drum Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 would you say your married partner rates you first as husband or wife, or do they rate there own parents relatives first over there married partner Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Birdman Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 (edited) One of these days threads, where everyone know the answers and what you want to say here. Really Edited December 26, 2009 by Birdman Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steven100 Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 As a partner, you are down on the list. Family is first. nothing new. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neverdie Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 One of these days threads, where everyone know the answers and what you want to say here. Really Seconded. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mahtin Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 Bad boxing day? Think out of the box. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IanForbes Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 would you say your married partner rates you first as husband or wife, or do they rate there own parents relatives firstover there married partner You could ask a hundred different people and get at least 50 different answers. I think it all depends on the couple. And, I DO believe it changes over time. People get married for many different reasons and no two are exactly alike. Poor women are more likely to marry more wealthy foreigners for financial reasons. Young couples of similar ages might truly be in love. And, they might actually STAY in love for a long time. I know many happily married former bar girls, and their husbands know exactly what the women were working at before they married. But, there ARE differences in the Thai culture from cultures in the west. Thais as a whole are far more family oriented and younger Thais are EXPECTED to look after their parents when they get old. The only time that scenerio really confuses me is when parents have actually SOLD their daughters into sexual slavery and the girls don't run away when given the opportunity. For some strange reason the young women still feel they have a responsibility to their parents who sold them in the first place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simon43 Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 Rated first for sure - her parents only have pride of place in their little vases placed by the TV Simon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garyh Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 I'm first, my wife told me so. LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MiG16 Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 wasnt it Scea that started similar discussion a while back? you should speak to him, you are sure to feel much better after hearing his stories merry Christmas Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dumball Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 'simon43' date='2009-12-26 20:25:13''3226634']Rated first for sure - her parents only have pride of place in their little vases placed by the TV Simon Yeah Simon , had lots of guys tell me that over the years , trouble was the missus had wandered and he was first---------- to go . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skipvice Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 I think its all about how much money you pass around to the family Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
givenall Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 Where have you been? I Thailand, the parents are first, then brother and sister and sometime extended family then the husband especially true if the husband is Frang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Credo Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 It depends on the time of day. It depends on the time of the month. It depends on the time from/till payday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bina Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 5, 4, 3 , 2, 1,,.................. bina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dakhar Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 bottom of the bucket Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slaps Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 (edited) This is the second crap post I have seen of yours tonight what's your problem? Edited December 26, 2009 by Slaps Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drum Posted December 26, 2009 Author Share Posted December 26, 2009 5, 4, 3 , 2, 1,,..................bina what ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bina Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 drum, that is me counting down towards warnings and closings.... u seem to be having a bad hair day. bina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cognos Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 my delusion is my perception is my reality.. signed: same same same Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cognos Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 its CONDITIONAL...family is "always" FIRST.. and as long as you are GOOD to her.. you are FIRST..if you screw around on her, abuse her in any way, you don't deserve to be above her family, RIGHT??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cognos Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 ..and you don't even deserve to be above her.. signed: in the bed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IMA_FARANG Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 (edited) What do you think I am, a fool? I know precisely where I rank. My Thai wife was previously married. She has 3 children by that marriage. In the family ranking, she rates her 3 children first, then the grand daughter, then me, and finally the rest of the family. That doesn't mean she doesn't love me. She's been with me for nearly 30 years, and I long ago understood she loved me. But the 3 children and one grand daughter are blood relations, flesh of flesh you might say,...and that's how it will always be. That's just a biological fact. Edited December 26, 2009 by IMA_FARANG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cognos Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 "..What do you think I am, a fool? I know precisely where I rank..." a wise person knows their place.. signed: hierarchy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whichschool Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 Ive always been the black sheep of my family so if im viewed in a lowly way by any future Thai family then thats tickityboo. With the exception of kids and future wife the rest of them will be irrelevant to me in whatever they say or think! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmushr00m Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 Im #1 Now I wait for someone(s) to tell me I am a delusional fool and how I must be mistaken....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drum Posted December 26, 2009 Author Share Posted December 26, 2009 drum, that is me counting down towards warnings and closings.... u seem to be having a bad hair day.bina i ask what i think is a reasonable question,i mean not to offend any body,sorry if i have,, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cognos Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 if you think you are, you probably are Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brunus Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 (edited) My first Thai girlfriend definitely put family 1st. It didn't last long. My wife has always chosen me over her family. Date a poor farang, never given money (mine or hers, because she works) to the family, wedding with no dowry, no Buddhist/Thai ceremony, not at her home town. And many other things that pissed her family off. Maybe the fact we don't have a big age difference that we share common ideals and that we have common interests might help? Or maybe because one of the first things I told her (remembering my 1st gf) was " I am poor, can't give money to you or your family". She replied "I don't give a <deleted> about your money". Maybe it's better to choose wisely the person you marry. I couldn't be married with somebody who doesn't put me 1st, because I always put her 1st. Maybe if it is real love you can be #1 (she has no kids, can't say anything about that situation) Edited December 26, 2009 by Brunus Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gregb Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 Once her parents are dead. you are #1. Before that, it is a crap shoot depending on her mood. Marry a Thai girl and you marry the family. Anyone who doesn't believe that is simply an idiot. However, it is the parents who are the glue in the family. Remove them and brothers and sisters become increasingly less important. Another reason why a 40 year old Thai wife might be less trouble than the 18 year old nymph whose parents have 30+ years ahead of them. Food for thought. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garyh Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 What do you think I am, a fool? I know precisely where I rank. My Thai wife was previously married. She has 3 children by that marriage. In the family ranking, she rates her 3 children first, then the grand daughter, then me, and finally the rest of the family. That doesn't mean she doesn't love me. She's been with me for nearly 30 years, and I long ago understood she loved me. But the 3 children and one grand daughter are blood relations, flesh of flesh you might say,...and that's how it will always be. That's just a biological fact. Your ranking in the family will depend on how much you bring to the family, if you are a lazy useless drunk with no money then you might get your meal before the dog. If you are wealthy with a Uni degree, contribute lots to the family you will be number one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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