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Were you paying yourself? I'd assume "work" means paid employment. The objective of the law is to stop you taking a job from a Thai. As someone pointed out, if it extended to every task you could possibly outsource (like wiping your arse or shagging your missus) it would be ridiculous.

The legal definition of work in Thai also includes non-paid work. That is why the situation is a lot more vague and tricky.

Here is the official definition..

"to engage in work by exerting energy or using knowledge whether or not in consideration of wages or other benefits"

Thanks for that. So, yes, it is ridiculous as it could technically include me shagging my missus. How bizarre.

Just don't put any energy or knowledge into it and you should be right.

They'd need a high speed camera to catch me in the act!

Were you paying yourself? I'd assume "work" means paid employment. The objective of the law is to stop you taking a job from a Thai. As someone pointed out, if it extended to every task you could possibly outsource (like wiping your arse or shagging your missus) it would be ridiculous.

The legal definition of work in Thai also includes non-paid work. That is why the situation is a lot more vague and tricky.

Here is the official definition..

"to engage in work by exerting energy or using knowledge whether or not in consideration of wages or other benefits"

Thanks for that. So, yes, it is ridiculous as it could technically include me shagging my missus. How bizarre.

Were you paying yourself? I'd assume "work" means paid employment. The objective of the law is to stop you taking a job from a Thai. As someone pointed out, if it extended to every task you could possibly outsource (like wiping your arse or shagging your missus) it would be ridiculous.

Most people wouldn't think of overstaying in other countries but do here. Visa and immigration laws are not to be taken lightly.

Strange post. Unless this is a holiday thing of course. Because that's what you might do on holiday, it's no way to live your life.

The biggest DANGER with regards to overstay is that IF, for some reason, you are asked for ID, between home < - > border, you will be in VERY BIG trouble and are likely to get arrested and unceremoniously thrown in some unpleasant Immigration Detention Cells.

Please Be Aware of this !

That's funny because the only time I overstayed by two days we went to Immigration (or whatever it's called) at Udon Thani and told them we were booked to fly out two days late and they told us not to worry and just pay the 1,000 baht and also that my daughter would be free.

Most of the blokes I know in Thailand would call the stat about 50% successful relationships. Farangs living overseas with their Thai/Filipina/Indo/Chinese wives I have seen I'd call it about 50% too.

It is purely anecdotal but when age gaps start getting into the high 20s and 30s the failure rate skyrockets.

We overstayed 2 days last visit. I asked if there would be trouble in future and he was nice enough. "Only if you don't pay fine, and two days is not very much" "And my daughter?" "No fine for children, not their fault if they over stay, parents fault"

We actually went to Immigration or whatever it is in Udon Thani before the 30 days was up and they asked to see the ticket. "Only two days, just pay 1,000 baht fine when you leave"

Never been asked. I know someone who was asked after an altercation, said it was at home if they wanted to see it. They weren't bothered.

Looks like it's been covered so I can just confirm what happened to us.

Missus got village boss (or whatever) to write a letter stating that the father had never contributed to the child's upbringing and no one at the village had seen him about. This was good enough for Foreign Affairs to issue a passport. Slightly more complicated when we went to lodge Aussie PR. They wanted to see either written permission from the father for him (son) to migrate OR a court order granting her sole custody. We did the latter. Cost a few thousand baht for lawyer but pretty well cruised through. Our lawyer said to missus that if the father got wind and wanted money that a simple threat to sue for 8 years of child support would put that to bed.

To fly to Saigon you'll need a time machine. It's been called Ho Chi Minh City since 1976.

Doesn't happen in the village ...

Every step, however small, that is taken to reduce the number of people smoking is a good thing.

Off topic warning ...

You have all missed the point.

"The tree's have been butchered along Jomtien beach"

What the hell is that apostrophe doing in the title? Well? Trees is plural and the apostrophe is redundant.

Thank you. I'll get back to my non life.

And it is tragic by the way, we stay at Jomtien all the time with the kids at Christmas/New Year. Who hates the trees and why?

Just back from two weeks in New Zealand and Thai missus loved it. So did I actually. No visa problems at all and the people were great. Spent our last two nights in Dunedin and two Thai ladies worked in the laundry. She picked up some som tam and they did our laundry for free.

All women are jealous to some degree and Thai women seem to be more jealous than most. The degree to which they indulge themselves though tends to be what they can get away with, or what they think they can get away with.

It sounds like you indulged this early on and now she can't stop. My missus had a few episodes very early in our relationship and I told her I would not tolerate it at all. I have a young (12 now, was 8 when we got together) daughter living with me and told her any hint of violence and she would be out the door, no second chances. You have created the monster in a way. It is so recognised as a problem in Thai society that they have retreats where the monks will discuss the destructive nature of jealousy for days.

Funny about work though. In most of the relationships (Thai/Farang) I have seen they respect work. Thais seem to get that we are screwed without income.

All this talk about getting violent with her only works if you are a violent person and it doesn't sound like you are. Can you both approach her family? Will she agree to that? With her telling her Mum, Dad, sisters, brothers, what she has been up to?

Don't envy you at all.

You've probably given up reading the replies by now anyway. But.

For background. Myself and my (Thai) wife live in PNG (I have a business there) and travel to Thailand several times a year.

For the last three years we have only stayed at Lebua. I travel heaps and see a lot of hotels. For the price (Mandarin Oriental for example is twice the price) Lebua is terrific, the rooms are large with the sitting room near the door and the bathrooms and bedding are as good as you'll find in any five star hotel in the world. We stay at the Tower Club and always get a room looking at the river. Regarding Sky Bar, you must be loaded because most people's complaint there are the prices, maybe BKK's most expensive bar. But the view is spectacular, or didn't you look? It is walking distance to the river and Skytrain. Sukhumvit is a way away but hell, I'm married and MBK and Siam are a couple of stops away. It's hard to understand you visiting one of the world's most crowded tropical cities and complain about how crowded and hot it was.

We have been around but Krabi was fantastic, we stayed at Amari Vogue. Hired a long tail boat for a couple of days and had a great time.

The rest of the time we spend in the village near Udon Thani and I love it there.

But that's just me ..

If you are real then I don't think you really want out. You seem to have an "answer" for every suggestion.

If she has behaved as you describe and you have not developed a passionate hatred for her then you have a bigger problem than her. Who cares if she kills herself? That isn't your fault. Cut off contact. That's easy. If she turns up at your house/work call the police and get a restraining order.

But I'm guessing you'll have a reason why you can't do this or a reason why it won't work.

Admit it. You like it.

This will wind up huge. My two cents:

Try Lebua at State Tower (of Hangover II fame) in Bangkok. 5 star but cheap if you stay out of the restaurants and bars. Except for breakfast, which is cheap and fantastic, and you have to have a beer at Skybar. Close to Skytrain (the ONLY way to get around BKK) and the river. The river ferries are a hoot. A few stops on Skytrain to Siam, MBK etc for boutique shopping. Markets for cheap stuff. We're not supposed to, but a well made Prada knock off will make the GF's trip.

Krabi. We stayed at Amari Vogue. Fantastic. No hookers and ladyboys, private beach. Hire a long tail boat for the day and cruise around all the islands and laugh at the Russians and Japanese on these awful group tours. If the weather permits of course.

If you go to Pattaya stay at Jomtien. Better beach and less hassles. A wander along Walking Street at night will give you something to post on Facebook when you get home but other than that give Pattaya itself a miss. Go to Nong Nooch park. Unbelievable garden, great stage show and yep elephants but ...

All the above comments about tigers and elephants are true. Even if you aren't an animal lover it will break your heart to see these magnificent creatures treated terribly.

Comments about motor bikes correct. Don't. And no jet skis either.

Have fun. It's a fantastic country.

my wife bought a 3 baht gold chain. its really hilarious looking, i look like a total pimp wearing it

+1

I really love mine but my eldest daughter calls it the "pimp necklace". I wear it proudly now.

Fantastic work Khun Garro. We get so much depressing stuff here it is really terrific to hear some good news.

Thanks for making my Friday afternoon and good luck to you Sir ...

If their English is really good, and by that I mean literate, being able to read and write English proficiently and speak clearly on the phone then 50k a month in Bangkok is available.

Just saying. If you have professional skills then go the big smoke. Who cares what people in the tourist areas are earning? It is the same the world over. People want to work in tourist areas for the lifestyle so they will accept less money. In Oz look at the Gold Coast, Cairns ...

Nicely rolled spliff. Did one of the coppers do it for the photo op?

Someone commented about yaba and meth. Remember the good old days when this was as bad as it got?

Me neither. Where's my beer? ...

Why does this stuff get posted? My wife walks beside me and we normally hold hands. I have never seen this stuff, but I don't hang around shopping centres observing other people. I have my own life to live.

More Thai Visa, "Alll Thais are crap" rubbish. It is supposed to be against the forum rules to rubbish Thais but how do you enforce that when 80% of the comments are anti Thai? Drop the rule or enforce it.

Very tired of this. And the reputation is now worldwide. Want to hear how crap Thais and Thailand is? Log on to Thai Visa.