Annoying Girlfriends Friends?

[siamshepard]

I know Thai people especially the kids call a friend fat its a Thai Thing But.. Ok if you know the person

I was waiting on a taxi with my Girlfriend a few months ago and out of the Blue a lady says to me "Are you Pregnant?" I turned to my girlfriend and said "What the *edited* is she talking to me for?"

"Oh That's my Friend from work, no problem"

Oh right I taught to myself funny way to introduce herself as I never seen her before.

Now every time I see her the first thing out of her mouth is something about me been Fat lol, I am 5 10 and under 13 stone, I have a bit of a belly but not much.

Today her spelt was you drink Ouisi and not beer and you look not fat and young haha

I was like what the *edited* your no supermodel but I said nothing. As I couldn't be bothered with her I don't even really know her, But what is it with this Girl is she a hater or is this the way some Thai girls behave? Very Rude if you ask me...

Edited March 10, 2014 by metisdead
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[Soutpeel]

Maybe she is giving you a hint to start going the gym

[robertthebruce]

Be polite to her and start a conversation, and then drop the clanger, ''Gosh you are the first Lady Boy i have met and you seem nice''..

That should shut the *edited* up..

Edited March 10, 2014 by metisdead
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[beachproperty]

Not sure if you've lived here long......But the Thai's have a way of being really blunt!.....Asking "How much money do you Make?", "Are you rich?", "Do you have a rich friend for me?" and Yes....you are Fat!.....I've gotten used to it....it seems the Thai's do not have a brain filter for the things they say....

Edited March 10, 2014 by beachproperty

[transam]

OP, it is no problem, it's LOS normal. I get fed up with being called hansum all the time, but l live with it..........

[siamshepard]

Be polite to her and start a conversation, and then drop the clanger, ''Gosh you are the first Lady Boy i have met and you seem nice''..

That should shut the *edited* up..

That's a great idea, I will definitely used that the next time I meet her ....

[Banzai99]

Don't worry about it Fatso.

Edited March 10, 2014 by Banzai99

[FiftyTwo]

Ask her why her skin is so dark!

This will shut her up ......

'Sawadee cap dam_n pit pee.'

Roughly translated 'Hello, black one.'

Edited March 10, 2014 by FiftyTwo

[CharlieH]

Ask her what toothpaste she uses, and tell her better to try a breath mint then cos' it aint working.

Edited March 10, 2014 by CharlieH

[mrtoad]

Maybe she is giving you a hint to start going the gym

Maybe he should just slip her a length ?

Does the OP wear Speedos? That. Might be the issue. Otherwise look at the first sentence.

[mrtoad]

Just noticed the OP's name.

Are you Welsh or Kiwi?

[siamshepard]

OP, it is no problem, it's LOS normal. I get fed up with being called hansum all the time, but l live with it..........

The Funny thing is I get called handsome too a lot but not used to been called fat as I wouldn't call myself fat

[OxfordWill]

Its a bit evil but I find that deliberate use of passive aggressive "compliments" usually very effectively deal with these types.

Either they will be able to take what they are giving and youll get on well (and be reassured of their intentions in doing so), or theyll stop dishing it out to you. And Yes! Im talking specifically about Thai females (and gay men) who go in for the "criticism jokes". I've actually never found a straight Thai male to do this kind of conversational piece until years after knowing them and even then quite carefully with obvious affection.

For example: "Apple, most girls can't look so pretty with messy hair, but for you it works OK!"

"Apple, I don't agree with what your office friends say. I think they're wrong. Your arms look normal to me, - beautiful even! See you.."

Edited March 10, 2014 by OxfordWill

[pistachios]

Be polite to her and start a conversation, and then drop the clanger, ''Gosh you are the first Lady Boy i have met and you seem nice''..

That should shut the *edited* up..

Gold!

Preferably done in front of all of the gang of girls, for maximum loss of face.

[siamshepard]

Just noticed the OP's name.

Are you Welsh or Kiwi?

Why? do you think I have sexual relations with sheep or something?

Edited March 10, 2014 by siamshepard

[whoisyourdaddy]

OP, do not waste your time.

Thais and etiquette do not go together in the same sentence.

Christ, they think calling baby a fat pig is cute.

Explaining things would also be a waste of time.

Best you can do is speak first and mention something like "ohh your skin looks darker"

This will make her NOT want to speak with you and she will try to avoid you.

On the other hand, you can just ignore

[siamshepard]

Don't worry about it Fatso.

Haha am only big and fat where it counts, little boy

[givenall]

Maybe she is giving you a hint to start going the gym

Or find a new gf

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[whoisyourdaddy]

Maybe she is giving you a hint to start going the gym

Or find a new gf

Sent from my ST25i using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

Or read the OP again?

It is not the GF who is talking but work associate of GF

[Lockheed]

Op, you might have it the wrong way around, she might be paying you a compliment. Your thinking about your stomach when she's thinking about your ****.

Next time she says it, point to your **** and show her with visual sign language, an exaggerated size and length of the goods.

Edited March 10, 2014 by metisdead
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[wym]

She has no idea you are taking offense at her joking around about the truth. Like a redhead getting offended by ginger jokes. Same with old man, Pappa, not disrespectful attributes here.

Let her know - gently but seriously - your feelings are hurt and she'll stop, not like lower Brits and ockers that will gleefully step it up like chickens pecking at the sight of blood.

Or just suck it up get used to it TiT they mean no harm.

[David48]

New Member.

First post is an OP.

Marked as read ...

My time of day, you will not get.

[robertthebruce]

Be polite to her and start a conversation, and then drop the clanger, ''Gosh you are the first Lady Boy i have met and you seem nice''..

That should shut the *edited* up..

Gold!

Preferably done in front of all of the gang of girls, for maximum loss of face.

No Problem, i can be a nasty old queen when i start....

[khunpa]

"I have a bit of a belly but not much."

Are you 100% sure about this? A good way to test is... Can you see your toes? What about your penis - look down... Can you see it?

Are you able to lay on the floor and roll over, without struggling like a pig? Have you looked at yourself from the side in a mirror and been realistic about what you actually saw? Some even believe it so much that they start giving away cars, houses and stuff like that to their 30 year younger girlfriend, who just loves them sooooo much!

;-)

Edited March 10, 2014 by khunpa

[lormakmak]

OP next time you see her and she speaks just pull away really quickly and start waving your hand under your nose as if someone has dropped one...

and say 'pak-men'

It worked for me....and I am just over 12 stone a.k.a 79 kilos

[siamshepard]

Be polite to her and start a conversation, and then drop the clanger, ''Gosh you are the first Lady Boy i have met and you seem nice''..

That should shut the bitch up..

Success! Just went to meet my GF at her workplace.. The lady boy thing really works haha I never seen her in such a hurry to get away from me and with a lost face

[mrtoad]

Just noticed the OP's name.

Are you Welsh or Kiwi?

Why? do you think I have sexual relations with sheep or something?

Yes.

[wym]

That was a bit quick, thinking troll.

But if true, not only very rude but probably not smart if you're trying to build good relations with the locals.

For those coming to this later on I do either of these two options is kinder and smarter:

She has no idea you are taking offense at her joking around about the truth. Like a redhead getting offended by ginger jokes. Same with old man, Pappa, not disrespectful attributes here.

Let her know - gently but seriously - your feelings are hurt and she'll stop, not like lower Brits and ockers that will gleefully step it up like chickens pecking at the sight of blood.

Or just suck it up get used to it TiT they mean no harm.

[whoisyourdaddy]

That was a bit quick, thinking troll.

But if true, not only very rude but probably not smart if you're trying to build good relations with the locals.

For those coming to this later on I do either of these two options is kinder and smarter:

She has no idea you are taking offense at her joking around about the truth. Like a redhead getting offended by ginger jokes. Same with old man, Pappa, not disrespectful attributes here.

Let her know - gently but seriously - your feelings are hurt and she'll stop, not like lower Brits and ockers that will gleefully step it up like chickens pecking at the sight of blood.

Or just suck it up get used to it TiT they mean no harm.

May i ask why do you think your way is the good way or the only way?

Why do you think i should waste my time to build a relationship with someone who does not either respect me or has enough brain?

She has no idea, so say pointing out she has no breasts would be ok? or perhaps that her breasts are too saggy for the liking?

Its called common sense, etiquette and respect for other people, it can not be taught if was not developed by now.

Personally, it would be cute if gf or wife made a comment, but most certainly 300% inappropriate for a total stranger to start a conversation like this and to continue.

[wym]

You are calling her ill-mannered and disrespectful because in your culture, honestly calling someone fat or old to their face IS rude.

Here it is NOT rude, being "overweight" or "a bit chunky" is not in itself a flaw here, nor is being a "senior citizen" both are in fact accorded respect for wealth and wisdom respectively.

In fact according to the local customs, it is YOU who are being rude to take offense at the truth, certainly overly sensitive at such a minor issue to even bring it up.

However Thais are very forgiving of us crazy farang for our weird beliefs, so if you do politely and gently educate her that in our culture such statements are considered rude, and that your feelings personally are hurt by them, she will most certainly do her best to remember and try to avoid causing you future offense.

Handling it the way the OP claims to have done - two wrongs don't make a right - is just escalating ill feelings, and both of you clearly show you don't have the right attitude to fully benefit from what this wonderful country has to offer - which certainly come more from personal relationships available here than from anything concrete and material.

Edited March 10, 2014 by wym