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No, actually I'm of two un related parents, and an idiot is one who assumes about others. Your response to that other's post showed a misunderstanding some show when they go by other's opinions of the deep south. It was your words, not mine. If you lived in the US that long, why make statements like you did? I'm not festered up. I just see things as they are. Sarcasm is one thing, and you don't know it's sarcasm unless you add lol or a smiling emoji afterward.

Just the fact that it's 15 shows what kind of thinking the lawmaker had. Children having children with children is why many children get left with grandma here, and grow up unsupervised and on scooters at age 8. No one is mature at less than 20 years at the least. The brain isn't fully developed until around age 25, so many irrational decisions are made, and many include sex. NO one should be having sex before at least 18, if not later, and that's not being prudish but rational. The world has millions of fatherless children because some lawmakers are disturbed thinkers.

Your username sure fits. Another one with assumptions about the US and never having visited, or lived.

Double post by accident.

The US doesn't have open borders. That's an assumption made by someone who's never been there, and only reads a few lines about how many get into the US illegally. They are deported quickly, and they still keep coming.

I don't make opinions, because they aren't always true. I tell things as they are. You don't understand the subject, so you are making your own opinion. Spend a few weeks reading up on relationships, the psychology of them, why people do what they do, and what makes a relationship work and why most fail, and you'll understand that attraction is the downfall of most of them, because it doesn't show the real person until time is spent. Some people stay in relationships that are abusive, neglective or are taken for granted because of financial fear. Some quit good relationships because they have never learned how to relate to others of the opposite sex. Some are lucky in their choices and find someone that's right for them in most every way. These aren't opinions but what happens every day, everywhere.

Schooling is definitely better in the US than here, and children here are promoted many times even if they are failing, something which doesn't happen back home. I plan to take my daughter back home as soon as I can get situated back there, but there are other reasons more than schooling. This is from the local news..............More than 31,000 girls and women were raped in Thailand last year and about 60% of them were university students and school pupils, ... About 87 rapes occur daily – one every 15 minutes – according to activist Supensri Puengkhokesoon a forum on sexual violence yesterday. There didn’t seem to be data pertaining to how many rapes were initiated by peers, family members and close friends, but Supensri said most victims “were exploited by people who they were close to and trusted.” She faulted an unjust system that favors the male attackers,Rape has a high profile in the Thai media, with television dramas gleefully portraying sexual assault as a common plot device. From a young age, children are exposed to programs which feature frequent rapes of women, sometimes portraying their attackers as sympathetic characters doing it for “love.” Although young women are instilled with a fear of taxi drivers, the data shows teachers are more likely to be attackers. Victims: 6.6 percent: Small children 35.1 percent: Minors 11 and 15 22 percent: Women 16 to 20 10.1 percent: Women 26 to 30 Oldest victim: 85 Youngest victim: 1 Attackers: 12.8 percent: School and university students 8.5 percent: Teachers 7.8 percent: Taxi drivers Where: 26.6 percent – Bangkok 11.8 percent – Chonburi 8.3 percent – Samut Prakarn 5.9 percent – Nonthaburi 5.3 percent Pathum Thani....... Rape happens in every country, but punishment here is lacking,and also reporting the crime. This, along with the high rate of corruption involving human trafficking, is another reason girls, and women, are not safe here. A justice system that doesn't make men responsible for paying for the upkeep of children they make is another. Add to that the extremely higher pay in the US of all jobs. Minimum wage alone is 266 Baht per hour there, and most jobs with education you can get 600-800 baht an hour. Daily average wage is 300 baht, and many jobs are hard labor. This isn't what my daughter will be doing.

A gigolo is a man that uses his genetic looks to seduce, then use, women. Sexual services for older women in exchange for money. No conscience, having sex with someone you're not attracted to.

In my case it was their fault. And for exactly the same reasons. An abusive and neglective childhood. They brought that narcissism into our relationship and the end result is what it is. All you need to do to understand is to look up the definition of covert narcissism. It explains why and what they do. Not malignant narcissism like most world leaders and dictators. My ex's were not all bad. It's that they couldn't get out of their own ingrained behavior, and when you do it to my child, you are going to lose in the end. Women that are lazy, druggies, alcoholics or want sex with random guys are damaged. It's up to them to fix themselves, if they can.

People become prostitutes because they ARE damaged, either by abuse from family or someone else, or their parents forced them into becoming one by telling them they had to contribute, and they thought they could make more money selling their bodies instead of working a legitimate job. A prostitute is still a woman, with wants and desires like other women, and of course they can fall in love and get married, which is most women's dream. To be taken care of. The longer they sell their wares, the harder they become, and they look at their partners differently than a woman that has never done this. Some women come from a loving family and still look at men as ATM's, because they have friends who swayed their thinking, as many people do if they have friends that aren't looking at their best interests.

People grow apart because they never learned how to relate to someone of the opposite sex. That's learned in childhood, children watching how their parents get along. their first teachers. People who want sex with many people are damaged. You might hear that's it just a man thing, bt it's actually an immature boy's thinking. Conquering many women isn't looking at them as anything besides objects. Men that think like that shouldn't hurt a good woman's heart. Stick with paid sex, the damaged going with the damaged. Lots of guys are wrong, as well as lots of women, but the world isn't a fair place, and evil often hurts the innocents. Marriages fail for many reasons. Damaged people, greed, lack of communication, infidelity, abuse, or just plain different future plans on many things. You have definitely not read any books on the subject or not retained them, because you are again, just putting up a few words just to argue, and haven't made a valid point.

I'm not near confused but you certainly are. I fully doubt you have ever read any books on psychology. Read one book, and you'll maybe get it. Cognitive therapy by Aaron Beck. Then come back and you won't respond because then you might understand what I'm saying.

You're looking for links on subjects that I've probably read 30 years ago. That's saying the same thing I have been. Are these people just making their own opinions, or are they going by the tried and true, that all other professionals agree on? Again , some things work if they are used in couples therapy because both people are trying to make a relationship work, and either one or both don't know what makes a relationship work, so they turn to someone who has experience working with many couples and knows what advice to give them. IF they put that advice to work, it will work. People are stubborn, narcissists, depression prone, and have their own way of growing up and thinking their way is right, and sometimes what works for one couple might need to be tweaked for another. People are still people, and if they are willing to help each other, it will work.

I think Dr. Phil knows his stuff, but is more of an actor than anything else. If you ever read a book on relationships, and I'm guessing you haven't, you would see, IF you read many books on a particular subject, that they will all agree on basic principles that work. People are people, with only a few personality types, and all respond to certain stimuli. If two people grow up in a loving environment from childhood, and are attracted to each other, that relationship will be a good one, IF they both have the same future plans, about children, where to live, work, making time for each other, no infidelity or abuse on either one's part,and not letting anyone interfere in their relationship. This isn't an opinion but what has worked for many couples. Do you understand what makes a fact a fact, and an opinion an opinion. Look it up before you reply, because again, you aren't saying much by disagreeing with me.

Everyone over 60 years has experience in their own lives. Some never bother to research anything to find out the truth so just go with what they learned growing up, even if it's wrong thinking. I don't think I'm an expert. This is what I'm into, and when you're into a subject, you try and learn all you can about it. Knowledge is gained, and retained, if it's a passion with you. I married a dud 3 times, because attraction, which isn't a choice, sucked me in, and I didn't get to know those women long enough before I made a commitment to them. This happens daily to millions, and I'm as guilty of it as they are. the reason most marriages and relationships fail is because you don't take enough time to get to know the other long enough to see them in all of their ways. Some people pick partners and are lucky they "fit". Most of us don't. That doesn't mean you don't understand a woman, know how to treat them, or how to do what you're supposed to in a relationship. It means you picked someone that doesn't understand their part in a 2 person relationship, or is damaged from childhood and can't relate to others because of it.

An opinion is what you believe in your mind to be true. A fact is knowledge gained from years researching a particular subject. Research from those professionals that write books, and interview hundreds of thousands of couples and learned what helped them with problems. Some make statements garnered from that research and others might think it's an opinion. If you read 65 books on relationships, depression, narcissism, and raising children from known experts in the field, along with thousands of articles on the same thing, you gain knowledge in those subjects, just like those that go to college and learn from teachers. Teachers are those people who read books, articles and listened to professional teachers on subjects. Online use has helped many separate the facts from the bulls**t. Some things just work because they have been researched. You can't fly to the moon without researching everything you can about space flight, then applying that knowledge. You can't be a surgeon without reading and listening to other surgeons before you to understand what works. Human psychology is no different. All people do things for a reason. If they were raised in a bad environment from birth, they will be doing things that they think is normal, because that's what they saw growing up. If you're not a reader and researcher but someone who just takes what someone said as gospel because they were attractive to you, or it just sounded right at the time, you might be taking a person's opinion that knew very little about a subject, and thought it was true. When you research a subject, and see that many say the same things, that people act a certain way because of the way they were raised, then you can see them as facts and not just one person's opinion. It is what it is. You can argue the point just to argue, or you can do research on your own to find out the truth. You have proven here, to the observant, to argue just to get a response, although you might agree with what they said. Or you might not know about a particular subject, and argue it because it didn't fit in your world's views, which might be skewed.

This isn't an opinion but facts gained from reading about, listening to, trying to understand, and wanting to, know what makes a woman do what she does. I therefore don't have a narrow viewpoint but see things as they really are from experience and researching the subject for over 30 years. Many relationships fail because a woman has no father figure, and low self esteem from that. They go out into the world looking for that perfect man that doesn't exist, and some let themselves be used for attention, even if that means lowering yourself through a transaction. It's true that some hookers can be nice people, but why are they being nice? You have to understand a person's motives and wants before you understand why they do things. Women who are loathsome people are usually damaged goods, bringing past hates to their relationships, especially with men. Look to their main male role model. If they had an absent or abusive, non loving dad, they will always have low self esteem and bring that into their relationships with men. Some might separate themselves from that past bad behavior and look for a man that's the opposite of their dad, wanting love for once in their lives. Many go the other way. As far as gold diggers, they are not normal either, so you can't bring them into the realm of normal women. Falling in "love" with someone because of what they have or can give you isn't love but another transaction, and many times when that money runs low, they run away. They will never be happy, because they don't look at men as a partner but as an ATM, which as many know here, isn't a good thing. I don't get what you're meaning from your last sentence, unless it means you can always have sex with a woman because they have a vagina. That doesn't mean they want to just because they have a female organ. Many women, especially here, get bored with sex when they get older. They had the kids, did their thing, and now sex is for the man if he needs it. In fact, many here go along with the sex just for the man anyway, because not ever having a partner that understood making love starts way before the actual act, and isn't just for him to get off, but a shared experience both should be happy about. Foreplay isn't on the agenda of men here as much as the act of sex itself. This I've been told by many women, here and back in the states. And also heard it from various forums, where men have stated the same thing. She just wants to get it over with. I'm talking about a normal relationship, not one where money can buy anything you ask for, which is fake anyway.

Anyone who sells their body for money is broken. Their thinking is wired differently than a normal woman who has sex for love, security and being a partner. A transaction isn't love. They might end up with a rich man who wants a girl that's been with a hundred, or maybe way more guys. A girl that dances in a gogo with a bikini on and never goes for paid sex, and has a boyfriend is a different matter entirely. When someone has paid sex with many men, then gets married, do you think she looks at him as anything but a permanent john? You don't live with anyone besides yourself,and maybe a wife and kids, and don't know what goes on in those homes. If you take sex out of the picture, what does that leave you? Sex doesn't last forever,and when people get older, what has them stay is companionship. Maybe in time some can adjust to that, but maybe when the man isn't interested in sex any more, he starts looking at that woman as just what she was before, someone he paid for sex that never was a wife and companion, but only there for his cash. Or sometimes that woman gets older, and the man wants a younger body, so she gets tossed out like the trash.

That's the main issue with wearing masks. If they save a life here and there because particles don't reach someone that's close to you then that's their worth. They also help with not spreading colds and flu. I'd be willing to bet they have saved many lives before certain people got their vaccinations. Some people don't care about others, and their numbers are high.

There are soldiers in this world who become soldiers to protect others. Their job is to see that this is done. That is their first priority. Some people fire at soldiers first. Do you think they will sit there and get killed? Take 9-11 for one instance. There are sick people that don't like the lives of others and decide to kill them in the name of their God, which is their sick twist of what God stands for. If we didn't do anything about what happened, those in charge would still be alive and planning more attacks, which would kill not only Americans but people in other countries, just like some did here in Bangkok. Sometimes killing is necessary to protect innocent lives, as most wars have proven. You would not be where you are living if there weren't soldiers, and if you think that's false, you're living in a fantasy world. The same goes for the police forces on earth. take them away and you have chaos, and the evil ones who kill innocents and don't have a conscience will keep doing it. You not believing in a God doesn't matter to anyone else besides you, and the consequences will be only yours, unless you also teach your children the same. The billions who believe in God far outnumber those who don't, and you are calling them abnormal. We can cope with others who don't believe. All we can do is spread the word then let others, who have free will, decide for themselves.

A normal person is someone who doesn't intentionally hurt others that are innocent, respects life, including animals, protects children, and behaves according to society's rules. People go to war to protect innocents, and they sometimes have to kill. Both sides, if they are believers in God, are doing what they are told by their government, who can sometimes be an evil entity.

Why do you waste so much time trying to convince others there isn't a God? Do you think your mislead naivete is going to sway a believers faith? If you believe in the Gods of Olympus, then that's your deal. You can fantasize all you want from movies and legends that were made up. Allah is God by the way. You can't get rid of God, as he is and always will be. What you think is because something either happened to you, meaning you lost someone and blamed God for it, or were taught by parents that tried to force religion down your throat, using God as a an excuse to cause fear for you to behave. Maybe you heard some scientist say they had a reason to believe that the universe just came to be from an explosion of sorts, but that God wasn't involved because that's what he believed, although many scientists do believe there is a God. You do know how many believers there are don't you? Are all these people naive or maybe they know something you don't, or don't care to. And again, I don't believe in a man made religion. I just believe in God. I'm not a non believer in false gods. I just have common sense, and again, if there were many gods, you would definitely see a competition somewhere, as they would all like to have everyone as their followers. The real God gave us free will to choose. You chose wrong, and you will find out when you pass, because everyone talks to God eventually. None of your words convince anyone that believes, that there is no God, so again, why waste your time replying? The ones here that are believers, see you as a lost cause, someone who has no hope after this short life, and that lives the way they choose, hopefully not hurting anyone along the way. You still have a chance to change your thinking, because God still loves you.

We all do

Trust me, I don't get why so many innocents die from nonsense diseases, power hungry narcissists kill their own people and live long lives. I just understand that none of us lives forever, and I believe there is a place where there is no more pain. This world is a sick place, where rich scumbags ruin it for others, rape for profit, and couldn't care less because they have all the money they need for stupid women, Dom Perignon, Cocaine and Caviar. Hitler, Stalin, Pol Pot, Kim Jong Un, Putin,Gaddafi, and many others led their people to believe their way was right, and millions followed. many of who were Christians. Religion has killed many because some people abused it.

God hasn't changed anything since he made his laws. The vanished civilizations you speak about are all of us now. We aren't under Roman law because Rome was built by a group of narcissists, that fell because of decadence and a false sense of security of power. Spartacus was one who proved them wrong. Corruption, division of it's leaders, and others who weren't going to be controlled any longer. Evil never wins in the end. There's a reason evil loses world wars. You can't beat those with God on their side. God is way ahead of any man's thinking. What man has created the earth or anything living? You can say a man and a woman creates a child, or a male and female of any species creates their offspring, but that was because God made it happen by design.