What does a foreigner expect from marrying a thai ?

[benalibina]

I expected Love, Loyalty and Sincerity.

You ?

[Soutpeel]

What does a foreigner expect from marrying a thai ?

I would guess you would expect the same things as marrying a non-Thai ?

[jobin]

Not speaking to you directly, but some bloke on the dating forum wants a 'submissive' woman, no other qualities specified. Ni doubt where his priorities lie.

[SickOfEm]

A Visa.

[A1Str8]

Having official access to something tight.

[Soutpeel]

Having official access to something tight.

you mean like a cheap charlies wallet ??...

[A1Str8]

Having official access to something tight.

 

you mean like a cheap charlies wallet ??...

Yes if the foreigner got married to a cheap Charlie thai.

[Soutpeel]

Not speaking to you directly, but some bloke on the dating forum wants a 'submissive' woman, no other qualities specified. Ni doubt where his priorities lie.

Thats actually an interesting point, over the years I have noticed on numerous occassions most predominately between older gentleman and younger wives that the husband treats the wife like a slave or ltheir "property" and the way some of them talk to their "wives" is quite horriifc even in public

so maybe they arent looking for a wife..but a slave/maid they can play hide the sausage with when it takes their fancy..

Maybe its a case of they buy into the Sinsot BS and truely believe they have bought their wives and believe the wife is their "property"...so one could be inclined to understand why sometimes the Thai wife wants to knock off the "old man" and grab the cash.

[HeavyDrinker]

Can I reply?

I am Heavy drinker's wife. I am Thai but the thing is not to 'expect' anything. Just have love.

We married in London 22 years ago and our wedding vows were simple. It was to love and respect each other.

22 years on, we still have that love and respect. It is that easy.

Thank you for reading this.

Patsaporn

(She's right) edit by HD. Just love her for who she is. Don't listen to others. 22 years and she is still my world...

Edited October 18, 2013 by HeavyDrinker

[Soutpeel]

Can I reply?

I am Heavy drinker's wife. I am Thai but the thing is not to 'expect' anything. Just have love.

We married in London 22 years ago and our wedding vows were simple. It was to love and respect each other.

22 years on, we still have that love and respect. It is that easy.

Thank you for reading this.

Patsaporn

Has your uncle has left yet ?...

[Dr Robert]

I think you need to eliminate country to get an honest answer...what does a man want when they marry a woman, Thai, Chinese, Antartican etc? If you could distill the answer and put it onto a book, it would be a best seller.

on the darker side I think there is the need for perceived control by the man, ( maybe it is an evolutionary reproductive advantage to be this way) which a Thai woman, to the unwary and uninitiated, provides, though it doesn't necessarily always follow that this is true. I think the more uninhibited/ tease/ sometimes coquettish combination style of the sexual exploits of Thai woman

( compared to western counterparts )is a lure too. There is an an apparent femininity exuded by Thai women that western women rarely exhibit openly for fear of letting down their feminist mothers/sisters, especially when it comes to choosing a mate. I think men find Thai women attractive because the provide what men desire without making them feel guilty for such attractiveness, make them feel manly, make them think they are useful ( true or otherwise) give them a sense of worth (which is not my experience with western women), make them feel sexy and sexual, which similarly I have rarely experienced in the west.

There is a iron hand in an ermine glove that makes Thai women irresistible. thai women don't normally nag, or at least they disguise it with charm and wit. Western woman complain Thai women are so obvious in their approach, but subtlety doesn't work on the average man, not the ones I know well anyhow. So I expect my needs to be fulfilled, but I also fell the need to reciprocate for it to work properly. With a Thai Woman I can feel like a King, a provider, a stud, a bastion of support at the same time as allowing myself to be vulnerable and sensitive and not so much in control. Sometimes it's good to hand over the reigns to your Queen, someone who you trust, who will protect your integrity and your emotions unconditionally.

When you find a Woman like her, Thai or otherwise, like I was lucky enough to do, marry her and never look back

[HeavyDrinker]

Can I reply?

I am Heavy drinker's wife. I am Thai but the thing is not to 'expect' anything. Just have love.

We married in London 22 years ago and our wedding vows were simple. It was to love and respect each other.

22 years on, we still have that love and respect. It is that easy.

Thank you for reading this.

Patsaporn

Has your uncle has left yet ?...

He left today but he is fun. How do you know him?

Pat

Aye. He left this morning...(edit by HD, just shown her the other post)

Edited October 18, 2013 by HeavyDrinker

[laolover88]

What an idiotic question. Anywhere in the world, any nationality, guys and gals expect the same things..love..don;t know what that is..but trust, equality, respect, security...one could go on...........

[bifftastic]

This starts with a huge generalisation and then asks a question aimed at individuals.

Anyway, I can't answer what all non-Thai individuals expect from all Thai individuals. No-one can.

So, I will assume that the question was intended to be something like; "What did you expect from your wife?" perhaps with the caveat "did the fact that she was Thai alter those expectations at all?"

I expected that she would continue to be the strong independent woman that she was when I met her, that she would help me to discover more about myself and become a better person. That she would be a good mother to her children, and that she would expect similar things from me.

I expected that she would disagree with me from time to time, dislike some of the things that I did, find me irritating occasionally, but not make too much of a big deal about it.

I expected that she would meet me half way on issues that she held strong opinions on, and that she would expect the same of me.

I expected that she would have to deal with issues of a lack of understanding of me, and my culture, from her family and friends and deal with them as best she could whilst looking out for our best interests as a couple.

I expected that she would behave in ways which I found frustrating, and at times be difficult to understand, and that she would find the same traits in me.

I expected that she would love me more and more as time passed and that we would become closer and better friends than we already were.

I expected that she would make me laugh, cry, and kick the dog.

I hoped that there would be a lot of the first, not so much of the second, and a tolerable amount of the third (for the dog's sake).

So far, I have not been disappointed, and neither has the dog.

Edited October 18, 2013 by bifftastic

[MRTELLYOUSTRAIGHT]

I think you need to eliminate country to get an honest answer...what does a man want when they marry a woman, Thai, Chinese, Antartican etc? If you could distill the answer and put it onto a book, it would be a best seller.

on the darker side I think there is the need for perceived control by the man, ( maybe it is an evolutionary reproductive advantage to be this way) which a Thai woman, to the unwary and uninitiated, provides, though it doesn't necessarily always follow that this is true. I think the more uninhibited/ tease/ sometimes coquettish combination style of the sexual exploits of Thai woman

( compared to western counterparts )is a lure too. There is an an apparent femininity exuded by Thai women that western women rarely exhibit openly for fear of letting down their feminist mothers/sisters, especially when it comes to choosing a mate. I think men find Thai women attractive because the provide what men desire without making them feel guilty for such attractiveness, make them feel manly, make them think they are useful ( true or otherwise) give them a sense of worth (which is not my experience with western women), make them feel sexy and sexual, which similarly I have rarely experienced in the west.

There is a iron hand in an ermine glove that makes Thai women irresistible. thai women don't normally nag, or at least they disguise it with charm and wit. Western woman complain Thai women are so obvious in their approach, but subtlety doesn't work on the average man, not the ones I know well anyhow. So I expect my needs to be fulfilled, but I also fell the need to reciprocate for it to work properly. With a Thai Woman I can feel like a King, a provider, a stud, a bastion of support at the same time as allowing myself to be vulnerable and sensitive and not so much in control. Sometimes it's good to hand over the reigns to your Queen, someone who you trust, who will protect your integrity and your emotions unconditionally.

When you find a Woman like her, Thai or otherwise, like I was lucky enough to do, marry her and never look back

Hey Doc, your off your rocker.

[Dr Robert]

Hey Doc, your off your rocker.

he he he, maybe you're right, but having the time of my life in the stillness being off your rocker affords.

[ToddWeston]

I got love, loyalty and sincerity and a lot more, I got a best friend.

[Beetlejuice]

What do South Asian women expect from their husbands, farangs or otherwise?

[Roadman]

Lots of yummy Thai food...those beautiful petite slim cute Asian features, lots of yummy Thai food....that beautiful Thai fun nature, lots of yummy Thai food....an endless shared loyalty, lots of yummy Thai food....outstanding family values and family loyalty, lots of yummy Thai food....an awesome extended family, lots of yummy Thai food....an equally shared commitment to us and our children's future, lots of yummy Thai food...an equal sharing, well balanced, appreciative female in spite of past relationships and marriages, lots of yummy Thai food...a means to longer than 30 day stays in Thailand, lots of yummy Thai food.

Cool fish and chips tonite and all the Thai girls in the house love them too.

[kannot]

Not speaking to you directly, but some bloke on the dating forum wants a 'submissive' woman, no other qualities specified. Ni doubt where his priorities lie.

At least he's honest!

[kannot]

Having official access to something tight.

Could depend on "your" equipment though eh?

[Mr Average]

I think you need to eliminate country to get an honest answer...what does a man want when they marry a woman, Thai, Chinese, Antartican etc? If you could distill the answer and put it onto a book, it would be a best seller.

on the darker side I think there is the need for perceived control by the man, ( maybe it is an evolutionary reproductive advantage to be this way) which a Thai woman, to the unwary and uninitiated, provides, though it doesn't necessarily always follow that this is true. I think the more uninhibited/ tease/ sometimes coquettish combination style of the sexual exploits of Thai woman

( compared to western counterparts )is a lure too. There is an an apparent femininity exuded by Thai women that western women rarely exhibit openly for fear of letting down their feminist mothers/sisters, especially when it comes to choosing a mate. I think men find Thai women attractive because the provide what men desire without making them feel guilty for such attractiveness, make them feel manly, make them think they are useful ( true or otherwise) give them a sense of worth (which is not my experience with western women), make them feel sexy and sexual, which similarly I have rarely experienced in the west.

There is a iron hand in an ermine glove that makes Thai women irresistible. thai women don't normally nag, or at least they disguise it with charm and wit. Western woman complain Thai women are so obvious in their approach, but subtlety doesn't work on the average man, not the ones I know well anyhow. So I expect my needs to be fulfilled, but I also fell the need to reciprocate for it to work properly. With a Thai Woman I can feel like a King, a provider, a stud, a bastion of support at the same time as allowing myself to be vulnerable and sensitive and not so much in control. Sometimes it's good to hand over the reigns to your Queen, someone who you trust, who will protect your integrity and your emotions unconditionally.

When you find a Woman like her, Thai or otherwise, like I was lucky enough to do, marry her and never look back

You need help.

Professional help.

[David48]

What do South Asian women expect from their husbands, farangs or otherwise?

ww.youtube.com/watch?v=Ye58Z1Y8_XU

BJ ... I could only get 2/3 of the way through before the BS meter overloaded.

I appreciated your thought to share the Video, but an Hi-So Urban Chinese opnion

is probably not genuinely reflective of the multiple nationalies that make-up south-east Asia

... and certainly not Thailand, or more to the point, the rural Thailand demographic.

[MAJIC]

I think you need to eliminate country to get an honest answer...what does a man want when they marry a woman, Thai, Chinese, Antartican etc? If you could distill the answer and put it onto a book, it would be a best seller.

on the darker side I think there is the need for perceived control by the man, ( maybe it is an evolutionary reproductive advantage to be this way) which a Thai woman, to the unwary and uninitiated, provides, though it doesn't necessarily always follow that this is true. I think the more uninhibited/ tease/ sometimes coquettish combination style of the sexual exploits of Thai woman

( compared to western counterparts )is a lure too. There is an an apparent femininity exuded by Thai women that western women rarely exhibit openly for fear of letting down their feminist mothers/sisters, especially when it comes to choosing a mate. I think men find Thai women attractive because the provide what men desire without making them feel guilty for such attractiveness, make them feel manly, make them think they are useful ( true or otherwise) give them a sense of worth (which is not my experience with western women), make them feel sexy and sexual, which similarly I have rarely experienced in the west.

There is a iron hand in an ermine glove that makes Thai women irresistible. thai women don't normally nag, or at least they disguise it with charm and wit. Western woman complain Thai women are so obvious in their approach, but subtlety doesn't work on the average man, not the ones I know well anyhow. So I expect my needs to be fulfilled, but I also fell the need to reciprocate for it to work properly. With a Thai Woman I can feel like a King, a provider, a stud, a bastion of support at the same time as allowing myself to be vulnerable and sensitive and not so much in control. Sometimes it's good to hand over the reigns to your Queen, someone who you trust, who will protect your integrity and your emotions unconditionally.

When you find a Woman like her, Thai or otherwise, like I was lucky enough to do, marry her and never look back

Blimey! you just been reading the Kama Sutra ?

[mjj]

What do South Asian women expect from their husbands, farangs or otherwise?

I think there is an element of truth in the vid and it would be interesting to interview the women in future years when their looks have faded and have a much smaller bargaining tool. I guess they SHOULDN'T mind if the husband leaves them or trades them in for a better model if his salary rises.......

[mrtoad]

What does WIFE stand for?

[Samaaw]

**checks bank balance**

[Morden]

It;s refreshing to read the positive posts here as a change from the tired old cynical responses.

I married expecting love, loyalty, friendship, support and help. but got a whole lot more.

I'd ask, 'What are you prepared to put into a marriage?' You can't expect more than that in return.

[stickylies]

I expect never ending misunderstandings (language and culture) + never ending frustration (all levels) hence i stay away, far away. life is great in thailand this way!

[unanimosity]

What does a foreigner expect from marrying a thai ?

I would guess you would expect the same things as marrying a non-Thai ?

You should expect nothing because that is what you will end up with.