Successful Relationships With Thai Men?

[sunspun]

I've been with my husband for 7 years now, and he's the love of my life! By far, the best partner I've ever had I wouldn't trade him for the world. We've had ups and downs of course, but I think that was mostly me trying to figure out how to survive in Thailand!

And... we just found out there's going to be a new addition to our life soon!! After 7 years of just the 2 of us against the world, it's going to be strange to have a little one around, but there is no one I'd rather make a family with than him

I've got a load of girlfriends in the same boat as me, so as much as there are some real wanke_rs out there (and I've witnessed many a failed relationship) there are a lot of great success stories too!

[Carry]

Hey Sunspun, congratulations!! Recognizing the fact that some of the downs are from trying to 'survive' Hope you have an easy pregnancy!!

[phuturatica]

Congratulations Sunspun. I am very happy for you!

[edwinclapham]

Congratulations Sunspun, wonderful news. May you all enjoy a long and happy life together.

Eddie

[wildorchid]

i understand you only want to hear positive story and yes they are many but you also have to understand that thing not alway are positive or good,

i see often farang lady and thai men mostly farang lady have to pay for everything, apartment , food, cloths, medicine because farang lady have a biger income than thai men some thai men work tattoo shop some men work boxing some work construction all of these are small salary jobs this can make lady feel resentful and therefor other nagative feeling come.

but i wish you good luck in your future

[phuturatica]

i understand you only want to hear positive story and yes they are many but you also have to understand that thing not alway are positive or good,

i see often farang lady and thai men mostly farang lady have to pay for everything, apartment , food, cloths, medicine because farang lady have a biger income than thai men some thai men work tattoo shop some men work boxing some work construction all of these are small salary jobs this can make lady feel resentful and therefor other nagative feeling come.

but i wish you good luck in your future

I think that is a very big flying generalisation and not always true in some cases. Of course some Western women have a bigger income than the Thai men they're dating, however it does not mean they are necessarily expected to pay for everything. I certainly do not. It is mostly 50/50 for me.

[Carry]

Well the most painful stories I've seen in more than 10 years in Thailand is not the fact that the lady is expected to pay for everything but mainly cultural...the bar boys of who some don't take being faithful is a big thing for example. and like Phuturatica I think you are making a very big generalization, the same has been made about western men and Thai wives/girlfriends, keep an open mind

[sunspun]

When I met my husband I had a lot more money than him. He worked a lot harder in his job than I did in mine, but Thailand just doesn't pay as well as my country. Now that he lives in my country he makes a lot more money than me. I never resented paying for him, and I don't think he resents paying for me now. I chose him for love, not for money.

[sunspun]

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Edited May 26, 2012 by sunspun

[edwinclapham]

" I chose him for love, not for money.

Good old fashioned ideals.. a joy to read..

Ladettes each your heart out

[Carry]

When I met my husband in Thailand, he had a business and was making a lot more money then me, he never once hesitated to share with me or pay anything for me.

Ladies from the west are usual independent [are we not?!], you wanna pay for your partner, let's hope it;s out of love, if you're with someone who expects you to pay [no matter where they from] make a run for it.

[eek]

i understand you only want to hear positive story and yes they are many but you also have to understand that thing not alway are positive or good,

i see often farang lady and thai men mostly farang lady have to pay for everything, apartment , food, cloths, medicine because farang lady have a biger income than thai men some thai men work tattoo shop some men work boxing some work construction all of these are small salary jobs this can make lady feel resentful and therefor other nagative feeling come.

but i wish you good luck in your future

I have had two Thai relationships. One for two years and one for about four months. Both had much more money than me. Both played very traditional roles in that they would not let me pay for anything. I bought gifts of course, and would buy coffees or something as a treat, but i was taken out and given gifts. I didnt ask for any of it, nor expected not to go "dutch", but they wouldnt hear of it. The guy i dated for two years, had sold his business in Bangkok to have a semi-retired life in Chiang Mai (he was 45). He had a lot of baggage though (that might sound bad, but I felt i was in stalemate, so had to move on). The guy i dated for four months, held a highly respected position in Bangkok, flew regularly to Japan, Europe etc. He was a very attractive 38 year old, had the Mercedes, took me to a private condo in Hua Hin, blah blah, etc etc. (But, after finding out he spent a weekend with another girl (even though he said nothing happened *yeh right!*) decided it wasnt good for me. Got excuses, and maybe he was telling the truth, but im too old for games, and already had some bad gut feelings about it.)

But anyway, they werent bad guys, just that they were not right for me. But most certainly they were total opposite to what you described.

[sbk]

Odd, can't say I've seen it either and in general Thai culture and the way the men are raised wouldn't really allow for it as it is generally been my long term experience that the man pays for the woman, the older pays for the younger but then I have never hung around with lazy sponges.

[wildorchid]

i understand you only want to hear positive story and yes they are many but you also have to understand that thing not alway are positive or good,

i see often farang lady and thai men mostly farang lady have to pay for everything, apartment , food, cloths, medicine because farang lady have a biger income than thai men some thai men work tattoo shop some men work boxing some work construction all of these are small salary jobs this can make lady feel resentful and therefor other nagative feeling come.

but i wish you good luck in your future

I have had two Thai relationships. One for two years and one for about four months. Both had much more money than me. Both played very traditional roles in that they would not let me pay for anything. I bought gifts of course, and would buy coffees or something as a treat, but i was taken out and given gifts. I didnt ask for any of it, nor expected not to go "dutch", but they wouldnt hear of it. The guy i dated for two years, had sold his business in Bangkok to have a semi-retired life in Chiang Mai (he was 45). He had a lot of baggage though (that might sound bad, but I felt i was in stalemate, so had to move on). The guy i dated for four months, held a highly respected position in Bangkok, flew regularly to Japan, Europe etc. He was a very attractive 38 year old, had the Mercedes, took me to a private condo in Hua Hin, blah blah, etc etc. (But, after finding out he spent a weekend with another girl (even though he said nothing happened *yeh right!*) decided it wasnt good for me. Got excuses, and maybe he was telling the truth, but im too old for games, and already had some bad gut feelings about it.)

But anyway, they werent bad guys, just that they were not right for me. But most certainly they were total opposite to what you described.

i'm sorry to burst your bublle but get what,,,, you would be what is call'ed the secound wife or what thai people call "my GIK " and honey you are not the first,

even a normal man can have a "GIK " so now how about a rich man count your fingers and take off your shoes because still more lady to count!!!! i know this because i'm a thai lady and i see this often, this is my country i have been here and live full in thailand than you, i'm sorry but i tell you the truth,,,sometime dificult to hear but still it is the truth... i realy wish you good luck in all your life;-)

[sunspun]

I think we all know about this side of Thai culture. And you know what, it happens in our countries too. It's maybe more accepted by Thai people for reasons I don't understand, though. Bang khun dee, bang khun mai dee. The only thing you can do is trust your heart - not judge someone by where they are from or how much money they have.

[Carry]

Well Wildorchid, you are not the first Thai woman I hear to speak negatively about Thai men. It's not easy to find true love [depending on what you expect from someone] but I dont think that is completely to do with where one is from.

So maybe it's bursting your bubble to read all of this and take in that app. some Thai men are decent guys and make some of us happy.

By the way cheating is something known in all cultures [so is having more then one wife but that's a bit irrelevant to the topic and well a bit old fashioned too!]

I wish you good luck in life and love! Chokdee

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Edited May 27, 2012 by Carry

[edwinclapham]

i understand you only want to hear positive story and yes they are many but you also have to understand that thing not alway are positive or good,

i see often farang lady and thai men mostly farang lady have to pay for everything, apartment , food, cloths, medicine because farang lady have a biger income than thai men some thai men work tattoo shop some men work boxing some work construction all of these are small salary jobs this can make lady feel resentful and therefor other nagative feeling come.

but i wish you good luck in your future

I have had two Thai relationships. One for two years and one for about four months. Both had much more money than me. Both played very traditional roles in that they would not let me pay for anything. I bought gifts of course, and would buy coffees or something as a treat, but i was taken out and given gifts. I didnt ask for any of it, nor expected not to go "dutch", but they wouldnt hear of it. The guy i dated for two years, had sold his business in Bangkok to have a semi-retired life in Chiang Mai (he was 45). He had a lot of baggage though (that might sound bad, but I felt i was in stalemate, so had to move on). The guy i dated for four months, held a highly respected position in Bangkok, flew regularly to Japan, Europe etc. He was a very attractive 38 year old, had the Mercedes, took me to a private condo in Hua Hin, blah blah, etc etc. (But, after finding out he spent a weekend with another girl (even though he said nothing happened *yeh right!*) decided it wasnt good for me. Got excuses, and maybe he was telling the truth, but im too old for games, and already had some bad gut feelings about it.)

But anyway, they werent bad guys, just that they were not right for me. But most certainly they were total opposite to what you described.

i'm sorry to burst your bublle but get what,,,, you would be what is call'ed the secound wife or what thai people call "my GIK " and honey you are not the first,

even a normal man can have a "GIK " so now how about a rich man count your fingers and take off your shoes because still more lady to count!!!! i know this because i'm a thai lady and i see this often, this is my country i have been here and live full in thailand than you, i'm sorry but i tell you the truth,,,sometime dificult to hear but still it is the truth... i realy wish you good luck in all your life;-)

I doubt very much whether you are bursting Eek's bubble and I doubt very much if you are telling her anything new ..

Cheating exists from either gender, from many nationalities in many continents. Not all Thai men are as per your description.. I am acquainted with a fair few who know where their bread is buttered and have the education and intelligence to enjoy their relationships without seeking "bits on the side" outside of the marriage.

In the same breath it would be considered equally unjust to classify all Thai women as being unfaithful wouldnt it honey.

Edited.. spelling

Edited May 27, 2012 by edwinclapham

[eek]

i understand you only want to hear positive story and yes they are many but you also have to understand that thing not alway are positive or good,

i see often farang lady and thai men mostly farang lady have to pay for everything, apartment , food, cloths, medicine because farang lady have a biger income than thai men some thai men work tattoo shop some men work boxing some work construction all of these are small salary jobs this can make lady feel resentful and therefor other nagative feeling come.

but i wish you good luck in your future

I have had two Thai relationships. One for two years and one for about four months. Both had much more money than me. Both played very traditional roles in that they would not let me pay for anything. I bought gifts of course, and would buy coffees or something as a treat, but i was taken out and given gifts. I didnt ask for any of it, nor expected not to go "dutch", but they wouldnt hear of it. The guy i dated for two years, had sold his business in Bangkok to have a semi-retired life in Chiang Mai (he was 45). He had a lot of baggage though (that might sound bad, but I felt i was in stalemate, so had to move on). The guy i dated for four months, held a highly respected position in Bangkok, flew regularly to Japan, Europe etc. He was a very attractive 38 year old, had the Mercedes, took me to a private condo in Hua Hin, blah blah, etc etc. (But, after finding out he spent a weekend with another girl (even though he said nothing happened *yeh right!*) decided it wasnt good for me. Got excuses, and maybe he was telling the truth, but im too old for games, and already had some bad gut feelings about it.)

But anyway, they werent bad guys, just that they were not right for me. But most certainly they were total opposite to what you described.

i'm sorry to burst your bublle but get what,,,, you would be what is call'ed the secound wife or what thai people call "my GIK " and honey you are not the first,

even a normal man can have a "GIK " so now how about a rich man count your fingers and take off your shoes because still more lady to count!!!! i know this because i'm a thai lady and i see this often, this is my country i have been here and live full in thailand than you, i'm sorry but i tell you the truth,,,sometime dificult to hear but still it is the truth... i realy wish you good luck in all your life;-)

I doubt very much whether you are bursting Eek's bubble and I doubt very much if you are telling her anything new ..

Cheating exists from either gender, from many nationalities in many continents. Not all Thai men are as per your description.. I am acquainted with a fair few who know where their bread is buttered and have the education and intelligence to enjoy their relationships without seeking "bits on the side" outside of the marriage.

In the same breath it would be considered equally unjust to classify all Thai women as being unfaithful wouldnt it honey.

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Oh, really wildorchid? OMG. Is that true? Oh i think ill go away and kill myself now!!!!!

.... Honesty love, dont you think you should stay away from the Thai La Korn soaps? Its the only reason i can think for you over-dramatic writing.

[daftpunker]

How do you girls cope with it being so small?

[eek]

Im guessing you must have negative experiences with Thai male appendages to ask that question daftpunker? If so, im sorry to hear of your bad experiences. For I, and the women i know who have had relationship/experiences with Thai males, havent had anything to complain about in that department.

[daftpunker]

i was talking about there height why are you being rude?

[eek]

How was i being rude? You werent talking about their appendages, ie legs?

Silly rabbit, trix is for kids.

Pretty much figured there would be a comeback prepared. Bored now.

[daftpunker]

yeeaaaahhhhhhhhh

[wildorchid]

Well Wildorchid, you are not the first Thai woman I hear to speak negatively about Thai men. It's not easy to find true love [depending on what you expect from someone] but I dont think that is completely to do with where one is from.

So maybe it's bursting your bubble to read all of this and take in that app. some Thai men are decent guys and make some of us happy.

By the way cheating is something known in all cultures [so is having more then one wife but that's a bit irrelevant to the topic and well a bit old fashioned too!]

I wish you good luck in life and love! Chokdee

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i was not saying that all thai men are this way, but i was giveing my opion as i only live here in thailand all my life over 30 year so what i was saying is absolutly correct i do know good thai men good farang men.

thank you for your goodluck wish i'm very happy with my farang husband he love thai family and thai culture very much he has never sit in a bar and not interest thai prostitute work bar or sexy massage he can only accept one man one women dose not belive in a man can have a second wife even thow this is common for a man in thailand that's how lucky i am.

i wish you goodluck also

[Carry]

Sweet! I am very happy with my Thai husband,he loves falang family and falang culture just as much as his own. he cant imagine having a second wife either, see our husbands might have a lot more in common then you think

I am falang been so all my life lived in a farang country also for most of my life, seen some guys cheat on their wives, but I would never try to warn you for 'falang' man or 'burst'your bubble, simply because it is too generalizing to do.

Just because your Thai doesnt mean you can speak for all Thai men, thats a fact.

[LadyHeather]

Im guessing you must have negative experiences with Thai male appendages to ask that question daftpunker? If so, im sorry to hear of your bad experiences. For I, and the women i know who have had relationship/experiences with Thai males, havent had anything to complain about in that department.

I find that a number of foreign men who prefer to use this insult do so in an attempt to make themselves feel superior. I ignore it as it simply reflects a rather childish insecurity.

As for the idea that a large number of Thai men are "bad"- I would guess that idea stems from the lack of reading a large number of posts by foreign men on this forum who constantly brag about their infidelities.

[edwinclapham]

Im guessing you must have negative experiences with Thai male appendages to ask that question daftpunker? If so, im sorry to hear of your bad experiences. For I, and the women i know who have had relationship/experiences with Thai males, havent had anything to complain about in that department.

I find that a number of foreign men who prefer to use this insult do so in an attempt to make themselves feel superior. I ignore it as it simply reflects a rather childish insecurity.

As for the idea that a large number of Thai men are "bad"- I would guess that idea stems from the lack of reading a large number of posts by foreign men on this forum who constantly brag about their infidelities.

Actually LadyHeather, it is not just the Thai men that receive this bad publicity... I have actually heard some pretty derogatory personal remarks about the western woman from Thai ladies. My only guess is that this is fueled by the western man who probably has such a chip on his shoulders that he feels justified as to why .......

Urban myths, too many soaps and of course questionable experience!

[cdnvic]

Troll removal activated

[eek]

ladie?

...demonstrating that some on here to truly seem to have the IQ of a newt.

Idiocracy awaits us.

[BigJohnnyBKK]

By the way cheating is something known in all cultures [so is having more then one wife but that's a bit irrelevant to the topic and well a bit old fashioned too!]

I appreciate your noting that having multiple partners doesn't have to be equivalent to cheating, but dispute the "old-fashioned" bit, modern polyamory is very much on the rise in the west and I think Thai culture is just ahead of the curve, IMO it's faith in monogamy as the one right way for people to arrange their relationship that's old-fashioned.