How Do You Handle It?

[midasthailand]

no i am 23 and fuc_k everything that moves

Remind me to stand still at Titanium tonight if you are attending!!

[GaiYaang]

no i am 23 and fuc_k everything that moves

Remind me to stand still at Titanium tonight if you are attending!!

you can't stand still if you're really drunk.

[SoiSource]

I think you should try to contact MetroGirl.

She can help ya.

Alex:

Are U my agent now, Alex?...LOL

Trying to pass me along …huh

I think the only thing the OP will be shaking at the end is……. lots of SALT!!

Seems like the OP won't match me, intellectually..............hmmm….judging by his immature post!

MARRIED MAN, and new PAPA…are OFF LIMIT to me JA

I do have some ethical and principles too, u know

Mr. Seapok:

Seems U know quite well on…. how to handle the "wife" side

Here I thought U r still UN-MARRIED!.....tsk tsk tsk

Now what should I do with a trashcan full of your posted-notes then, BURN THEM all !!!!????…..huh

Now to the OP:

Wow, your question is incredibly immature and ignorant to all problems relating to adultery. If you actually knew anything about relationships/or even what a marriage is, ...then you would understand how stupid your question really is!!!

Sorry metrogirl, Im only interested in the thoughts of men not farang women so i didnt read you post. Maybe i should of made it clear in the post. The topic is about how to deal with the amazing beautiful thai women everywhere. How do u handle trying to be faithful, not about farang womens thoughts on it.

[SoiSource]

I love these threads,

They always turn into the free-wheeling single men-about-town versus the married ones who are usually tucked up in bed and who seem to resent anyone who is single having a blast through life and sleeping with more than one partner

To me the whole 'love' thing is a bit over-rated now and is manipulated to sell a lot of consumerist crap.

It does exist but more for the woman who is after her man for support and kids. The man sometimes gets caught by the womans love vibe and settles into it. Long marriages usually result. But long and happy marriages these days are quite rare.

For me life is a lot more fun being single, you are your own boss, no-one tells you what to do and nags you. You wear your own crown of destiny (to an extent).

90% of couples I've met in Thailand and in the west usually have the male trapped somewhat with his lot in life. But some people are suited to a married lifestyle. I know I'm not, I've been on the move and travelling too much to even want to slow down and get hooked.

Man is meant to be the hunter, it's written into our genes and characteristics, some more than others. Once kids come crawling along life becomes too boring for my liking. Not everyone is supposed to have kids, and I hate those that seem to 'expect' others to follow their wife and 2 kids example. If we all did that the earth would be even more overcrowded and crazy.

On the same note, being single isn't for everyone either. I've had conversations with depressed farang who aren't even married, but are upset with their Thai girlfriend.

'Look, if you aren't happy and it is making you sad, why the hel_l are you still with her then?' I tell him.

After a sullen silence I get the shy little truth peeping its head. 'I get too lonely on my own.' He meekly mutters.

Another time there was this guy just pacing back and forth in a bar, like a raging demon on the brink of armageddon.

Turns out he was missing his girlfriend who was being a bit nouty and not around for him to be with. So he was all over the place.

So some needy guys can do better NOT being single, as they do well with a wife mentally.

I think it might be some subconcious fear that if they die they have to be around someone, at least, that's what some college chick doing psychologist stuff told me

I am being honest!! HONEST!

Most people on here honest right?. For example most guys on here are happily married to non isaan, uni educated or HISO girls arent they? but thats another topic isnt it.

[SoiSource]

guesthouse you have no idea what you are talking about

OPs lack of desire to sleep with fat women is also a product of human evolution

The perception of beauty relates to culture - not evolution. Doh!

thankyou GuestHouse.

i think that some of you should remember that in some societies,particularly in africa, the bigger the woman, the more sought after she is.

to say that a fat woman will not be desired is absolute rubbish. thats like saying a fat man wont be desired, and i see plenty of them around with bits of fluff hanging off of their arms.

to the OP, i say grow up. there is no harm in looking, but that doesnt mean you have to sleep with every woman who looks at you. sure.....youre handsome....i bet you get told that every day.....i have news for you. its all part of the game.

Oh dear Oh dear, Im glad to know all women play the game. wow such good advice. problem solved.

[hullmonkey1]

I didnt notice any other women ( apart from those on the soap operas!) for about a year (been together 2 years).

I do notice them now.

I think of it as a rooster type idea. The animal in you as a 'naked ape' wants to be dominant male, expand your genetic line.

Just look at it as another craving.. craving for money, health, happiness.

Accept it as just another chemical influence and get on with what matters - (and it isnt chasing tail)

I know what you mean about the UK though, coming to a hot country and seeing so many fit, and thinly clad women is a real shock, just as maybe going to californian beaches might be.

good luck.

The girls oop north in the UK wear a lot less than the average thai girl (not BG'S) on a saturday night out, even in winter when its <deleted> freezing

[mpdkorat]

Since moving to bangkok and bringing my thai wife with me, Everytime i go out i found it increasingly hard to be sincere to her. I dont just mean BGs btw.

How do you handle it guys?

The girls are so cute its hard isnt it?

Maybe its impossible anyway im just being honest.

Don't get caught, but most do.... Then the usual stories here in TV start the thread another again. No further comment...

[Naam]

Since moving to bangkok and bringing my thai wife with me, Everytime i go out i found it increasingly hard to be sincere to her. I dont just mean BGs btw. How do you handle it guys?

The girls are so cute its hard isnt it?

Maybe its impossible anyway im just being honest.

where exactly does one find these cuties?

[Carib]

The op just needs to grow up, and judging by his answers it will take not just years, but a lot more. What a jerk.

[jackr]

I think of it as a rooster type idea. The animal in you as a 'naked ape' wants to be dominant male, expand your genetic line.

I personally think this train of thought is hogwash... it's all about getting yer end away and nothing as elaborate as you suggest in todays world.

When your relationship is right, you will have no problems.

Wise words

For me life is a lot more fun being single, you are your own boss, no-one tells you what to do and nags you.

Like the sound of that. Once the ankle bighter is tucked away in uni, I'm pretty certain I'll be back on the road

Most girls in this country are ugly as hel_l; I got extremely high standards.

You must have. Where are you from, Utopia?

First of all, Op; asking a question of this nature on a forum where Dorises hang out is not a good idea as you can see from the swiping of feline claws.

I don't think you need to grow up, but if you're serious about your dame, then perhaps it's best not to frequent areas where said beauties congregate in high numbers... although, I do realise they tend to be all around. As for dealing with it, I'm guessing it'd be tough or even unhealthy to rein such urges in if you weren't really into your TG, so probably best to knock her on the head and get on with it.

[Lilyjade]

He keeps saying he is handsome.

I think he is average looking.

I Lived in Australia, USA, Japan and Europe.

If I go out nightclubbing it is about the same

in every country, lots of pretty girls flirting.

Actually there are less pretty girls %wise in BKK.

Very easy to handle.

If you are single go with them.

If you have a girl stay loyal to her or break up.

Translation of his question:

I am an average looking guy, getting attention

from lots of girls(prostitutes)for the first time in my life.

How can you stay away from all the prostitutes?

How do you guys do it?

My answer: Let your loser personality rule.

Go to the prostitutes, but dont drag your wife down into your

dirty life/mess.

Let her go, so she can find a real man.

[GungaDin]

My answer: Let your loser personality rule.

Freudian slip or poor spelling?

[SoiSource]

He keeps saying he is handsome.

I think he is average looking.

I Lived in Australia, USA, Japan and Europe.

If I go out nightclubbing it is about the same

in every country, lots of pretty girls flirting.

Actually there are less pretty girls %wise in BKK.

Very easy to handle.

If you are single go with them.

If you have a girl stay loyal to her or break up.

Translation of his question:

I am an average looking guy, getting attention

from lots of girls(prostitutes)for the first time in my life.

How can you stay away from all the prostitutes?

How do you guys do it?

My answer: Let your loser personality rule.

Go to the prostitutes, but dont drag your wife down into your

dirty life/mess.

Let her go, so she can find a real man.

Yet again another women who think she knows everything when she know <deleted> all.

Complete nonsense post lilyjade.

[bkkjames]

He keeps saying he is handsome.

I think he is average looking.

I Lived in Australia, USA, Japan and Europe.

If I go out nightclubbing it is about the same

in every country, lots of pretty girls flirting.

Actually there are less pretty girls %wise in BKK.

Very easy to handle.

If you are single go with them.

If you have a girl stay loyal to her or break up.

Translation of his question:

I am an average looking guy, getting attention

from lots of girls(prostitutes)for the first time in my life.

How can you stay away from all the prostitutes?

How do you guys do it?

My answer: Let your loser personality rule.

Go to the prostitutes, but dont drag your wife down into your

dirty life/mess.

Let her go, so she can find a real man.

Yet again another women who think she knows everything when she know <deleted> all.

Complete nonsense post lilyjade.

I actually thought I heard or read before the lines that she posted, from a song or something. So I went onto a search engine in hopes of finding the artist and name of the song. After much looking around it came back to me....

These were the words my ex in Canada was mumbling as I packed my bags and moved here. Thanks for the memories.

[SoiSource]

He keeps saying he is handsome.

I think he is average looking.

I Lived in Australia, USA, Japan and Europe.

If I go out nightclubbing it is about the same

in every country, lots of pretty girls flirting.

Actually there are less pretty girls %wise in BKK.

Very easy to handle.

If you are single go with them.

If you have a girl stay loyal to her or break up.

Translation of his question:

I am an average looking guy, getting attention

from lots of girls(prostitutes)for the first time in my life.

How can you stay away from all the prostitutes?

How do you guys do it?

My answer: Let your loser personality rule.

Go to the prostitutes, but dont drag your wife down into your

dirty life/mess.

Let her go, so she can find a real man.

Yet again another women who think she knows everything when she know <deleted> all.

Complete nonsense post lilyjade.

I actually thought I heard or read before the lines that she posted, from a song or something. So I went onto a search engine in hopes of finding the artist and name of the song. After much looking around it came back to me....

These were the words my ex in Canada was mumbling as I packed my bags and moved here. Thanks for the memories.

[Mattchu9999]

Men and woman are not meant to co-habitat or "live together for ever".

You've been TOLD that your "supposed" to get married and live together as a couple for ever.

Right. That's just political/religious hogwash, and a system of control.

We are no more different than the animals that roam the planet. We age to reproductive maturity and then we fall apart until we die. We are programed to recognize the pheromone, and audio and visual cues that attract us to the opposite sex so that we can further the human race by breeding.

Anything more is just one societies political and or religious views and mantras being forced, or coerced and or subversively applied to control nothing more than animal instinct.

Marriage is an attempt to apply controls to those urges and maintain what society "says" and or "believes" is the "right" thing to promote what? a "happy" marriage?

Yeah....lol you can fool yourself into that way of thinking and pretend your happy and you'll tell me how foolish I am or how you've been completely happy and totally monagamous in your relationship and how I'm missing out....

But I dont care one bit about what YOU think makes YOU happy, and how YOU think I "should" be thinking another way...you've only proven you accepted with full faith what you've been told how to act and live.

Not me. And I couldn't be happier

[Huey]

You should have got it all out of your system before you married. No matter what, if you have a pulse and you are a man, you will look. Period. that's just the truth. But if you already fulfilled all of your sexual fantasies and you married a woman who really turns you on in the bedroom, then you should be fine. Skip either of those two and your doomed to a marriage of misery, contempt and infidelity. I spent 4 years in Pattaya and traveling around the world "sowing my oats" before I considered marrying.

[Mattchu9999]

By the way anyone interested in investing in a pill that lowers men's standards for women? I think that will out sell Viagra. But do we market it to women or men or both?

[bkkjames]

By the way anyone interested in investing in a pill that lowers men's standards for women? I think that will out sell Viagra. But do we market it to women or men or both?

If your avatar is anything to go by, I think you should include the blind in your demographic selection process.

[Naam]

Men and woman are not meant to co-habitat or "live together for ever". You've been TOLD that your "supposed" to get married and live together as a couple for ever. Right. That's just political/religious hogwash, and a system of control.

We are no more different than the animals that roam the planet.

We age to reproductive maturity and then we fall apart until we die. We are programed to recognize the pheromone, and audio and visual cues that attract us to the opposite sex so that we can further the human race by breeding.

hmmm... a clown philosopher

[SoiSource]

You should have got it all out of your system before you married. No matter what, if you have a pulse and you are a man, you will look. Period. that's just the truth. But if you already fulfilled all of your sexual fantasies and you married a woman who really turns you on in the bedroom, then you should be fine. Skip either of those two and your doomed to a marriage of misery, contempt and infidelity. I spent 4 years in Pattaya and traveling around the world "sowing my oats" before I considered marrying.

Good point huey. A decent answer for once. I would say i have i fulfilled all my sexual fantasies and married a women who turns me on in the bedroom, BUT no matter how hot she is that it wont stay that way mate I have had a few stunners in the past back in the old farang land but after a few months it gets boring partly to do with the nagging too not just the sex no matter how cute they get.

If your wondering why i married my wife knowing this fact is because i love her. Im asking for people opinions on here. MEN btw! as they are the only ones who can answer it.

I guess im like a kid in a candy shop, Maybe i should stop going to places where the women are so dam_n hot, Ok i better stay inside then. hehehe

[ozsamurai]

We all as evolved people have many facets and roles in our lives, husbands, friends, worker, et al. Each requires a different set of behaviour, control and conformity. It is when you let just one of those facets of your collective personality take over you become that pushy parent, cheating husband, etc... Its all about balance, if you don't think you can be faithful, then you should have at least enough trust in the person you married to be able to discuss this with her, you never know how being honest with a person you care for can be liberating. Don't hide behind the 'I'm scared to tell her in case she gets angry'. A good sexual appetite is a healthy thing for males and female alike. As my old man says; It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, always eat at home.

[bkkjames]

You should have got it all out of your system before you married. No matter what, if you have a pulse and you are a man, you will look. Period. that's just the truth. But if you already fulfilled all of your sexual fantasies and you married a woman who really turns you on in the bedroom, then you should be fine. Skip either of those two and your doomed to a marriage of misery, contempt and infidelity. I spent 4 years in Pattaya and traveling around the world "sowing my oats" before I considered marrying.

Good point huey. A decent answer for once. I would say i have i fulfilled all my sexual fantasies and married a women who turns me on in the bedroom, BUT no matter how hot she is that it wont stay that way mate I have had a few stunners in the past back in the old farang land but after a few months it gets boring partly to do with the nagging too not just the sex no matter how cute they get.

If your wondering why i married my wife knowing this fact is because i love her. Im asking for people opinions on here. MEN btw! as they are the only ones who can answer it.

I guess im like a kid in a candy shop, Maybe i should stop going to places where the women are so dam_n hot, Ok i better stay inside then. hehehe

It's better to have one bird in the hand than two in the bush there soisaucer, at least at home.

[donna]

pass the baygon please.

[SoiSource]

You should have got it all out of your system before you married. No matter what, if you have a pulse and you are a man, you will look. Period. that's just the truth. But if you already fulfilled all of your sexual fantasies and you married a woman who really turns you on in the bedroom, then you should be fine. Skip either of those two and your doomed to a marriage of misery, contempt and infidelity. I spent 4 years in Pattaya and traveling around the world "sowing my oats" before I considered marrying.

Good point huey. A decent answer for once. I would say i have i fulfilled all my sexual fantasies and married a women who turns me on in the bedroom, BUT no matter how hot she is that it wont stay that way mate I have had a few stunners in the past back in the old farang land but after a few months it gets boring partly to do with the nagging too not just the sex no matter how cute they get.

If your wondering why i married my wife knowing this fact is because i love her. Im asking for people opinions on here. MEN btw! as they are the only ones who can answer it.

I guess im like a kid in a candy shop, Maybe i should stop going to places where the women are so dam_n hot, Ok i better stay inside then. hehehe

It's better to have one bird in the hand than two in the bush there soisaucer, at least at home.

What about 3 or 4?

[Moonrakers]

In 4 1/2 years of marriage I have not been unfaithful once.

Being hetero-sexual I could do all sorts of things to some of these girls that would result in my being banned should I repeat it on TV, of course I can be tempted but my #1 rule is never to touch. This includes/especially on my occasional visit to cowboy etc, and by no touching that includes things such as sitting on my lap.

The thing is for me that I am able to think of the consequences: At worst being caught or at best having to live with my own guilt for what is basically just a drunken shag, I am also able to see just how stupid I would be to risk my marriage because of nothing more than falling for a nice ass. With this in my mind I am able to convince myself that I am not at all interested in actually committing the act, rather it is better that I just keep it a fantasy.

I think that it also helps that I have a good looking wife that I am still very much attracted to physically, and with whom I share an active sex life.

[donna]

one of the more sensible answers globalj. well said.

[bkkjames]

In 4 1/2 years of marriage I have not been unfaithful once.

Being hetero-sexual I could do all sorts of things to some of these girls that would result in my being banned should I repeat it on TV, of course I can be tempted but my #1 rule is never to touch. This includes/especially on my occasional visit to cowboy etc, and by no touching that includes things such as sitting on my lap.

The thing is for me that I am able to think of the consequences: At worst being caught or at best having to live with my own guilt for what is basically just a drunken shag, I am also able to see just how stupid I would be to risk my marriage because of nothing more than falling for a nice ass. With this in my mind I am able to convince myself that I am not at all interested in actually committing the act, rather it is better that I just keep it a fantasy.

I think that it also helps that I have a good looking wife that I am still very much attracted to physically, and with whom I share an active sex life.

Don't worry GBDJ - your wife is not a member of TV (that's what she told me last week,shhh).

On a similar theme to this thread, the New York Times or some other big name paper did a survey of guy's in there 80s and 90s on their deathbeds as to the biggest regret they had in their lives, the overwhelming response was they 'didn't shag enough women during their lives'.

[Moonrakers]

In 4 1/2 years of marriage I have not been unfaithful once.

Being hetero-sexual I could do all sorts of things to some of these girls that would result in my being banned should I repeat it on TV, of course I can be tempted but my #1 rule is never to touch. This includes/especially on my occasional visit to cowboy etc, and by no touching that includes things such as sitting on my lap.

The thing is for me that I am able to think of the consequences: At worst being caught or at best having to live with my own guilt for what is basically just a drunken shag, I am also able to see just how stupid I would be to risk my marriage because of nothing more than falling for a nice ass. With this in my mind I am able to convince myself that I am not at all interested in actually committing the act, rather it is better that I just keep it a fantasy.

I think that it also helps that I have a good looking wife that I am still very much attracted to physically, and with whom I share an active sex life.

Don't worry GBDJ - your wife is not a member of TV (that's what she told me last week,shhh).

On a similar theme to this thread, the New York Times or some other big name paper did a survey of guy's in there 80s and 90s on their deathbeds as to the biggest regret they had in their lives, the overwhelming response was they 'didn't shag enough women during their lives'.

She told me that she went for some som-tam

[Moonrakers]

In 4 1/2 years of marriage I have not been unfaithful once.

Being hetero-sexual I could do all sorts of things to some of these girls that would result in my being banned should I repeat it on TV, of course I can be tempted but my #1 rule is never to touch. This includes/especially on my occasional visit to cowboy etc, and by no touching that includes things such as sitting on my lap.

The thing is for me that I am able to think of the consequences: At worst being caught or at best having to live with my own guilt for what is basically just a drunken shag, I am also able to see just how stupid I would be to risk my marriage because of nothing more than falling for a nice ass. With this in my mind I am able to convince myself that I am not at all interested in actually committing the act, rather it is better that I just keep it a fantasy.

I think that it also helps that I have a good looking wife that I am still very much attracted to physically, and with whom I share an active sex life.

Don't worry GBDJ - your wife is not a member of TV (that's what she told me last week,shhh).

On a similar theme to this thread, the New York Times or some other big name paper did a survey of guy's in there 80s and 90s on their deathbeds as to the biggest regret they had in their lives, the overwhelming response was they 'didn't shag enough women during their lives'.

I think that I met my quota during a 6 month stay on an 18-30's resort in Kavos, Corfu.