant gratification must always come without working for it. Marriage can work if you pick the next partner who thinks the same way as you do.

Was always in a relationship, not wanting one nighters, although had a few. Some lasted a few weeks, and some months. If your future plans aren't the same, you need to go your separate ways, and not waste more time with someone that you think won't stay the distance. Some people get married and divorced in a week. Some date for years, then stay married 50 years miserable. Some marry their high school sweethearts, and stay together until death. I always had time to hunt, fish, and spend times with friends, along with having a girlfriend. I'm 67, and if you subtract the 22 years I was married and spent 3 years with another girlfriend, and started at age 20 dating, you get 22 years left to date those many girls. An average of almost 5 a year, which isn't any different than many other men.

Divorce is only a mistake if you tried everything in both of your powers to try and make the marriage work. When one is a liar, cheater, abuser or neglects their duties as a partner, the other has no recourse but to separate, to divorce. You never fully know a partner unless you spend a lot of years with them. People sometimes change for the worse the more years they live, especially if a mental illness like depression is involved. Narcissism of course never gets better, as there is no real treatment that works unless the one with it understands what they are doing to others, and takes responsibility for it. People should only stay together if they are helping each other, consistently, and not damaging their partner or children. Some people can effectively hide what they really are for quite sometime, either because they are seeing a financial gain or some other reason to stay with someone. A person who likes relationships, and hope they work, doesn't stop them from making bad choices in partners. They have hope that their next choice might not hurt them in time, that they have finally picked a partner that clicks with them in most ways. Many people stay in marriages from fear of the unknown, or fearing a financial loss. Many people suffer from their mistakes and choose to never settle down again and only go from one partner to the next, not trusting anyone but just using until some problem appears, so they exit. Some learn and take a long time to get to know someone before they settle down with them. They still have no guarantees that their partner won't revert back to what they suffered in childhood, and turn on them. A relationship that works is a combination of two's desires to make things work, to stay no matter what happens, and never to cheat on, abuse or neglect their partner. Two that have chemistry and know what a commitment means, to not run and hide when things go wrong, but to stay and figure out how to make it work. It takes two.

I "fixed" myself by reading more on narcissism, especially the covert type, so I don't make that mistake again. Picking a few women who are mentally ill has happened to almost everyone who's had more than 10 girlfriends. I've been with almost 100 women, and many were good, and many weren't. Some you live with and some you leave. Some you stay with are the ones that make you bleed. Then you move on , hoping to find one that doesn't.

How am I wrong about God, especially if you believe he doesn't exist. How can you comment on this? I'm dead on about my ex wives. Were you there? No, so you have nothing to comment about. I don't lie, as I don't need to. I had custody of my children, which should help you to understand what they were about, at least a little. I don't judge anyone. I see things as they are, and comment accordingly. God judges, not anyone else. If you read what I say, AND comprehend it, you would see I'm the opposite of dysfunctional. I don't buy women, I treat them as equals. I care for my girlfriend, much more than anyone ever has, including her own family. I don't abuse anyone, nor cheat. I take care of my children, and I'm living here, for now, until I can bring my daughter to a better place to live, because of her. I have been a homeowner, and sold my house to build a house for my ex and daughter here, making a mistake in my choice of a wife here, but tried to make things work, when a narcissist ex tried to control. I'm a person who reads a lot on psychology, depression, narcissism and relationships, because I want to help, not hurt, others, including those close to me. If you see this as dysfunctional, then you don't understand what the term means., because in a few words, I have my sh**t together.

One former wife was addicted to prescription drugs, and was hallucinating because of them, and died last year of a heart attack, almost assuredly because her body was overcome by so many pain killers and couldn't handle them. She and I got along fine. I left because she wasn't herself because of these drugs, prescribed by "doctors". My first wife I could care if she despised me or not. She practiced witchcraft, wasn't around for the children so I had to do most of the parenting, was always out getting high with her friends while I was home with the kids, most likely cheated, and kidnapped my kids and took them to another state with her new boyfriend. i got them back, and raised them to adulthood. This wife here was abusive, a liar,a cheat and also kidnapped my daughter 4 times before I had to divorce here to get my daughter back home. She's lucky. If she did this in the US she would be in jail or a lot worse. She wants to come back, has told myself and others, but I don't go back to someone I can't trust. I have picked mentally ill women a few times. Sadly it was ones I've had children with. Maybe now you can understand what my situations were like, and that I do what a dad is supposed to do.

For one thing, I never spew nonsense. Disagreeing because you don't understand a subject doesn't mean I'm wrong about something. If you look at what HE said, it was a ridiculous statement. Not many people use illegal drugs. Millions use illegal drugs, and there is proof everywhere of that.

Yes, but punishment if you hurt others, just like he has done.

Not that many people use illegal drugs? This does sound like someone hiding in their "mum's" basement without any TV or computer access. There are millions of people addicted to heroin, cocaine , yaba, and meth users and millions more addicted to drugs prescribed by doctors. Everyone has a life. Some waste it by letting themselves be controlled by drugs and alcohol.

The US citizens are winners when he's put away, when he isn't allowed to be president any longer. Being a billionaire isn't much if you're a misogynist racist that more and more are disliking daily. If he goes to jail, which he should, his money might buy him some things but he'll still be confined. His wife might be attractive, but I'm sure she also despises him. I don't think any posters here actually live with their mums, seeing this is a forum for Thai expats and those that visited here. A billionaire, if you didn't know, isn't a better person because of his money, doesn't live any longer because of it, and especially seeing what kind of character he is, doesn't have any real friends and only ones that are there to share the wealth in some way. People that have that much money and don't do anything constructive with it are useless.

It isn't brilliance but just his character. He's not a very intelligent man, with the vocabulary of a child in middle school. Anyone who can't see through his bull**it is blind. Just using Covid as an example, where his hesitation cost the lives of thousands of Americans......................https://edition.cnn.com/2020/03/22/politics/fact-check-trump-coronavirus-false-claims-march/index.html