canuckamuck Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 While we are brushing up on our wai or not to wai skills in the other thread, I am reminded of an issue I find a little more elusory. This is the issue of how to address strangers. I seem to be quite challenged at the skill of age determination. Probably because I really don't care how old someone is, I always try to treat people respectfully regardless. Back in Canada when you wanted to get the attention of someone you didn't know, (for example a store clerk) you would simply say excuse me. Here in Thailand that comes out like ka toht krap, or whatever variation you prefer. This often feels wrong. I know that Thais will usually interject with pee or nong or ba or loong or some other gender/age tag) rather than ka toht. They have grown up with an instinct for age association and I haven't. This is what I try to do as well, but I find it awkward. When I walk into a shop and I want to get the clerks attention I instinctively want to say pee. But I am 45 and most clerks are my nong. Pee sounds friendlier then nong to me but if they are my nong I start right off looking less intelligent (if that is possible). There is no way for people here to help me in identifying age, I am just not that good at it, unless the difference is more than a decade, and even then I flounder. So I was wondering what others do, especially if they are as dense as me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morakot Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 (edited) Interesting topic. I personally find it sightly over-familiar to address a stranger as pee. I tend to stick to Khun (even with taxi drivers). But I could imagine in more rural areas this might sound out of place if not cold. Edited July 26, 2012 by Morakot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 What about: yo? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Good question, actually an I'd be interested to here what others have to say on this. I think normally, for younger it is Nong, and for older it is Pee. However, where I work, a lot of the staff refer to each other as Pee - unless it is senior management, and then the more formal addresses are used. We do have a couple of staff who are addressed as loong as well. I don't think anyone would be upset by being addressed as Nong if they are youger, and most certainly in 7/11 or a number of restaurants, but I guess I'm getting to that age where there are more younger people than me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sotsira Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 If your not sure just say sawadee krap, that's a polite greeting to any aged person. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morakot Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 What about: yo? Grand! Can't complain. Yourself? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
h90 Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 service people are for me always nong, maybe with a few exceptions.... Like in traditional Austrian German all the service women in the restaurant are "Miss".... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post yermanee Posted July 26, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted July 26, 2012 (edited) What about: yo? I admire your perseverance in trying to be funny. Plse keep at it, one day you might actually achieve it. Yermanee Edited July 26, 2012 by yermanee 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lammbock Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 In the Bangkok Sky train when people block my way to the Exit I say " ka toht krap" because I talking to more than one person. In a shop I say "Pee Kap...." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
banglay Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 My G/F and her friends and work colleagues all prefix a females name with pee out of "age" respect ...so the youngest in any given group has to pee everybody older than herself and the eldest just says there name without using Pee...so nong is not used at all within her circle of friends/colleagues .I find it funny that when ever anyone new joins as a friend or a work colleague one of the first questions that is asked is "How old are you" .' It seen to be used more in the higher social structured part of Thai life/society. i.e ( professional /government ect) 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
banglay Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 In the Bangkok Sky train when people block my way to the Exit I say " ka toht krap" because I talking to more than one person. In a shop I say "Pee Kap...." "Ka toht khurp " I am told actually means "Excuse me" so you are being polite when someone is in your way................... good on you matey good manners don't cost you a penny/stang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morakot Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 and the eldest just says there name without using Pee...so nong is not used at all within her circle of friends/colleagues That's not (overly) polite, I'd say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Yep, and because l am hansum man everybody asks the mrs how old l am, they think l am 20 years younger, l tell them thats cos l don't wear a 2 inch leather belt to hold a stomach up. As for khun, farangs don't use the term, it's for Thais. Pee is for older folk respect, they don't call me Petrans cos they think l am younger than them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JakeBKK Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 (edited) What about: yo? yo, bro ! khaaw rap! Try it on a copper! Edited July 26, 2012 by JakeBKK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canuckamuck Posted July 26, 2012 Author Share Posted July 26, 2012 They always call me pee - they can't say canuckamuck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 They always call me pee - they can't say canuckamuck. Noooooooo, they know you want Hong Naam all the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garrya Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 I, personally don't feel comfortable calling Thai people Pee or Noong, I don't know why. I just stick to koo tod krap, khun, names or HEY :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 As for khun, farangs don't use the term, it's for Thais. I wouldn't agree with you on that, whilst my staff terms refer to me as Khun Toad (amongst other things behind my back, I'm sure ), I will use Khun with certain staff or in certain situations. I don't thinks it's going over the top, and it doesn't hurt to show politeness. I have had to tell some of the staff to stop calling me Sir, which is really annoying. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arthurwait Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 In the Bangkok Sky train when people block my way to the Exit I say " ka toht krap" because I talking to more than one person. In a shop I say "Pee Kap...." "Ka toht khurp " I am told actually means "Excuse me" so you are being polite when someone is in your way................... good on you matey good manners don't cost you a penny/stang It apparently means "I request punishment" or something similar supposedly, but yeah it's used for excuse me or I'm sorry. Always seems to go down well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arthurwait Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 I never use Nong unless it is actually a kid or every other avenue has failed with a waiter etc. It justs feels like shouting " Boy, here boy" at the waiter. Pee I only use it when talking about someone just to try and clarify whom I'm talking about as so many people have the same name or addressing someone in a dead end job that most people show no respect to. It often puts a smile on their face. Oh and of course when I can't remember someones name. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nocturn Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 i have spent untold years of my life agonizing over this same issue, and it is further exacerbated by the to wai or not to wai conundrum. In the end, i decided i was simply safer hiding under the bed. but, thankfully refief finally did come -- as a rule of thumb, those who do know the ropes (you know who you are) informed me to err on the side of prudence. If the age difference is at all questionable i go with pee. If the person is glaringly younger, i go with nong. personally i don't think most people in service could give a rats ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommoPhysicist Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 (edited) Pee used to address people in the same generation as you but slightly older. Nong used to address people in the same generation as you but slightly younger PLUS ALL SERVICE STAFF. Baa and Lung for the generation above you. You never address anyone serving you in any way as Pee. (Same game as wai-ing 'inferiors') It's all about status in Thai culture, status is often derived from age, but when you are serving you get to be the lowest status, hence Nong. Edited July 26, 2012 by TommoPhysicist Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morakot Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 (edited) You never address anyone serving you in any way as Pee. When ever sure about something, always convince yourself that things are never otherwise possible. Edited July 26, 2012 by Morakot 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phuturatica Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 I normally say Pee to those older than me... Anyone else I say Khun or just use Koh to ka or Sawadee ka! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 As for khun, farangs don't use the term, it's for Thais. I wouldn't agree with you on that, whilst my staff terms refer to me as Khun Toad (amongst other things behind my back, I'm sure ), I will use Khun with certain staff or in certain situations. I don't thinks it's going over the top, and it doesn't hurt to show politeness. I have had to tell some of the staff to stop calling me Sir, which is really annoying. Khun Gop? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scully Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 I had an ex-girlfriend whose nickname was Nong. Whenever we were out and I called her name all the young girls would turn around. Probably one of the reasons she is an ex Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morakot Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 I had an ex-girlfriend whose nickname was Nong. Whenever we were out and I called her name all the young girls would turn around. Probably one of the reasons she is an ex Do you call here nong Nong? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mosha Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 From observing the wife. Among friends/family it's an age thing. Getting service from shop/restaurant staff she without fail uses nong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scully Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 I had an ex-girlfriend whose nickname was Nong. Whenever we were out and I called her name all the young girls would turn around. Probably one of the reasons she is an ex Do you call here nong Nong? No pee Nong she was older. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edwinclapham Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 (edited) Yep, and because l am hansum man everybody asks the mrs how old l am, they think l am 20 years younger, l tell them thats cos l don't wear a 2 inch leather belt to hold a stomach up. As for khun, farangs don't use the term, it's for Thais. Pee is for older folk respect, they don't call me Petrans cos they think l am younger than them. This has been discussed previously and I agree with this.. This was also taught to me as a lad in Thailand and I have always practiced it. MiG16 MiG is not 16. just a very sophisticated intelligent robot Global Moderators 7,293 posts Posted 2007-01-27 01:03:26 Khun is a polite form that can be used to address any one... man or woman....you can use it for those older and younger than you. its a good word in the thai vocab, as its both age and gender neutral one to address someone politely. its a bit formal...so tends to be used when you are not all that familiar with someone yet. (but can still continue to use even when you already become familiar...no rules against it ) Edited July 26, 2012 by edwinclapham Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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