fredwiggy

If you haven't figured out that I'm here trying to help by now, you never will.

Let them assume based on their own experiences. No one knows her or what she's doing, and comparing one girl here to another doesn't work. Girls have many reasons to shy away from their boyfriends. Fear of intimacy because of past experiences, even though she wants to trust you, it may be hard for her based on this past history. Many stay guarded and want to remain mysterious, not wanting to let someone have all of them just yet. Some test you to see what you'll do if they just up and leave for no apparent reason. They want to see if you're controlling, because previous ones may have tried to control her. Many girls date a few at a time, looking for the best for them. Nothing wrong as long as they're up front about it, and they know you're okay with it. It is true that some have Thai boyfriends, and they don't care if she has others, as long as he gets some. You can ask here and see what she says. Juggling school and more than one boyfriend isn't easy to do .A student has to study to pass subjects. It isn't like grade school here, where everyone passes no matter what they do in class. College requires study, and passing all subjects. That takes time. Does she talk about school? What are her goals? You've met her family, which Thais usually don't do unless they're serious about someone. When you met the parent(s) did they take an interest in you or look like they've seen it all before? There are plenty of shysters here, as well as plenty of girls who know what's in store if they settle with a local, or with a farang instead. A smart girl will want to settle down with someone who's not only attractive to them, but isn't a bum, and that has mutual interests and future plans. Time spent talking to each other tells a lot. When she's in the other room on her phone, ask her to sit down and watch a show or just talk. Some are addicted to their phones. It doesn't mean you aren't on their minds. Some have to be coaxed to get away from media.They don't talk to one another much here, meaning men and women, like we do in the US and other countries. It's usually the girls talking with the girls, the boys with the boys. I've observed this as long as I've been here, but women are all the same as far as one thing is concerned. If they talk to you, you listen, meaning really listen. That part of communication has no borders. Women respond to someone who takes an interest in what they have to say. Men don't usually understand that, especially here. If you can stand out, she will choose you, unless of course she has a lot of baggage she can't get over. A girl with daddy issues with be a serial dater, not staying with anyone because no one can compare to that missing "perfect" father she fantasizes about. Let no one tell you what's right for you. No one is living your life and doesn't know her at all.

Try looking at my posts to see that I am trying to help others. Calling someone stupid because they disagree with your opinions makes you look more the pillock. I don't have a definition of narcissism, the dictionary does. If you understood what an empath is, you would see that it's someone that can feel what others feel, quite the opposite of a narcissist who thinks they are always right. I always respond directly to anyone who contradicts my views, as I've been doing with you all along. I didn't say anyone said ALL students. I said when someone says the girl students here all service the Thai males more than farangs, he is making an opinion. Maybe his opinion was right, mainly because there are millions more Thai males than farang males. Do you understand? Anyone that says most girl students do anything is making an opinion. Are there any studies shown that this is true? Studies have people who lie, exaggerate, and tell the truth. Besides that, there are, like I said, people who make opinions based on what others tell them. You getting all bent out of shape because I'm sticking up for the girl students that I think are not doing what he said they are is out of line. I know what goes on in college dorms, and have since the 70's. If you take the whole population of girls that are college age, from 17-25, do you think these girls are having more sex than the average village girl with no or little prospects besides hopefully finding someone that might marry them and help with the kids they make? The students have a lot more to do than the average girls, meaning studies, and haven't as much time on their hands as girls that are back living at home. Doesn't mean they aren't having sex. Just not like the average Thai girls do. If you think that's an opinion, so be it.

Thinking I'm a hypocrite shows you aren't understanding what I write. You believing his side, where he said most UNI students are servicing Thai males, is wrong. I don't need to prove otherwise to know this is a statement based on him talking to a few locals who gave him his opinion to make. I didn't say some students don't act this way. They do this in America and anywhere else for that matter. Teen pregnancies have been happening as long as we've been living, and some are girls going to college. He made it sound like most, I made it sound like some.

If you read all of what he's been saying about what this girl does, both with him and in her spare time, as far as he can see, she's at school most of the time, has spent days alone with him, he isn't shelling out any money besides dating cash, and he's met her family. Something that's usually done here when a woman is serious about someone. Of course anyone can hide a lot of things, even at her age, but that's something he has to find out for himself in time. Why tell someone to run when you nor anyone else knows what's going on in her life? Jealous that he might have one of the good ones perhaps? And saying she might have a jealous boyfriend or husband on yaba while there are many here that date and marry bar girls, who have a thousand fold more chance of carrying an STD than a University student, have boyfriends and maybe husbands on the side, and are forthcoming with asking for money right off the bat? A "distinguished" poster won't tell someone who's happy with a girl to run. None of us know anything besides what he has told us. Are there red flags? Maybe, maybe not. We aren't living his life. Only hearing a few words about it. He wanted advice. Giving advice doesn't mean telling him to do what you think is right based on being burned by a few Thai girls, but what you think will work for HIM. Like one just said, we aren't supposed to be Dr. Phil. True, some just like to have a few laughs, but some , as I've seen here many times, like to help. I would much rather think someone dating a bar girl would be in more danger than one dating a college student.

One could say exactly the same about you, and in your case, be right. I always consider alternate viewpoints, as that's how one learns all sides, and not only that, finds out what the facts are. Some sides happen to be wrong, and I don't make opinions but go mostly by research of proven facts. I don't form beliefs but see things as they are. When someone says the girl students here all service Thai males more than farangs, he is making an opinion based on listening to these fools you speak of, and not on proven facts. Was I wrong disagreeing with him and stating that not all students service Thai and farang males, or do you foolishly agree with him and go by what a few people say? Anyone who sees my posts and thinks I'm some kind of troll is not only a moron, but can't see that I'm usually trying to help others, quite the opposite of many here who are narcissists that think they are right with their opinions , and jealous because they aren't trying to help but antagonize others because that's all they know.

Sure did

Never said it's the worst place on earth, only about the most boring, meaning Isaan and not Thailand. Not picky wanting to spend my retirement days doing things I enjoy. that's why I'll be going back as soon as possible.

It simply amazes me with so many who assume they know who or what a person here is just by them posting a few lines. How can you possibly conclude he is a virgin, a troll, or incompatible? Cultural differences mean something, but not near what basic man and women relationship factors do. People are people everywhere, and all act on the same kind of impulses, emotions and feelings. There are only a few different personality types, and that includes everyone on earth. Anyone can be compatible with anyone else they are attracted to, at least until they start talking. Then it comes down to good communication skills, trust, and having a background that hopefully doesn't include damage from parental figures. A 10 year difference is very small, and the thinking is pretty much the same, as soon as you are an adult, meaning past the age of 21. If someone is a teenager and the other is late twenties or older, then you'll have trouble relating, because the teenager isn't developed as far as maturity and life experiences. She and him can easily get along if they both have mutual interests and future goals. Attraction is obviously already there. He isn't paying her way besides dating, and she is staying with him overnights. A woman in her twenties does not have 100's of friends. Most people only have a small circle that they spend much time with. The rest are just acquaintances or friends of friends. Adding people on Facebook doesn't make them friends and companions. As far as everyone knowing about him. Thais hear what other Thais say to them about farangs, and a lot of it is BS. Judging a whole by hearing about a few means nothing. A lot of farangs buy their women here and pay a lot of money to keep them around, which makes it look like that's the way we all operate. The only real way a Thai knows what western life is about is to move there and live it. Hearsay brainwashes many. Believing their friends leads to a big letdown or unrealistic expectations. Having a good male role model is the most important thing a girl can have growing up. This one isn't asking for money and neither is her family. They might not. Some Thais work their way up through College and want to be independent, and unlike the BS some have stated, most girls in college aren't servicing Thai men because most are smart enough to know it's a complete waste of time.

Long drive from the beach, which is an attraction, although some might not care. Fishing and hunting are things I enjoy. No hunting here and fishing is only good in private lakes and a few reservoirs that are far away, with the exception of Sirindhorn, where you need a decent boat. Not anything besides a social drinker, and getting drunk every day isn't my thing, although you can do that anywhere. Boredom drives many to drink more also. If you've seen a few large temples, you've pretty much seen what's to ofer, although being a Christian, they are only something to see being curious of other religions and beliefs. Hill tribes are around Chiang Mai, and though I haven't yet seen them, that's not something you'll visit very often. The food is good, but you can go anywhere and eat good Thai food. Isaan is a great place to grow food, but as far as having anything to do, there isn't much. There aren't any pro sports stadiums to watch teams play like back home. They rarely have concerts in Thailand with music that I like., and none around here anyway. Thai music is okay, but not near what I'm into anyway. There is only one gym about 30 KM from where I live, but it doesn't open until 14;00, which is very inconvenient for me, as I've worked out 50 years , mostly early mornings. Pretty much to me is a boring place.

I asked him for proof of his opinion. He hasn't any. A short paragraph asking for proof and making a statement believing most girl students don't get paid to service Thai males more than farangs is hardly rambling, except maybe to one who cannot comprehend it. Or can you prove my sweeping generalization doesn't hold water?

Far from it pal. Like I said, show me proof or don't reply. Your opinion means nothing, nor does anyone else's here, just because somebody told you something. "Oh, I know someone who told me all girl students service more Thai males than farang males". That IS naive.

Show me a link that might prove that. Word of mouth here, or anywhere for that matter, means nothing. People have their own agendas as far as commenting on other women here. many have been burned and think all women are greedy whores. My ex here was a real narcissist, a liar and disturbed, mainly because of her childhood. Doesn't mean I think all women here are bad. "Servicing" Thai males leads to nothing but being used, and a lot already know this. I would think the majority of girls going to a University don't bother much with men here. Furthering their education is a main reason not to rely on someone who won't stay after a child is born, nor help out financially. Most girls are attracted to boys, but smart ones won't waste their time when trying to have a better future for themselves.

If the posts are going to be on government land, they are the ones to ask. The property owners bordering this government land should not have any say so.

That's saying all Thai women are into getting money from boyfriends? How much do you think locals give for an allowance here? This one is a student, and not all students pay their way sleeping around with farangs. Some have families that actually do the part of parenting , are in two parent households, and help their kids further their education. When a woman has had kids already with a local that left town, and they had to raise the kids themselves or with help from grandma, those are the ones that will hope they find someone who will help them out, as is the case with many of us here that help support a girlfriend. Yes, there are many that feed off of farangs that don't live here, and send them money, and the plethora of greedy bar girls and women who won't work. This again, is a student, so give them the benefit of the doubt, and stop assuming the worse. She might be a keeper, or not. In time he will find out.

My son has his basic license,and is trying for commercial now.

Globalhouse carries Makita tools. Not sure if they have the right one you're looking for.

Maybe but true.

I love all fruits, but sometimes , like everyone else on earth, things don't go well down inside. I've eaten very healthy all of my life, with few exceptions , yet still get stomach trouble. Some things just don't mix, and some things you can be allergic to, and eat them all your life. The only way to know is an expensive food allergy test. Wheat can be handled by many, but hurt some. Rice is the least allergenic of all grains, but some might have trouble with it, especially here, where it's eaten every meal. Cow's milk is one of the most allergenic of foods, but it's promoted worldwide, especially to children, who can go without it and still thrive. Peanuts and shellfish are very healthy, but can kill some. Trial and error.

A woman that's been damaged can be the best partner you'll ever have, or the toughest nut to crack. All depends on her ability to trust again. When a woman wants to be with a man, and vice-versa, they have to trust 100%, and that can bring damage to them if the other partner doesn't act the part. Attraction is easy. It's not a choice. Actually loving someone unconditionally is the hard part.

Yes, or album, like that person said. I myself have thousands of cd's. but when I talk to friends, I'll say I have their new album. It's ingrained.

I was just responding to what I saw as also a sarcastic reply. Not an insult. It's still referred to videotaping by many, although it can be either. No tape involved, no film, but still in the minds of many. This is an answer one made.............. We still say “turn on” the light even though light switches are no longer rotary. (I’ve heard that this goes back further to gas lamps with rotary valves.) We still say “redial” for repeating a phone call, even though telephones no longer have dials. We still say “tape” for recording a TV show, even though the tape-based VCR is obsolete. “Film” is a shorter, simpler word than “record” or even “video”, and it implies a “voice and video” recording like with a film camera, even though most of us have never owned or used a “video film” camera in our lives. I barely remember the days of 8mm and 16mm amateur recording and I’m on the far side of 45. But it’s been going on for a long time. We refer to a collection of music as an “album”, even though it’s been on one CD or LP record - it goes back to the days of a stack of 72rpm records (with one song each) forming a collection, being stored in a binder with pockets in each page for each record, much like a “photo album” had pockets for individual photos. The LP record (33–1/3 rpm) has been around for over 70 years - at 23 minutes per side, that gave your typical artist anywhere between 11 and 15 songs (at 3–4 minutes each).

Isaan is one of the most boring places on earth, so that's a legitimate statement, although there are things you can do together if she went along. Movies, lunch or dinner dates, walks together. Getting them off their phones without a crowbar isn't easy. no matter the age.

Exactly, and was a big reason my ex and I divorced. I tried to help, explaining things, most of which she didn't , or didn't want to understand. If you don't communicate daily, trouble happens. They they resort to their friends, phones or silence.

Both replies might be right on because of possible childhood trauma. More than 35% of children here are raised by grandparents, some of whom may be illiterate, abusive or neglectful. Kids without parental contact suffer a lot going into adolescence. Being in her twenties and always on the phone is normal here, because that's what they all see with their friends, and many parents. Control from authoritarian caregivers teaches them they cannot speak without reprisal, and that continues in schools here. Stunted growth and fear of being able to speak your mind. She might like sex but fears it and intimacy for a number of reasons.