Giving Her The Boot

[Harry Palmer]

Don't drag it out - When it is over, it's over. You're not doing your partner or yourself any favours by delaying the inevitable. Rather sooner than later.

The worst thing you can do is be seeing someone before you tell your partner that it is over.

Even if you don`t like this person the worse thing you can do is dump them in a public place. It is the ultimate humiliation.

More often than not when we try to end a relationship we are made to feel guilty by the other which makes us stay and hate the person more. If you want out then no matter how much they beg, how much they say they`ll change, how much they have done for you, stick to your decission before things get worse.

The only way we pick a fight is to ease the guilt which makes the other feel guilty when the relationship ends thinking that it is their fault. Again get straight to the point and don`t make them suffer more than they have to.

Being dumped is a horrible business so try to think about if you got dumped how you would like it to be done. Do to others as you would have done to yourself.

[sas_cars]

I can understand your feelings.You just wanted a short term relationship.But u don't understand thai women,If it's a good girl,she won't be interested in a short term relationship.So anyways,it's your own mistake that you showed her your home,that she can come and disturb you anytime.How to dumb her,you can try telling her that your family doesn't like u to have a relationship with a thai,and u have to abide by it.and tell her that u can't do anything,and u have soon to get back to your home country.Thank her for her taking care of you so much and in a great way.and tell her that she's too good girl.and wish she can find a better bf soon.

[Maejo Man]

Wouldn't have been her pussy by any chance would it??

Certainly not! It was her charm, poise and sheer elegance that got me in the first place, and I was on my best behaviour, and then I went back to being my usual obnoxious self, and that got rid of her in the end.

[Bluecat]

then I went back to being my usual obnoxious self, and that got rid of her in the end.

Or I thought so.

Easy.

I did it before.

In Thailand?

[Jeff1]

thanks for the replies guys. i guess there's no easy way out of this. its tempting to think about the going home trick, or the going broke trick, but it'll be a really disrespectful way to end what is already a humiliating experience, apart from the fact that she's too smart to buy into it. i have stopped calling her for some time, but she keeps sending messages asking if i'm angry with her, and its just too awkward to say no but i don't want to see you, so she just says okay i'll be over tonight....

she's nice but she has these aspects to her personality that have really started to get to me, like how she spends hours talking at me about her friends and what so and so said, and what so and so did, and guess what, she told so and so this and then they plan to do that.....i'm struggling to remember what it was that got me interested, okay i though she was kinda good looking, but ######, its definitely been too high a price to pay.

anyways, thanks for the advice, i guess i'll just say what i need to say, preferably outside the apartment to avoid the flying furniture.

Dude,

It's over. No matter what it's not going to be pretty. Dwelling on it will only make it worse.

Good luck

[Nam Kao]

Tell her you lost all your $$ and job and you'll need her to support you

thats should take care of it

That can backfire badly. I knew someone who tried that tactic and she turned aroud organised a really cheap apartment out near Rangsit and she supported him into further misery.....

Well worth a try, Heck maybe she is a keeper?

[udon]

Nam Kao hit the nail on the head.

Tell her you're flat broke and try to borrow a few quid from her.

That way, she has the option of feeling right by dumping you, without any theatrics.

Any other route, you may have to hide ALL sharp objects in your residence.

Be very careful, a young Pommie mate of mine had to leave the country to get away from his obsessive uni student g/f.

He was afraid to go to sleep at night and he wasn't butterflying.

[55shazam]

Tell her your physical relationship will be better if you can have a 3 way. If she agrees, great for you because you can break up the boredom. If she disagrees, well you can use it as a wedge to get her to break off things herself. You could even bring a girl over after the three way discussion and go for it. I bet she'll get disgusted and break it off herself

[NedKelly]

The Thai way is just to reduce the contact.....until there is no contact. I was seeing a real girl (not b/g) and found out via a friend that she had decided to drop her apartment and move in to a friends apartment which was near my place......so that when my share partner (flatmate) was away (which was frequently for weeks at a time) she would then live with me for free..........gees......I put a stop to that very quickly. Th eother tactic is tostart leaving clothes and other things around.......this is to make sure that if you bring other chics home they will see traces of another woman.......blah blah blah....typical women !

[Falang Pan]

I was in a similar situation recently, and opted to pretend that I moved out of the city for a while. It's a tactic that I never would have taken in the west, and I don't feel great about lying. I still feel it's for the best, as I don't want to hurt the girl by explaining why I don't want to spend time with her anymore. I figure she'll have less pain this way, and feel better about herself.

I actually did break up with another girl last night, and explained to her why my feelings for her changed. Crafty girl then proceeded to get naked. I lost that round.

[Bluecat]

It's a tactic that I never would have taken in the west

Meaning?

[ThaiGirlTeen]

thanks for the replies guys. i guess there's no easy way out of this. its tempting to think about the going home trick, or the going broke trick, but it'll be a really disrespectful way to end what is already a humiliating experience, apart from the fact that she's too smart to buy into it. i have stopped calling her for some time, but she keeps sending messages asking if i'm angry with her, and its just too awkward to say no but i don't want to see you, so she just says okay i'll be over tonight....

she's nice but she has these aspects to her personality that have really started to get to me, like how she spends hours talking at me about her friends and what so and so said, and what so and so did, and guess what, she told so and so this and then they plan to do that.....i'm struggling to remember what it was that got me interested, okay i though she was kinda good looking, but ######, its definitely been too high a price to pay.

anyways, thanks for the advice, i guess i'll just say what i need to say, preferably outside the apartment to avoid the flying furniture.

Just show her the stuff you write on this forum, she will realise you are a complete bastard and thank her lucky stars that its over.

Easy

[Nam Kao]

Another way is meet her family and then start bad mouthing each member

everytime she comes over. Especially the parents.

Examples:

Why is your father so lazy, shouldnt he have a job ?

Your Mom looks cambodian to me ..

Does your sister do Short times after school?

I think your brother has aids, go get him checked

Just keep this up for a few days and she'll be gone.

I cant say anything about my wifes family without risk of Nuclear war

[Bluecat]

Another way is meet her family and then start bad mouthing each member

everytime she comes over. Especially the parents.

Examples:

Why is your father so lazy, shouldnt he have a job ?

Your Mom looks cambodian to me ..

Does your sister do Short times after school?

I think your brother has aids...

Just keep this up for a few days and she'll be gone.

I don't think so.

She knows already,...

Bad one, I agree.

Sorry.

[kwangandjo]

Hey dude,

Hope nothing bad happened to you in the mean time. Either way, sleep with one eye closed and hold your cookie at night after you told her. With all the hacking around here nowadays...

[Debaryman101]

Make sure you protect your genitals

Chok dee

[Debaryman101]

You need to tell her the truth if not then she will be attached to you from now on like another appendage the truth hurts sometimes but you need to let her know

chok dee

[Begs]

thanks for the replies guys.  i guess there's no easy way out of this.  its tempting to think about the going home trick, or the going broke trick, but it'll be a really disrespectful way to end what is already a humiliating experience, apart from the fact that she's too smart to buy into it.  i have stopped calling her for some time, but she keeps sending messages asking if i'm angry with her, and its just too awkward to say no but i don't want to see you, so she just says okay i'll be over tonight.... 

she's nice but she has these aspects to her personality that have really started to get to me, like how she spends hours talking at me about her friends and what so and so said, and what so and so did, and guess what, she told so and so this and then they plan to do that.....i'm struggling to remember what it was that got me interested, okay i though she was kinda good looking, but ######, its definitely been too high a price to pay.

anyways, thanks for the advice, i guess i'll just say what i need to say, preferably outside the apartment to avoid the flying furniture.

Just show her the stuff you write on this forum, she will realise you are a complete bastard and thank her lucky stars that its over.

Easy

Hahaha, Yep, that would do it for sure

[Falang Pan]

It's a tactic that I never would have taken in the west

Meaning?

Um, meaning that after living here for 1.5 years I've come to adopt the less than forthright attitudes that I have experienced. The western girlfriends that I have dated have been better at open communication of feelings and ideas, and we held each other to higher standards than the standards that I have seen here.

[Yohan]

Um, meaning that after living here for 1.5 years I've come to adopt the less than forthright attitudes that I have experienced.  The western girlfriends that I have dated have been better at open communication of feelings and ideas, and we held each other to higher standards than the standards that I have seen here.

'The western girlfriends that I have dated have been better at open communication of feelings and ideas.....................'

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