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what a wonderful world we live in, where a woman with no education, low IQ can get married to some guy in thailand for a short period of time,

no kids, and then get access to his assets through an australian court,

and its no wonder the number of men choosing to marry are going down every year

but it seems that many foreigners in thailand have been married multiple times before so I guess another marriage isnt such a big deal

It also comes down to what attitude you project. If you meet a nice lady don't throw money on her the first thing you do. Test the waters a bit, if she offers to pay or split tabs and what not, you probably have a good thing going. If she starts asking for gifts and phone credit etc bye bye...Basically its easier to spot the gold diggers I would imagine, just stay away from those and eventually you will find a normal Thai lady who doesn't expect anything from you but your company.

unless you act like or are hugh heffner,

why would you buy a phone, pay for rent, pay for mortgage, car repayments, credit card,

the actual idea of it is absolutely absurd!

would you do this in your own country, I seriously doubt it,

then why the hell would you do it in thailand!?!?!!?!

frankly, if I was asked this, that would be the last time I spoke to them, and more importantly, its probably just as insulting as "you have a small penis"

its easy.

find a girl on the same social standing as you.

if you are a fat old sexpat pushing 60 who wants a 20 year old petite and attractive Thai girlfriend, and you want this relationship based on something other than financial security? Keep on dreaming.

Date girls who have a job and a hobby. Date girls in your general age range. Date girls not "out of your league" in attractiveness. Date girls who you can connect with socially (learn thai, share hobbies / interests / personalities) etc

You can't just say "oh you will find X girl here" as it is all subjective. My experiences and options as a young and confident western man in Bangkok is not going to mirror those of the aging retiree.

Problem is a lot of older guys live in delusions of reality. They get a bit of attention from some poor girls or hit the bars and suddenly think they can play above their station with a girl "who doesn't want money"

EXACTLY!

its the all too common, "im a foreigner from a western country, there fore I am better, more knowledgeable, cultured, sophisticated, educated, and know better" attitude

if you are a loser with the ladies back home, then chances are, you are still a loser in any country, just in thailand, you are a 'rich hansum man'

why anyone feels entitled and expectations to bat way out of their league is just plain embarassing,

so many of those people on here,

Why do you feel guilty? You don't state what you feel is wrong with it.

People are judgemental. Deal with it.

Maybe its just me, but I feel im being a total hypocrit,

much like I wouldnt get personal trainer advice from someone overweight,

I feel a little self conscious thinking "oh she has a better body so ill choose her" when i dont have a "hot male body"

and yet I see overweight, balding, sloberring men (regardless of country) talk about how physically hot a woman is and seem to have an entitlement to it

Iguess its just me!

It is unfair to refer to men as balding, along with being overweight, slobbering, and in many other cases, tattooed. All these things are self inflicted, being baldy is not, and again I say, no, I am not bald.

you are correct, however, not many people would find bald as attractive

like being short, its not self inflicted, but that excuse isnt going to pass in the dating world

or even ugly haha

In most post about relationships and marriage with Thai, rarely is commented if the Thai partner speaks its farang husband language, or if the farang partner speaks Thai. Without a good comunication before and after marriage, the chances of failure are higher, At one point both parties will feel that something is missing in the relationship and will start looking for "options"...specially by the Thai side. At least....its will miss the interaction with family and friends and alienating its foreigners husbands in same way.....

you gotta be realistic, this "love conquers all boundaires" is something that hollywood made up for teenage girls for whatever marketing reason

reality is, relationships are based on trust, compatibility and most importantly communication.

if you cant speak perfect language between two partners, both key and subtle information is going get lost or lost in translation, thats reality

if you think that Ceteris Paribus, that a marriage to someone with a huge age gap, cultural difference and on top that a language barrier, is going work out better or be easier,

then you are seriously deluded!! however, in my observations, a lot of foreigners seem to be

Why do you feel guilty? You don't state what you feel is wrong with it.

People are judgemental. Deal with it.

Maybe its just me, but I feel im being a total hypocrit,

much like I wouldnt get personal trainer advice from someone overweight,

I feel a little self conscious thinking "oh she has a better body so ill choose her" when i dont have a "hot male body"

and yet I see overweight, balding, sloberring men (regardless of country) talk about how physically hot a woman is and seem to have an entitlement to it

Iguess its just me!

Thanks for letting me know, I may just give it a miss so if it's quite a long way from Suk Rd.

I know of Dream. We normally stay in Four Points but want to mix it up a bit Think we'll end back up in Four Points! I don't think Dream has a pool? (essential)

ive stayed in dream many times and absolutely love it

yes dream has a pool, its in the second tower across from the main tower, literally 3metres from the lobby of the main one

its a very nice pool for the price

Now firstly, I will say, I am very guilty of this

This is not a thailand or thai girl bashing thread, in fact you could call it a Man bashing or a society bashing thread

I look through online dating profiles or girls I meet on the street/club/restaurant/bar whatever, and I think, "oh she has a hot body" or "she is a bit chubby" or "she is a bit flat chested" or "she has big boobs" etc. etc

When I chat with male friends, we too also comment about a woman's physique a lot

Yet I look at myself in the mirror and think "hmmm. I could do with a bit less fat there, or a bit more tone/definition there"

for the record, I regularlly exercise and have a body fat % of about 14%, but im nowhere near a bronzed fabio ,

and often I feel quite self conscious if im hanging around a girl with a gorgeous physique, as I feel like my gut is hanging out (when its not)

so what gives us the right as men to say "oh shes too fat" or "shes too flat chested" or "she doesnt look after herself" or "her thighs are too thick" or "her a$$ sticks out"

and lets face it, most of the men in thailand dont look after themselves physically

I often ask myself this question, when im with a woman in any country

Or maybe im just a self conscious person?

Yes, you must have a white skinned Chinese-Thai Hi-so wife (Don't forget her MBA) whose family is rich and has connections with the army and police. They will support you and treat you as a god. Thats what all the TV members have......

Your were right to leave as it would definitely get worst before it would get better.

Why should you carry their problem's on your back, your free now and probable will learn a lot form this dysfunctional family.

Next time choose someone more wisely and find a lady from a more respectably family and background.

Good Luck.

and dont forget can speak 17 different languages, has never asked you for a cent, and looks 10 years younger then what she is, while she walks down the street and everyone is just oggling her!!!

Glad you got out before you lost more then just a few $$, congrats.

My question/statement to others is

why do something that you would never do back home!

personally, if I had to pay for most things like dates, meals etc for a girl, that I could except regardless of country

but lifestyle expenses, eg rent, mortgage, car loans, utlities, pocket money for her let alone family, I would run faster then usain Bolt!!

i stand corrected, you are not a "dude", any self respecting dude would never use "awesomely", you are none the less a twit, likely a tweeny ladyboy perv.at least let them get to their midteens before you chicken hawk them :-)

what the hell is wrong with you????

attacking someone on a simple non inflamattory post, for using dude and awesomely!

and then accuse him of a ladyboy perv!!!!

With regards to these DNA tests

I have this image in my head of them at the crime scene

Police1: hmm, I've heard about these DNA tests, how do I open it

Police2: derrr, where it says open here, numb nuts!

Police3: what's a DNA test?

Police1: haven't you been watching csi? you do one of these tests and they find who is guilty

Police2: well, now it's open, do I put a sample of my hair in?

Police1: derrr, you put the bad guys hair in and the name will appear like magic

Police3; well that's easy, we'll ask the perpetrator for his hair

Police2: well that seems like a lot of hard work........can't we just guess??

Hmmmm.... Why does face not come into play into this situation???

Oh silly me, face only comes into play when it suits them.......carry on!!!

So in three days time when they are back o square one, "oh we lied about the whole thing and suspect the neighbours dog as it matches all of the 3 samples we found, because we'd lose face "

You have said you are going to the police today. Fine. But what you wrote above was:

He has insulted me personally and caused my family a great of stress and discomfort, I want him to pay and I want his company defamed publicly.

I would suggest keeping such sentiments out of the discussion with the police or other possible authorities that might help you.

and you would expect a thai person not to mention losing face, and stress and discomfort as a reason/excuse for his poor behaviour when he gets confronted or backed into a corner?!?!?!?!!?!

This is totally unacceptable!!

sure 2nd hand bears more risk but it bears more risk after the warranty has expired, (plus you dont get the warm fuzzy feeling of buing new)

By just remaining silent, you are encourcaging his bad behaviour, and indreictly telling him that his actions are ok, and he can keep on doing it

I know it will cost to get lawyers involved, but you can sue him for it too (getting him to pay is obvioiusly another battle)

I find that often a strong worded letter from a lawyer gets most people scared into doing the right thing!

its these sort of stories in any country that makes my blood boil!!

Man, some of the comments on here SUCK BIGTIME!!

who cares if they are supermodels or not?

who cares if they are uni educated or not?

so now we are judging the values of peoples lives based on how attractive they are or not?!?!!?!?!

So that means so many people on here, if they got murdered, other people would be saying "oh well, not too much of a loss, since he was frigging ugly!"

so, those of you commenting about looks

http://the-japan-news.com/news/article/0001590798

who is prettier the 6 yr old or the British girl?

Id love to be in court to hear their defence

Defence 1: I lost face, therefore stabbed him

followed by

Defence 2: It was self defence, even though I chased him down , and he probably had no idea it was coming

followed by

Defence 3: all you aussies are racist, therefore im not guilty, even though this doenst make sense

followed by

Defence 4: What currency do you take bribes in?

When you think about it, right now somewhere on line there is probably a debate raging among Thai women about:

"What does a farang guy mean when he says 'I want to find a Thai lady to take care of me'?"

I wonder how many of them would say that the smartest thing to do in this situation is:

"Run for your life!!!!"

I'm sure there are some, but let's just pray they aren't in the majority, at least not quite just yet.

Im very sure if they get asked that question,

the thought of

"ok, how buffalos can he pay for , and how many houses can he buy for me, and how many relatives can I get support of him for?"

may cross their mind.....................

I'm a real desperato, but see nothing exciting about a video looking up a woman's skirt. I just don't get it.

You obviously havent been to Japan!!!!!

They got nuts over upskirting!! it wouldnt surprise me if they have upskirt cafes where you can pay to roleplay a upskirting incident

Did you turn yourself in? Just kidding !

Well, which female wouldn't ant some evidence of commitment by a guy?

while not all may want to amass material things, an I-Phone 5S would be a strong indicator of someone's seriousness. As would be a nice used Honda Wave 125 cc bike.

Wham, bam - thank you Ma'am! Can't blame them, really.

OTOH, there are scammers who have no intention of being with swome guy.

well then this leads to the good old debate (well it is for me), am I being valued by my bank balance!

so according to all these self righteous "good girls" they would prefer a loser, alcoholic, wife beater male who pays for everything, as opposed to a genuinely nice guy who is willing to support and stand by them , who doesnt pay for everything????

to me comittment is not remotely judged by someones willingess to pay for everything, its chalk and cheese

and its no wonder why these supposed good girls simply dont understand when you say, "why would I go out with you, when I can get a bargirl!?!!?!!?"

With a bargirl

Someone to cook/clean for me: CHECK

Sex: CHECK

A pretty thing to hang off my arm: CHECK

Company: CHECK

Get a new one, when you get sick of that one

with a GF

Sex: if its bad, you have to suck it up

Nagging: if its bad, you have to suck it up

Company: if its bad, you have to suck it up

Cant get a new one, when you get sick of that one

Cost: same as a bargirl if not more as time passes

Its understandable, that its a no brainer to many men

I would take a good and beautiful inside/out girl with half my sex drive over a girl with a sex drive of a race horse that im only semi interested in ANY day of the week