I pay for something and the cashier hands the change back to my wife?

[ThailandRyan]

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Thinking too mut, IMO.

I'm pretty sure that paying for things is normally a Thai wives department - cultural perhaps.

 

Yes, my GF pays the bill and it is I who the cashier gives the change back to...no I am not kidding.  Must be because I am a handsum man.

[lopburi3]

Normally the Thai will want to double check the amount to make sure you have not been shortchaged - so eliminates an extra step and indicates cashier is providing the corrent change (as we foreigners can't be expected to count Thai money).  ????

[Rimmer]

Happens to me all the time, like yesterday in Makro, my wife now stands there without making a move to take the change and glares, the cashier quickly realizes her mistake and diverts it to me ????

[Neeranam]

Drives me crazy, wife usually tells them to give to me.

Worst is when I am driving and I stop to ask directions, or security guard looks in the driver's window, straight through me to my wife. Actually it was more annoying when it was to my kids when they were young. Often don't get menus. Recently bought a m/c and the woman selling wouldn't answer my questions, so walked straight out. 

[Andrew Dwyer]

When it happens to me i usually snatch the money out of the cashiers hand and throw in a “ F£&k you “ for good measure !!

 

Actually, i never have done that, or ever will , but i did see it happen a couple of weeks ago !!

[Neeranam]

1 hour ago, BobBKK said:

It's strange but true. I assumed it was because in Thailand many working class guys hand over their salary to their wives who pay for everything?  

Interested to know if Thai men have the same issue. Maybe it's not a racial thing.

[thaibeachlovers]

1 minute ago, Andrew Dwyer said:

When it happens to me i usually snatch the money out of the cashiers hand and throw in a “ F£&k you “ for good measure !!

 

Actually, i never have done that, or ever will , but i did see it happen a couple of weeks ago !!

Hmmmm, apparently some people should never leave home as not mentally capable of accepting that Thailand isn't the same as wherever they came from.

That guy's wife lost a heap of "face" for his ignorance.

[thaibeachlovers]

9 minutes ago, Neeranam said:

Drives me crazy, wife usually tells them to give to me.

Worst is when I am driving and I stop to ask directions, or security guard looks in the driver's window, straight through me to my wife. Actually it was more annoying when it was to my kids when they were young. Often don't get menus. Recently bought a m/c and the woman selling wouldn't answer my questions, so walked straight out. 

Jai yen, jai yen, is it really a big deal?

Never a problem for me as I expected my wife to get directions, pay in restos and shops, etc, as what else was she worth marrying for. That was her department- mine was giving the cash over.

[Andrew Dwyer]

3 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Hmmmm, apparently some people should never leave home as not mentally capable of accepting that Thailand isn't the same as wherever they came from.

That guy's wife lost a heap of "face" for his ignorance.

Yup, and she was giving him some severe ear bending as they walked out, pretty sure the guy thought he was just humiliating the young cashier and didn’t bargain on the wrath of a Thai wife losing face.

I almost felt sorry for the guy ……. almost !

[Neeranam]

7 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Jai yen, jai yen, is it really a big deal?

Never a problem for me as I expected my wife to get directions, pay in restos and shops, etc, as what else was she worth marrying for. That was her department- mine was giving the cash over.

Often, I put things into perspective by imagining the same situation in the UK, but the Scots woman is with a 10 foot tall guy in a Sheik outfit. 

[Neeranam]

Best to make a joke about it, and if you can't do that, then that is maybe the reason she is not wanting to communicate with you

[brianburi]

17 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Hmmmm, apparently some people should never leave home as not mentally capable of accepting that Thailand isn't the same as wherever they came from.

That guy's wife lost a heap of "face" for his ignorance.

Jeez, give it a rest Mr Thailand. We don't need lectures on the nuances of daily life over here.

[thaibeachlovers]

1 minute ago, brianburi said:

Jeez, give it a rest Mr Thailand. We don't need lectures on the nuances of daily life over here.

Soooo a guy with 46 posts is giving me a lecture. 5555555555555

[brianburi]

26 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Soooo a guy with 46 posts is giving me a lecture. 5555555555555

So it's all about post count? . Wow must up my game.......

 

[Bangkok Barry]

4 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

cultural perhaps

Yes. It's deeply ingrained that farangs don't count. I've several times been walking into a shopping mall and when the 'pretties' handing out a free sample of something see me as a farang approaching their arm is pulled back. Pathetic.

[hellohello123]

4 hours ago, SenorTashi said:

Good to know. I get it but it's a bit bloody rude.

Culture aside , i think its rude too

 

The transaction is between two people, not the third 

 

I rememebr when i used to be a waiter, the wife/gf who was asian, was a complete whining bitch about everything.

Even requested the bill, i placed it in front of her and she stared at me like "why the hell did you put this in front of me

[Bangkok Barry]

4 hours ago, SenorTashi said:

I was going to bring this up months ago on here. I was telling her that since we'd been together nobody talks to me anymore. When I travel alone, all the tuktuk and taxi and bus drivers and waiters and hotel staff all speak to me and even if they dont speak good English we still manage to have a good chat and a laugh but whenever i was with her, they all claimed to not know any English and I was totally ignored. Gotta be honest, it made my time in Thailand a lot less enjoyable.  

The immigration police came to the house after I'd applied for my marriage extension, and despite me being the only reason they were there they completely ignored me. I was invisible.

Edited March 1, 2023 by Bangkok Barry

[JAS21]

If I can use my credit card to pay, I do. All other times my wife pays … even tips my caddie when we play golf.

 

Of course her bank account needs frequent topping up …..

[Bangkok Barry]

3 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

LOL. Either go out alone more or learn to accept it.

Too many farangs think they are important to Thais they don't know, but we ain't. IMO farangs come below soi dogs, so why would they want to talk to us if they have a Thai to talk to instead?

In your opinion farangs come below soi dogs. I guess from that you must be Thai, not a soi dog farang. Nice. Now say that to a farang's face and see what happens. Of course you wouldn't as you're just another 'keyboard warrior'. Pathetic. If you aren't Thai, I assume you consider yourself also lower than a soi dog.

As you are clearly unaware of politeness and protocol, it has nothing to do with farangs thinking they are more important than Thais, but everything to do with what happens in the real world where if you give a person money then they return the change to you and not someone else.

Edited March 1, 2023 by Bangkok Barry

[Trentham]

It is my understanding that the wife in Thailand is in charge of domestic finances. I was told that by an elderly couple at a roadside stall up country when I was paying for a watermelon.

[Bazerino]

I've started paying with my phone as the cashier always gives the change to the customer behind me.....

Edited March 1, 2023 by Bazerino

[Bangkok Barry]

3 hours ago, HauptmannUK said:

Generally though I think Thais often prefer to interact with other Thais purely out of ease of communication.

How much ease of communication is needed in giving change to the person who paid?

[stoner]

18 minutes ago, Bangkok Barry said:

Pathetic.

na you just too handsome. 

[roquefort]

2 hours ago, brianburi said:

Jeez, give it a rest Mr Thailand. We don't need lectures on the nuances of daily life over here.

Some people clearly do. The OP for example.

[stoner]

4 hours ago, SenorTashi said:

I was going to bring this up months ago on here. I was telling her that since we'd been together nobody talks to me anymore. When I travel alone, all the tuktuk and taxi and bus drivers and waiters and hotel staff all speak to me and even if they dont speak good English we still manage to have a good chat and a laugh but whenever i was with her, they all claimed to not know any English and I was totally ignored. Gotta be honest, it made my time in Thailand a lot less enjoyable.  

do you speak thai ?

[timendres]

3 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

It also happens to me from time to time. I suspect that Thai prefer to interact with other Thais because they use the same language, body language, etc. It's more familiar to them and more comfortable. 

No problem.

This is the answer.

[Peterphuket]

3 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Whatever the faults of my Thai wife, she earned her own money, paid for her own diesel ( unless it was on a trip with me that I wanted to go on ), etc. She even paid for her own booze at a restaurant. I paid for the food and my drink, but I refused to pay for her alcohol.

She worked really hard too, so no complaints about expecting me to pay for everything. Her family were the ones that expected me to give them money for nothing.

I recognize  'Her family were the ones that expected me to give them money for nothing', that happened to me too.

Let me guess, the lady is from Isarn.

[Lucky Bones]

4 hours ago, SenorTashi said:

She did, every time. They both looked at me like I was weird for expecting 500 back from 1000.

Gotta manage your money a tad better.

Keep a supply of smallish notes with you instead of the 1,000.????????

[wombat]

you are aware of the ''once its in a tg's hand its never given back to the farang' law aren't you?

[Lucky Bones]

4 hours ago, grain said:

Happened to me countless times too, it's the Thai Rak Thai thing. I noticed it immediately when I arrive at the airport 2 weeks ago, I asked a question to a woman at a counter in the airport, my Thai wife was standing behind me, the woman at the counter totally ignored me and began talking to my wife. 

Maybe the counter girl fancied your wife?????????