JamesPhuket10

Right, I give up, you must be sitting there laughing your head off while reading all of the replies that are taking your comments seriously, you should be a politician, or maybe you should work in marketing. A giveaway comments, for example, "The first 3 months of 10k/month is fine since im living in her home and sex daily." Keep going, the humour is making me laugh.

I think if you change the word 'love' into 'lust after' then you will maybe realise the real situation. Maybe in a few years, you might come to find the true meaning of the word 'love', it does not mean knocking out kids just for the fun of it.

And you are looking from your farang perspective, it is what everyone in the world does. Phuket is great, but it does depend again on people's perspectives, I have come across a lot of farangs who said they do not like it as it is full of girly bars, etc, which is more a reflection on their low lives and it shows what they spend their time doing, they have that opinion as they never went to the 99% of the island which does not have girly bars, etc. But that is good as we like the rif-raf low life to stay away. 😃 The difference between you and me is I can see why and how people's view of Thai culture is different, you seem to think your version of it is the correct one and so you try and take the piss out of people who do not share your view, that approach will always fail.

Why are a lot of people arguing about whether this guy should pay sin-sod or not, he just wants to have a kid for some reason as some sort of lifestyle that will fit into him visiting Thailand now and then. Either this kid is mentally ill or he is having us on and is laughing while some of us leave serious replies to his nonsense. He must be joking I bet.

I think none of us understand Thai customs, I think most Thais do also not understand Thai customs, the reason being there is such a huge class difference in Thailand and so many different customs for each class. During my wedding feast, the ex-vice-prime minister made a toast at the hotel reception, and a photo of him, my wife, and I was in the Bangkok Post Society section, I think that is not standard, it had nothing at all to do with me, so I am not claiming anything, I am merely stating a point about Thailand and its class system. It is an observation. People from Issan like to eat fried crickets etc, I asked a brother-in-law who was born and schooled in Bangkok if he ate them and he said no chance, I would not eat such food, I am not from upcountry. They had chauffeurs, servants, the lot, wealthy, and looked down on the more uneducated Thais, that made no difference to me as my wife and I were already living in the UK and we were only in Thailand for our wedding so what they did in Thailand had no bearing on our lives in England. A friend was talking to me a couple of years ago and he mentioned how his Thai wife crouched down on her heels down to the floor and ate, he said you know, in the manner Thais eat, I told him I have never seen any Thais eat that way, they use a spoon/knife/fork and table and chairs just like we farangs do. I found out she came from a small village in Isaan, with so many different standards and ways of life in Thailand, one group never mixes with the other. In my experience most farangs I have come across mix only with the poor Thais and for some reason most of the women are from Isaan. Any farang who claims to know about Thailand and its culture is kidding themselves, they also generally mix with the same group or class and so do have many years of experience as they claim but in one level of Thailand, the level they are living at. I have been living in Thailand for two years now although I am visiting the UK for a month at the moment. You mentioned money and my lack of understanding of it, I don't need to know about Thai money whatever that means in this context, I send bank transfers to my Thai bank account when I need to, and my wealth, and property are all safe in the UK in my name and under my control. We never know when temporary year-by-year visitors like us on yearly visa extensions might have to run for the hills (well in our case the airport) so keeping the majority of what we own in a safe country is the only sensible thing to do. Although it must be very tempting to marry a poor Thai woman, buy her a car and a house, pay for her parents and the sick buffalo as a lot of dim farangs do, and then think it is the norm, a while later they find it has all been taken, they do make me laugh though, they are so gullible. 🤪 I don't think I would like to live in a typical Thai village as many farangs seem to do (or maybe that is what they can afford), it would be so boring, I prefer Phuket which is international and has international standards (but I do avoid the tourist areas), I can't see what people like about living in the back of beyond in a poor Thai village, why not go one step further and live in a cave.

Yes, I have just arrived, I arrived in 1987 when I got married to a Thai woman in the Dusit Thani Hotel in Bangkok. 😃 A wealthy family, sin-sod was never mentioned but I did pay for the wedding which had three hundred guests and a private hall including food etc. I think it cost around £1200 at the time, which was nothing. If I had been asked to pay sin-sod then I would have told them to sod off as I am not a silly sod. 😃 I do not know what goes on with Thai on Thai marriages though. Maybe it is just a village thing where things tend to be a bit backward, I say that as some people here have mentioned 100,000 baht as a sin-sod payment, which might seem a lot and impress poorer folk from up-country (as the Thais say) but it is an insignificant amount to many Thais.

"Top Western university" Which one, Oxford, Cambridge, LSE, Harvard, MIT, Stanford, Princeton ......... ? I doubt it was any one of them, either you are very stupid or this is just a spoof email that a lot of people are taking seriously, so maybe you are not that silly after all. 🤪 And why would any Western man ever pay sinsod (I think it is called) I had never heard of it.

I always check my travel insurance cover and I specifically remember we are not covered by accidents while riding motorbikes or driving a car we hire or own. Why would anybody want to ride a motorbike in Thailand of all places, a death wish?

Well, I suppose a lot of them are bored, maybe stuck in Thailand financially, and have no choice but to stay and so they have to find negative things to say about the country so they do not have to admit they have got themselves into a situation. Maybe they are stuck in small villages in the middle of nowhere with only the internet to relieve their boredom. After two years of living full-time in Phuket, I have now been in England for three weeks looking at properties to buy and rent out, I have one more week left, it has been cold, raining, and windy and I can't wait to get back to Thailand, but then I do have the choice of where to live, unlike the miseries we hear on this blog all too often.

You must walk around with your eyes closed and not see how many very old cars especially pickup trucks are on Thai roads, they must have been well-maintained and cared for to last that long. My car in Thailand is now twenty years old but still runs like new, maintenance costs at Toyota are so cheap it costs next to nothing, that counts as maintenance. There is lots of old machinery still in use that would have been thrown away in the West, in my opinion Thais are maintenance experts.

The term is "Pooying Bar", you missed part of what I wrote. So, you get ten points for getting one of the words translated, now try both words together and then reverse the two words and you will have miraculously completed the Thai name for a prostitute in English.

Well as far as I can tell, all young women are 'wrong' ones if they can marry an old fart for money. I find it funny these old blokes seemed to have lost their dignity and openly admit they have married a prostitute, I find it so funny as do normal Thai people as they point out to each other and snigger at the old fart walking down the street with a prostitute old enough to be his granddaughter.

"Pooying bar" for example is one of the names Thais have for them.

Well, I suppose it is a natural progression, they are out to make money piecemeal to start with, and if they can get even more money out of the mugs then the thing to do is to marry them and make them spend all their money on just them instead of letting the old guy spend on others. Most of these guys could never pull a regular woman so a prostitute is all the choice they have. It works even better if the guy works abroad for a few months at a time so the woman can have two or three husbands in tow at the same time. I am amazed at how many of these guys fall for the old stories they are told, I am poor, have to feed the family, etc, many women are poor in Thailand but they would never resort to selling themselves in that way, but it does make me laugh though when it all ends in doom and gloom with the guy ending up broke.

Well from what I have seen, the ugly old farangs with the young Thai beauties would not have a chance of getting such a woman if she did not have a lot of baggage to carry with her. It is their stupid fault, but they do make me laugh when it all goes wrong. 🤣 I suppose instead of paying the ex-bar girl on a daily basis they do it monthly instead via the parents etc.

But @watthong is trying to make sure the door does not slam into his face. 😃

And of course, we are only hearing one side of the story.

I don't see what the problem is. I have my UK banks on my iPhone as apps, the money is available anywhere in the world. My property is in the UK hence untouchable here, I only send what I need to live on to my Thai Bank account which is also an app. I have three thousand pounds in cash in case I need a quick exit. The 800k baht in my Thai bank account used to extend my annual visa can be sent to the UK at the click of a button. I have been living in Thailand for two years full time but have been visiting for thirty years, I know it is not permanent seeing as I am only allowed a year-by-year extension, and as the rest of us are temporary farangs, I have to report to the cops every 90 days. Anyone who thinks they are living here permanently is living in cloud cuckoo land.

I would not want to take a TukTuk anywhere, I drive my car, so why would I want to go in a death trap? Patong, on no not again, 1% of the total area of Phuket defines the other 99% of Phuket. I would stay away from Phuket if I were you and take the ten baht bus where you live as 2 quid for a taxi ride might be out of your league.

It is like Chiang Mai, you get free fags (cigarettes) for five months of the year, but good news to smokers, the number of months have been increased this year. I know a lot of people who move out of CM for a large part of the year.

I am going to have to complain as I am missing out on events supposedly happening in Phuket. I have been visiting here for 30 years, some of the trips were for six months and for the last two years I have been living here full-time. Yet I have never been ripped off once, I am missing out it seems. 🤣 Where can I find out where the Rippoff venues are?

That is because you are spending your money on the new girlfriend and not on them, the Golden Goose has been kidnapped. 😄

No, keep places like that secret we don't want to be overrun by miseries. 😁

Great, stay away from Phuket, negative boring people are not welcome. Do as you are doing and moan about a place you do not live in from afar.

Will I get the hat as well? 😄