amykat

Well you could try to tell her that you have locked it ...you better lock it down remotely, your computer, that it is worthless to her, your clothes are generally worthless, and you are willing to pay her 10k or something.  Have the money in cash and be there and ready to take your stuff when you say it.  Have a friend go with you, etc.  Try something like that if you can stay calm.

1 minute ago, meechai said:

Problem in Thailand is as always you have no defense.

 

Thai rak Thai

 

At the end of day if he makes it bad enough or he makes her lose face bad enough it could get much much uglier

She could claim not only he owes her back rent but he abused her or any other lie she wants to tell

 

Well she is not his landlord I suppose?  Someone else is.  He can judge, is the rent paid?  The police aren’t there to figure out each and every bill.  I think it is pretty obvious when a woman is trying to keep your things and he goes to the police ...does she look beat up?  I don’t know ...if you want to live in fear, then let her steal all your stuff, try to negotiate the number lower, spend some time ...it will go down with time, or kiss ass and make up.  Then run away later, don’t ever let them get any power over you in the future.  I always fought the battle...I don’t like to lose.  It always worked out for me but it is a risk.

Dear OP, I assume you are a polite and thoughtful person or you would not be worried about this.  Please do exactly the same as you would for the Mother of any other boyfriend in the US.  Bring a hostess gift, bring her a gift according to your age and financial standing, for example if you are still a college student, this will be less than if you are a practicing physician and 40 years old.  If you were dating a Mexican guy who was born in the US but his Mother was not, would you be freaking out?  Why are you?  Don’t overthink it. If your boyfriend was born and raised in the US, then he is American.

If you were Thai and wanted to protest without having to face any negative consequences for doing that, this would be a smart way to do that ...just hire some day workers from a country who has nothing to do with Thailand to stand up for you in a location Thailand can’t touch.

Anyway, to all of you who think it so great, I have a new money savings plan for you ....just stop being a buyer and become a seller.  Drink and have fun on someone else’s dime.  Pick your customer, have sex and get paid!!! Fun and help with your crashing currency.

1 hour ago, sunnyboy2018 said:

I said they choose their customers as do many self employed people. You obviously know nothing about the P4P scene and have no insights to offer. My favourite massage girl is also a nurse during the week. When you have been with a 1000 bar girls and go go dancers you can talk until then best be quiet as you only show your ignorance.

I don’t have to use their services to figure out basic economics.  I’m sure the best girls chose from the best that is available but George Clooney isn’t here offering himself to them is he??  Much less hordes of George Clooneys.  Your favorite ...who is a nurse has something to fall back on doesn’t she?  Why does she even need more than her job, that is pretty sad.  What about the woman who has no other career, isn’t gorgeous, has gotten older, etc.

That is like saying people love to work at Walmart because so many do it.  Right, so many people with no other choices.

44 minutes ago, sunnyboy2018 said:

What a load of nonesense. The girls choose their customers.  They are not quietly seething. You dont know Thais,  you have no respect for Thais especially Thai girls. You are projecting your ill informed,  prejudiced, western view onto a situation about which you know nothing. Solution: Get laid and stop telling people what to do.

Really, like you go out and just chose all the jobs in your life?  Hmm, today I would like to be CEO of Amazon?? 

14 hours ago, Fex Bluse said:

The girls are usually quietly seething with anger at having to be seen with and cavort with Farang men their grandfathers' age.

 

So they 'go off' and explode at the slightest inconvenience.

 

Solution:

Stop treating bar girls as dates and girlfriends and wives. They are prostitutes, hookers, often drug abusers and often have serious, sad, psychological trauma as one would expect.

 

Get a real girl.

I love this poster!!

I agree, I just wrote a post in another thread.  Totally screws up the desktop, ridiculous, drives you insane, and shows you the same ads over and over and over, which is like being tortured.

I tried that too ballpoint and it was better for a day I think and then slowly got worse.  I also find it horrible.  It pops up, blocks a lot of my iPad, then makes the screen jump around, like it has to reset everything in a new place, every 20 or 30 seconds for some reason.  Can’t always click it shut, it is a sneaky trick, sometimes you can ...but sometimes no.  But who wants to do that every 30 freaking SECONDS????  Even if you get it shut, it will come back in 30 seconds ...unfreaking believable ....then showing me nonstop videos of craft projects that make me want to kill myself!!!  Over and over and over like I’m in a mental institution.  Do I need to see the same frame being made 500 times a day??

I spent a large portion of one day looking for other solutions ..nothing is working so far.  I have never complained once in all these years....but this is too much.  It makes my iPad not practical for this ...haven’t tried it on laptop or desktop yet.

Oh and while I was writing this, a problem occurred and my page <deleted> out, and reload ...that happens every time I try to write a post too, then I lose the post and have to get it back!!!  Fun!!!

I would think twice about trying so hard to put him in jail.  What do people learn in jail?  They learn how to become better criminals and get more criminal friends usually.  If this man is going to be in your family ...I would try a more long term approach and you would have some resentment to deal with after.  Plus, I don’t believe anyone will do it for this petty thing ...the family, the police, etc.

They might take your money, and then his Mom will just pay them more.  Which will probably come from you somehow.

1 hour ago, 473geo said:

I'm thinking Farang is an ultra polite description, for the supercilious posters, who inflict their views on threads such as this

Well what do you think this should be, a blog by Yinn and Danny?  They don’t appear to be arrogant to you .... Gosh Danny’s Dad is even an expert in American film and WW2.  

3 hours ago, Yinn said:

Sorry. Bored with this sensitive people. 

But

I never see Uncle bomb the other farang. Only Asian, Black and Arab?

 

 

 

Really??? Never heard of the GERMANS????

10 hours ago, LukKrueng said:

 

Never heard of immigration issues / hostility towards legitimate tourists. All the "reports" we get here on TV are of people trying to stay here long time by circumventing the system.

Circumventing the so-called system, WAS the system for a lot of people, legitimately.

1 hour ago, 473geo said:

Actually you have to read to get your questions answered not write

 

Yinn  has commented favourably on foreigners she met as a receptionist

Yinn has mentioned she uses the forum to practice her English and broaden her knowledge

 

Personally I think Thai people benefit from encouragement rather than criticism, although to her credit Yinn has shown solid resilience to those who attempt to belittle her input to Tvisa

 

Yours faithfully

White knight geo

 

What is that saying I always hear you men talking about ...my girl is different??  Is that it???

She is broadening her knowledge but maybe not in the innocent way you expect.

4 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

Never heard a Western man say that.

Actually I spend my time between Myanmar and Thailand.

My thinking, as an engineer, is always flexible. Has to by the very nature of me, always questioning, always challenging. And finding solutions. That's what an engineer does.

You however......

Never heard a Western man say what?  Do they have to say exactly the same thing I have said?  If you like questioning and challenging ...I believe that is what I am doing.  You are the one who assumed I was being racist and called this an all white forum.  What?  I don’t even think of Thais as another color, I do think in terms of cultures but rarely colors.

Maybe you just didn’t understand that I was trying to give her a dose of her own medicine, and it felt harsh coming from me to her.  But you are used to hearing it coming from Thais to us??  Now you are making me the enemy when I was arguing for us as a group.  I don’t like to be told over and over, I am a guest and can be here if I am polite, then Yinn attacks people quite rudely according to Thai culture.  So I simply told her the same thing.  Then you and someone else attacked me on her behalf ...okay.   Because you are nice white people who try to understand other cultures ....but when we try to explain to Yinn and other Thais our culture and certain feelings we have, what do they tell us?  To stick it, more or less.

20 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

Just confirms my belief and principle to have no contact/interaction with western women.

Well I guess that means that you have very rigid thinking and it might be one of the reasons you are living in Thailand.

I suppose if a Western man said this it would be okay?  Or you would cut off all contact with them also??

11 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

Guest?...she is a forum member the same as you and me. I wasn't aware membership was only available to the white skinned people. My apologies, I wonder how she snuck in.

Of course her comments are based on her standards as are yours and mine.

Give the girl a break. What she posts has to be filtered to a certain extent in terms of ethnicity. Some of us have that ability, many do not. The written word in particular can be hard to interpret/understand compared to a face to face conversation which includes facial expressions and body language, and easily misunderstood.

I don't think her motives are sinister in any way. 

I’m pretty sure we are all guests here, in the same sense that certain people like to say we are guests in Thailand!!  I don’t personally say that.  I hate to hear that, it is somewhat offensive.  That offended you apparently getting called a guest on this forum?  When you can get suspended at any moment?

Don’t start any <deleted> with me about her skin color.  I guess it was not apparent to you that I meant ALL of us are guests???  That is maybe your own racism ...why would I think that just about her?  Do I know what color other people are here, we have black Americans and Brits I am pretty sure too??  For example, this isn’t just a white persons’ forum.

I think her motives are not good, that is my conclusion after several days of reading.  I am giving her back some of her own medicine.  She should try it.  I would offer her a trip to the US so she could see how much better she would be treated here, how people would call her by her name and not ASIAN, but she can’t qualify for the visa.

if she can say these things to us and it is fine, than it should be fine for me to say the same thing back to her, correct or not?

Oh, but I don’t have any white knights, only she does .....oh no!!

2 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

Been hitting the bottle? 

What are you rambling about?

We have this place?

What place?

Not Thailand?

She's a guest?

Your post makes no sense at all.

No, I don’t often drink ...sorry, this Thaivisa.  She is a guest here.  She was very rude to someone moments before, stalked them for personal information to try to insult them.  He was nice about it.  She did that for no apparent reason other than insecurity.  I am bothered to some extent by her constant reminders in the TM30 thread and elsewhere, how we are accepted here only if we are polite, which she stated many times.  Of course based on her standards.  

They sell these things on Amazon now, many various kinds.  

13 minutes ago, DannyCarlton said:

I thought that you had left Thailand? I don't see Yinn as antagonising people, if you do I suggest that you look at yourself. She has asked several direct questions but you don't want to answer her you just want to preach to people.

I have asked her several direct questions in different threads, she never answered any of them.  I have explained things to her, such as, that the fee for a visa to Western countries is for processing the paperwork, it is not an entrance fee like for going to Disneyland, yet she quotes it like she is a poor victim every time, she got scammed by the West and also we should have pro-rated the fee down to three weeks, from 3 months, because she only wanted to go for 3 weeks.

Yet TM30 is nothing to her and easy to do and she felt qualified to tell us all many things about it.  She does not even have a foreign husband who she does these things with, so she is not living this expat life at all, as far as she admits, but she tells us how it is??

I can tell you don’t see it as Yinn antagonizing people, we disagree, many people on here have expressed this feeling not only me.  The fact that I recently left Thailand has nothing to do with anything, I lived there for 14 years, I have a Thai daughter, and for all you know I could move back tomorrow so don’t try that with me!!!  Also don’t try the look at myself BS, maybe I can identify manipulation better than you can???  She got a whole long list of men to admit cheating on their wives ...just for the hell of it, what has she admitted here??  Who knows her??