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My ex- and current flame, O., is very closeted and hasn't learned to accept being gay. Additionally, most of his friends are kind of good ol' boy straight types. He is very slowly introducing me to a few of them [i'm getting the tobaccy out so I can hawk and spit with 'em and not blow my guy's cover! :o ].

I've known other Thai guys whose entire social circle was a motley collection of fellow queens, kathoeys, and assorted girl fans. And, I've known Thai guys with friends who were a mix of all types in between.

Who are your Thai partner's friends? Do you know them? What are they like? If you socialize together with them, what do you do?

"Steven"

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Good topic, Steven. "B" and I have been together for nearly 4 years now. I've met most of his friends and he has met mine as well. "B's" friends are an assorted lot. Most are from the south, where he's from. A few are on the queenish side, but most are the rather non-flashy or queeny type. For the most part, "B" doesn't allow them in our home, mainly out of his fear things might dissappear. He feels that many Thai's cannot be trusted. Interesting. Every so often we'll meet various friends at the malls for lunch, maybe on a rare ocassion meet some mutual friends for a Sunday brunch, or meet a few friends on a Friday or Saturday night for dinner. Once we had a Thai/American couple to our home for a most enjoyable evening for his birthday. We were both nervous since these were our first guests in our home.

Not all the friends are gay. We both have mutual "straight" friends who don't care about our personal life, but enjoy us for who we are. This includes both Thai and foreigner. "B's" not afraid of who he is, has accepted himself, and I'm even part of the family.

Outside of the Thai folks, he does have foreign friends as well, all of whom I have met. Nice folk. We'll be meeting these people near the end of the week for get together. Looking forward to that.

BTW, good to see you and "O" are making another go at it :o

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Great topic. My partner of 17 months is a local guy, and as he says, he's always been too busy working 6 or 7 days a week to make many friends. But in addition to his family, he spends time with his best friend of many years, and two similar friends, all of whom happen to be 'married' to farang. I can't tell that any of them is that katoey (but sometimes it's hard to tell on the borderline ones). When they can, they go out together on Saturday nights, along with an apparently straight female thai coworker. I've gone with them a couple of times, and they seem to have a lot of fun.

My partner lets his trusted friends in our apartment, because he knows they're honest (so are 99% of all Thai I've known, including moneyboys).

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Speaking from three years of co-habitation experience, my Thai has one very long standing friend that is in his early twenties and was a co-worker in the hotel where my Thai worked when I met him.

This younger friend is definitely nelly and my Thai treats him as a confidant and he mentors him. My Thai also has a good fellow Issan thai who is married to a falang and they play tennis together three times a week.

Both have been to the house, but only the younger one more than once.

My Thai also has many straight Thai "friends" and also other gays, but I would call them acquantances. My Thai is much sought after for his "conversation", I call B.S. and he goes out a couple of nights a month for a late night-early morning karioke sessions with a number of various people including straight women.

I am always invited, however, I don't speak Thai and for those who speak English, I have very little in common and wouldn't enjoy the noice, smoke and drinking ambiance. My Thai doesn't drink either. His usual excuse for me is I must have airconditioning for my health and rarely do get togethers involve an airconditioned establishment.

He socializes alot at the sport stadium as well and has many acquantances with whom he shares his sport interest. My days of coaching him at tennis are over so I rarely play anymore. I welcome the three hours he is gone for tennis or fitness daily and it gives us both our "space".

We are going over to his Issan buddies house for New Year's, our first visit to his house. He came over, as did his Dutch lover of over ten years, two years ago to check out our house and comare, I am sure. I live in a new contemporary western house while they have a "village" Thai house deep in Thai village society. There will be many friends there, some I have met and some who speak good English so it should go well. My Thai has already advised that we can leave after

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My guy LOVES to have his friends over to the apt for Card-Games.. (for small-money..)

However, they are MARATHON - they start around 2.00am.. and go on until 8.00 or 10.00am...!! :D

Luckily - when I'm not there.....!! :o

ChrisP

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