Prubangboy

5 minutes ago, whistersniff said:

Sick? 

I'd go more with driven mad by a dead marriage. And now blindly, crazily hoping for an unstable third party to make you right.

Let's review:

-can't look on the internet

-hopefully nixed the library-approach idea

-don't have endless hours to hang out in coffee bars on an off chance

-don't have a lot of money, nor exactly a winning personality.

Luckily, there is a poster here who pops over to Thailand regularly, rents a motorcycle, and on the sheer verve of his personality, gets many women to drop what they're doing, hop on the back of his bike, AND then sexually satisfy him for his trip duration, in exchange for a few meals and the odd non-chain shop coffee, size small.

Find him here, study at his feet. He's already living your dream.

I think happily back on the various no-hopers who dreamed of mentoring my BPD relative in return for kinky sex.

One was a Christian minister who had a Christian big band. I followed his Youtube channel, the only one I ever subscribed to.

He told movingly about how his kid had given up the pittance she saved for a bike to support the Christian big band.

And the kid was showing off a new Fendi bag a week later.

Sad ending: She blackmailed him, took $5k off of him. To my great regret, afterwards the Christian big band soon broke up. Did he ever even get in? 

No.

34 minutes ago, whistersniff said:

But I'm looking for something more than one hour with a person for sex.

 

 

 

This one hour/sex thing seems to be the major sticking point, now that my soup with hookers gambit has been airily waved away.

How much time do you want to spend with this person?

What non-sex activities do you seek? Why, rationally-speaking would they want to do them with you?

Do you see yourself perhaps releasing doves from a cage at a temple? Because I want you to have very special moments like that.

What else in on the good times agenda that doesn't involve condoms?

I am trying to book Bhutan and everyone is still quoting $200. When I ask why, they don't answer.

1 hour ago, whistersniff said:

 for privacy purposes.

39 minutes ago, whistersniff said:

I am willing to pay, but not for a one and done transactional experience (i.e., hooker).  

What about going to the same hooker several times, or even regularly on an on-going basis?

You know, getting to know her, taking her out for big bowls of soup like they like?

Pros: Easy to implement, they're mostly nice people, soup is cheap.

Cons: They are flat out hookers, not grey area hookers like you prefer.

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

In Saudi I had a western supervisor that converted to Islam.

You always hear about 'Islam, but wha' about 'er lamb?

(Bernard Manning was a comedy god).

36 minutes ago, whistersniff said:

I don't use internet dating sites for privacy purposes.

-And yet, and yet, hanging around in coffee shops, disco's and approaching little hotties at the mall can some how be done invisibly?

The best trolls on this thread were the wits who urged you to skulk around in college libraries: "Mistah, why you no can find book"?

Are you in a dead bedroom situation? My sympathy, been there, done that. But many are as well, and are seeking your kind of relationship.

I don't think the sugar lifestyle forum is wrong; it exactly replicates the ups and downs of these relationships as I observed them with my relative and her friends.

You sound like my friend who was trapped in a bad marriage and wanted a long-term female hook up.

I said, "walk me through this, who is this woman who's attractive and sexual, but finds married-you to be her best option out of many?" 

He said: "Maybe someone who's husband is dying of cancer".

I said; "God just did not make enough of them to go around. And a lot of them will be fatties. Plus, a lot mopey whining about the cancer". His plan made more sense than your's.

Who is this woman who wants to sit on your old (but fit) face, when so many other better and less complicated faces beckon?

What's your monthly budget for said face-sitting?

It's hilarious that he don't use the brains that God gave him and just go to an internet Sugar dating site.

But noooo, he wants to meet his little nymph in the wild, at a coffee bar perhaps.

Why won't anyone tell him where this magic coffee bar is? He's asking outright: where is the coffee bar?

Is this moribund website only fit for dentist recco's and solar panel discussions?

He looks late 30's and is fit. He's done his part .

The women are waiting. At the coffee bar. Why won't you c-blockers tell him where it is?

The only really funny Buddhist joke:

Wherever you go, there you are.

Re-invent away, it's still crazy old you.

The Chiang Mai one above is well-regarded. They have a 2 day package with river rafting and wearing hill tribe clothes for a cooking class, so a total all-rounder.

2 rave reviews from people who did it. I'd rather poke my own eye with a stick.

This topic is beaten to death on other forums, so do a search.

Second recco for Dr Lilly. Without local knowledge, pay more in a tourist location. A place say, by the Soi Asoke BTS will be quality.

Def book your visa well in advance. We were promised a four day turnaround, it took eight and we had to write off a flight. 

Have heard 3 reports of Han Long Bay being mobbed with cruise ships and video's bare that out. 

Def worth a trip to the Obama/Bourdain noodle place (unless you are politically opposed). You can't toss a rock without hitting good noodles, but that one was worth a special trip.

If like Woodford, try Bookers.

Best high end: Four Roses single vat, Blanton's (of Kentucky Derby mint julep fame).

Best mid-range: Old Grand Dad.

Best cheapies: George Dickel and Rebel Yell (from which the song derives).

Best artistic label on a cheapie bottle: Old Crow.

Best celebrity bourbon for 20 minutes: Whiskey River by Willie Nelson.

Best use of bourbon: Whiskey Sour.

Best irritating nitpick: pointing out that Jack Daniels is not bourbon.

Good chat but was hoping for more about the predicament of trying to spend a lot of money in Thailand.

I was excited when I got here about the prospect of staying a 5 star hotel of $200. But that's really more like $450.  And when I did, it was not like staying in an upscale hotel in the west: passable buffet, decent, not great, in-house restaurant. Very slow service.

$200 gets you a luxury hotel for Chinese people, which is fine, but if I'm going down that route, I'd prefer to be among the Japanese, if only for the dining. Always ultra-strict check in times with the J's, tho.

I've found $100 a night in BKK to be the best luxury to comfort ratio. I like The Icon and The Bless Residence along Suk Road.

Beyond that level, the headache factor outweighs the luxury factor. I don't need a bathtub in my room with a picture window so I can wave to people laying on the bed on the other side.

My building gets a ton of them air BNB-ing (Chiang Mai). Mostly couples.

They def love their weed. I see more and more weed stores with some Chinese lettering out front. Pai now has more Chinese signs too. They can fly direct to Chiang Mai, so a lot of them skip Bangkok.

There's an old famous Chinese comedy where 2 idiots chase each other for the valuable whatever in various Chiang Mai locals and it still motivates people to come.

If I look at a Google Map, 80% of the Chinese restaurant in CM are in Nimman. To me, Chinese is the heaviest, oiliest, most blah of Asian cuisines. I really only like the Manhattan kind.