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Since I may be partly responsible for raising the issue of boredom, let me clarify a personal matter. I wasn't suggesting that living in LOS was inevitably boring. Maybe some places are but certainly not all. I remember years ago a TV member describing Hua Hin as littered with the bodies of expats who had died of boredom. And now I have just moved to the rural outskirts of Hua Hin. But it's personal and comparative. I'm used to living in Manhattan where I plan on doing half-years. Spring and summer, I think. Any change of pace or scene has to lessen boredom at some level.

Sorry, I don't get it. You didn't leave Thailand or earlier patrie?

Do you become an expat by living in Thailand half the year, as I plan, or does it have to be the full year? A half year here and a half year there should decrease the boredom potential but it means putting down roots in both places. I just got the Thai house. The next step is the even more difficult job of getting a Fiance Visa to be with the GF in both places. We're doing this a bit later than you advise (in our 40s and 80s), but you can never do it earlier than you are.

No, the Kama Sutra would be appropriate karma.

I'm awake with the sun--from 6:30 to 6:30. Sometimes 7-7; even 7-8, never 7-11.

Thanks, Dad. I've only be doing this for 70 years--to better and better reviews. Enough time to learn that "typically" and"Generally" don't count.

You've never met me either. That what turns anonymity into useful social information.

In 10 minutes of mouth and lip action, she comes multiple times, thanks me profusely, and tells me to turn over to return the favor.

There may come a time when the gell doesn't work, but there are other ways of getting testosterone, including injections. I consider myself lucky in having the partner I have, but I work at replacing declining T. My urologist prescribes it. And I increase dosage rather than give up.

(Asking about testosterone gel) I get the Andro Gel in New York. ( It's made in Mexico.) I've also gotten packets of testosterone gel at Fascino's in Pranburi. There's also a Fascino's in Market Village, Hua Hin. (I haven't tried them.)

At 83 I use testosterone gel (Andro-gel) and 20mg of tadalafil (cialis) daily. No side-effects to speak of. Not as vigorous as I was in my 70s, but I stay engaged and enjoy it. And my GF doesn't have the energy she had ten years ago in her 30s. I'm getting her to take progesterone. These "pharmaceuticals" aren't more chemical than the hormones they replace.

I just bought my first lease for a Thai rental (6 mos in Hua Hin), for 1/3 the cost of my partly subsidized long term rental in Manhattan. Biggest advantage is the face I wake up to and kiss good-night. Restaurants in NY are better, but I eat well enough in Thailand. I can read the New York Times online (though I prefer the paper) and I can listen to WQXR on my laptop (though I prefer the radio). I can't give up NY but I expect to bring my TGF there for March to August. Wish me luck.

1st stage has been my visiting for vacations about four times a year, a few weeks at a time. Now entering second stage, renting a house together for her residence and my longer and more frequent visits. Nice feel having our own home together, even if I have to return to New York frequently to supervise legal wife's hospice care. I imagine a third stage post mortem, living half a year in our Thai home and half a year in NY.

What makes you feel sick? Is it an old guy enjoying life?

I've just turned 83 and find I need more of a kick so I upped cialis from 10 to 20 mg a day which helps. I might also have to drop finasteride or just take topical version for my hair. Cialis (tadalafil) is prescribed for both ED and BPH. May also consider upping testosterone from gel to injections. I have no interest in giving up sex. Nor does my 42 yr old GF/wife. Even though her main enjoyment is the multiple orgasms from my cunnilingus.

Regular seasonal back and forth between Manhattan and Thailand is still aspirational, though we are now 83 and 42. For last ten years I’ve been limited to vacation visits to Thailand—3-4 a year, each for about a month. Those are tours and beach holidays, not enough time to get bored. Versus never a dull moment in NYC. Mia noi has hands full in Bangkok for another couple years before boys leave home, but we imagine a modest beach area house, likely south of Hua Hin, especially for cool season. Meanwhile much of day and night in NY involves care of wife in late stage Alzheimer's.

If I marry my GF of ten years, it will likely be to enable her to get a visa to come to the U.S.

Retired at 81-and never looked back! Thought I would regret giving up a 60 year career teaching. Learned a thing or two since. Both good work and freedom can be very satisfying.

In our 30s and 70s, she stayed 20 and I lost a couple of year each anniversary. Now that we're in our 40s and 80s, she complains "I'm not a young girl anymore." I don't believe her.

I too grew up in an overwhelmingly Jewish community. My Irish Catholic mother once asked me why I didn't have any Christian friends. All my closest friends in college were also Jewish. They taught me how to think. Without them I may not have graduated. With their influence I became curious and thoughtful. Though not particularly funny. They saved my bacon. And they were the first people to show me that Israel was not what it purported to be, but a model of settler colonialism--and that was in the 1960s.

60 years ago I had little idea of what the vagina looked like or how it cold be stimulated by mouth and tongue to multiple orgasms. I was in too much of a hurry to satisfy myself.

My girlfriend/wife is 40 years younger. I'm 82 she's 42. We've been together exclusively for the last 10 years. She still takes my breath away. I support her financially as completely as my father supported my mother and five kids in the 1940s and '50s. She devotes herself to the care and education of her son and nephew. She never complains. I'm no Brad Pitt but I'm not fat or bald or infirm. I'm also far more generous and skilled in the bedroom than I was in my twenties and thirties. I think it fair to say we are both much happier than we ever were before.

I appreciate the info in the post even though I'm not a Pattaya denizen. I have had two experiences in Bangkok-Phuket hospital in the last few months and they both were excellent. I couldn't recommend it more strongly. Not cheap, but excellent value.

I'm sure no two cases are the same, but I can tell you a few things I've learned caring for my wife in New York who does have dementia (diagnosed ten years ago and is now immobile). 1. It is enormously preferable to keep the patient at home if possible. In the US, institutions established that during covid. Even at home, 4-5 years ago my wife would sometimes say (she was still talking) she wanted to go home (meaning her bedroom). 2. Continuity of setting and care is also preferable. Two or three constant care givers is better than different ones sent each day. 3. It's very important to have care-givers who can engage patient, not just do the tasks. 4. Don't assume there is nothing going on in her mind. Don't talk baby-talk. She hears everything and processes more than you think, even if she is not talking. 5 Try to keep her exercising however is suitable.

While I don't see any evidence here, I wonder if it might be time to consider the impact of global warming. Certainly the air quality is a continuing problem. But this hot season seems to be setting records, no? 97-102 F highs in BKK last two weeks? My Thai mia noi who wants a sweater at 75 F is running the AC all day, complaining it's Hot, Hot, Hot, and willing to come to New York.