Jingthing Posted August 7, 2015 Share Posted August 7, 2015 Headline is a direct quote from the Advocate.com link. Rice queens. Many here? I totally deny it. But that question, I've heard it before. In Thailand, not, because this IS in Asia. When I got that question, I was kind of annoyed by it. The issue comes up with a lot of things. Like chubby people attract chubby chasers. Often fetishists. If we're white here ... do you ever ask: "I have to ask a crucial question: “Do you like white people?”" I didn't think so. http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2015/08/07/op-ed-perils-dating-while-asian This writer and Advocate intern used to revel in the fact that men found him attractive because he's Filipino. Now the attention feels like pandering racism. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stray Posted August 7, 2015 Share Posted August 7, 2015 If you go black, you don't go back. If you go Asian, you don't go Caucasian. Had to have yellow fever shots before working in Nigeria. I guess that was to try and cure me of my lust for Asia. Didn't work. Not sure about the racism factor but I just don't find whiskey tangos that desirable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onthemoon Posted August 8, 2015 Share Posted August 8, 2015 Is the guy in the article complaining that too many people in San Francisco find him attractive? Rather than accusing the people who he takes the free drinks from as racists, he should thank [insert your favourite deity] for his good looks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JakeSully Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 Oh please.. most everyone is capable of observing this in their real life! Person 1. Ohh I love hispanic guys Person 2. Ohh I only date white guys Person 3. I love asian guys Person 4 Nothing compares to a BBC Person 5 I love Muslim guys, they can really romance Person 6 I love Indian guys, they can f me anytime Person 7 Ugh black guys are smelly Person 8 Ugh white guys are uptight narcissitic jerks So you can just keep on going down the list.. it'll be harder to find one who isn't completely biased one way or the other than someone who is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted August 10, 2015 Author Share Posted August 10, 2015 I kind of agree that people generally have such preferences and if you're the target of such preferences, why kiss a gift horse in the mouth, especially if he's cute? But the thing is, there are more extreme cases where the individual person isn't seen at all, only the preference category whatever it may be, and in those cases I think such things can be elevated to the level of a fetish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JakeSully Posted August 11, 2015 Share Posted August 11, 2015 Agreed on that. Sometimes it's just more nice to not talk, do your business and then move on. Otherwise you kick yourself later like how did I even copulate with that person when they believe this bull..? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steven100 Posted August 11, 2015 Share Posted August 11, 2015 Thai guys are so sexy ... beautiful skin, just light tan .. not too dark .. and they smell nice .. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JakeSully Posted August 11, 2015 Share Posted August 11, 2015 I've noticed one thing through my travels.. the Philippino guys are bigger where it matters than Thai guys but it often goes to their head.. Thai's generally are more subtle or maybe it's just lost in translation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted October 31, 2015 Author Share Posted October 31, 2015 To revive this discussion, this writer things these kinds of preferences (likes and dislikes) in dating is a form of racism: Here’s the thing: when asked during in-person meetings, 90% of my clients report having racial preferences. Which maybe doesn’t sound so bad, because I mean, they have other preferences, too. Height, religion, career paths, Netflix show most recently watched, the list goes on and on. But of the 90% of the reported racial preferences, 89.9% are preferences for white people. So . . . that is bad. And I’m not just talking about white-on-white preferences. I’m talking about all my clients, only 55% of whom identify as white. (This seems as good a time as any to mention that when I say “all my clients,” I do mean clients of all sexual orientations. Let’s not get heteronormative now; we’re only in the third paragraph.) http://www.theestablishment.co/2015/10/30/online-dating-racism-matchmaking/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scott Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 My personal experience is that the longer I am exposed to a particular group of people the greater my attraction to them becomes. When I was in the Middle East, I found myself attracted to Middle Easterners after a time. When I lived in Turkey, I found my attraction for them grew strong after a time. The same happened in various areas of Europe where I lived. Of course, living in Asia, I have always had a liking for Asians. Within those groups there are certain physical traits that I find more attractive than others. I can't easily explain them, but regardless of the race, there are similarities. Perhaps human desire is stronger than racism. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted November 1, 2015 Author Share Posted November 1, 2015 In this article I posted there was one part that spoke to me. Like most people I think, I do have general racial/ethnic preferences, likes and dislikes that I don't like to think of as racist, but more about whatever floats your boat, can't help it. But thinking about that, the author proposes a good test. If you say you don't like fill in the blank race/ethnicity ___________ sexually, seriously, every single person who is labelled that way? Not bloody likely. There is such diversity in people within such labels. Of course. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tominbkk Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 Well, the heart wants what the heart wants. It's not a politically correct organ. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted November 2, 2015 Author Share Posted November 2, 2015 Well, the heart wants what the heart wants. It's not a politically correct organ. The heart? Anyway, I'm not sure we know all there is to know about such things to make such grand conclusions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Christmas13 Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 You disappoint me JT I thought you fancies baht busses Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted November 2, 2015 Author Share Posted November 2, 2015 You disappoint me JT I thought you fancies baht busses But you have to admit -- they all look alike! Uh oh. Is that racist? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Christmas13 Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 You disappoint me JT I thought you fancies baht busses But you have to admit -- they all look alike! Uh oh. Is that racist? Nooooooooooooo if you talk about the baht bus Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MAJIC Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 My personal experience is that the longer I am exposed to a particular group of people the greater my attraction to them becomes. When I was in the Middle East, I found myself attracted to Middle Easterners after a time. When I lived in Turkey, I found my attraction for them grew strong after a time. The same happened in various areas of Europe where I lived. Of course, living in Asia, I have always had a liking for Asians. Within those groups there are certain physical traits that I find more attractive than others. I can't easily explain them, but regardless of the race, there are similarities. Perhaps human desire is stronger than racism. Good point! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted November 2, 2015 Author Share Posted November 2, 2015 I find it's a mixed feeling to realize you're being fetishized for something rather than appreciated for who you are as an individual. But I do dream of waking up in a world where Matzah Queens are as common as Rice Queens! http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=matzah+queen Of course, if we're lucky enough to live to be very old, then it would really be great is if there were a lot more GERONTOPHILES! http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1815717/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dennis123 Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 I only like cute asians cause I can't get them caucasians Actually in Belgium I can, not sure what's wrong that country. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wilsonandson Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 I only like cute asians cause I can't get them caucasians Actually in Belgium I can, not sure what's wrong that country. Russian men. Mmmmmmm. Yes! had one in koh chang last year. One night stand. A night I will never forget. Steel piston. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onni4me Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Jeez...is everything now racism? I've been with every color imaginable so what does that make me? Racist against animals? To be more serious, I don't have a such strong preference. A nice guy is a nice guy. What puts me off is too fat, too old, bad manners, smelly, very hairy...so that makes me a racist against particularly fat, old, badly behaving, smelly and hairy guys..? I find this talk about racism boring. If you want to experience some of it, just ask Asians what they think of other Asians/foreigners or races. When someone dreams of a black big ...er...something...that doesn't make him a racist. He has a preference or just daydreaming...LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted January 17, 2016 Author Share Posted January 17, 2016 I was discussing a related question the other day. Not sure if it's possible to talk about this here and keep it G rated, but I'll give it a try anyway. Does it mean anything, racism-wise, if you "discriminate" your erotic interest based on the color of the guy on top? Related to darker/lighter. (Related to seeing images, or your own fantasies or actions.) For a neutral non-human color example (Donald Trump excepted), suppose it turns you on if the PURPLE dude is on top, and the ORANGE dude is not (in a purple dude/orange dude coupling) but the OPPOSITE does nothing for you. I think that's fairly common -- where does that come from, and do you think it's an expression of racism? I have a feeling it does ... but I don't think it's anything you can do anything about ... your responses to stuff like that are whatever they are. Who does it hurt? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scott Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 I think that when it comes to whom we are physically attracted, then discrimination is not exactly an operational issue. How we treat other people and behavior towards them is where discrimination is a problem. We all have different criteria for what turns our crank. So when it comes to sexual encounters and relationships, then size matters, color matters, weight matters, height matters. It's not necessarily one of these things, but the composite that makes the difference. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted February 11, 2016 Author Share Posted February 11, 2016 Race based filtering? People are talking. That is, when they're not doing other ... stuff. Scruff is hardly the first site to allow searching by race and new niche dating services pop up every day, catering to individual preferences — from to farmersonly.com toglutenfreesingles.com and it's kind of cute or even sort of funny until something like the site wherewhitepeoplemeet.com is introduced. "I'm not even looking," said Diego when I told him about the site, "The thing is white people don't get it." http://www.advocate.com/business/2016/2/11/scuff-gay-dating-app-creators-defend-race-based-filtering Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robertthebruce Posted February 14, 2016 Share Posted February 14, 2016 If you go black, you don't go back. If you go Asian, you don't go Caucasian. Had to have yellow fever shots before working in Nigeria. I guess that was to try and cure me of my lust for Asia. Didn't work. Not sure about the racism factor but I just don't find whiskey tangos that desirable. " I went Black, and I came back" More than happy with Asian Men...., cute, clean and nice manners.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FruitPudding Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 Good question. I am certainly attracted to Asian (women), but I don't really like them. I like westerners, but I am not attracted to them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FruitPudding Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 If you go black, you don't go back. If you go Asian, you don't go Caucasian. Had to have yellow fever shots before working in Nigeria. I guess that was to try and cure me of my lust for Asia. Didn't work. Not sure about the racism factor but I just don't find whiskey tangos that desirable. I agree. Since coming to Asia, I don't feel attracted to Caucasian women. It just vanished. It wasn't a conscious decision, since attraction is completely subconscious. I can't yet testify about the black thing, though I expect it would be accurate to say I wouldn't go back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orchis Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted April 14, 2016 Author Share Posted April 14, 2016 Kind of related. Sexual racism? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted April 14, 2016 Share Posted April 14, 2016 Young, available and cheap is all I care about. I'm an equal opportunities employer. If the price is right, come on down! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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