Thai women and the question of money

[tukkytuktuk]

In a typical discussion about Thai-farang romance, sooner or later someone is bound to raise the question of money – someone being a foreign man who’s either contemplating getting into or already in a relationship with a Thai woman. What should he expect to give her in terms of financial support, how much, should he or should he not do it, is he being duped, etc., etc.

 

I’m sure you’ve heard and read as I have more times than I could count how Thai women are said to be “moneygrabbers” and “gold diggers” (besides “cheaters” and “liars” and some other unflattering names).

 

Not that, being a Thai woman myself, I think Thai women are all saintly. Moneygrabbers, gold diggers, cheaters, liars, swindlers, we have them all among us, but I believe more of us are decent, hardworking and upstanding members of society.

 

So do you let your wife look after the money?

Edited May 15, 2018 by tukkytuktuk

[cms22]

I try to look after the money. It's such a shame, but I just can't trust her. Let me down too many times.

[Juan B Tong]

I have given her a set monthly allowance for household, personal, kid's school, food etc essentially everything or about 14 years.

 

We are living good, I eat Western food, she's bought a nice Honda City and started a small shop, and has some money saved.

 

Happy as Larry.

 

But, after only 14 years she is still on probation.

[OmarZaid]

Before my retirement, I looked after it.  Now that I'm retired and permanently living here, she does, and I'm quite happy with that, never been better taken care of in my life.  They are not money grubbers, but when you get the lie of the land outside the bar-girl reserves, it's a matriarchal society at heart . . .

[AsiaHand]

My bartender.

[1FinickyOne]

a little bit of all - We have separate accounts - my wife has done well with the money I have given her to invest... I share money with her, she shares with her family - - everyone seems to get along ok.

[IvanLaw]

My wife looked after "Our" money before the divorce, Unfortunately she & it  "All Gone"

 

[Golden Triangle]

We're not married but may as well be  After 8 years, 7 of those living together, we have a pretty solid relationship, I give my other half an allowance, I don't ask her what she does with it but I know at least 50% goes to her mum & dad, she also knows my debit card number and often goes shopping or paying the usual bills with my card, and I know for a fact that she keeps a separate record of what we spend every month, I don't ask to see it as I don't need to, I have enough dosh to survive for quite a long while yet.

 

You have to trust your partner, otherwise what's the point ??

[Mooner]

I dont give her anything. We have a joint business/account. 

Wish i was as good as her with money.

[FarmerJoe]

All my pay goes to the wife, as she is much better at budgeting then I am and I don't have to worry about paying the bills, food shopping or what have you. And she has her own business as well. She does not spend money on frivolous things. Bit of a tight wad. Never have money problems. if I was in charge, we'd be in a mess. No arguments in 15 years.

[Damrongsak]

We've been married 40 years and my wife has paid the bills for the last 20. Except for my retirement investment accounts, she has access to all the cash.  She was a beneficiary of a large sum from life insurance when our elder son was killed in Iraq, and that was put in a joint account.  She's certainly entitled to half of my retirement accounts.  I keep an eye out to make sure we will have enough, but have no concerns.  She's very frugal except for buying building lots and building houses in Thailand, 555.  If she wants to spend a million Baht a year, that's fine.  But she won't.

[Jingjock]

I look after my money as I would not live with a partner if you paid me here in Thai

[rwill]

I fully trust my wife with our money.  She gets more upset about relatives wanting stuff than I do.  We have been together about 40 years now too.

 

[colinneil]

22 minutes ago, Jingjock said:

I look after my money as I would not live with a partner if you paid me here in Thai

What a sad comment!! I would not live with a partner if you paid me here in Thai.

Why do so many members post rubbish like that?

Yes i have been scammed by a Thai wife, but remarried and trust my wife 100%.

In fact she has my atm card, she has access to approx 200.ooo  but will not take 1 baht, never has never will.

[Kinnock]

Her focus is on 'our' future, and she's careful with our money.  She gets upset when I 'waste' money on a new bike or camera, as she wants to secure our retirement.  She also acts as a fierce gatekeeper to manage requests for loans from her family - although to my surprise the few loans we've made have all been repaid in full.

 

I would say 80% of the housekeeping money goes on me (as ferang food like breakfast cereal and fruit juice is much more costly than Thai food, and my TV and fast internet package cost, whereas her TV channels are free.

 

She also has her own business, and uses that to send money to her Mother.  Considering the first class household management, cooking, companionship and just plain fun she provides, she's been great value for the past 8 years, and her investment descisions have been better than my supposedly low risk investment funds.

 

And have I mentioned recently that she has the best natural breasts in Bangkok, and quite possibly the best legs too?

[petermik]

I give my GF money for monthly living costs only (housekeeping in the UK) all other assets I have I look after myself....she has her own private money (savings from here previous well paid job in BKK hotels)  she takes care of herself,I,m fortunate that she has no dependents save for a brother who is a well paid officer in the Thai military.....been together nearly five years and very happy.....

[nycjoe]

I give my wife 50000 a month, she pays all the bills, buys the food and takes care of the farm, at the end of the month if there is money left I deduct it from next months stipend or we decide how to use it on the house and property. There is always money left and I enjoy engaging in projects. I let her family grow veggies on the land and they use the opportunity to make some money for themselves. Everybody is happy here on the farm.

[Crossy]

I earn it, she spends it. Easy.

 

[smccolley]

Honestly after spending 40 years worrying about money I just let my wife deal with it. I make enough so I have money for beer at the end of the month and that is all I really care about. I put away about 30% of my pay for retirement and she deals with all the rest of it.

 

I just grab a few baht from her purse if I head to the bar and don't worry about a thing. She is far more concerned with our family's future than I would ever be so it is for the best.

[Damrongsak]

16 hours ago, Kinnock said:

... She gets upset when I 'waste' money on a new bike or camera, as she wants to secure our retirement.  .."

I would never waste money like that.  But I did drag things home like 8 welding machines, a 600kg metal lathe and a 1,100 kg vertical milling machine that I fancied.  I just blamed the need on our younger son, who is now a talented  machinist/welder.  Nary a peep from Wifey. I should have pursued a career as an under-the-radar technician.  Domestic stealth technology.

 

Of course, I didn't bellyache about her buying 8 small building lots in Thailand, building a house for her Mom and substantially helping her sister build a house.  TFT - tit-for-tat .

[marko kok prong]

I give my Mrs around 30,000 baht a month,that's for her and the kids,she has money in the bank we have seperate accounts and a joint one,,she is happy and so i am i .Luckily for me i am financially well positioned,so 30,000 really amounts to little more than a bit of change,sometimes i give her a bit more.I reckon this is good value for money as i have basically a beautiful ,funny,caring wife,a personal assistant who helps me with any difficulties when dealing with Thai beaurocracy,and something approaching a porn star in bed,she also dresses very well no slobbing around in football shirts.A bloody good deal if you ask me.

[Cyclone88]

On 17/05/2018 at 6:16 PM, FarmerJoe said:

All my pay goes to the wife, as she is much better at budgeting then I am and I don't have to worry about paying the bills, food shopping or what have you. And she has her own business as well. She does not spend money on frivolous things. Bit of a tight wad. Never have money problems. if I was in charge, we'd be in a mess. No arguments in 15 years.

No arguments in 15 years?

Sorry I don't believe it.

Not at all normal.

Or maybe you or both of you don't have a personal opinion about anything.

[Kinnock]

3 hours ago, Cyclone88 said:

No arguments in 15 years?

Sorry I don't believe it.

Not at all normal.

Or maybe you or both of you don't have a personal opinion about anything.

You can't really have an argument when one party loses the power of speech for 15 minutes.

 

Whenever this happens to me - I take the opportunity to have an advance on the make-up sex that I know we'll be having later.

[MaeJoMTB]

On 5/15/2018 at 9:22 PM, tukkytuktuk said:

So do you let your wife look after the money?

I look after my money & she looks after her money.

That's equality.

[starky]

On 18/05/2018 at 2:39 PM, nycjoe said:

I give my wife 50000 a month, she pays all the bills, buys the food and takes care of the farm, at the end of the month if there is money left I deduct it from next months stipend or we decide how to use it on the house and property. There is always money left and I enjoy engaging in projects. I let her family grow veggies on the land and they use the opportunity to make some money for themselves. Everybody is happy here on the farm.

If there was money left wouldn't you let her keep it? Otherwise your not giving her 50 a month then are you? Very nice of you to "let" her grow vegetables on what is very clearly her land.... Your all heart mate.

[starky]

1 hour ago, MaeJoMTB said:

I look after my money & she looks after her money.

That's equality.

Hate to say it but there would be very few posters on this forum with anything approaching that sort of equality in Thailand. Most of their "wives" would be on an allowance for favours rendered. 

[EVENKEEL]

21 hours ago, starky said:

Hate to say it but there would be very few posters on this forum with anything approaching that sort of equality in Thailand. Most of their "wives" would be on an allowance for favours rendered. 

My 6 yr old better start producing some cash or her days are numbered as well. She seems to think it's all fun and games.

[Kinnock]

On 19/05/2018 at 6:15 PM, starky said:

Hate to say it but there would be very few posters on this forum with anything approaching that sort of equality in Thailand. Most of their "wives" would be on an allowance for favours rendered. 

This thread does not seem to support your rather myopic view.

[1FinickyOne]

On 5/18/2018 at 9:25 AM, colinneil said:

What a sad comment!! I would not live with a partner if you paid me here in Thai.

Why do so many members post rubbish like that?

Yes i have been scammed by a Thai wife, but remarried and trust my wife 100%.

In fact she has my atm card, she has access to approx 200.ooo  but will not take 1 baht, never has never will.

I once had to go away for several months and left my wife with an ATM - she never used, but did get a short term job. That was 17 years ago. Even the money in my desk that I keep for expenses, if I tell her to take some from there, she doesn't seem to be able to do that. I have to hand it to her. 

 

And yes, there are plenty of good Thai ladies - but in a complaint forum they are a minority. Almost everyone I know has a good wife and just go about their day. My guess would be that the ones who are particularly cheap with their wives, drink away all their money and are not inclined to reasonably share, they have problems. 

[Rimmer]

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