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    Thai Visa's Private Messaging (PM) system

    in Forum Support Desk

    Posted

    Please keep the thread open, while I get a fresh bag of pop corn.

    Don't get your hopes up on that mate. This thread should have never been opened in the first place. It was obviously just an attention seeking passive aggressive game.

    The OP had a valid question/comment regarding the PM system. YOU are the one that bought yourself into this thread, your ego just couldn't leave it alone eh ?

    LOL

    totster :D

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    Thai Visa's Private Messaging (PM) system

    in Forum Support Desk

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    Again, I am ready to defend myself privately if this is elevated as I strongly feel I am the one being repeatedly provoked by the OP.

    Are you calling him outside, to settle this like gentlemen?

    I'll hold your jacket...

    Not at all.

    I am just saying I have a strong defense which I am willing to share privately. Just be sure if you're buying his edited and twisted story, you are not getting the story. This should not be a public matter. It shouldn't be a matter at all but the OP seemed intent on pushing it.

    Come on JT, if you defence is so strong then you clearly have nothing to hide.. why not tell us all how you have been so terribly wronged ?

    totster :)

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    Thai Visa's Private Messaging (PM) system

    in Forum Support Desk

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    Again, I am ready to defend myself privately if this is elevated as I strongly feel I am the one being repeatedly provoked by the OP.

    Are you calling him outside, to settle this like gentlemen?

    I'll hold your jacket...

    From his tone it's more like a playground tiff, he is constantly running round like a little girl who has lost her dolly. JT, grow some balls and take it like a man (no pun intended)

    totster :)

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    Thai Visa's Private Messaging (PM) system

    in Forum Support Desk

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    Note to mods: If the OP wishes to pursue this as a formal complaint, please allow me the opportunity to rebut his biased accusations (privately of course), as he has already grossly misrepresented the facts and left out ... oh so much. I really really would rather you not have to waste your time on this, but if he pushes it, I think I deserve the chance to defend myself against such aggression.

    Who said it was you JT?

    I feel some paranoia coming on.

    No-one anywhere here has mentioned who the poster is.

    Indeed ... tis not the point ... I asking that the PM system be reviewed ... rolleyes.gif

    Oh yes, but JT has pretty much admitted to this.. even if it isn't, it certainly gives us an insight to why he gets banned from restaurants, attacked by baht bus drivers etc..

    What fun !

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    GMMZ and CTH

    in Audio Visual AV

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    Has anyone managed to activate and view the CTH stadium channels being offered now by GMMZ? The are not showing with a channel search. Are they available on Ku and C band ?

    TIA

    totster :)

    Switch from analogue to digital TV starts with 24 new channels from next month: Thailand

    in Thailand News

    Posted

    This is going to slam poor people, especially. 22 million "planned" subsidty coupons for less than half of what a digital converter box costs is poor financial planning. The outlying areas will simply have almost no access to television now.

    Bad idea.

    Most households where I live have PSI satellite installed as the TV signal has been weak for many years. So it won't make much difference to their lives.

    totster :)

    How do you maintain your coffee machine (fully automatic) ?

    in Western Food in Thailand

    Posted

    Hi, my previous post was referred to a post of a member which was mentioning about boilers, so i guessed he was meaning about a descaling, i apologize if i create confusion but due to the title of the OT i thought i could even speak not only about "where to buy cleaning tablets with reasonable price".wink.png

    The companies in Thailand which could sale such as tablets are Boncafe', Aroma, Coffeeworks these are just some that could be even in your living area.

    We don't sale this product due to our fully auto has different features but anyway we use a cleaning product as well not any "alternative".

    Hey Quickmill,

    No need to apologise, your post was informative and helpful. The OP has demonstrated his arrogance in this topic previously, please don't take it personal. I'm guessing he's german.

    totster :)

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    CAT CDMA / EVDO was better than any of the current "3G" packages

    in IT and Computers

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    TOT do 1/2Mb unlimited/unrestricted plan but their coverage seems to be far worse than the old CAT EVDO coverage.

    I think TOT has pretty decent coverage, and very few customers. Have you been using TOT/3G?

    MybyCAT (My data Unlimited - 3G/850 MHz) might be another option? They have great coverage, and a double up promotion currently, at the top-end offering 10 GB (2x 5 GB; 384 Kbps FuP) for 750 baht/month.

    Do you spend a lot of time moving about from rural village to rural village? Or are you relatively stationary? If the latter, a broadband wireless solution might address your requirements better? What are your primary applications? How much data do you use per month? What is your budget.

    That said, comparing the old CAT/CDMA service from 10 years ago when there was little internet uptake seems, well, nostalgic but hardly relevant in today's mobile data landscape.

    I think in terms of 'unlimited' the CDMA option was better, as unlimited meant unlimited with no data caps. I feel that when I was made to change to CAT 3G (only 15 months ago, hardly nostalgia) it was a step back in terms of service. I was very pleased with the speed and service I got when using CDMA. Being a heavy internet user once again I spend most of the month at speeds that were more at home 10 years ago.

    Do you have a link to the 10GB offer, is it open to current customers?

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    Should you accept her Children as part of the package?

    in Family and Children

    Posted · Edited by Totster

    Our opinions do differ in that I believe he should cut his losses now as it is most likely to cause grief and trouble in the near future. He seems unable to cut the ties probably because he is in love. If he had known she had kids he wouldn't have made contact with her in the first place.

    Actually.. we hold the same opinion in this... but that was not the original question.

    Another misconception on this thread is that he asks for my advice. I freely give him advice but he never asks for it and I suspect he rarely takes it on board

    Let's hope so eh?

    totster smile.png

    Should you accept her Children as part of the package?

    in Family and Children

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    Thanks for the comment Sheryl.

    I'm not sure it is a requirement in life to love someone else's children? I don't now if it can be forced, nor if it should be. I don't love some of my extended family let alone even like them.

    In this specific case I'm sure the guy would be fair with them and friendly and affectionate, but as for love, maybe, I cant speak for him on that. Perhaps if he went into it that would happen down the track and he would take on a greater responsibility. (He has two kids of his own, 18 & 20, in Australia, one who lives out of home with his friends , one who lives at home with her mum)

    As for not being their father, I totally agree with him. The kids have a father, who they do see, but who doesn't give the mum much money to help. That being the case he doesn't need to fulfill a fatherhood role

    His love for her though seems genuine enough.

    There is no 'forcing' about it, why would you want to live with your girlfriends/wifes children if you want nothing to do with them. Your friend (or you) needs to end whatever relationship there is now and find some other loveless relationship.

    For the fourth time this thread let me clarify: It is not ME my OP refers to. facepalm.gif.pagespeed.ce.EuN79TyYk_.gif alt=facepalm.gif width=24 height=18> tongue.png.pagespeed.ce.JwCxzAWj6x.png alt=tongue.png width=20 height=20>

    I am also asking a general question about such a situation of accepting and becoming responsible for a partner's children, not about this particular woman's honesty or possible hidden intentions

    You, by asking opinion obviously feel the same way as your 'friend'. Personally I find the behaviour you are describing despicable, this is a personal opinion of mine and I know that not all people will have the same basic values that I have.

    I hear what you are saying Totser but I don’t know why it is disturbing. Here are some common example of Mothers (and fathers) not putting their kids first.

    Examples of mothers who don’t put children first (substitute father here for anything):

    · Drug addicts (substance comes first)

    · Alcoholics (substance comes first)

    · Gamblers (money goes to gambling first)

    · Many example of children being sold for slavery to work in factories.

    · Kids Forced to prostitution

    · Taken from school to provide money for the family by working therefore the child does not get an education that could further them.

    · Basic narcissism where the mother puts herself first. Becoming more common.

    · Mothers who value a balanced life with their spouse and children

    · Mothers who decide career comes before children (nothing wrong with that)

    · ecetera

    Personally I wouldn’t want to be second in a relationship all the time.

    By saying you put the kids first all the time it implies you will always be second class in the relationship. Surely that also sends the wrong message to the children?

    There are plenty of mothers who give their partners and children fair balance in their life.

    Well, you make a very extreme point and are taking cheap shots to try and rationalise your friends (and your?) attitude with this.

    Children are children and should be taken care of, of course there are some that have no regard for this basic moral standard and I pity them for it.

    totster :)

    looking to meet new friends, I live near on Nut bts station.

    in General Topics

    Posted

    Pot shot you say.. ok, let me expand.

    Anyone who can't meet and make friends in the'real world' and resorts to posting cheesy selfies (with a juicer??) is freaky.

    My advice, shut the computer, get out and start talking with people face to face. As long as you are not a complete <deleted> you will find some great friends.

    totster smile.png

    totster, we have established you are i are not brothers in arms... cool, i have no problem with that. now please go away. i don't want your attention. please find something or somebody else to interact with this fine sunday afternoon. thanks.

    Now, that's not very friendly.

    Fine Sunday afternoon looking at the computer screen wishing you had friends ??? You most certainly are living the dream. :D

    totster :)

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    Should you accept her Children as part of the package?

    in Family and Children

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    Surely her and the children are two distinct relationships to be viewed differently?

    Are you serious???

    When you start a relationship with a partner that has children, they are most definitely part of the 'package'.. and in Thailand this includes a certain amount of financial support.

    Granted, the fact that children are involved should be disclosed at the start of the relationship.

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    For myself? Yes I am serious.

    Choosing to be with someone doesn't have to imply you accept that person’s full extended life as part of the package nor does it have to imply that you are responsible for your partner’s former children of their family. You can choose this of course and that is okay.

    Some women say ‘My kids will always come first’. While great for the kids that is not healthy for a relationship between adults. Putting either kids/man first implies a permanent imbalance in the relationship. Things can be so there is a balance and each relationship of Kids and adults is treated differently, because they are different relationships.

    In the case I mention, I fully agree with my friend in paying for the rent/food/utilities and I feel that is a good and fair contribution.

    His GFs ex husband has a paying job and she has a relationship with her ex and her kids have a relationship with her ex. My friend then has different relationship with his GF and his GF’s kids.

    Why should he be financially responsible for all the kids needs?

    And I do agree she should have told him about the kids earlier but that is what it is.

    I find this attitude quite disturbing. What mother wouldn't put their kids first ?? As a stepfather I would even put the kids needs first.

    I'm not saying that you must be financially responsible, but there is a certain amount of financial burden in this situation. In Thailand at least, absent fathers are very lax at providing financial support. In this case, what would you do, let them go without food and new clothes ? No ice cream on the days out to the seaside that you would not pay for ???

    totster :)

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    Should you accept her Children as part of the package?

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    QUOTE __

    When you start a relationship with a partner that has children, they are most definitely part of the 'package'.. and in Thailand this includes a certain amount of financial support.

    __ENDQUOTE

    the package will also include the mother, sick father, 2sisters and kids, collapsing rice farmers house needing rebuilt, payments on brothers pickup, buffalo vets fees, etc

    but never mind,

    Love is blind,

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    ha, good point.

    But let's be reasonable, even outside of Thailand the children are an assumed responsibility

    totster :)

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    looking to meet new friends, I live near on Nut bts station.

    in General Topics

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    You only want to be friend?

    yup, only friend. i heard that having friends was good for the sole from a friend. smile.png

    Are you married? Have a girlfriend? Have a partner? It is kind of difficult to be friend with an unavailable man, don't want to deal with dramas and jealousy.

    I am married and faithful. I understand you concern and respect it. Thanks for being honest. for all the trolls here taking pot shots at me for no reason I care to discuss further, read the thread between this person and me and witness an adult honest discussion that just happened. I think the pot shots from others are less than mature. just saying... anyway... still looking to meet new NICE and DECENT and MATURE people. keeping my fingers crossed during what has seemed to become an unexpected social experiment on my part. opps.. lol. well if it does not work, at least I can say it was a bit entertaining.

    Pot shot you say.. ok, let me expand.

    Anyone who can't meet and make friends in the'real world' and resorts to posting cheesy selfies (with a juicer??) is freaky.

    My advice, shut the computer, get out and start talking with people face to face. As long as you are not a complete &lt;deleted&gt; you will find some great friends.

    totster :)

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    Should you accept her Children as part of the package?

    in Family and Children

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    Surely her and the children are two distinct relationships to be viewed differently?

    Are you serious???

    When you start a relationship with a partner that has children, they are most definitely part of the 'package'.. and in Thailand this includes a certain amount of financial support.

    Granted, the fact that children are involved should be disclosed at the start of the relationship.

    totster :)

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    noise and the police

    in General Topics

    Posted

    Moving doesn't solve the problem, there will always be a time when a party is thrown with loud music. Unfortunately, the best thing to do is to sit it out.

    totster smile.png

    Occasional party no problem but sometimes a scene like this settled in permanent, neighbors open a bush disco. . .

    Yes if it's likely to go away or only be once a week, better off staying.

    My point was the fact that many guys set up a situation where they've got no choice, literally can no longer move again until it's the shuffle off this mortal coil.

    My point is.. in my experience, no matter where you live there will always be a time when a party is thrown, think weddings, funerals, ordination etc..

    totster :)

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