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    RTP chief denies knowing that Red Bull Boss is in Austria

    in Thailand News

    Posted · Edited by hellohello123

    3 hours ago, outsider said:

    It is very confounding how these gits can maintain a straight face when telling funny jokes like this. They even put on a show to make it look 'official'. If I was one of them, I would have burst out laughing in the middle of the press conference!!! The entire world is laughing yet they can maintain a straight face - this is not an easy thing to do. Credit where it is due - well done lads!

    Did you know that Thailand has one of the highest ratios of actors to population???

     

    I just made that up

     

    Carry on????

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    Car Bought On Credit Seems So Expensive Now - Options?

    in Thailand Motor Discussion

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    13 hours ago, BritManToo said:

    My woman had a car loan for 500k, the car disappeared, she didn't repay the loan.

    She just transferred everything she owned to her mom and sat it out.

    One letter a year asking for the money to her registered address.

    When the time ran out she immediately got a home loan for 1.5Mbht from the bank.

     

    No consequences, and she got 500Kbht free.

    Surely it can't be that easy or everyone would be doing it.  Even the ones who couldn't put two and two together.

     

    That means you could buy a super car on finance, sell it straight away  keep the $$ and live happily ever after?

    Does a LT Girlfriend have property rights when we split - it's time

    in Real Estate, Housing, House and Land Ownership

    Posted · Edited by hellohello123

    2 hours ago, RafPinto said:

    Totally agree.

    I had one. I gave her a healthy pocket money but each time she went to visit a friend, she asked for bts or bus money, money for this and that. Initially I gave it but later decided to stop and told her, that she uses her generous pocket money. Nooo, this, she wanted to save or use on her family. Never she bought a single item for our household. I had enough of it.

    Also, just eating, sitting on bed all day, watching her phone.

    I told her that the least she could do, is to keep the apartment tidy.

    But.... my ex, an old german bloke, he cleaned and did everything.

    Baby, listen, I bring the money home and you keep the property tidy and cook, please.

    Always trying to see, when I was doing online banking.

    Why are you paying money for your daughter?

    Why do you talk to the mother of your daughter?

    Why you don't send your pension to my account... in case something happens, I have nothing.

    She was well trained and talked too much to her friends.

     

    Once I was starting to talk to a girl. First thing she asked: Are you American?

    No, I am not.

    Ok, I am not interested.

    Why is that? Because I want to find an american, go there, make him happy and when I am long enough there to be entitled to as much as possible, I move on to the next "rich" one.

    They know what they want.

     

    She: but if give my body.

    Me: for what i sponsor you, I can have a lot of bodies.

     

    Than the ususally story: I am different.

    I lost x months because of you, bla bla bla

     

    On your bike and find a rookie who will fall for it.

    You could also make just as good argument by flipping it around and saying " I've invested all this money and time on you that I will never get back"

     

    But using this level of common sense on a woman of any nationality is like fighting a bushfire with a garden hose

     

    Plus if you're having this type of  conversation, your  relationship is beyond repair

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    Does a LT Girlfriend have property rights when we split - it's time

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    Posted · Edited by hellohello123

    1 hour ago, Kenny202 said:

    The level on entitledness here from women never ceases to amaze me, and I have lived with all classes here from Doctors, professionals to poor single girls and there is always some monetary expectation when they live with foreigners, over and above what we would consider normal. Like a wealth transfer....yours to her, until its all gone. Many bring nothing to the table whatsoever, are lazy....can't drive or cook. You need to take care of all their needs like a child and in some cases the extended family. After trying to make a relationship work for a long time with one particular girl I asked her what she brought to the relationship...She answered "you get my body". I explained to her for a foreigner, sex here is very easy to find in Thailand, and in fact I could probably find more of it without her. I had a lengthy discussion on the matter with a Thai guy I know. Most of the Thai men I know (middle income / educated) seem to have sweet, loving normal type of wives. They also contribute to the family money pot and work together towards their future as we would in a relationship in the west. He said no......Thai guys know this sort of woman well and steer clear of them. He also told me these sort of women target foreigners. Basically the lazy, easy money types. 

     

    I have lived with educated professionals, normal village girls and a couple of ex "entertainment" workers. Monetary expectations weren't really a lot different. Sex a whole lot better with an ex worker, although their mind always seems to be on the bar, and weighing up if they are better off with you or back in the "glamorous" life of the bar. Heaps of trust issues also. Some imagined some real.

     

    You do have your work cut out for you as far as moving her on. Most of those types I know there is always the veiled threat of them putting on a huge violent drama show should you shunt them. In fact many seem while living with you to try and collect a catalogue of perceived slights you have made against them to be used later. Veiled threats. Most of the time its bluff, but sometimes they are psychotic. In a Condo at least you should be able to have her stopped at the front security gate rather than in a home with her screaming at your back gate all hours of the day and night.  I told one once it would be a lot easier for you and me if you just tried to be a nicer person rather than play all these stupid games. Its just like a constant game of brinksmanship....in this imagined competition to "win". Most blokes I think are happy with a woman if she is happy and easy to get along with, and contributes in some way. We're too lazy to go look elsewhere if there is no reason. In my view a relationship needs to be a two way street where both parties are benefitting and contributing. It is the only way for a couple to succeed and move up. It is a very rare thing to find in Thailand in my experience. Usually one side wants to completely demoralize the other and winner take all.

     

    Thats probably the biggest and quickest punch line, regardless of foreigner or not

    Add to that eventually their going to lose their youth and looks, so based on their reasoning, you are allowed to ditch her for a better younger model.

    Which then leads to, they're no different to a bar girl but they get paid not per hour

     

    That being said men need to take responsibility for enabling this behaviour and choosing to get invovled with these type of girls.  But most men in these situations are too stupid, naive or deluded to even realise

     

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    Does a LT Girlfriend have property rights when we split - it's time

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    2 minutes ago, JoeBloe said:

    I would be happy to detail my economic position to you, but since you think it's all about money and that's unlikely to change, I won't. That's a telling characteristic for a lot of people.
     

    i dont think your economic position is too relevant unless you are bill gates or you literally have $5 to your name

     

      

    5 minutes ago, JoeBloe said:


    All partnership breakups amount to money.

    maybe your ones, thats a pretty bold statement to make

     

      

    5 minutes ago, JoeBloe said:


    An ATM?  Until quite recently (and In fact during her "rational" moments, that is probably still the case), anyone suggesting that to my GF would have ended on the receiving end of some vitriol.
     

    ok, because she loses face or she doesnt like to hear the truth?

     

      

    5 minutes ago, JoeBloe said:



    EVERY couple where there is one breadwinner and one family caretaker has one party who is the "ATM". This is not unique to Thailand, it is how our species evolved.

    definitely there is some truth to that, and it still applies today to some

     

     

      

    5 minutes ago, JoeBloe said:


    I'll be happy to pay her and walk away without a knife in my throat.

    your safety and health is number one priority

     

      

    5 minutes ago, JoeBloe said:


    The reason that divorce settlements are invariably about money, is because one party (almost invariably the female) sacrifices x years for the benefit of the family rather than working at something else. It IS nothing more than compensation and it is valued in $. I didn't invent the concept, it is what it is.
     

    whatever you decide, good luck but I would like to remind you that (you may disagree with me) but you owe her nothing, just because shes had a free ride or used to an ATM, doesnt mean you have to continue it once you move on.  Highly unlikely but she should be appreciative of what you have provided her. 

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    Does a LT Girlfriend have property rights when we split - it's time

    in Real Estate, Housing, House and Land Ownership

    Posted

    19 hours ago, JoeBloe said:

    Thanks folks.

    It is as I had expected from a legal standpoint, up to my own internal model of the world what I am willing to offer.

    Some more of the story.

    Her father is dead (I paid a big lump of his funeral) and she is estranged from her family. As far as I can ascertain, this is between her and her mother.  Oldest daughters v. mothers is a thing in all cultures.

    During my dealings with the family I have managed to secure the remaining part of the family farm for my GF plus some another small piece of land etc.. Every time the family needed money and I was expected to contribute, I traded a chanot for it, rather than straight charity. I offered to pay a large wad the other day to zero the family debt for the other part of the farm, but they apparently already agreed to sell it. Thai rural families are easy pray for loan sharks and banks. I gain no benefit for this, but I do not doubt my GF (and subsequently her son) would have ended with nothing without my intervention, so my contribution insured some of her farm stayed in family (her) hands. From my point of view, this is me giving her money.

    My deal with her explicitly excluded marriage, it was that I would provide for everything incl. the boy's education and her only job was to be a full-time mother and a faithful partner. She did a pretty good job on the mother front and since she is a great cook, they both eat well. I have been faithful and kept everyone under my roof and given them a cosmopolitan lifestyle when we are outside Thailand.

    One issue now appears to be she feels inferior to other Thai women because she doesn't have an expensive watch, lots of jewellery, a big bank balance and so on. She has developed an inferiority complex versus what she perceives other Thai woman receive from their farang partners. She has built up a massive "princess entitlement" position and she's angry about it. This is quite a new development.

    I could throw gifts at her, but my experience is that she treats ear rings that cost 20 THB the same as those that cost 10,000 THB. A mistake I am not willing to make again so she can play princess around other women for a while.

    There you go, a bit of pointless rambling about some of what is driving me out of my own home.  There are far deeper issues though, and there aren't solutions for those,. ????

    Question: How can one reasonably hide knives from the chef?
     

    Have you realised that all you talk about is money money money.   Sounds like you have been seen as the proverbial walking atm.

     

    And yet, even when you are contemplating a breakup  you're still wanting to be an atm.

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