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Its been said before but I'll add my two cents.....its really up to your preferences! First off, you must not like it in Phuket if your looking to move....with that said your main requirement appears to be an International School with an IB program and thats why your looking at Bangkok....which is a city that is 1,568.7 square kilometres (605.7 sq mi)...meaning that within Bangkok there are many, many different types of enviroments.....I live in Pravet near the airport, kings park, Seacon Mall, and Paradise mall. Not many highrises , big roads, great shopping, and great restaurants!.....and by looking at the number of huge homes on huge properties....I would say its an area preferred by some of the elite...and I think a really nice place to live.....want to go to downtown...hop on the Skytrain (or take a taxi ...15 minutes)....

The other areas mentioned Bang Chan ....which I'm looking into the area (Rayong, Ban Phe etc) for a getaway house near the beach...been scouting it out for awhile now and I REALLY like it down there ...close to Bangkok, No Flooding, moderate temperatures (sea breeze) and Rayong seems to have it all (Homepro, Global, 2 Big C's, Tesco, Makro, shopping mall...Lam Tong, and I understand that central is building a new mall in the area....

Its a "toss up" if you ask me....but if I were you I'd at least check them out...

Good Luck

Pravet, yes I know where that is, I've driven round it when i visited an international school in BangNa, what do you think of Kings Park ? I've visited Mega but not Seacon Mall or Paradise Mall I don't know how they compare ?

There are many housing estates in this area not sure which are some of the nicest, maybe you know of some you like more than others ?

Considering moving from one tourist infested, sewer, to the another....mmmmm, tough call !

Why not throw Pattaya in the mix and you have a full set.

All about personal choice, what kind of life you lead, what floats your boat and what you need, give more info you can get specific comment on the merits, or not of either.

Unfortunately those are the only 3 places in thailand which have international schools with IB programmes.

Hence my comment of "what you need" etc, you need to give more details so that people can help provide better feedback and suggestions.

I'd like to listen (or read :-) ) what other people have to say, where they live and what the like about where they live.

Considering moving from one tourist infested, sewer, to the another....mmmmm, tough call !

Why not throw Pattaya in the mix and you have a full set.

All about personal choice, what kind of life you lead, what floats your boat and what you need, give more info you can get specific comment on the merits, or not of either.

Unfortunately those are the only 3 places in thailand which have international schools with IB programmes.

currently in phuket for 1 and a half year now, wondering if bangkok is better.

Whilst soapy massages the missus may frown at, how about this, what do you think, should it be allowed by the missus or denied :-)

http://www.pattayaprostatemassage.com/links.html

we're talking again now, things might be ok, even if we don't get back together, I think at least there is a relationship there going forward.

she is pretty well off herself, its not about money.

the mother has substantial assets.

if the mother denies a court order granting fathers visitation rights, it is then an option for the father to sue the mother ?

Where it is plainly in the best interests of a child to spend time with the other parent then, tough or not, part of the responsibility of the parent with care must be the duty and responsibility to deliver what the child needs, hard though that may be

It is the right of children to have a “meaningful relationship” with both parents after a separation.

In the future you can show that you have tried and did your best to establish contact, if your child want to contact you.

In practical sense it would allow you to get a non-O visa, but not extensions of stay. Also you would be able to give your child an inherentance as your child. That might have better tax implications.

Non-O visa is not required.

I already have custody of 2 children (thai/british) (2 and 5 years) from my previous marriage, they attend British International School in Phuket, I have a nanny that helps me at home, and don't need to go out to work, and am financially "good".

Might these facts help my case ?

What about my 2 children ? the new-born child will also be their half brother or sister ? What about their enforcing their visitation rights, does this improve my case ?

That is a fact in almost any country.

Whilst the mother does not consent to the child seeing its father, what is to be gained in the father establishing "parental rights", "shared custody", "legalised father" and "visitation rights" ?

Here, I understand the court has no power to make the mother comply with its ruling regarding visitation rights its granted to the father.

Is it correct?

Thus a mother can deny the child from ever knowing its father?

Assuming father and mother have parental rights and mother takes care if child.

Also, assuming mother comes to no harm and child does not witness the event.

Can the child legally be taken from the mother by the father without the mothers consent?

Assuming I have parental rights, shared custody and the mother takes care of the child. If the mother and the mothers family refuses to let father and child spend time together.

The only recourse left for the father is by physical force? I.e. a security team of men with muscle, witnesses and video recording equipment?

If the child is taken care of by the mother and the mother prevents the child from seeing the father. Then the father will never see the child .

Do I understand correct?

Assuming thr mother and farher are awarded parental rights by the court.

The mother still won't let the child spend time with its father.

What can be done?

My ex-girlfriend is pregnant and I am the father (we both live in Thailand).

Currently, she does not want me to have any contact with her or the baby and may try to disappear within Thailand if I try to maintain contact.

Therefore things I must do going forward are:

i) Petition the court to legalize my rights as father of the child.

ii) employ a private detective to find her if she disappears

Assuming I now have legalized my rights as father to the child, have shared custody and know the village where she and my child are (when born), what is the safest way to spend time with my child ?

For example, imagine I arrive in my car at her house and she does not want to let me in the house or let the child come stay with me ? what is the safest thing I can do to spend time with my child without people getting physically hurt ?

Thankyou.

The builder to date, has received 1.6 million baht in staged payments, but has completed only 1.2 million baht worth of work.

He now tells me his company has negative equity and he needs another 100k to continue the build. The contractual price is 2.3 million baht complete.

Is it worth paying a lawyer to pursue him or would it be cheaper to use the money instead on finishing the house ?

After having sex with a non-bar girl, she automatically thinks of you as her boyfriend, as I would if the roles were reversed. Try letting someone down in this way, is not a good feeling.

Shit! That means I've got a load of gfs I didn't even know about, uh oh!

Seriously though girls don't automatically think you are their BF because you had sex with them unless you lied / bullshitted them to get them into bed or gave that impression.

If you are clear with them from the start you can avoid these problems. Not every girl wants a BF, many young Thai girl's are happy with casual dating, one night stands and to be giks.

Thanks.

Searching the internet for "casual dating" I found the following on Wikipedia,

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Casual_relationship

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romantic_relationship

Hopefully I can explain I'm only interested in "casual relationship" without fear of offending the woman I'm with or her thinking I'm "not a good man".

What most commentators have failed to address is your original question of why if you have short time before going out you don't end up staying out for ages and getting quite drunk. A bit sad there are so many "self righteous" who feel they are entitled to comment on your morals. Let he who is without sin caste the first stone is fairly appropriate for some. So, back to the topic. What is happening is by having sex, the urge to do so is reduced for a period of time; maybe one day, or one week or one month depending on your age and hormons. Because of the post coitus "calm" the hunter desire is much reduced, so you are contented to have a meal, a few drinks and socialise with your Friends without your libido taking a priority. On the other hand, when you don't have short time, you are "on the hunt" and at a given point of drinking, the sex drive goes into high drive and your outlook changes from a "would be nice to have" to "got to have", on top of which ones judgement also becomes less objective. Hope it helps and enjoy your life - you are not the only one leading this sort of life and do take all the time to find your perfect partner.

Well put. Thank you very much.

So what's the difference between going out and finding a girl for a "short time" and chasing girls?

Short time is walking into a go-go bar or soapy massage parlour, selecting the girl you like, taking her to a room, have sex, shower and going back out alone the rest of the night. Chasing girls is not having sex at the beginning of an evening, therefore carrying around the desire to have sex during the evening, and thus adds a handicap when socializing.

I found that even the most sexy, stunning, beautiful woman, you don't want to go with again after 1 or 2 times.

There is more to a lasting relationship than sexy and external beauty.

So why not... "stop looking in the bars for a girl friend as its not the right place to look". I'm too lazy to mount an expedition for her and in the meantime I'm still a man.

hopefully the right girl will come along at some point, until then I don't want to lie and say "yes I want to be with you" because of the human drive to pro-create.

The OP has a very sound agenda and I concur wholeheartedly with the premise of getting the dirty water off ones chest before going carousing, especially when the carousing is mostly linked with getting rid of aforementioned dirty water. The biggest danger when suitably lashed is to wander 'undiscovered paths' beyond 4 in the morning and waking up finding you have shagged a bloke. The only thing worse than that is waking up alone but THINKING that you MAY have shagged a bloke.

I often found that after the 'joy of sex', all further need to go wandering around the traps had sufficiently dissipated and the path of least resistance inevitably led me back home. AS one gets older, there always the sure-fire, money-saver, the hand shandy. Why else so we have fridges and internet at home?... think cold beer and TV.

Good man! :-)

Are you a gen y? Is your next thread gonna be "what should I wear tonight", go and do what makes you feel is right for you an not worry about such trivial things.

After having sex with a non-bar girl, she automatically thinks of you as her boyfriend, as I would if the roles were reversed. Try letting someone down in this way, is not a good feeling.

So what's the difference between going out and finding a girl for a "short time" and chasing girls?

Short time is walking into a go-go bar or soapy massage parlour, selecting the girl you like, taking her to a room, have sex, shower and going back out alone the rest of the night. Chasing girls is not having sex at the beginning of an evening, therefore carrying around the desire to have sex during the evening, and thus adds a handicap when socializing.

I found that even the most sexy, stunning, beautiful woman, you don't want to go with again after 1 or 2 times.

There is more to a lasting relationship than sexy and external beauty.

So why not... "stop looking in the bars for a girl friend as its not the right place to look". I'm too lazy to mount an expedition for her and in the meantime I'm still a man.

hopefully the right girl will come along at some point, until then I don't want to lie and say "yes I want to be with you" because of the human drive to pro-create.

I'll probably get in trouble for saying this, but that's quite a shallow, pointless life you have.

Why do so many people go out just to get "blind drunk" I mean, what sort of mentality is that? What's wrong with going out, meet some mates, have a sociable drink, good conversation, and if you want, get laid, but why this "blind "drunk"? the only people who are going to like your company is drunks like yourself.

yes, that would be good also, but the mate(s) I've got, stay in with their missus.

I don't know for everyone else, but the reason why I've gotten "blind drunk" as I've discovered is due to not having sex at the beginning of the evening and therefore chasing the ladies....

Well get a Missus of your own and join them, and you can look forward to sex later on.

Before I would lie and say "yes I do want to be with you" to someone I really didn't want to be with just because I wanted to have sex. This time round I don't want to do that so quickly. Here in thailand we don't have the same restictions on sex as back home in the UK. I would like to actually be interest in the person I stay with, but it may take some time to find if they do exist at all.

I'll probably get in trouble for saying this, but that's quite a shallow, pointless life you have.

Why do so many people go out just to get "blind drunk" I mean, what sort of mentality is that? What's wrong with going out, meet some mates, have a sociable drink, good conversation, and if you want, get laid, but why this "blind "drunk"? the only people who are going to like your company is drunks like yourself.

yes, that would be good also, but the mate(s) I've got, stay in with their missus.

I don't know for everyone else, but the reason why I've gotten "blind drunk" as I've discovered is due to not having sex at the beginning of the evening and therefore chasing the ladies....