LaosLover

Man, this in English-level passive aggression: Not sher wot yer goin' on about, moyt. Most people enjoy a drink or two without a death wish or a problem. Your's is an extreme position. I never met a brit Mormon, so this is a great day for me.

When I saw that, I thought about how my dental waterpik would come in handy.

Big-B was very down on suicide. You'd be lucky to come back as smegma. I agree on the right to die, but only philosophically, not practically. I've now been in 3 "kill me when it gets bad" situations. Every time, at Fentanyl cocktail-time, it was "N-n-not so fast, I want to finish watching Breaking Bad". It's a tiny % of people who really do want to end their lives early. In the states, we have assisted suicide by stealth. It's called the hospice system. When you're suffering, they will keep on upping the morphine IV drip -until eventually you just pass on over. In the UK too. I prefer that guilt-free method on this thorny issue.

I asked my brain surgeon of I'd be able to play the piano afterwards. He said yes. I said: "That's funny, I couldn't play it before."

In that case, I'd be the one keeping the conversation along the lines of Somtum is good.

If you're even here on this board, you're freer, less hung up, and more adventurous than your peers. And that will only increase as you get older.

Uh-huh, or at least that was the case with me. Some Bangkok Bank branches are a light touch, some aren't. For me, the cost was folded into a tourist visa extension I was getting. It was a 1,000 baht add-on.

I just rented a 6 month place in Nimman area, Chiang Mai. I used a real estate agent. Like me, you want to rent in a particularly western-friendly area. It's easier to find a good agent in person, rather than from afar. Since competition is a little fierce now, know what you want, establish a relationship with an agent, and keep in touch. I offered my agent a reward to find me my place. I'm told that in general, demand at the moment is such that there is less inclination to rent for less than a year. But it is doable. I have also heard of people approaching AirBNB owners directly for a longer term discount.

You sound very emotionally balanced. What are you doing here? Me neither, by the way. But then again, I have it on tap.

This board would a useful antidote to people stuck in the mono-image of a fat German (why always German? Why always fat?) with an abused and innocent waif abducted from a rice paddy. But people have a vested interest in projecting their OWN relationship dysfunctions on to conveniently made up stereotypes.

Good looks, brains, and empathy. Generally speaking in romance-land, pick 2.

100%. We are all selective in our puritanism. I was asking how bad the smoke season would be in Chiang Mai and if I should relocate to Hua Him for a couple of months. Said a long timer: "Uh, about that spliff you're smoking right now?".

It's 100% against my religion to post anything serious here, BUT I too had a long-term care responsibility for a deceased wife. I went 4 years without a break of any kind. It def did my head in. I super-support you in being rational and getting some respite and emotional sustenance during your noble and very draining caretaking of your beloved wife.

I'd like to see an Nang Kwak appreciation forum. I never tire of the endless variations of that busty prosperity goddess. A guy standing outside of McDonalds on Nimman Road was selling terrible, amateurish sketches. I commissioned him to do a nude Nang Kwak drawing (for a lesbian friend back home who I occasionally send Nang Kwaks to). He couldn't bring himself to do it. All I got was big breasts, with painted over nipples. Nang Kwak was just too much of a saint to show nude (tho I do have a naked wooden Nang Kwak from the Vietnam War era), So a forum where I could discuss all things Nang Kwak would be very helpful to me.

And she was in the music biz. She was one of the first to book a RadioHead show in the states. And she can talk about stuff like that in a witty, informative, low-ego manner. And she loves a good chat. I can see them thinking, as they ignore their local GF in an Italian restaurant: "If I could somehow unscrew that head and stick it on a petite Thai body....."

My 59 year old white American wife is constantly chatted up by western men, often with Thai partners at their side. They don't want to have sex with her -they'd rather die. They want to talk to an educated female about something beyond "Somtum is good". She's 100% in on the joke that she's the ham sandwich that got brought to the Thailand picnic. She's non-judgmental and fascinated by the GF dynamic over here. I'm thinking of setting her up with an Only Fans account. No nudity, but she will talk to saddo's trapped in Issan about Trump, Brexit, and old movies and music. Call it 50 baht a minute for her time.

How much are you loving it here?

Translation: If you say you don't drink much, that is iron-clad proof that YOU DO!!!!!!! My sister goes by similar logic. Many victims of sexual abuse have repressed memories about it. She personally doesn't recall being sexually abused at all. That's iron-clad proof that SHE WAS!!!!!!!!

At an average of less than half an alcohol unit a day, you sort of have the wrong guy to offer up your free psychotherapy to. For meeting people and shooting the breeze, drinker or not, a bar is hard to beat. It's only been popular for about 800 years, so your point of view may yet prevail.

No one likes a Johnny No-mates who's hanging around the smoothie bar after they finish their smoothie. On the internet, people are always being urged to join a hiking group to meet people. This has resulted in women forming women-only hiking groups so they can hike in peace. I really want to respect other people's fitness process; and hope that I someday, somehow acquire one myself.

If you're of a certain age and from the states, you've thrown up tequila through your nose at least a half a dozen times. For some, that's a gateway to ordering up bottles of Patron, for others its a message to pick a more nasal-friendly thing to binge on.

I like the idea of gym-socializing, but everyone there seems to just want to do their thing and not have conversations. Since I have to literally force myself to go there and exercise, I too just want to get it over with. Obviously, Metoo# means avoiding even casual eye contact with any women there. I have heard about "locker room talk" my whole life, where strangers might potentially want to talk about women and sex with me, while showering, but I think: 1) It's a ridiculous myth and it never happened in the real world even one time. 2) It possibly happens (like in the navy or something), but wiould never happen to me.

So where are non-drinkers socializing? Starbucks? Because downing four expresso's isn't that great for you either. Also, I am much more prone to eat something unhealthy in a Starbucks than a bar. I know from getting laughed at in the other thread that this is not a crowd that's going chit chat in a pot bar. Maybe Swenson's?

Cognac-guy, I keep my bit of booze in the freezer. Since most drinks are iced, it always seems backwards not to.

I'm good for about 3-4 alcohol units a week (decent rum, usually). How is that any worse health-wise than having a big slice of chocolate cake? Just had some chili clams in Chinatown, Singapore. A double Laphroaig whiskey is only $8 US. Lovely together. High end whiskey at a bar is a rare Singapore deal. Skip the Singapore Sling: cherry liqueur and gin together is the worst idea ever. In high school, we had a drink called the Purple Jesus: cough syrup and low grade vodka. A Singapore is the lesser version of that. I def love the Japanese high ball idea - a shot and a big glug of club soda in a tall glass with lots of ice. So refreshing.