Thai ladies with a pinch of salt. How big is a pinch we need?

[ABCer]

First is first. I'm not talking of 'bar girls'. With them the matter is crystal clear. Just as with their temp companions. And there is no judgments here.

Second. We are all humans and need socializing. No man is an island, it's safe to agree on this. I thought the same applies to females.

It seems I got it wrong somewhere.

Being a very 'mature' person (well, maybe old? or old-fashioned?) I started looking for social friends. Not 'love', not 'soul-mates', not 'one and only', not 'to hold hands till the end', not 'to love her and her dog', etc.

Went to the most known sites like 'Thai Love Links' and 'Thai Friendly'. Not a chance! A full bag of sea salt is gone in small pinches and no takers. Not one!

All my life I have been an interesting person, socially speaking. Had many friends and mutually enjoyed company. Still maintain friendships on Skype. But not in real contacts, except during visits.

I understand by now that the above sites are full of singles looking for 'partners', 'husbands', 'sponsors' and other forms of 'life sharing friends'. I am married (Thai) and this is not what I am looking for.

Now, to the point of this my post:

Is there any site in Thailand where Ladies and Men are looking for social exchange except TV? This site is quite good, but excludes real contacts and has too many posters (NOT ALL) mixing ideas, thoughts and personal attacks.

Are all Thai Ladies looking only for bed companions despite their alleged Bachelors, Masters and PhD Degrees?

Are all Thai ladies on the above sites using Google translations when claiming Good English? (no need to say anything about these translations).

How big is a pinch of salt needed when looking at their posts, profiles and stated objectives?

I hope I didn't offend any feelings here. Thanks for the same.

[ghworker2010]

''All my life I have been an interesting person''. I like that... OP has to tell everyone he is so interesting. Its like these people you meet who tell you how smart they are. The problem with the gene pool is that there is no lifeguard.

[ABCer]

''All my life I have been an interesting person''. I like that... OP has to tell everyone he is so interesting. Its like these people you meet who tell you how smart they are. The problem with the gene pool is that there is no lifeguard.

Try to read the post entirely. My thanks definitely do not go to you.

Is the lady on your lap guarding your pool of genes? Spill it out, ghworker...

[Dr Robert]

I think an 18 wheeler loaded to the beams with MSG wouldn't change much for you in the online social scene. Try getting out there in the real world and just communicate, in three glorious technicolor dimensions with real people.

Give your time and skills to those who need them and in this very act of selflessness you will satisfy your social needs and maybe surprised by just who you will find with like mind.

[StreetCowboy]

''All my life I have been an interesting person''. I like that... OP has to tell everyone he is so interesting. Its like these people you meet who tell you how smart they are. The problem with the gene pool is that there is no lifeguard.

I'm a fascinating bloke too. Perhaps the OP and I could strike up a PM conversation. What rugby league team does he support?

SC

[willyumiii]

Get out into the real Thailand and make an effort to meet real women!

I am married to a Thai and do not mess around.

At times I wish I was not married and so faithful.

I am constantly meeting very nice friendly, good ( not bar related)Thai women who are open to a relationship with a good farang.

When I explain that I am married and not available, they always ask if I have any friends who are.

Forget the internet.

Get out and meet the real women of Thailand.

Local markets are a good place, I also meet many when picking my child up from school.

Choke Dee!

[ABCer]

Dr. Robert, StreetCowboy, willyumiii, - thanks for your replies.

I am afraid my efforts are doomed. I was and still am looking for some kind of social interaction with a group of Thais.

I am NOT looking for personal relationships. On this side I'm OK.

To make it more clear: I live about 200 km from BKK. By choice. I do not like huge cities. Rayong is near the sea, I live on the beach.

I have tried to offer:

Teach higher level of conversational English at local schools for free (I'm qualified) - NO GO! No work permit, etc.

Organize some kind of a Meet-up Club for adults with the same purpose - NO GO! As a matter of fact, according to Google there are no Meet-up Clubs for anything in Rayong.

Being a non-drinker I have no chance of meeting anybody socially, except as suggested - in the local markets. Which is not interesting for me or for them.

Well, at least I have my TV watching, my books to read, my cooking, swimming, shopping, sailing, driving around Thailand, my Skype friends around the world, ThaiVisa, etc.

Dr. Robert you are right about the truck-full of MSG. StreetCowboy, sorry, never followed rugby, baseball or cricket.

I'm not at all complaining. It's a good life. Pity I can't find a way to be useful here, but...

[jpeg]

Is there some reason it has to be a Thai woman? Are you female? If male, you would very likely experience the full wrath of your Thai wife's anger/jealousy, should your wish come true. The Thais are a pathologically jealous race.

[ABCer]

Is there some reason it has to be a Thai woman? Are you female? If male, you would very likely experience the full wrath of your Thai wife's anger/jealousy, should your wish come true. The Thais are a pathologically jealous race.

No, jpeg. I'm not a woman. And if I could find some kind of Meet-up Club, I would be happy to teach and generally interact with any gender, any age group. As long as they would be interested.

Frankly, I've noticed that Thai Ladies are more actively seeking Farang FRIENDS.

This is the reason for the question of my OP. It appears they actually seeking anything but friends.

As to my wife, - she is not jealous. I'm sure many Thai Ladies are. Historically, traditionally and culturally they might have good reasons to be.

But a 'pathologically jealous race' is a bit too strong. Statistically the females here carry the whole Nation on their shoulders. Plus their offsprings. Or so it looks to me.

[tingtong]

if socila friends you looking for, why exclusively refer to thai women?

in fact i am sure you would be better off finding real life thai men for social interaction, especially as long you pay for the beer and the whiskey, they sure will find you entertaining too

[Jasun]

There was a time when Thailand Friends had a big, active community of people who were into socialising. It was probably more of a Bangkok thing, but as far as I can tell, those days are gone, and it has morphed into a common dating type site.

[BookMan]

Facebook.

Add a few local people, add some more of their friends, share some 'funny' photos, use the Like button a lot, strike up some conversations

[Mr Average]

''All my life I have been an interesting person''.

I'm a fascinating bloke too.

You're lucky.

I have a Triple A rating from the Geneva-based Council for Pompous Bores.

[grimblegrumble]

I lived in a small town for over a year before I got some Thai friends. It takes time and visiting the same places regularly for them to get to know you a bit. Language can also be a porblem in that respect.

Thai women off dating sites? It is pretty obvious they are there for dating, love and marriage.

Meeting foreigners like yourself is a different matter. You need to be living where there are other people like yourself and again your face needs to be seen in the same places on a regular basis or you are seen as yet another tourist passing through. Striking up conversations is not that hard to do. Some will ignore even a hello but many are quite friendly.

Common sense really like visiting or moving to any strange area or town.

[StreetCowboy]

''All my life I have been an interesting person''.

I'm a fascinating bloke too.

You're lucky.

I have a Triple A rating from the Geneva-based Council for Pompous Bores.

I would go for that, if I was into collecting qualifications. I am sure I have the talent.

[MegaRanter]

Back in the day, bangkokchat.org did meet once in awhile. I don't know if it still exist today.

Thaifriendly is the easiest place to get a semi decent lady. Some crazy people I met on that site, all wanted to get married after meeting for 2 minutes.

But apart from retirees or tourists, foreigners not reallyneed to rely on dating sites for friends. Go out more and be pleasant to everyone. Smelling good and looking debonair won't hurt your chances.

[willyumiii]

Dr. Robert, StreetCowboy, willyumiii, - thanks for your replies.

I am afraid my efforts are doomed. I was and still am looking for some kind of social interaction with a group of Thais.

I am NOT looking for personal relationships. On this side I'm OK.

To make it more clear: I live about 200 km from BKK. By choice. I do not like huge cities. Rayong is near the sea, I live on the beach.

I have tried to offer:

Teach higher level of conversational English at local schools for free (I'm qualified) - NO GO! No work permit, etc.

Organize some kind of a Meet-up Club for adults with the same purpose - NO GO! As a matter of fact, according to Google there are no Meet-up Clubs for anything in Rayong.

Being a non-drinker I have no chance of meeting anybody socially, except as suggested - in the local markets. Which is not interesting for me or for them.

Well, at least I have my TV watching, my books to read, my cooking, swimming, shopping, sailing, driving around Thailand, my Skype friends around the world, ThaiVisa, etc.

Dr. Robert you are right about the truck-full of MSG. StreetCowboy, sorry, never followed rugby, baseball or cricket.

I'm not at all complaining. It's a good life. Pity I can't find a way to be useful here, but...

I, like you are quite a distance from BKK. I live about 60 km south of Khorat in a very rural area.

All I stated in my previous post still holds true, even if not looking for a relationship.

No drinking should be no problem. the vast majority of Thai women I know do not drink at all and prefer to be around men who do not drink. That one is a big plus for you!

again....Choke Dee

P.S. I agree it is a good life. I burn out on places like BKK if I'm forced to spend 24 hours there. I refer to rural Thailand as " The Real Thailand".

[David48]

I'd love to have an Agony Aunt Column/Forum here on TV ...

[Cobalt60]

I'd love to have an Agony Aunt Column/Forum here on TV ... 

Dear Dave, I am into bestiality and necrophilia and sado masochism.

Do you think I am flogging a dead horse?

Sent from my Galaxy Nexus using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

[StreetCowboy]

I'd love to have an Agony Aunt Column/Forum here on TV ...

That would be the General Forum, where readers can come with their problems - real, imagined, or maliciously invented, and get advice ranging from the misguided, cynical, cruelly misdirected to mischieviously inappropriate.

Where else can you get such Top Tips?

SC

[David48]

I'd love to have an Agony Aunt Column/Forum here on TV ...

Dear Dave, I am into bestiality and necrophilia and sado masochism.

Do you think I am flogging a dead horse?

Sent from my Galaxy Nexus using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

Dear Cobalt60 ... it's good that you have a hobby.

Just check your Visa requirements for that activity.

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[ABCer]

I'd love to have an Agony Aunt Column/Forum here on TV ...

Dear Dave, I am into bestiality and necrophilia and sado masochism.

Do you think I am flogging a dead horse?

Sent from my Galaxy Nexus using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

Dear Cobalt60 ... it's good that you have a hobby.

Just check your Visa requirements for that activity.

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Yeah, you are supposed to hire a poor Thai man to do these things for you

[David48]

Dear Cobalt60 ... it's good that you have a hobby.

Just check your Visa requirements for that activity.

Yeah, you are supposed to hire a poor Thai man to do these things for you

In this particular situation ... abstinence is also an option ...

No reason for gainful employment.

Mind you Cobalt60 imagination was working overtime for that post ... however, it's my considered opinion that, given that set of circumstances, that no working Visa was required for his Brain Activity.

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[MJP]

This much . . .

[StreetCowboy]

This much . . .

Oh, that takes me back to my happy days in the Salt Works...

[David48]

This much . . .

Oh, that takes me back to my happy days in the Salt Works...

Did you have the appropriate Visa?

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[amykat]

Dr. Robert, StreetCowboy, willyumiii, - thanks for your replies.

I am afraid my efforts are doomed. I was and still am looking for some kind of social interaction with a group of Thais.

I am NOT looking for personal relationships. On this side I'm OK.

To make it more clear: I live about 200 km from BKK. By choice. I do not like huge cities. Rayong is near the sea, I live on the beach.

I have tried to offer:

Teach higher level of conversational English at local schools for free (I'm qualified) - NO GO! No work permit, etc.

Organize some kind of a Meet-up Club for adults with the same purpose - NO GO! As a matter of fact, according to Google there are no Meet-up Clubs for anything in Rayong.

Being a non-drinker I have no chance of meeting anybody socially, except as suggested - in the local markets. Which is not interesting for me or for them.

Well, at least I have my TV watching, my books to read, my cooking, swimming, shopping, sailing, driving around Thailand, my Skype friends around the world, ThaiVisa, etc.

Dr. Robert you are right about the truck-full of MSG. StreetCowboy, sorry, never followed rugby, baseball or cricket.

I'm not at all complaining. It's a good life. Pity I can't find a way to be useful here, but...

Hi ABCer,

Are you fairly new to living in Thailand? I thought not due to your post count, but then looked up your join date, and maybe you are very new here?

I think many of us come here, expecting we will make Thai friends, and spend some years actually trying. Some people may do better than others, depends on the individual and who they are able to meet. I devoted some time to that, and then gradually got very disappointed, and later angry, my life was constantly frustrating dealing with my Thai friends. It was also a non-stop drain on my money, or a non-stop stress dealing with the requests, tricks, cons, lies, and so forth. And in the end, I realized that I had never had good conversations, good friends, had not been with any people that I had anything in common with, and that it was just a pointless exercise (for me). Even when I do meet good people, who have no designs on me, we really don't have much in common. So, they are okay for some small coversations, here and there, but they never morph into big love, friendships.

I gave that up totally, and feel much better in the years since. Maybe you are having some disappointment with your Thai partner as well? Not meeting as many needs as you might of thought, or the needs she meets, don't really make up for your other needs? Like good conversation, things in common, whatever. Maybe I am wrong though, because you seem to be seeking only Thai friends, which makes me think you haven't yet discovered how different we are, and due to that, and our very different life experiences, it seems to me that mostly only superficial relationships are possible, for the majority of cases. (Please don't anyone jump down my throat because YOU happen to have a few friends that meet your needs, there might be special reasons for this, like you work, and meet like-minded people there, or whatever.)

I think it would be hard to live anywhere, and be newly retired and try to make friends. Older people are just not out looking for phone numbers like people in their 20s might be. If you don't work, that kills a lot of chances to meet people, to make yourself seem interesting, etc. If you don't have young kids, you don't have a group of parents to befriend either, I mean, there are very few chances to make new freinds when older, retired, and in a new place, much less a new country.

The dating places are surely the wrong places to look. Ladies are really NOT looking for friends! Ladies in general are probably the wrong place to look as well. If you are married, and don't want to cheat, and men are always saying they can't understand women, and now you are in a foreign culture, looking for women, who might also be at least a generation or more, younger than you ...well, what can you expect ...really? Look for farangs you like! Although there may only be one farang woman here for each 5000 guys, well maybe you could make a friend there too, if you manage to find one. But I am sure most married people, find it difficult to have good friends of the opposite gender ...because the spouse will usually not like it.

Anyway, what I am trying to say, is forget trying to have Thai real friends. You might end up with one or two, by chance, over the years. But to seek that is probably a poor use of your time. Find a way to have a social life without Thais for the most part, or decide not to need that, and go on with your life. Or if neither of these sound good, maybe think about going home, or to another country??

I really feel for you, this subject is really the bad side of living here and if you don't tend to be a very good and happy "loner" Thailand might make you miserable. Especially if you live somewhere that is fairly isolated.

[amykat]

[cdnvic]

I'd love to have an Agony Aunt Column/Forum here on TV ...

There's a job sure to drive one to madness in a hurry