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19 hours ago, Lacessit said:

I guess people over 80 can't have any sex, according to the data in the OP.

Not with the ailing 80 yr old wife, but at least 3 times a week with the 40 yr old GF.

I wasn't looking for a new relationship or a particular age gap but I couldn't take my eyes off of her  when she jumped into my life ten years ago.  She was 31 and I was 72.  We still make each other very happy. We talk every day.  I visit 4 months a year.  She's still a "10" at 41 and I'm told I look younger than 82.

I'm amazed that all of the last dozen or so posts have taken solace in cynicism about the 70-year old guy satisfying the 40- something except financially.  Does it make it easier just to assume that everything is transactional and we are out of the trade past 70 or 80?  If at 82 I just gave up, I wouldn't hear the delicious moans of multiple orgasms and the "thank-you"s from my gorgeous 41 year old partner, who btw has no other partner and hasn't since we got together ten years ago.  You don't have to be sexually active past a certain age.  But if you aren't, you don't need an excuse and you don't have to blame all women.

7 hours ago, JimTripper said:

 

It actually dropped for me. I don’t desire sex as much as I did when I was younger. In fact, I barely want it now. Maybe one time a week is plenty for me. I’m ok with that. There’s no reason to have a lot of sex if the desire is not there.

Desire often does decline with age.  I was just objecting to the poster's comment that "Over 70, you surely have to think the end is near. Sex is the last thing I would hope I wouldn't want/need. I'd hope I wanted to go to a temple, meditate, yoga etc." as ageist.  

Actually I agree with the sentiment that over 70 "Sex is the last thing I would hope I wouldn't want/need"  but I think the poster meant the opposite.

1 hour ago, Chicksaw said:

Yep, it's weird but making someone else smile is the ticket to being happy.

It's reciprocal.  We make each other smile.  It also takes mutual trust, especially across such chasms of culture and age.  It can be much easier to read foreign behavior suspiciously instead of with a leap of faith.  But the suspicious response can destroy everything while the trust saves and builds.

On 6/8/2023 at 9:46 PM, Neeranam said:

Possibly, but not in a few years. Over 70, you surely have to think the end is near. Sex is the last thing I would hope I wouldn't want/need. I'd hope I wanted to go to a temple, meditate, yoga etc.

I'm always surprised to see such ageist comments on a forum like this with such an older demographic.  Sex doesn't cease to be a source of pleasure at any age.  

On 6/6/2023 at 12:50 AM, LaosLover said:

I notice that the oldies here with 15-20 years younger partners all started these relationships when they were a lot less old. Could they get those partners today? Prob not. 

So much of this is in the mind.  This 80 year oldie with a 40 year younger partner started with her 10 years ago.  Although she is just as much a stunner as she was then, she thinks she is no longer young enough to start out.  I feel younger than I did then.  I would probably pursue her more confidently today (thanks to the confidence she has given me).

53 minutes ago, Dionigi said:

Ask the 43 year old everyone else is guessing

When I ask my 41 year old how this soon-to-be 82 year old satisfies her, she says the equivalent of I've made her middle class (raised her high).  Happy?  Yes happy.  What more could I do?  Nothing.  You're "perfect."  (limited English.} Swears she'll always take care of me.  Thinks about time she'll push me around in a wheel chair.  UGH!

Sex? She enjoys it and thanks me afterwards, but doesn't ask or initiate.  Frequency and variety leave something to be desired.  {I'd prefer daily to weekly.}  She says she wants to increase libido, but suffers hormonally after turning 40.  "No longer a young girl,"  she says.  Could've fooled me.

There has been a lot said about money here (probably true) and a little about culture, Thai vs. other Asian (definitely true), but nothing about our own changing self perceptions.  I think age difference feels increasingly appropriate for me as I experience it.  BT (Before Thailand) I saw only the jnappropriateness of a 40 year gender gap.  Living it for the last ten years has made me more accepting and expecting.  BT no 40 year younger cutie would look me in the eye, much less smile at me on the streets of New York.  Now some do.  I carry on a flirtation with a pretty Peruvian waitress who wants to travel with me.  I was chatted up by an attractive Ukrainian artist the other day (yes, maybe she wanted asylum).  Both 40, looking 30.  The world has changed. But my point is that I have changed.  I smile at them.  I go to the gym.  I lost weight and keep trim.  I feel younger.  Maybe I'm no longer so much older than my Thai GF who used to be so young.  Maybe Thailand is no longer the only place I could please a beauty 40 years younger.

I have the deepest gratitude for the lifeguard who literally saved my life.  But I can't stop comparing my fate to that of 24 year-old Artur.  I expect to be 82 in a few days.  He will never be 25.  I have a GF who watched me from the hotel balcony, witnessed me being pulled out to sea before I knew it, ran down to the beach and emphatically told the life guard he had to pull me out, that I wasn't able to get out myself.  Artur had to rely on the system.

"Lifeguards informed the police that they had been notified of the Kazakhstan tourist’s unconscious state approximately five minutes before their arrival. " 

I'm having trouble imagining how that transpired.  They? notified?  approximately five minutes?  before their arrival?

3 hours ago, mania said:

I would like to give Andorra a try ????

 

But truthfully my wife & I are very happy as is with not much money but a great home paid for in our current country & a paid for home in Thailand where we visit 3 months a year.

 

Almost every day though we ask ourselves would we like to go back to full time in Thailand & in many ways we would (We previously lived full time in Thailand from 2011-2017)

 

But as it stands we live in a beautiful mountain setting here at 4000' elevation & temperatures are always between 13-23c & crystal clear air quality AQI averages under 10

 

Again we are not rich but happy. We are not sure why we even question going back to full time in Thailand...

 

I guess family & there is always something we miss...albeit much we also do not miss too...Immigration,bad air, dangerous roads,heat 555

What country has the "beautiful mountain setting here at 4000' elevation & temperatures are always between 13-23c & crystal clear air quality AQI averages under 10?"  Sounds idyllic.

I've been there, turning seventy, taking solace in my lost libido, relishing relaxation without angst.  Those were the days.  Then she appeared and bid me into her life.  I couldn't turn away for days, then weeks and months.  Now ten years later I am enjoying my eighties more than any other time.  Lost weight, look younger, returned to need, and great satisfaction.

I'll take Manhattan March through September; Thailand October through February (Phuket, probably).  I can do that now.   With extra money I would take more trips, travel more, and up the scale.

42 minutes ago, LaosLover said:

who has felt it's sting as a property owner?

Donald Trump and some of the richest people in Manhattan.

I was accepted to the PC in 1963 or '64 for a "malaria eradication project."  All I could think of was the buzzing mosquitos, so I turned it down.  Stayed home and married two Italian-Americans in  succession.  Fifty years later, I found a much younger future wife.  I just wish I had taken the opportunity to learn Thai when I had a brain as young as hers.  

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3 hours ago, Hummin said:

Tell us your story.

 

Fake it to you make it, someone said

"Fake it till you make it" is what someone said.  But I'm not sure of the point.  There is nothing fake about a chemically aided orgasm, or the smiles it produces.

You want my story or Chalawaan's?  What has to be explained?

3 hours ago, chalawaan said:

Let it go.

If you were meant to be shagadelic after 60 you'd have the nuts for it naturally.

Like blokes who dye their hair, sad and extremely obvious, making it even sadder. 

 

We do alot of things that nature hasn't prepared us for very well.  If we were meant to fly we would be born with wings.  Blokes with obvious hair dye just haven't done it very well.  Women with dyed hair don't sadden you.  Most of the time you don't even know it's died.  And it doen't seem to sadden the guy who does it. Or the girl on his arm.  Just tell my GF you think I should let it go.  She'll think you want to sadden two peole.

3 hours ago, Hummin said:

Tadalafil produce Hair?

No.  Finesteride does, but it also lowers libido.

I had a bad lower back 40 years ago.  Chiropractor diagnosed short hamstrings and prescribed stretches and exercise which seem to have worked.  Over last 30 years I have also taken TRT (patches and gell) which have increased vitality considerably.  I Also take tadalafil (5mg daily).  But no HCG (yet).  I think the tadalafil counters daily 5mg of finasteride which produces hair at the expense of libido.  I also take tamsulosin (4mg daily) which eases prostate but reduces or reverses ejaculation.  A walking pharmacy.  But still satisfying my 40yr-younger half at 82.

Going out socializing at night has lost much of its allure.  Maybe partly because of age (81).  But also from jet lag.  It takes a week or two to adjust to Thai time after flights from New York.  So I'm awake before sunrise and tiring by sunset.  My GF (41) adjusts easily to the increased relaxing time without having to go out at night to socialize, which she hasn't enjoyed anyway since her early thirties.  She prefers just being with me, which is fine.  Back in New York, jet lag works the same way: I'm in bed by 9.  No more concerts or plays as in my younger days but that's because of my wife's illness.  One consequence of age is that the old friends I haven't lost are less mobil and I do less when I'm alone.

15 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Will the OP get the message or continue on IMO his path of destruction?

I know I must test your patience, but here's what I don't understand:  You seem to say a villa purchase is a complete scam, but these are big ticket deals: Villas are close to a million dollars, or more; The Thai-based international company that owns the land provides villa buyer with shares in the company so (they say) lessor and lessee are one and the same;  The owner of the villa is a foreigner (like me) who presumably is able to sell what he bought and get his baht back.  Whether or not the agreement is registered at the land office doesn't seem to matter.  What am I missing?  And thanks for your patience.