radiola Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 This sucks, we have been together for 14 months. We traveled together everywhere around asia. We have been together all the time practically. Now I got back from Europe because my visa ran out and she said she wants to go america as aupair, nanny basically. She said she will stay there 6 months but i think 1 year. I said to her to choose between me of aupair and she still wants to go. What would you do? Would you let your girl go america for 6 months as a nanny and still have her as a girlfriend? I think this is not possible, it is in fact very pessimistic and egoistic. I always been with her for 14 month, ok I stay in europe for 2 weeks. I just can't be in a relationship with a girl like that. I came back to be with her and she dreams we can have a relationship like that. So bad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rgs2001uk Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 (edited) Its called upgrading, you are a second hand corolla, she wants a new beamer, can you blame her? Take it the condo inChonburi is now on hold. Edited June 29, 2011 by rgs2001uk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GreenSnapper Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Google "GFTOW" That will solve your problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thongkorn Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 The sad fact is Just move On, If she wanted to be with you she would be , Obviously she does not. many have been there done that and still split up ,get on with it because piece of mind is every thing.Start now best of luck Mate , Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chonburiram Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiola Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 she dont want to break up with me, she want me to wait for her but I am not a retard to do that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andrewbkk Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Its called upgrading, you are a second hand corolla Yep -- you're a nice guy, you're a good guy, you're a great guy. But you're also yesterday's news. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiola Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 GFTOW regarding that, hmmmmm, that is not an issue Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scotinsiam Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 she dont want to break up with me, she want me to wait for her but I am not a retard to do that send me her details and I will check up if she is faithful, If not I can send pictures of her getting porked Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiola Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 i am over jealousy, i dont belive girls are faithful anyway, so i am not concerned about that. here in thailand it is really easy to get another girl, but kind of sucks getting new, new new and new every week Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MidoriApple Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 i am over jealousy, i dont belive girls are faithful anyway, so i am not concerned about that. here in thailand it is really easy to get another girl, but kind of sucks getting new, new new and new every week believe, not belive.. You are so negative and stereotype! She chooses to go for earning her living, not to go having new BF in USA. Isnot the same, apparently You want her to live with you, but as whom? Only your girl? I just have 2years and 1 month anniversary for my long distance relationship, Everything has been very well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottyd Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 (edited) To be honest, if I was in her position I would want to move to America for a "better" life too. She still likes you but if you are making her choose between you or her career then it is entirely your own fault for being selfish. *Edit. Upon reading the whole thread, I'm glad you are breaking up because you sound like a right one. Edited June 29, 2011 by scottyd Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Metapod Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 How long are you in Europe for? Do you live full time in Thailand? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiola Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 yes i only go back to get new visa every 6 months i think i made a good choice, long distance relatiosnhips just do not work i think she just wants a boyfriend, to talk to few minutes with skype every day, au pair is a career? you must be kidding me maybe she will meet a rich american guy in america, "dreamland" for naive people Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottyd Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 (edited) Whatever happens with her I bet she will be better off without you. Never before have I been quite so disgusted with someone by their posts on the internet. Edited June 29, 2011 by scottyd Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiola Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 scotty dee, what is the problem with you, too much booze and ladies of the night, broken heart? if you belive that youe girl is faithful, i must tell you, wake up, hello, wake up dude, i am offensive by your posts too, so please just dont post here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sotsira Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 What the OP hasn't mentioned is how she has managed to get the opportunity to go to the US with a job offer in the first place? From my understanding it's not an easy achievement to get a green card and work permit for the US without some US connections. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Metapod Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 yes i only go back to get new visa every 6 months i think i made a good choice, long distance relatiosnhips just do not work i think she just wants a boyfriend, to talk to few minutes with skype every day, au pair is a career? you must be kidding me maybe she will meet a rich american guy in america, "dreamland" for naive people you live in Thailand 6 months a year? Or you go back twice a year and spend full time in Thailand? If it is the former can you blame her? You can't wait 6months for her to do something yet she will wait 6months for you when you are in europe? Give and take man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiola Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 dude, she will get permit with aupair, how other girls get it? I am not sure yes I stay here all the time. I took her everywhere I went with me before, I did not want to leave her alone in Thailand, we went Malaysia for few months, Bali..... now she does this to me. are some girls really stupid like that, they think that the relationship will last if a man not see her for 6 months to 1 year, I don't know anybody who is like that this just does not work she says she wants to make money and learn english, i tell her how everything is expensive in usa, and her salary will be under 1k. they will use her for everything, cooking, cleaning.......beside babysitting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sotsira Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 dude, she will get permit with aupair, how other girls get it? I am not sure Well if your not sure then you need to find out how she thinks she can just go to the US and work as an au pair? Somebody would have to advice and finance the required paperwork from the US otherwise she won't get in. Has someone actually offered her a job? or is she just dreaming? How can you not be sure? I think you need to know as that would tell you everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiola Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 she contacted the aupair agency in thailand, she already spoke with host family over skype, all through the agency, it is a done deal, if other girls can go, for sure she will get visa too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanLaew Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 (edited) she dont want to break up with me, she want me to wait for her but I am not a retard to do that Maybe not a retard, but a tad controlling. And you just lost control. Some men have problems with that. Ask andrew. i am over jealousy, i dont belive girls are faithful anyway, so i am not concerned about that. here in thailand it is really easy to get another girl, but kind of sucks getting new, new new and new every week Especially if you have the personality of a bag of rocks (and a face to match). andrew knows. yes i only go back to get new visa every 6 months i think i made a good choice, long distance relatiosnhips just do not work i think she just wants a boyfriend, to talk to few minutes with skype every day, au pair is a career? you must be kidding me maybe she will meet a rich american guy in america, "dreamland" for naive people Ahhhhh..... little dick syndrome. Grow some and live a bit larger. Or else you could end up like andrew. Edited June 29, 2011 by NanLaew Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanLaew Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 (edited) Its called upgrading, you are a second hand corolla Yep -- you're a nice guy, you're a good guy, you're a great guy. But you're also yesterday's news. The bitter voice of experience. But he is probably right. Edited June 29, 2011 by NanLaew Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiola Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 no, that was probably your dad, drunk and doped ready to OD Really what is with the rude comments on this forum, envy, hatred towards falang, or just a safe distance behind your cheap laptop Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patron Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 If she goes to America,she will never leave. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiola Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 yes i think so, she dont care about me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moe666 Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Ah dude you have forgot the first rule of Thailand: You never lose your girlfriend Just your place in line. Be a man tell her to go and seek her fortune in the great land of america and you will wait for her forever. What have you got to lose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forethat Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Move to US and work as an Au Pair, huh!? Think of it in terms like "upgrade by stealth". It's like when you buy a new driver for the golf bag, but keep the old headcover to prevent the missus from realising what happened - eventually she'll figure it out but by then it'll be too late. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
honkytonklagoon Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 She has no feelings for you, she hates you. Get over it and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tonto21 Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 (edited) Chicks a! What they like………."If you really love her……Let her go, if it was meant to be, she will return" Don't worry, it's just a thing, I'm sure………After she has had her fill of meaningless sex with countless yanks, I'm sure she will see the error of her ways, and squelch her way back. Note………Now would be a good time to stop sending money. "Up to tou" Edited June 30, 2011 by Tonto21 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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