LooseCannon Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I think a lot of people that visit this forum would be surprised how many successful Thai/farang marriages there actually are. We always hear about the 'train wrecks' & disaster stories, but how many TV members are going to come here asking advice on how to make a successful marriage better? I have been married for 18 years & I knew my wife for about 4 years before we got married - there was no whirlwind romance ,& therefore no nasty surprises. Hopefully we have at least another 30-40 years to go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onzestan Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Hi Shrek, Good for you, congratulations. It's not only the wives that make a relationship meaningful. The male partner also has a lot to do with it. Meanwhile 19 years and counting. The best thing that ever happened to me. cheers and goodluck onzestan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
way2muchcoffee Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 7 years and counting... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JetsetBkk Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 ...I'd be worried if I had a steady pension or over 50,000 a month coming in. Dàmn. Now I'm worried. Nice post Shrek. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrbojangles Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Great post Shrek. So many people only post the negative things but in reality there are many of us living a good and happy life with the mrs and family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loaded Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 My wife's been getting 56000 a month for the last 3 years, she's still there no different and we are 6000 miles apart, its the person underneath that matters. She wasnt a bar girl and she was quite poor Im 44 shes 32. She keeps all the money I never check it if Im short in the UK she sends me money. A few years back I was seeing a 26 year old ex 7/11 cashier with one kid from a Thai relationship who - I eventually found out - was married to a British engineer. He sent 1000 US dollars each month. Sometimes he would call while I was with her and the sugar was switched on. I'm sure he felt she was a great gal. I had no respect for her and to be honest not much either for the guy sending a woman he hardly knew, but had married, a large sum of cash each month. When she started talking about convincing him to buy a house before she left him for me, I decided to knock it on the head. Yep, it wasn't very nice of me to have fun with a man's wife, but let's be straight here the only 'marriage' was in this lonely man's fantasy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackspratt Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 What are you trying to do with your misguided OP, Shrek? Did you consider the amount of perceived wisdom you would tear down from this Forum with your propaganda? All the "experts" who constantly say such a relationship can never work, left without credibility. Age old clichés such as "you can take the girl out of the bar ............" exploded as myths. Naysayers and advice givers having to re-examine their prejudices. Shame on you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shrek Posted September 30, 2008 Author Share Posted September 30, 2008 What are you trying to do with your misguided OP, Shrek?Did you consider the amount of perceived wisdom you would tear down from this Forum with your propaganda? All the "experts" who constantly say such a relationship can never work, left without credibility. Age old clichés such as "you can take the girl out of the bar ............" exploded as myths. Naysayers and advice givers having to re-examine their prejudices. Shame on you. ;-) Oh yes had all that when we first met Theres lots of helpful positive guys out there though, its just that the prats just shout louder ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nignoy Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Such a great positive thread,there are still quite a few isaan girls who married OP crown members in the mid and late 60,s, we keep in touch, its great to see their children and grandchildren making a success of their lives. even bumped into anisaan grandson working as cabin staff for BA , there are lots more successful stories out there when people think Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thesunset75 Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Happy for you Shrek that you found princess Fiona ----------------------- Being in real relationship 7 months and counting too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teacup Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 There are soo maaaaany farang men still happily married to their farang wife also, in my area. So I still don’t understand the point or purpose of this thread!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roamer Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 There are soo maaaaany farang men still happily married to their farang wife also, in my area.So I still don’t understand the point or purpose of this thread!! Thats because you have never tried to settle in Barnsley with someone who comes from more than 25 miles away. Err, forget it, if you didn't get the OP you won't get that. Shreck, I bet the smile on the missus face at the award ceremony will be a mile high, should be on yours too. For the doubters of course you can't trust an Issan woman, bargirl or uni. Nice one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unforgiven Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 The Case for the DefenceDon’t really know why I am bothering to post this. I have no need for self-justification. I suspect that I got so pissed off at most Thai girls getting such bad publicity that I felt that need to respond. OK me; I first came to Pattaya in September 2004 – had been married to a dominant English girl for 24 years – divorced – walked into a bar in deep suburbia and met Mrs Isan. The rest you’ve heard before. Same same came back 3 or 4 times after first meet she stayed in Sakhon Nakhon with mum and dad. We got a ULR visa in march 2005 amidst a deluge of tears and fears. We set up home in Barnsley, and 10 months later (after a hectic battle at the BKK embassy) brought the kids, aged 6 and 8 from their village in Isan to Monk Bretton ! Now 4 years have gone by and Mrs English is no better but her wisdom gets me thru every day. (I am 50 she is 35 going on 80 wisdom-wise) The kids couldn’t speak a word of English when they got here but in 2 weeks we attend a ceremony for the most achieving children in Barnsley….ours are the first ever to be nominated in the history of their school. Mrs is walking ten feet tall. Doubt there are two more different places on the planet in many ways than SakNak and Barnsley but if two people can share their souls then geography, climate, language, food, bla blah is not an issue. As far as people are concerned I suspect Isan is so so similar to Yorkshire. Mrs is a wonderful woman who works full time in England and has never begged a penny from me despite her humble upbringing. We cuddle every night and every morning. We fight sometimes but never sleep on a fight. We listen to Maleehuanna every night. We save for the days when we can watch the sun go down over Sak Nak. So guys…..if it feels ok then follow your heart. Gamble what you can lose. That’s money or emotions. I won the lottery with Mere Kung. Sorry I suspect I took the last one. See you in Golden Pond soon Keda. You take care Kevin Thailand Coffin Dodger. Dont Fkin die before I get there. Graham and Kung your a lucky guy,and this does happen about 10% of the time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unforgiven Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 There are soo maaaaany farang men still happily married to their farang wife also, in my area.So I still don’t understand the point or purpose of this thread!! you are easily confused Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unforgiven Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 My wife's been getting 56000 a month for the last 3 years, she's still there no different and we are 6000 miles apart, its the person underneath that matters. She wasnt a bar girl and she was quite poor Im 44 shes 32. She keeps all the money I never check it if Im short in the UK she sends me money. A few years back I was seeing a 26 year old ex 7/11 cashier with one kid from a Thai relationship who - I eventually found out - was married to a British engineer. He sent 1000 US dollars each month. Sometimes he would call while I was with her and the sugar was switched on. I'm sure he felt she was a great gal. I had no respect for her and to be honest not much either for the guy sending a woman he hardly knew, but had married, a large sum of cash each month. When she started talking about convincing him to buy a house before she left him for me, I decided to knock it on the head. Yep, it wasn't very nice of me to have fun with a man's wife, but let's be straight here the only 'marriage' was in this lonely man's fantasy. Bin there done that ,many times.One in 100 Thai women can really love a falang as we percieve love.All the old cleeshays are true,and yes it happens sometimes that it works out, but in 20 years here I can tell you it's rare!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teacup Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 There are soo maaaaany farang men still happily married to their farang wife also, in my area.So I still don’t understand the point or purpose of this thread!! you are easily confused And who are you, sir?.......and what with that...."rolling eyes"? -----errr....somthing wrong with your eyes, buddy???? huh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonrakers Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 Nice post Shrek. I am 4 1/2 years in myself and not having a pot to piss in, I need not be concerned over wether or not my better half is a gold digger. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackspratt Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 There are soo maaaaany farang men still happily married to their farang wife also, in my area.So I still don’t understand the point or purpose of this thread!! Don't let it worry you - many others do understand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Edonista Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 What are you trying to do with your misguided OP, Shrek?Did you consider the amount of perceived wisdom you would tear down from this Forum with your propaganda? All the "experts" who constantly say such a relationship can never work, left without credibility. Age old clichés such as "you can take the girl out of the bar ............" exploded as myths. Naysayers and advice givers having to re-examine their prejudices. Shame on you. He definitively is the owner of a Thai marriage agency in disguise, posting <deleted> to revive his declining business. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassienie Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 The Case for the DefenceDon’t really know why I am bothering to post this. I have no need for self-justification. I suspect that I got so pissed off at most Thai girls getting such bad publicity that I felt that need to respond. OK me; I first came to Pattaya in September 2004 – had been married to a dominant English girl for 24 years – divorced – walked into a bar in deep suburbia and met Mrs Isan. The rest you’ve heard before. Same same came back 3 or 4 times after first meet she stayed in Sakhon Nakhon with mum and dad. We got a ULR visa in march 2005 amidst a deluge of tears and fears. We set up home in Barnsley, and 10 months later (after a hectic battle at the BKK embassy) brought the kids, aged 6 and 8 from their village in Isan to Monk Bretton ! Now 4 years have gone by and Mrs English is no better but her wisdom gets me thru every day. (I am 50 she is 35 going on 80 wisdom-wise) The kids couldn’t speak a word of English when they got here but in 2 weeks we attend a ceremony for the most achieving children in Barnsley….ours are the first ever to be nominated in the history of their school. Mrs is walking ten feet tall. Doubt there are two more different places on the planet in many ways than SakNak and Barnsley but if two people can share their souls then geography, climate, language, food, bla blah is not an issue. As far as people are concerned I suspect Isan is so so similar to Yorkshire. Mrs is a wonderful woman who works full time in England and has never begged a penny from me despite her humble upbringing. We cuddle every night and every morning. We fight sometimes but never sleep on a fight. We listen to Maleehuanna every night. We save for the days when we can watch the sun go down over Sak Nak. So guys…..if it feels ok then follow your heart. Gamble what you can lose. That’s money or emotions. I won the lottery with Mere Kung. Sorry I suspect I took the last one. See you in Golden Pond soon Keda. You take care Kevin Thailand Coffin Dodger. Dont Fkin die before I get there. Graham and Kung I doubt if your marriage success is down to luck but rather that you are a good judge of character and use a lot of common sense in your approach to life that’s makes you a winner. Unfortunately many don’t have this ability and end up as losers. It`s good to hear of this prosperous relationship and wishing you all success. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephaniee Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 What are you trying to do with your misguided OP, Shrek?Did you consider the amount of perceived wisdom you would tear down from this Forum with your propaganda? All the "experts" who constantly say such a relationship can never work, left without credibility. Age old clichés such as "you can take the girl out of the bar ............" exploded as myths. Naysayers and advice givers having to re-examine their prejudices. Shame on you. one guy lives to 120 years as a heavy smoker, so now smoking is cool? get the connection! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackspratt Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 What are you trying to do with your misguided OP, Shrek?Did you consider the amount of perceived wisdom you would tear down from this Forum with your propaganda? All the "experts" who constantly say such a relationship can never work, left without credibility. Age old clichés such as "you can take the girl out of the bar ............" exploded as myths. Naysayers and advice givers having to re-examine their prejudices. Shame on you. one guy lives to 120 years as a heavy smoker, so now smoking is cool? get the connection! Oh, such wisdom stephaniee! How about "all bar girls are bad....and..... no relationship with one can succeed", and then Shrek comes along to demonstrate the fallacy of such myths. As, I have no doubt, could many others who have succeeded in their relationships. Get the connection? Probably not, so the next time someone comes on the forum to discuss a potential relationship with a bar girl/escort/massage lady etc, there will be the usual (but fortunately not universal) types of responses I outlined in my earlier post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samuian Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 (edited) What are you trying to do with your misguided OP, Shrek?Did you consider the amount of perceived wisdom you would tear down from this Forum with your propaganda? All the "experts" who constantly say such a relationship can never work, left without credibility. Age old clichés such as "you can take the girl out of the bar ............" exploded as myths. Naysayers and advice givers having to re-examine their prejudices. Shame on you. one guy lives to 120 years as a heavy smoker, so now smoking is cool? get the connection! Oh, such wisdom stephaniee! How about "all bar girls are bad....and..... no relationship with one can succeed", and then Shrek comes along to demonstrate the fallacy of such myths. As, I have no doubt, could many others who have succeeded in their relationships. Get the connection? Probably not, so the next time someone comes on the forum to discuss a potential relationship with a bar girl/escort/massage lady etc, there will be the usual (but fortunately not universal) types of responses I outlined in my earlier post. "Get the connection? " What I don't get, is how in the 1000 heavens can one draw a line between smoking and a relationship is beyond my grasp! (Even remotely a certain Monica comes to mind, trying a relations ship with a Cuban cigar... which sort of didn't really work out...is that the intended connection? ) However, I wish the OP couple all the luck there is - same time I would like to warn the others which may feel encouraged to walk the same path as in "you see, didn't I tell you, they're not all bad!" After all, time will tell, maybe ."..when the sun goes down in NakSak", all the tasks are completed and the eggs are in the basket! Edited October 1, 2008 by Samuian Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonrakers Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 What are you trying to do with your misguided OP, Shrek?Did you consider the amount of perceived wisdom you would tear down from this Forum with your propaganda? All the "experts" who constantly say such a relationship can never work, left without credibility. Age old clichés such as "you can take the girl out of the bar ............" exploded as myths. Naysayers and advice givers having to re-examine their prejudices. Shame on you. one guy lives to 120 years as a heavy smoker, so now smoking is cool? get the connection! Shrek's post along with many others have dis-proved the ridiculous myth that ALL Thai girls are not to be trusted. For whatever reason you have decided to ignore the merits of this thread, such narrow mindedness is the reason that such myths exist in the first place. Your user name suggest that you are female, and so I wonder why you would feel so much resentment to the 'competition'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 stephanee is a man, a farang man who likes to walk a fine line trolling here, at that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chaimai Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 stephanee is a man, a farang man who likes to walk a fine line trolling here, at that Not related to cynthialee by any chance ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RakJungTorlae Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 stephanee is a man, a farang man who likes to walk a fine line trolling here, at that Not related to cynthialee by any chance ? maybe so, but he cracks me up thou. Well anyways I stopped reading after “pattaya” Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neeranam Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 Shrek's post along with many others have dis-proved the ridiculous myth that ALL Thai girls are not to be trusted. For whatever reason you have decided to ignore the merits of this thread, such narrow mindedness is the reason that such myths exist in the first place. 4 years hardly dis-proves anything. It's always interesting in a sociological sense to hear the FHS percentage. If it is under 50%, you really must start asking questions. It is very common in Isarn for it to be 5% or lower. HFS= Father Husband Salary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mossfinn Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 your a lucky guy,and this does happen about 10% of the time One in 100 Thai women can really love a falang as we percieve love. Good Luck Moss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unforgiven Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 There are soo maaaaany farang men still happily married to their farang wife also, in my area.So I still don’t understand the point or purpose of this thread!! you are easily confused And who are you, sir?.......and what with that...."rolling eyes"? -----errr....somthing wrong with your eyes, buddy???? huh ya I use my laser beams to cut the crap Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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