Lurker Comes Out

[julian]

Hi,

  I'm a married bi guy in my 40's. Still fairly fit and good looking (i think)!!!!

Came over to Thailand this year, loved it. Also managed a couple of hours away from my other half, to meet a sweet thai guy for some fun!!

  Love to come over again if i can.  Its so difficult being a married guy with such strong bi leanings to cute looking guys.

  Well there you are, a lurker come out for a chat.

jules

Edited January 23, 2005 by ChrisP

[ChrisP]

Hi Jules..!

A BIG WELCOME to our part of the world..!

Thailand does have some of the world's most BEAUTIFUL guys... I know, I found one who loves me...!

Part of the reason I'm moving there next year..

I'm glad you had a good time.. come back soon..!

ChrisP

[Ijustwannateach]

Hey, Lurker-Guy- nice to hear from you!

I don't know if you'd followed any of the other threads I've written but I've got a situation where my ex- was dating a Thai girl for a long time without being honest about it. He says, in the end, that he's really gay and doesn't think we'll have a problem like this again- but on the other hand, I know that he still watches straight porn from time to time.

Can you tell me how you balance this "bi" thing? Is it something where you really, really *need* to have contact with both men and women? Or is it that usually one partner is enough but you still feel the interests the other way? I'm curious as to how faithful my ex- could ever really be, or whether he *is* truly bisexual or was just a confused gay guy.

Appreciate any advice.

"Steven"

[thomasma]

About the straight porn, there are a lot of my Thai gay friends who prefer straight porn to a gay one. I don't think that necessarily signals bisexuality. As for myself I enjoys straight ones sometimes too.

[ProThaiExpat]

Hi,

   I'm a married bi guy in my 40's. Still fairly fit and good looking (i think)!!!!

Came over to Thailand this year, loved it. Also managed a couple of hours away from my other half, to meet a sweet thai guy for some fun!!

  Love to come over again if i can.  Its so difficult being a married guy with such strong bi leanings to cute looking guys.

  Well there you are, a lurker come out for a chat.

jules

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I am intrigued by the use of words in this post. "Strong bi-leanings" from a supposed straight describing his homosexual urges. Lables are lables, and he can label himself anyway he wants, but having been there and done that, I would advise the guy to get honest with himself and start living his life the way he wants to, not the way society wants him to. He is 40 years old after all. If he wants to stay married to a woman for whatever reason, he should have an agreement with her for a "night out with the boys". If she won't agree, time to make a change.

I was a "good boy" until I was 31, realized I was old enough to not be doing everything to please my parents, wife and society. Came out privately, not out of the closet at work, but within a year or two at every job everyone knew but it wasn't talked about. To me what I do in bed is my business and I am entitled to share what portion of my life with others, as I choose.

I had a sexual encounter with a military flight officer reservist on a week of out of state duty who had been married just six months. Curiosity forced me to ask him what was up. He said he just got the urge to "suck.......) every six months or so and acted on it. I don't give that marriage much longevity.

My own homegrown test to be given to those men who claim bisexuality:

Imagine yourself alone in a room with the most desireable woman and man you can imagine, both naked, and you must to choose one to have sex with, not both, which one would you choose".

The truthful answer gives you the truth about your sexuality. Granted many men engage in sex with both sexes at different times in their lives, depending on the situation, but I am talking about whether you are straight or gay, not the transition state labled "bisexuality".

[PeaceBlondie]

I must have been born gay, because nobody taught it to me. But I played the straight game to age 42. I almost never mast---bated to thoughts of hetero, always had gay fantasies. Maybe that's a tell-tale signal.

Also, my hetero 'leanings' were very week. I never wanted another woman. Now I couldn't perform with a woman if my life depended on it.